Beyond Black & White http://www.beyondblackwhite.com Chronicles, Musings and Debates about Interracial & Intercultural Relationships Thu, 17 May 2018 04:22:34 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.5 #T3Q ~ The 3 Questions http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/t3q-the-3-questions/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/t3q-the-3-questions/#comments Thu, 24 Sep 2015 01:49:48 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=38547          Are the women and children safe?          Who is the danger?          What are the men doing about it?            #T3Q            

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Charleston church shooting victims: Who they were ~ from the LA Times http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/charleston-church-shooting-victims/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/charleston-church-shooting-victims/#comments Fri, 19 Jun 2015 15:36:13 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=37675 Cynthia Hurd, 54 (Charleston County Library), Ethel Lance, 70 (retired, Gaillard Center), Susie Jackson, 87 (longtime member), Rev. DePayne Middleton-Doctor, 49 (retired county employee), Rev. Clementa C. Pinckney, 41 (pastor of Emanuel AME, state senator), Tywanza Sanders, 26 (graduate of Allen University), Rev. Daniel L. Simmons Sr., 74 (Emanuel AME ministerial staff), Rev. Sharonda Singleton, 45 (Emanuel AME ministerial staff), Myra Thompson, 59 (wife of Rev. Thompson of Holy Trinity Reformed Episcopal)

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Cynthia Hurd, 54

(Charleston County Public Library)

Hurd, who was the manager at St. Andrews Regional Library, had been an employee of the Charleston County Public Library for 31 years.

“Cynthia was a tireless servant of the community who spent her life helping residents, making sure they had every opportunity for an education and personal growth,” the library said in a statement.

Douglas Henderson, executive director of the county’s library system, said Hurd was driven to offer literacy programs to children in some of Charleston’s poorer sections and believed literacy was key to a better life.

She was “a phenomenal employee,” said J. Elliott Summey, chairman of the Charleston County Council. “She was greatly loved by everybody in our library department.”

Susie Jackson, 87

Jackson was a longtime church member, according to the Post and Courier. She served in the choir and on the church’s usher board, her grandson told ABC5 in Cleveland.

“It’s just hard to process that my grandmother had to leave Earth this way,” Tim Jackson of Euclid, Ohio, told the television station. “It’s real real hard. It’s challenging because I don’t believe she deserved to go this way. It hurts to process.”

Jackson was an aunt of Tywanza Sanders, who was also killed Wednesday night. She was also a cousin of fellow victim Ethel Lance, the Post and Courier said.

Ethel Lance, 70

Lance had retired from the Gaillard Center, a theater in Charleston, before beginning to work as a church janitor, according to the Post and Courier. The newspaper said she was a cousin of Susie Jackson, who also was killed.

DePayne Middleton-Doctor, 49

The Rev. Middleton-Doctor was a retired county employee, according to Wooten, who said she had served as director of the county’s community block program.

Summey said Middleton-Doctor had a “good heart and a good soul.” Her entire career, from the county government post to her time as a minister, was about service, he said.

Middleton-Doctor had recently begun working as an admissions coordinator at Southern Wesleyan University, where she was also an alumna.

“DePayne truly believed in the mission of SWU to help students achieve their potential by connecting faith with learning,” said university President Todd Voss, who called her a “warm and enthusiastic leader.”

Clementa C. Pinckney, 41

(Grace Beahm / Post and Courier)

The Rev. Pinckney was a booming voice for Charleston’s black community — not only locally, where he was pastor of Emanuel AME Church, but also in the South Carolina State House, where he had served since 1997. The Democrat won his seat in the House at age 23, becoming the youngest African American elected to the state’s Legislature, and served as a state senator since 2001.

“Sen. Pinckney was an icon in Charleston and an icon in Columbia and the state Legislature,” said state Rep. Peter McCoy of Charleston. “He’s a guy that I’ve always looked to, always looked up to, in terms of always being morally sound and loved by his community.”

Tywanza Sanders, 26

Sanders was a recent graduate of Allen University in Columbia, S.C., described by school officials as a “quiet, well-known student who was committed to his education.”

He grew up in Charleston and began attending Emanuel AME at an early age, said a close friend, Tory Shaw. Both of Sanders’ parents were deeply involved in the church, Shaw said, and the 26-year-old was attending Bible study with his aunt, Susie Jackson, when the gunman opened fire.

Shaw said he was told by Sanders’ family that he tried to shield his aunt from the hail of bullets.

Sanders graduated from Allen University in 2014 with a degree in business administration, the school said. He was planning to attend graduate school, and he wrote music and poetry in his spare time, according to Shaw.

Daniel L. Simmons Sr., 74

The Rev. Simmons, a member of the Emanuel AME Church ministerial staff, died in surgery at a local hospital, according to coroner’s officials.

His granddaughter Ava Simmons said he regularly attended Wednesday night Bible study at the church. “We love him and we miss him,” she said.

Sharonda Singleton, 45

The Rev. Singleton was on the ministerial staff at Emanuel AME Church, according to her son’s school, Charleston Southern University.

Her son, Chris Singleton, is a sophomore and plays on the university baseball team, according to a statement released by Charleston Southern.

In addition to her work at the church, Singleton was a speech pathologist and track coach at Goose Creek High School, according to the school’s website.

“Chris’ mother was just that parent that as a coach you are proud to have as part of your program. What she brought to our team is immeasurable,” Charleston Southern baseball Coach Stuart Lake said.

Myra Thompson, 59

Thompson was the wife of the Rev. Anthony Thompson of Holy Trinity Reformed Episcopal Church, according to the Anglican Church of North America.

 


 

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Open Thread: Wadda You Want? Suggest Subjects We Have Not Done [Recently] http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/wadda-you-want/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/wadda-you-want/#comments Sun, 17 May 2015 04:23:55 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=37209 Our motto: To select and serve.

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Is Jack Reynor Hollywood’s Latest Irish Fetish? [New Off-Topic Post] http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/is-jack-reynor-a-fetish/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/is-jack-reynor-a-fetish/#comments Fri, 14 Mar 2014 06:37:22 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=29183 The post Is Jack Reynor Hollywood’s Latest Irish Fetish? [New Off-Topic Post] appeared first on Beyond Black & White.

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That Awkward Privilege: The Mixed Power Status of Black Men (reposted) http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/the-mixed-power-status-of-black-men-reposted/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/the-mixed-power-status-of-black-men-reposted/#comments Sun, 02 Feb 2014 20:00:02 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=28247 Ever wanted to demonstrate the paradox of Black Male [Mixed] Privilege by systematically illustrating how male privilege is fully analogous to White privilege? Perhaps this post will be helpful.

Black men are in the complex position of being quite privileged in one sphere of human activity -- romantic relationships -- while being quite disempowered in all other spheres of human activity. As ever with any human being, privilege is hardly acknowledged, while disempowerment is appropriately and loudly resented.

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[This post was originally published 11/03/2011. There were 61 comments back then. I have not been able to figure out how to make those old comments visible in Livefyre.

New comments can be made on this repost though.

The reference link list in the original had just two items. I expanded it to eight.]

Ever wanted to demonstrate the paradox of Black Male [Mixed] Privilege by systematically illustrating how male privilege is fully analogous to White privilege? Perhaps this post will be helpful.

This essay is based on a long comment I wrote almost 2 years ago on a post in “A Belle in Brooklyn” about the sexual politics between Black men & women. I have edited it slightly, but it is essentially the same. Belle’s post and especially the 125 comments by both men & women are quite good. You can see it all here:

From the Comments: He Said/ She Said

Here goes:

Okay, some real talk about relationship markets.

I’m going in. This is going to be an aggressive comment. Most of the men, and some of the women [at Belle’s blog] are not going to like it.

 

WHITE PRIVILEGE

This part will be easy, obvious, and seemingly pointless, but stay with me.

To avoid unnecessary clutter, I’m going to ignore other races, and just talk about White & Black.

  1. In America, and perhaps all of the world, ALL White individuals are privileged with respect to otherwise similar Black individuals, essentially everywhere and at all times. You can come up with exotic exceptions, but nothing serious to challenge this paradigm. Perhaps some day this will dissolve, as I would wish, but none of us will see that in our lifetimes.
  2. Those with the privilege benefit from it, rarely acknowledge it, never see all of it, usually believe they deserve it, and are not motivated to mitigate it. Endless rationalization is employed (sometimes self-righteously) by most of the privileged to deny or justify this privilege. Even theology is put to this task.
  3. This situation is wholly a product of history, with no basis in essential differences between the two groups. The unequal relationship is maintained by control of the institutions and culture by the dominating group, which feels entitled to its power.
  4. In addition, the dominating group has the natural advantage of numbers. There are MORE of them, enhancing the alliance opportunities of each individual.

 

INTERLUDE

Pay attention to the underlined bold words in the WHITE PRIVILEGE section above and the MALE PRIVILEGE section below, they highlight the differences between the two sections. The words that are not underlined and not bold (most words) are the same in both sections. Notice that paragraph #2 is exactly the same in both sections.

 

MALE PRIVILEGE

This part will be more uncomfortable and controversial, but still familiar.

To avoid unnecessary clutter, I’m going to ignore other genders, and just talk about Female & Male.

  1. In America, and perhaps all of the world, ALL Male individuals are privileged with respect to otherwise similar Female individuals, essentially everywhere and at all times. You can come up with some exceptions, but for the most part there is not much to challenge this paradigm. I want symmetry to prevail eventually, but I doubt it ever quite will.
  2. Those with the privilege benefit from it, rarely acknowledge it, never see all of it, usually believe they deserve it, and are not motivated to mitigate it. Endless rationalization is employed (sometimes self-righteously) by most of the privileged to deny or justify this privilege. Even theology is put to this task.
  3. This situation is mostly a product of history, with some basis in essential differences between the two groups due to biology and psychobiology. The unequal relationship is maintained by control of the institutions and culture by the dominating group, which feels entitled to its power, aided a little by greater physical strength and less capacity for empathy.
  4. In addition, the dominating group has the natural advantage of numbers. There are FEWER of them, enhancing the market value of each individual. This numerical disparity between the genders is much more enhanced amongst Blacks compared to Whites.

 

SYNTHESIS

Now I bring the fire.

Black men are in the complex position of being quite privileged in one sphere of human activity — romantic relationships — while being quite disempowered in all other spheres of human activity. As ever with any human being, privilege is hardly acknowledged, while disempowerment is appropriately and loudly resented. But even if we give fair weights to both conditions, any Black man can honestly point out that that bit of privilege is clearly outweighed by the burden of disempowerment.

True statement … but not a valid excuse.

Because the victims of that privilege are the most disadvantaged, burdened, and unfulfilled sub-group of all — Black women.

So … what’s a girl to do? Well a little of everything, including some of the suggestions upthread [in the comments of Belle’s blog]. But one powerful option to obviate the Black man’s romantic market advantage has not been explored [in Belle’s blog that is, obviously you all here at BB&W are aware]. Black women can enhance their value not only by trying to “unionize” (one way of looking at holding out for more reciprocity) or dropping out, but also by partially or mostly breaking out of the closed relationship market.

In other words, open up some consideration of non-Black men alongside the pool of Black men. I make no claim that non-Black men are better than Black men. They aren’t. Neither do I claim they are the same as Black men. Their issues are different. But by being open, even with reservations, to such men, Black women’s opportunities definitely increase. And besides, if enough of them do so, their market position relative to the Black men will improve [the same point made by R. R. Banks in his book].

White men have their own good reasons for considering this too. Their market is much more tight as far as available women. Those men that are marriage material and open to crossing over will find more quality available in the cross-market.

And men, don’t be coming at me with “White men taking OUR women!” I’m not having it. You can’t own what you don’t claim. If it’s supposed to be yours, put a ring on it.

 

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Good references on Black Male Privilege, all written by Black men:

Black Male Privileges Checklist
http://jewelwoods.com/node/9
(Website may be down today, but this is the original source.)
Alternate source: http://www.bwolfephd.com/2013/08/the-black-male-privileges-checklist.html

The Reality of Black Male Privilege
http://thegrio.com/2013/08/30/the-reality-of-black-male-privilege

Acknowledging Black Male Privilege
http://isites.harvard.edu/icb/icb.do?keyword=k74757&pageid=icb.page414111

Yes Virginia, There is Black Male Privilege
http://uptownnotes.com/yes-virginia-there-is-black-male-privilege

The Myth of Black Male Privilege?
http://newblackman.blogspot.com/2010/03/myth-of-black-male-privilege.html

Breaking the Silence: Toward A Black Male Feminist Criticism
http://www.amazon.com/Breaking-Silence-Toward-Feminist-Criticism/dp/0807132136

Is Marriage for White People?
http://ismarriageforwhitepeople.stanford.edu

An Answer to Black Male Privilege
http://www.npr.org/blogs/tellmemore/2010/03/an_answer_to_black_male_privil.html

And of course countless Black women have written about this, but I do not expect BM to take them seriously — yet another example of the privilege.

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QOTW: White Man Asks, “What Is Black Culture, Minus All the Ratchet Stuff?” http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/black-culture-minus-ratchet-stuff/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/black-culture-minus-ratchet-stuff/#comments Mon, 13 Jan 2014 10:00:46 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=27637 I can hear some of you rolling your eyes. Okay, I might answer this question myself pretty well, but most non-Black people, and apparently the “Acting Black” crew too, get most of their cultural information from mass media, and it is not very deep. Plus, for the Black women here, this is a good self-affirming […]

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I can hear some of you rolling your eyes.

Okay, I might answer this question myself pretty well, but most non-Black people, and apparently the “Acting Black” crew too, get most of their cultural information from mass media, and it is not very deep.

Plus, for the Black women here, this is a good self-affirming exercise. My culture, my self. I am not looking for a history lesson (that is next month). Just want to let the boys in the hall know what is to be cherished about being Black or with Black.

I am old. Can’t do much about that. So most of my cherished cultural references are old school. I need to learn what is both new and valuable. My list…

In music: Motown, Blues, Funk, Soul and very early Hip-Hop.

In literature: A. Baldwin, Malcolm X, F. Douglas, A. Walker, T. Morrison, A. Wilson.

In entertainment: Pryor, F. Wilson, and all those beautiful actresses.

In living: the food, the manner of speech, sensuality of movement and expression.

But as much as I love these things, I feel it from a position outside. I hope to hear what is valued from a position inside.

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