Beyond Black & White » Christelyn Karazin http://www.beyondblackwhite.com Chronicles, Musings and Debates about Interracial & Intercultural Relationships Tue, 31 Mar 2015 16:54:06 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1.1 Breaking Point? What’s Up with All These Stories of Black Women Killing Their Children?! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/breaking-point-whats-up-with-all-these-stories-of-black-women-killing-their-children/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/breaking-point-whats-up-with-all-these-stories-of-black-women-killing-their-children/#comments Tue, 31 Mar 2015 16:54:06 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=36696 I woke up to yet another story of a black woman who brutally killed her child in a restaurant bathroom. She’s 35, most likely a single mother. From the New York Daily News: A “soulless” mother shockingly killed her 20-month-old son in the bathroom of a Midtown burger joint Monday — and prevented restaurant workers […]

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I woke up to yet another story of a black woman who brutally killed her child in a restaurant bathroom. She’s 35, most likely a single mother.

From the New York Daily News:

A “soulless” mother shockingly killed her 20-month-old son in the bathroom of a Midtown burger joint Monday — and prevented restaurant workers from rescuing the doomed boy, police and witnesses said.

Then she “blamed the devil,” a police source said.

The 35-year-old Lower East Side mom, identified as Latisha Fisher, took little Gavriel Ortiz-Fisher inside a rest room at 5 Boro Burger on Sixth Ave. at 36th St. around 2:25 p.m., cops said.

As the tragedy started to unfold, a woman walked into the bathroom and saw the mother holding her hand on the boy’s mouth, but Fisher told her: “I put my hand over his mouth to put him to sleep,” according to a police source.

At some point, the mother locked herself in the bathroom. Customers and employees eventually became worried when the line to the toilets grew long.

When workers forced their way inside, the child was unconscious and foaming at the mouth, according to the sources.

And then, wasn’t there a story about a woman who beheaded her three-month-old son? And then another story of a mom who killed her kids and stuffed them in a freezer.

Assumptions can be made all around, but I venture to imagine that we “strong black single mothers” are not as weigh-bearing as we think we are. There is no more “black community,” no more “village” of more stable blacks who could assist and help raise less fortunate kids. These women are raising children virtually alone, and obviously can’t handle it. And the brutality of the crimes suggests a deep mental illness on the part of the mothers that has gone virtually unaddressed.

What are you thoughts on this? Is this a cosmic fluke or an alarming reality?

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QOTW: Hispanic Man Hesitant to Approach Black Women… http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/qotw-hispanic-man-hesitant-to-approach-black-women/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/qotw-hispanic-man-hesitant-to-approach-black-women/#comments Tue, 31 Mar 2015 15:05:43 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=36693 The Question: “Hey Christelyn just wanted some advice on how to approach black women i’m hispanic but i am mixed with white/american indian(cherokee)/and mexican. i do get alot of stares from black women (interested stares) but i am scared to approach them because i know how black people can be( the families not the girl) […]

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The Question:

“Hey Christelyn just wanted some advice on how to approach black women i’m hispanic but i am mixed with white/american indian(cherokee)/and mexican. i do get alot of stares from black women (interested stares) but i am scared to approach them because i know how black people can be( the families not the girl) i live in houston and grew up in a black anf mexican dominated neighborhood so i should know. but i want your advice thanks.”

My take…

But guys, whatever you do, just don’t do this…lolz

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Black and White Gingham and Red All Over… http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/black-and-white-gingham-and-red-all-over/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/black-and-white-gingham-and-red-all-over/#comments Tue, 31 Mar 2015 14:49:55 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=36668 This weekend was a double whammy of a good time for me. I attended one of my favorite yearly conventions, the Make Up Show Los Angeles, and while I was there, I got a chance to see Matthew Hussey at one of his live events. Matthew is amaze balls, but more on that later. Here’s […]

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This weekend was a double whammy of a good time for me. I attended one of my favorite yearly conventions, the Make Up Show Los Angeles, and while I was there, I got a chance to see Matthew Hussey at one of his live events. Matthew is amaze balls, but more on that later.

Here’s my look…

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Gingham is making a comeback! I was on my favorite vintage-wear site, Shabby Apple, and I just had to pick this up. The shirt gives a nice, tailored feel and is begging to be paired with some black cigarette pants.

I keep getting lucky with reds, too. This is an absolutely PERFECT matte, rich color from SMASHBOX, color “BING.”

 

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Wait…WHET?! Azealia Banks Dates White Guys? Is She Not Allowed to Complain of Black Men Now? http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/wait-whet-azealia-banks-dates-white-guys-is-she-not-allowed-to-complain-of-black-men-now/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/wait-whet-azealia-banks-dates-white-guys-is-she-not-allowed-to-complain-of-black-men-now/#comments Mon, 30 Mar 2015 14:45:05 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=36673 Now…I didn’t see this coming. Looks like Azealia Banks dates white men, and prefers to do so over black men.   I would have never guessed. Humans are complicated, are they not? What I found interesting is the response Clutch had about this: It’s always interesting to hear why someone chooses to not date their […]

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Now…I didn’t see this coming.

Looks like Azealia Banks dates white men, and prefers to do so over black men.

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I would have never guessed. Humans are complicated, are they not?

What I found interesting is the response Clutch had about this:

It’s always interesting to hear why someone chooses to not date their own race. By interesting, I mean sad. Date, mate with whomever you want, but keep your asinine reasons and self-hate to yourself.

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It’s kind of hilarious that this media outlet was, by their own admission, rooting for Azealia until she admitted she didn’t have a preference for black men.

Personally, I think Azealia is way too mercurial and has some growing up to do. But here’s where she has my support–she has every right to speak out about injustice and racial issues. Just because she dates non-black men doesn’t mean she’s not black anymore.

Thoughts?

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False Claims of Racial Profiling Like Son of Taraji P. Henson and Daniele Watts Make It Hard For the Rest of Us. http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/false-claims-of-racial-profiling-like-son-of-taraji-p-henson-and-daniele-watts-make-it-hard-for-the-rest-of-us/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/false-claims-of-racial-profiling-like-son-of-taraji-p-henson-and-daniele-watts-make-it-hard-for-the-rest-of-us/#comments Mon, 30 Mar 2015 06:51:46 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=36664 I’d read in passing curiosity that Empire star, Taraji P. Henson had decided to take her son out of USC, one of the top, most coveted universities in the country, and transfer him to Howard University–also a great school and as HBCUs go it’s the cream of the crop. The reason? Outrage over the belief […]

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I’d read in passing curiosity that Empire star, Taraji P. Henson had decided to take her son out of USC, one of the top, most coveted universities in the country, and transfer him to Howard University–also a great school and as HBCUs go it’s the cream of the crop. The reason? Outrage over the belief that her son had been racially profiled during a routine traffic stop where he ran a yellow light and was caught smoking weed in his car. Going to to mama lion mode, she took the entire word of her son over the LAPD until unequivocal evidence (that handy police recording) that the policeman was polite and well within his duties to cite him. Caught in the lie, son came clean and Taraji is now forced to eat crow with egg on her face. As an aside, I’m trying to figure out why Taraji thought sending her child to another university would somehow protect him from getting cited for smoking weed while running a yellow light….

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Similar story with the whole Daniele Watts controversy when she cried wolf and claimed that her and her partner had been singled out because they were an interracial couple. After audio evidence and witness reports flooded in, the narrative completely changed, and public opinion quickly changed, and not in her favor. Her appearance in Django Unchained may be the highlight of her lifetime, but it looks like nobody is having her.

These two high-profile foibles should make you more that tsk, it should make you pissed. Policemen who are JUST DOING THEIR JOBS are being wrongfully accused in these cases, and people who did dumb shit and want to point the finger at an organization facing a lot of heat reminds me of how cowardly people throughout history use opportunities to scapegoat innocent people in order for them to save face. What’s more, situations like this make it harder for people who have real claims with both the public and police become skeptical of their claims.

Claiming police brutality is too serious an accusation to not take seriously, and when people use that knowledge to misdirect attention away from their wrongdoing, it’s tantamount to yelling fire in a movie theater.

Just stop. Name and shame these folks so reports of REAL brutality can continue to be taken seriously.

 

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QOTW: Featuring ‘Maxi Me,’ Discussing High School Love and Racial Preferences http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/qotw-featuring-maxi-me-discussing-high-school-love-and-racial-preferences/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/qotw-featuring-maxi-me-discussing-high-school-love-and-racial-preferences/#comments Fri, 27 Mar 2015 04:18:52 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=36636 Brought in heavy reinforcements on this! Here’s the question: “I’m 16 years old and I’ve never even had a boyfriend before, sometimes I am content, but most of the time I am very lonely, the thing is, is that I have always been attracted to boys of other races, I have never been attracted to […]

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Brought in heavy reinforcements on this! Here’s the question:

“I’m 16 years old and I’ve never even had a boyfriend before, sometimes I am content, but most of the time I am very lonely, the thing is, is that I have always been attracted to boys of other races, I have never been attracted to black boys before. I feel like there is something wrong with me. I also feel like I am not good enough for boys of other races, as if they look at me and say “ew, look at that black girl.” and I am the excact opposite of the “ghetto” stereotype. Recently I admitted my feelings to my crush (who is chinese) and I asked if we could hang out to which he declined (because he is “too lazy”) and I can’t help but wonder if it is because I am black, I mean, We have each others numbers and we are friends on facebook. I just kind of feel confused…Will I ever find someone who likes me for me?? “

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Listening to Maxi’s response was especially illuminating to me. I knew that she leaned toward a certain racial preference, but I never really pressed it. In fact, there was a certain friend of hers, who is black and a basketball player who passed parental screening and I was trying to push it hard, but Maxi wasn’t having it. He’s her “Call of Duty” video game buddy, and not much else. What I respected was her candid observation of the racism she encounters…which is hard for a parent to hear…but you know that you are powerless to inoculate. All in all, I’m proud of their take on this.

High school is a strange place, is it not?

Mods…please put the comments on pre approved status, please. This will be a no-troll zone. This is the first time Maxi has agreed to be filmed…EVER. She did so to provide comfort and understanding to the letter writer.

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