Beyond Black & White » Christelyn Karazin http://www.beyondblackwhite.com Chronicles, Musings and Debates about Interracial & Intercultural Relationships Sat, 31 Jan 2015 21:09:48 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1 Next Friday: A Date with Wes Murphy, Live on G+! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/next-friday-date-wes-murphy-live-g/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/next-friday-date-wes-murphy-live-g/#comments Fri, 30 Jan 2015 18:04:00 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=35878 Wes with hair… Isn’t he totally adorable??    This may be one of the most enjoyable G+ hangouts yet! Fellow You Tuber, Wes Murphy is on a quest. He’s looking for his special someone this year, and he has enlisted my help.   So next week, we’re taking this challenge all the way interactive, and […]

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Isn’t he totally adorable?? 

 

This may be one of the most enjoyable G+ hangouts yet! Fellow You Tuber, Wes Murphy is on a quest. He’s looking for his special someone this year, and he has enlisted my help.

 

So next week, we’re taking this challenge all the way interactive, and will feature five ladies whom I think Wes might jive with…

 

Here’s a little information about Wes. He’s 32 years old and lives in Santa Monica. He’s very active, and it shows…he’s very muscular and fit. I believe he’ll want someone who shares the same values of fitness and outdoor activities like hiking, climbing, and ultimate frisbee. He’s a Christian, and is unashamed to say so. He’s from Tennessee, and was raised on a farm. He seems to have been raised in a loving family. He has a degree in Communications.

Want to be considered? Email me Christelyn@BeyondBlackWhite.com.

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For Those Who Think Insults Endear You…Think Again. http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/think-insults-endear-think/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/think-insults-endear-think/#comments Thu, 29 Jan 2015 07:40:22 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=35857 One thing that the black community clings to for dear life is the notion that people can be changed and taught through humiliation and degradation. It’s their version of “tough love.” Ask any disenfranchised black male You Tuber about why they do what they do, their response is often, “I love black women. I just […]

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One thing that the black community clings to for dear life is the notion that people can be changed and taught through humiliation and degradation. It’s their version of “tough love.” Ask any disenfranchised black male You Tuber about why they do what they do, their response is often, “I love black women. I just want them to act right. I’m just telling the truth!”

What these “geniuses” don’t realize is that humiliation as a tactic to affect change is called…ABUSE. Discipline through shame is more about the offender seeking attention and approval for himself than it is about actually changing a person’s behavior. Men who do this only wish to exercise their (limited) power by way of bullying.

You Tube is full of such men, and many of you know them by name. They hide behind the guise that they want to “help the community,” when it really is just about trashing and shitting on black women. And those who co-sign such nonsense may *think* that these methods are effective to reaching the hood-booger masses, but along the way, you will offend huge swathes of black women who don’t fit that bill, and will look at this message and turn on their heels as run, leaving these men with even less of a pool of suckers to exploit.

And the so-called “nice guys” who sit on their hands while these child-men rant for clicks are doing themselves a disservice, but many, many, MANY black women who might have been potential partners are silently observing and you passively watch their honor being dragged through the mud, and THEY ARE LEAVING. So you “nice” guys are going to be left with only the “Boomquishas” to fight over while quality black women enter the global dating marketplace.

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So you go on and let the black women haters do your dirty work for you, but just understand what you’re sitting back and watching happen. Thanks to women like me and sites like this, the women you fail to protect will find shelter in a place where they are celebrated, not degraded.

For more insight into why these men do this, check out Deborrah Cooper’s take…

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Full-Feature Make-up Tutorial: Secrets to Smooth and Poreless-Looking Skin http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/full-feature-make-tutorial-secrets-smooth-poreless-looking-skin/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/full-feature-make-tutorial-secrets-smooth-poreless-looking-skin/#comments Wed, 28 Jan 2015 03:55:09 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=35846   Unlike Beyonce, I don’t wake up looking like this. There’s a lot that goes into having camera-ready skin. It’s funny, because I never thought that I’d have to be concerned about such things, but here I am…into my 40s and appearing on You Tube, cable networks, and perhaps sometime in the future, network television. […]

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Unlike Beyonce, I don’t wake up looking like this. There’s a lot that goes into having camera-ready skin. It’s funny, because I never thought that I’d have to be concerned about such things, but here I am…into my 40s and appearing on You Tube, cable networks, and perhaps sometime in the future, network television.

I’m going to be 42 in July, and I’m proud of the way I look. I’m still getting carded for alcohol and folks tell me regularly that I look decades younger. It’s important for me to make sure you understand that it’s not all about the makeup–a good diet with lots of greens and fruits and regular exercise works miracles.

Make up Secrets That Makes Skin Flawless from Christelyn Karazin on Vimeo.

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Hyaluronic acid is the beauty darling of the season, and many products contain the ingredient at various prices. I prefer this formula, and at only $14, it’s way cheaper than most of the stuff out there. You can get it here.

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Mally’s Perfect Prep Poreless Primer is pretty expensive…but it’s amazing. I don’t apply it all over my face; just on the problem areas along my cheeks where the pores appear a bit larger than I like. I purchased mine at ULTA for $45, but I see you can purchase directly on the site for $35. Click here.

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Perfect Prep Hydrating Eye Brightener is pretty amazing, and a little goes a long way. You only need a little at the tip of finger to more than cover your eye area. This is an excellent product for black women who have hyper pigmentation around their eyes…it totally neutralizes the dark areas.

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Argan Brightening Face Balm: jury is still out on this…I’m not sure I’d buy it again, but it does give a nice luminous effect and I’m going to try it out with my light-side makeup look when I’m poolside and out in the sun. It’s got some nice, natural ingredients, so it’s worth a mention.

You can get the my bb cream combo product referenced here.

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Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/video-five-reasons-nobody-wants-black-woman/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/video-five-reasons-nobody-wants-black-woman/#comments Sat, 24 Jan 2015 17:27:27 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=35828 Take a look…you’ll probably get a kick out of it. It’s my attempt to disrupt all the hate-filled, anti-black woman screeds on You Tube…

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Take a look…you’ll probably get a kick out of it. It’s my attempt to disrupt all the hate-filled, anti-black woman screeds on You Tube…

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Friday Funny: I Was Robbed by Ghetto Birds! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/friday-funny-robbed-ghetto-birds/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/friday-funny-robbed-ghetto-birds/#comments Fri, 23 Jan 2015 18:08:10 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=35815 I was just minding my own business having lunch at the Historic Mission Inn in Riverside yesterday, and look…                     Actually, these aren’t really ghetto birds. I reserve that moniker for pigeons. My father-in-law tells me these are English sparrows, whose ancestors hitched a ride on […]

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I was just minding my own business having lunch at the Historic Mission Inn in Riverside yesterday, and look…

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Actually, these aren’t really ghetto birds. I reserve that moniker for pigeons. My father-in-law tells me these are English sparrows, whose ancestors hitched a ride on the boat over.

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‘Ratchet’ Doesn’t Happen in a Bubble! Letter to Zane Shows Clear Timeline of What-the-Cussery http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/ratchet-doesnt-happen-bubble-letter-zane-shows-clear-timeline-cussery/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/ratchet-doesnt-happen-bubble-letter-zane-shows-clear-timeline-cussery/#comments Thu, 22 Jan 2015 14:57:37 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=35793 A fan just shared this with me…it’s unbelievable. But read closely and you’ll see that these events don’t happen in a bubble.   Reading this, your first reaction would be to call this woman a “typical hood rat” but before you stone her, consider this. This girl’s mother had 12 kids by 38. She got pregnant […]

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A fan just shared this with me…it’s unbelievable. But read closely and you’ll see that these events don’t happen in a bubble.

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Reading this, your first reaction would be to call this woman a “typical hood rat” but before you stone her, consider this. This girl’s mother had 12 kids by 38. She got pregnant at 14 by a man who was 30. That’s something we as a collective refuse to address in the black community…a girl is not a woman just because she has breast buds and a period. We aren’t, as a collective, holding the pedophiles accountable for their widespread damage. We literally have grown male predators seducing young girls hungry for male, fatherly attention, vulnerable for love and acceptance because they never had a father to give it to them. The exchange for the “fatherly love” is usually sex, which many of these girls are willing to give just because they wanted so much for their own dads to call them “princess.”

The real problem is that little black girls are not always allowed to be just…”little.” In the hood, nasty men start grooming these babies for exploitation around 11 years old, maybe even younger. I look at my own 11-year-old and my 17 year-old, and I’m grateful to all the gods in Olympus that their father (and in my oldest’s case, fathers), protect and love them. It’s that action that keeps them from being “hungry.” I know that no matter how loving and hard working I am, nothing could ever replace the value of a strong father for my girls.

I’m so sad that this is all this girl has ever known, but I have hope about this…social media allows for people who were previously isolated to connect with others without ever leaving their homes, let alone their neighborhoods.

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