Beyond Black & White » Christelyn Karazin http://www.beyondblackwhite.com Chronicles, Musings and Debates about Interracial & Intercultural Relationships Mon, 01 Sep 2014 05:08:48 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.9.2 Home Made Alternative to Expensive, Highly Processed Snack Bars http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/home-made-alternative-expensive-highly-processed-snack-bars/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/home-made-alternative-expensive-highly-processed-snack-bars/#respond Mon, 01 Sep 2014 05:06:45 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=32887 People often think that because I don’t eat white sugar, wheat, rice or potatoes, that I have miraculously overcome my voracious sweet tooth. I haven’t. True; I can no longer consume super-sugary cakes and cookies (and surprisingly have lost the taste for them) I do enjoy sugar derived from natural sources–like from dried fruit, honey […]

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People often think that because I don’t eat white sugar, wheat, rice or potatoes, that I have miraculously overcome my voracious sweet tooth.

I haven’t.

True; I can no longer consume super-sugary cakes and cookies (and surprisingly have lost the taste for them) I do enjoy sugar derived from natural sources–like from dried fruit, honey and pure maple syrup. I’m also a big fan of non-disgusting sugar substitutes like stevia, xylitol, and monk fruit.

I’m busy during most weekdays, too. I’m shuffling kids to and from school and sports, keeping a house, gardening and cooking and of course, running this blog. I don’t always have time to eat a meal, and in the past, I’d eat a low-sugar protein bar with two-inch long ingredients list at the cost of $8 a box. I decided to try to produce a nutritious, low-sugar energy snack that would keep 2-3 days that’s loaded with all the good stuff–protein, fiber, with healthy fats from coconut oil. Most importantly, it’s gluten free, made with almond flour.

After much trial and error, I present to you my signature raisin-zucchini snack bread! Prep time is about 10 minutes and you’ll be able to do it in your sleep after the first few tries. What’s even better is that it’s 100% nutritious and 100% junk free.

This recipe has gone through several incarnations–with and without zucchini, with a ripe banana and without, with and without raisins. What I’ve found is that zucchini adds good nutrition, but also moisture, which lends to the decadent texture. Coconut oil also lends healthy fats and moisture. You can substitute other dried fruits besides raisins, like cranberries, blueberries, even cherries.

While you can use a variety of sweeteners, like stevia, honey, pure maple syrup, or coconut sugar, I prefer monk fruit, and use the brand, Netresse, made by Splenda. It’s all natural, gives zero calories, and tastes the most like sugar to my taste.

 

 

Best-Ever Paleo Zucchini Raisin Bread

Best-Ever Paleo Zucchini Raisin Bread

Ingredients

  • preheat the over to 350.
  • grease a loaf pan.
  • Get one bowl for wet ingredients, and one for dry.
  • 2 cups almond flour
  • 1 tablespoon cinnamon
  • 1 teaspoon baking soda
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • 3/4 cups seedless raisins
  • 1 cup sweetener
  • 1 cup shredded zucchini
  • 3 eggs
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla
  • 1/4 cup coconut oil

Instructions

  1. Mix all the dry ingredients in a bowl, and gently mix the zucchini, eggs, vanilla and coconut oil. Blend all ingredients just until mixed, then transfer to the loaf pan.
  2. Bake for 30-35 minutes until the center of the loaf comes out clean with a toothpick.
  3. Let cool, and enjoy. Refrigerate to keep it fresh for another 2 to three days.
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I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/im-glad-russell-brand-opened-big-fat-mouth-proof-many-liberals-practice-soft-bigotry/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/im-glad-russell-brand-opened-big-fat-mouth-proof-many-liberals-practice-soft-bigotry/#comments Fri, 29 Aug 2014 16:44:51 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=32861 People like Russell Brand are the reason I stopped registering as a democrat. In a recent Fox News segment (yeah, yeah, I know Fox News is “blah blah blah” but they got this one right) the host highlights Russell Brand making fun of author of Please Stop Helping Us: How Liberals Make it Harder for […]

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People like Russell Brand are the reason I stopped registering as a democrat. In a recent Fox News segment (yeah, yeah, I know Fox News is “blah blah blah” but they got this one right) the host highlights Russell Brand making fun of author of Please Stop Helping Us: How Liberals Make it Harder for Blacks to Succeed. Jason Riley. Brand mocks this man for “talking white,” aka speaking proper English (which you’d think as a Brit Mr. Brand would appreciate, but hell, he talks like he was born in a East End whore house). He goes on to suggest that Riley is an Uncle Tom, I guess because he’s not depicting the “F!CK THE POO POO’S” posture he expects us negroes to fall into. I guess Riley just is just too “together” for him, and that probably makes him feel uncomfortable. In Russell Brand’s world, black people are to behave like dependent children. Jason Reily is in violation of not being a fit for his bigotry of low expectations of the ‘po black folk. Oh! Did I mention that this really un-funny comedian is offended that Riley doesn’t live in the hood like a good little negro? See and hear for yourself.

Listen, in politics, as with everything, there is a hard and soft, conservative and liberal, yin and yang. Both elements are essential. But when one group imposes a large amount of power–in the case of liberal democrats of blacks–then the “nurturing” element of liberalism becomes a suffocating chokehold. Like a mother who refuses to let her child grow up. Many liberals treat black folks like weak minded, mentally deficient riders of the short school bus, and too damn many of us let them. These are the same “well-meaning” folks who attacked No Wedding, No Womb, claiming I was “shaming” single mothers, even though the campaign wasn’t about single mothers, but at-risk teens and young adults who have yet to conceive. I have so much contempt for these kind of people it’s not even funny. These a-holes get uncomfortable when black people rise above the low bar they set. I’ll even go so far to say that bigoted liberals have contributed to the lack of marriageable black men and reduced the likelihood that an intact black family can produce enough “Jason Rileys” to affect any change.

Honestly, we don’t need liberals like Russell Brand on our side. Us “uppity negroes” don’t want what he’s selling. But! I will be buying Jason Riley’s book.

What say you?

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Yoga for Weight Loss: Hit All the Major Muscle Groups with Sun Salutations http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/yoga-weight-loss-hit-major-muscle-groups-sun-salutations/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/yoga-weight-loss-hit-major-muscle-groups-sun-salutations/#comments Fri, 29 Aug 2014 03:09:34 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=32843 I’m a firm believer that yoga is the world’s most perfect exercise. It relaxes, detoxifies, and tones. Put some pep into it and it can eve be a cardio workout to assist with boosting your metabolism and contribute to weight loss. Sun salutations is a basic yoga vinyasa (flow) that if done for five to […]

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I’m a firm believer that yoga is the world’s most perfect exercise. It relaxes, detoxifies, and tones. Put some pep into it and it can eve be a cardio workout to assist with boosting your metabolism and contribute to weight loss. Sun salutations is a basic yoga vinyasa (flow) that if done for five to ten minutes, or until you feel muscle fatigue is a great way to start your morning or end your day. One the days you can’t get to the gym, you can do this flow while you’re watching your favorite prime time show.

Here’s the overview:

Sun Salutations

The first move, you reaching up to the sky, lengthens and elongates the spine (1). Forward fold activates the hamstrings (2, 3). “Monkey looking up” activates the upper back muscles and the shoulders (4). Plank activates your center core muscles (5). Here’s a challenge–try staying in plank for a whole minute. That will get you sweating! Up dog reverses the movement of the spine from down to up, and activates the lower lumbar region of the back as well as your shoulders and biceps (6,7 (chaturanga). Down dog–believe it or not–is a resting pose (8). It activates the upper shoulders stretches your calves and hamstrings.

Here’s a demo video I did a while back…

Namaste!

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How Yours Truly Played Cupid with New Power Couple, Film Maker Chris Silber and Dr. Misee Harris http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/truly-played-cupid-new-power-couple-film-maker-chris-silber-dr-misee-harris/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/truly-played-cupid-new-power-couple-film-maker-chris-silber-dr-misee-harris/#comments Thu, 28 Aug 2014 17:01:41 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=32821 I first met Chris Silber during the release of My Last Day Without You, a movie loosely based on Chris’ personal story. Soon after, Chris and I became quick friends, and I got the chance to meet Jolieta, the beautiful spirit who inspired the movie. By that time, Jolieta looked frail, but she was still […]

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I first met Chris Silber during the release of My Last Day Without You, a movie loosely based on Chris’ personal story. Soon after, Chris and I became quick friends, and I got the chance to meet Jolieta, the beautiful spirit who inspired the movie. By that time, Jolieta looked frail, but she was still sweet and smiling. A few weeks later, I learned that she lost her fight with cancer, ending her and Chris’ 15-year union. I saw Chris handle the loss with dignity and optimism, and celebrated his wife’s memory openly.

But I knew Chris was lonely. He’d been happily and faithfully married to a woman he fell in love with on first sight. So I decided to play Cupid. I told him about a pretty brilliant and pretty looking young woman that I thought would be a good fit–the one and only Misee Harris, DDS, television personality and up-and-coming actress. I arranged the introduction, but I wasn’t 100% sure Misee would go for it, because up until Chris, she hadn’t ever dated interracially.

For the life of me, I couldn’t understand how this beautiful, brilliant and super-sweet Southern belle wasn’t already happily hitched! She’s a dentist, inventor, and entrepreneur. Why hadn’t she been snatched up? I first wrote about it here.

I tried to get the couple together at the Swirlr premiere party, but alas, they missed the first opportunity. The did connect on Facebook, however, and that’s when Chris learned of her interest in acting. Chris finally connected with Misee when she came up for consideration for a comedy series he was creating, Live from Schittburgpremiering in September. And that’s when the sparks went all the way off!

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There was some bumps in the road, though. I remember having to coach Misee on the dating habits of successful European men, because she wasn’t used to all the spoiling. “I’m used to asking my guy if he wants me to buy him those $300 Nikes that just came out!!” she said. Like many black women, she thought it was her job to jump through hoops of fire and audition for “wifey.” I also made her pick up a copy of Swirling: How to Date, Mate and Relate, Mixing Race, Culture and Creed. 

Once she got over her initial wariness and allow herself to be wooed, and loved, their relationship really began to blossom. I remember smiling when I got a note from her saying, “I’m so glad I listened to you, Christelyn! Chris treats me like a queen!”

I got to see their love first hand when they came out to my neck of the woods to my favorite winery for dinner. They were almost syrupy with their affection and were clearly in love. They also have an incredibly robust sense of humor and they had me falling over laughing. Misee has also been greeted with open arms by Chris’ two children. His youngest is especially smitten.

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There is truly a connection, and I’m rooting for them.

Chris and Misee recently “came out” with their relationship on InterracialDating.com, and their Facebook group to help promote an incredibly worthy cause, treating Miyya, a young girl seriously burned as a child, on a shopping spree. Here’s the statement from Dr. Harris:

Miyya is an amazing young lady who went through a horrible injury at an early age that scarred her for life. She could have become an outsider, people called her a freak. But Miyya did something courageous that will shock you. She is the most inspiring person I have seen in a long time. I searched for her because of this video. In September my non profit organization, Dr. Misee Harris Project Smile, will visit Miyya to give back a little of what she has given to so many people out there. We are currently raising money to give her and her younger step sister Jayla the time of their lives and to get her story out to many more people.

 

Beyond Black & White has contributed, and I encourage all of you to do the same. Let’s support and empower our young girls! Let’s show them that the world is their oyster! Give here.

Here’s some candid photos I took of Chris and Misee. She for yourself how strong their connection is.

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Congratulations to my dear friends, Chris and Misee!

This post was sponsored by InterracialDating.com. Come when you’re ready. You ready yet?

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Come On. You Know You Want to Know What I Used for this Awesome Hair. http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/come-know-want-know-used-awesome-hair/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/come-know-want-know-used-awesome-hair/#comments Thu, 28 Aug 2014 05:22:24 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=32817 Okay, it’s very rare that I get this excited about a hair product I’m loving, but this one has just got to gush on this. It’s part of the always-amazing Shea Moisture line and it’s got a super-long name: Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen, Grow and Restore Leave-In Conditioner. Whew. That was a mouthful. Upon […]

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Okay, it’s very rare that I get this excited about a hair product I’m loving, but this one has just got to gush on this. It’s part of the always-amazing Shea Moisture line and it’s got a super-long name: Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen, Grow and Restore Leave-In Conditioner. Whew. That was a mouthful.

Upon opening the jar, you’ll get a whiff of a slightly sweet vanilla scent that’s light but lingers on the hair. The texture isn’t at all heavy it’s rather light, and at first I thought it wouldn’t be heavy enough manage my fine, 4a kinks and curls. The product does not disappoint. The shea butter and Jamaican black castor oil deeply moisturizes, and contains keratin to strengthen and reduce breakage, and with help from water, penetrates the shaft.

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The first time I used it was before tying up my hair at night. I applied the conditioner and put my hair up in a bun. I was one about Day 4 or 5 since I had last washed, and my hair was pretty dry and tangled. The following morning I undid the bun and my hair was so incredibly manageable and style-able…no raggedy ends tangling in on one another, so I did something I don’t usually do…side twists with a part down the middle, because my hair was so pliable and “strong feeling” that I felt confident to undergo the manipulation.

There a lot of anti-breakage products on the market, and the prices range the gamut. I find that Shea Moisture consistently provides a superior product without a huge price point. I see this company every year at the Natural Products Expo, and they have strict criteria that the products featured at the expo be sustainably manufactured.I purchased this at my local CVS for $10.99.

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Is It Okay to Discourage Your Daughters from Dating Black Men? http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/okay-discourage-daughters-dating-black-men/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/okay-discourage-daughters-dating-black-men/#comments Wed, 27 Aug 2014 16:03:53 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=32771 Hey Christelyn I have a question for you. It’s something that I have been concerned with for a while and since you have daughters I thought I would bring this question to you. I am a BW and I have a daughter from a relationship with a BM. I honestly do not want my daughter […]

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Hey Christelyn

I have a question for you. It’s something that I have been concerned with for a while and since you have daughters I thought I would bring this question to you. I am a BW and I have a daughter from a relationship with a BM. I honestly do not want my daughter dating BM. I don’t see them getting any better years to come and I don’t want my daughter to experience the abuse (physically, emotionally, psychologically) that they bring to the table. I don’t want to talk down about BM to my daughter but I am not going to sugar coat it either.One occasion she and I were driving and a BM pulled along side of me and was looking my way. I just ignored him and was saying to myself “keep rolling because I am not even checking for you.” My daughter looked at me with a shocked face like “MOM” I told her I was sorry but told her I was not looking for someone who plays loud music, cornrows,saggy jeans and a white tee.How do I talk to her and let her know about them with out bashing?  How would you feel if one of your daughters wanted to date a BM? I know some are good but a lot of them have deep rooted issues with black women. It’s very hard to find one good one in a barrel of bad ones. Thanks for your time and for advice is appreciated.
As a mother of three daughters myself, trust me, I understand your concern. You are smart not to speak ill of black men or demand she not date them, because teenagers take a lot of pleasure in driving their parents nuts dating people their parents forbid them to. The best way to answer your question is to tell you what I’m doing, with hopes that my daughters will follow suit. All the girls see me being treated well by my spouse. We work together, we clearly love one another, and they see their mom living a pretty darned good life. Their father loves them and is an excellent provider and protector, and is loving and affectionate. Even my oldest daughter, who is not his biologically, often calls him first to get advice, and that really makes me smile.
I’m teaching through example. They’re learning what a good man is by living with one full time and seeing what a healthy, functional, loving relationship looks like in real time. Now that’s not to say that my daughters will always choose the right guys. I’m almost certain they’ll encounter men who might wish to abuse and exploit them or drain them of their spirit. But in the back of their minds, they’ll know the situation won’t be right, won’t feel natural. They’ll know because they saw their mother treated well, and will know instinctively when a man comes along all shiny and glittery on the outside and full of crap on the inside.
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While I will never discourage my daughters from dating black men, I WILL encourage them to date ALL types of men. Black men will not be graded on a curve or given extra cool points or favored positions simply because they share a similar shade of melanin with us. Just because he has a job and hasn’t been to jail and no illegitimate kids doesn’t earn him superiority over another man who views those qualities as a basic minimum and sets his sights much higher. They’ll not get a cookie for doing what they are supposed to do.
My daughters will know there are absolutely no limits of their options based on race. They will know the world is their oyster and know they can bring home a boy whose purple with pink polka dots, and as long as he treats her well, he will have a place at our dinner table. Basically, I’m going to teach my girls they can do what black boys and men have been doing without expressed permission for decades–date whomever they damn well please.
So in closing, writer, make sure that your daughter sees you in a happy and healthy relationship with a man who loves your dirty drawers. Allow her to witness you being courted, wooed, and loved. Travel with your daughter internationally if possible. Show her the world is hers. Tell her there are no limits in her quest to find a man who will love and commit to her.
Focus on the possibilities.

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