Beyond Black & White » Christelyn Karazin http://www.beyondblackwhite.com Chronicles, Musings and Debates about Interracial & Intercultural Relationships Sat, 20 Sep 2014 18:42:22 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.0 Shonda Rhimes Hands NY Times WW Writer Her Hindquarters on Social Media http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/shonda-rhimes-hands-ny-times-ww-writer-hindquarters-social-media/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/shonda-rhimes-hands-ny-times-ww-writer-hindquarters-social-media/#comments Fri, 19 Sep 2014 21:11:46 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=33436 You’d think one of the writers of the illustrious New York Times would cross-check her information before she threw major shade on Shonda Rhimes, one of the most powerful African American women in Hollywood. Apparently Alessandra Stanley is not a fan of Rhimes’ new brain child, How to Get Away with Murder, and specifically it’s star character, […]

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You’d think one of the writers of the illustrious New York Times would cross-check her information before she threw major shade on Shonda Rhimes, one of the most powerful African American women in Hollywood. Apparently Alessandra Stanley is not a fan of Rhimes’ new brain child, How to Get Away with Murder, and specifically it’s star character, played by Viola Davis. Stanley opens her piece with, “When Shonda Rhimes writes her autobiography, it should be called “How to Get Away With Being an Angry Black Woman.”

But why would she say that? Well, because all of Rhimes’ hit shows depicts black women with layers, you know, like most humans.

The writer goes on…

Ms. Rhimes has embraced the trite but persistent caricature of the Angry Black Woman, recast it in her own image and made it enviable. She has almost single-handedly trampled a taboo even Michelle Obama couldn’t break.

Her heroines are not at all like the bossy, sassy, salt-of-the-earth working-class women who have been scolding and uh-uh-ing on screen ever since Esther Rolle played Florida, the maid on “Maude.”

I wonder…and this is just me thinking out loud…if much of this hand-wringing is because some folks are starting to be uncomfortable about seeing powerful black women being the objects of sexual desire by any man, but especially a white man.

Let’s be honest. Many white women are comfortable with the exact caricature Stanley describes. If we’re fat, loud, sexless and putting everyone else above our own needs like good little mammies, then black women aren’t a threat. I guess what’s even more ghastly is that Rhimes is using her sizable clout to display a non-mixed, darker skinned black woman who is imperfect and has an actual sex drive. OH! The horror.

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What on earth will the world do if the collective male gaze no longer rests on black women that look like white women dipped in chocolate?!

Well Shonda got the last words on that slick diss, and went to Twitter. Apparently the NY Times reporter didn’t even get that the writer of the latest show, a white gay man, right.

Thanks for throwing shade on Shonda, Alessandra. Now I’ll be sure to set my DVR to HTGAWM.

Get ready, folks. This is just the beginning.

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Want Strong Hair and Great Skin? Antioxidant-Rich Citrus Smoothie http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/want-strong-hair-great-skin-antioxidant-rich-citrus-smoothie/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/want-strong-hair-great-skin-antioxidant-rich-citrus-smoothie/#comments Fri, 19 Sep 2014 04:52:35 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=33432 I’ve been using Neocell’s Beauty Infusion powdered collagen and loving the results. To see previous posts on Neocell, click here. The company has recently unveiled a new tangerine-flavored powder, just in time for citrus season. Now’s the time to indulge in anti-oxidant-rich oranges and combine it with other ingredients your body will thank you for. […]

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I’ve been using Neocell’s Beauty Infusion powdered collagen and loving the results. To see previous posts on Neocell, click here.

The company has recently unveiled a new tangerine-flavored powder, just in time for citrus season. Now’s the time to indulge in anti-oxidant-rich oranges and combine it with other ingredients your body will thank you for.

 

Since growing my own food and eating clean and taking supplements that really work, everyone comments on how my skin glows. My yoga teacher also can’t help but notice my increased flexibility…

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I love that Neocell is sweet-tasting but doesn’t use processed white sugar, so it’s friendly to my primarily paleo diet. It’s only got 4 grams carbohydrate.

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Friday, Friday, FRIDAY! Join Us For the Google+ Hangouts Discussion: How to Make an IR Marriage Work http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/friday-friday-friday-join-us-google-hangouts-discussion-make-ir-marriage-work/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/friday-friday-friday-join-us-google-hangouts-discussion-make-ir-marriage-work/#comments Fri, 19 Sep 2014 02:43:32 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=33422 What are you doing tomorrow night? Do you have a date? No? Well now you do. Join me, You Tubers Shelly and Michael and Sherley and Clove of the legendary ChoNilla show. Shelly and Michael are newlyweds, and the ChoNillas’ have been there, done that, with three kids in tow. Also, I’m going to introduce […]

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What are you doing tomorrow night? Do you have a date? No? Well now you do.

Join me, You Tubers Shelly and Michael and Sherley and Clove of the legendary ChoNilla show. Shelly and Michael are newlyweds, and the ChoNillas’ have been there, done that, with three kids in tow. Also, I’m going to introduce you to a new app that claims to help sift through the B.S. to find a marriage-minded mate.

Here’s the promo vid, courtesy of ShowBox, a company introducing a beta version of their video software. It still has a few bugs, but it’s got great potential.

Click here to join the group.

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Why are Some Folks Defending Child Abuse as ‘Black Culture?’ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/folks-defending-child-abuse-black-culture/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/folks-defending-child-abuse-black-culture/#comments Thu, 18 Sep 2014 15:14:39 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=33390 By Zac OnBothSides That thing you’re doing, where you defend child abuse along cultural lines, please stop it.  Adrian Petersons’ actions are not a referendum on how an entire culture disciplines their children. So you don’t have to defend it thusly.  And if you are connecting his actions to something traditional that supposedly the rest […]

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By Zac OnBothSides

That thing you’re doing, where you defend child abuse along cultural lines, please stop it.  Adrian Petersons’ actions are not a referendum on how an entire culture disciplines their children. So you don’t have to defend it thusly.  And if you are connecting his actions to something traditional that supposedly the rest of us don’t get, just take a deep breath and realize that’s utter nonsense.

I’m convinced many vocal supporters of Mr. Peterson decided they didn’t need to read the details. Except, that the details are all that matters in this case. This is not about spanking, or how group A raises their children versus how group B does it. This is about blood being drawn, genitals being injured, and multiple abrasions – all of that on a four year old child.   I’d rather folks just say, ‘You know what- I’m okay with ALL of that”  as opposed to saying he was wrong but he didn’t know any better. Because, ( wait for it…) this was how he was raised!  Please stop it.

This is also a slippery slope. One that I reject. If we are going to be apologists for the actions of those who use ‘It’s how I was raised’ as an excuse then we better rethink how angry we get at racists. I mean, after all,  babies aren’t bigots, so something happened during the course of their being raised-something was repeated, or taught, fused to the very marrow of that person who now walks amongst us harboring those intense feelings of hate.

Sorry, I’m not going for it.  I don’t care what you’re Grand-pappy told you about the ‘coloreds’- you will get no safe haven here.  The effort it takes to remain in a cocoon of ignorance vastly exceeds the minimal effort required to understand that no one deserves to be judged based on their ethnicity.

And if your defense of Adrian Peterson goes like this- “Well, what about the white father who just killed his 5 children”? You’re doing it wrong.  He should spend eternity in hell, immediately if not sooner. But unless you think all white parents are murders then what’s the point?  Mr. Peterson, in my opinion, didn’t fail as result of something cultural; he failed because his ignorance opened the door to something criminal, and he absolutely should have known better.

National stories are never solely about the main actors- this is about all of us. It’s also about a troubling trend that has far too many participants of all races. A trend wherein the idea of taking personal responsibility for ones actions is often the last resort.

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QOTW: “Should I Worry If the White Guy Macking On Me Has No Black Friends?” http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/qotw-worry-white-guy-macking-black-friends/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/qotw-worry-white-guy-macking-black-friends/#comments Wed, 17 Sep 2014 04:45:39 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=33388 Got this note from a friend and fan of BB&W…  “What do you think of it when white guys pursue Black women but don’t have ANY BLACK OR BROWN FRIENDS? OR ASSOCIATE WITH PEOPLE OF COLOR? (FB pictures, IG accounts, in public, etc). Is that a fetish alert? What does that mean?” What does it […]

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Got this note from a friend and fan of BB&W…

 “What do you think of it when white guys pursue Black women but don’t have ANY BLACK OR BROWN FRIENDS? OR ASSOCIATE WITH PEOPLE OF COLOR? (FB pictures, IG accounts, in public, etc). Is that a fetish alert? What does that mean?”

What does it mean? Here’s what it means!!!

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OMG…Have You Heard of Jane Iredale Cosmetics?! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/omg-heard-jane-iredale-cosmetics/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/omg-heard-jane-iredale-cosmetics/#comments Wed, 17 Sep 2014 04:35:14 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=33381 If you look around this joint for two seconds, you’ll know how much I love purple. Like…LOVE purple. I love to look at it, but it doesn’t always look great on me. Remember when Afrobella came out with the MAC color, “All of My Purple Life?” Well, I was one of the folks who contributed […]

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If you look around this joint for two seconds, you’ll know how much I love purple. Like…LOVE purple. I love to look at it, but it doesn’t always look great on me. Remember when Afrobella came out with the MAC color, “All of My Purple Life?” Well, I was one of the folks who contributed to the sold out status. But as much as I wanted that color to look good on me, it looked better on Afrobella.

But yesterday I hit pay dirt when I sauntered into Planet Beauty in Encino, California while killing time before meeting with a production company. They had a prominent kiosk of Jane Iredale, and I’ve heard about them by way of their public relations company when they were full force promoting the cosmetic company’s Lip Fixation–a combo long-lasting lip tint and gloss. The product worked well, but the color wasn’t a fit for my complexion. But then I saw it–“Relish”–a purple lip tint/gloss with gold undertones, which looks amazing with my yellow under tones. But then Jane Iredale didn’t stop there! I discovered the eye gloss–yes; eye gloss–in “Wine Silk.” And finally, I fell in love with the In Touch cream blush in “Confidence.”

 

And all I can say is…

 

YAAAAAAEEEEESSSSSS!!

 

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I’m loving the lip tint, because it really does last. And you’d better hurry; because according to the web site there’s only a few left. Here’s the link. Looks like they’re all out of the shade of cream blush, but there’s a few left of the eye gloss in “Wine Silk,” so click here if you want to buy.

The lip fixation…

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The Eye Gloss…

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