Beyond Black & White http://www.beyondblackwhite.com Chronicles, Musings and Debates about Interracial & Intercultural Relationships Thu, 17 May 2018 04:22:34 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.5 School Children Face Harassment, Bullying Since Trump Elected President http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/school-children-face-harassment-bullying-since-trump-elected-president/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/school-children-face-harassment-bullying-since-trump-elected-president/#comments Fri, 11 Nov 2016 15:43:21 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=41538 Bullying has been a major problem for ages affecting adults and children alike. Victims are targeted due to their race, religion, and sexual orientation. Bullies have now found a new excuse to victimize others, namely the rhetoric of Donald Trump. As shown in the disturbing video above, a large crowd of students at Royal Oak […]

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Bullying has been a major problem for ages affecting adults and children alike. Victims are targeted due to their race, religion, and sexual orientation. Bullies have now found a new excuse to victimize others, namely the rhetoric of Donald Trump. As shown in the disturbing video above, a large crowd of students at Royal Oak Middle School are chanting, “Build That Wall” while Mexican-American students sit with tears streaming down their faces:

As soon as the chants began, seventh-grader Josie Ramon, 12, said she pulled out her phone and captured the video to share with her mother. “Tears were running down my face,” said Josie, who is Mexican-American. “I was so upset. A friend went to the bathroom crying. Everybody was chanting along with it. She was scared. She looked really upset. I felt really bad for her.”

What wall are they chanting about? The wall Trump wants to build at the southern border:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8jbfP5vS0SM

Here are other comments Trump made about Latin American immigration to the United States:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C6QEqoYgQxw

Even black children are experiencing racial harassment from Trump supporters:

These incidences represent only a few of the barrage of harassment people of color are experiencing via the Trump Effect. Naturally, parents of the victims are angry and some are frightened. Parents must demand that schools protect their children. Trump’s election to the highest office in the land legitimizes racial and ethnic intimidation in the eyes of bullies. Whether one feels that Trump or “home training” is responsible for all of this does not change the undeniable fact the impressionable children are using Trump’s rhetoric to bully others. How can we teach our children that we must be tolerant of those different from us when when an individual elected by tens of millions of people voices the same sentiments they use to harass their victims? Contrary to what many believe, it is possible to validate students regardless of their support for any particular candidate while maintaining a an environment that will not tolerate bullying of any kind.

Lorraine M. Nowlin
Staff Writer, Beyond Black & White Kids
Independent Consultant at Touchstone Crystal by Swarovski
Consultant, Rodan + Fields

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When Exploring The Global Village Becomes A Nightmare http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/exploring-global-village-becomes-nightmare/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/exploring-global-village-becomes-nightmare/#comments Wed, 11 Jun 2014 05:01:31 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=30482 A dedicated teacher with a Phd in her field is a dream for any public high school, right? Unfortunately for Dr. Cicely Cobb, it was a nightmare.  She alleges that students and administrators at Ahwatukee’s Desert Vista High School created a hostile work environment for her for one reason only…her race. Since she did not want […]

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A dedicated teacher with a Phd in her field is a dream for any public high school, right? Unfortunately for Dr. Cicely Cobb, it was a nightmare.  She alleges that students and administrators at Ahwatukee’s Desert Vista High School created a hostile work environment for her for one reason only…her race. Since she did not want anyone to get away with the abuse, she filed a lawsuit against the high school and the Tempe Union High School District. Just in case you are tempted to accuse her of playing the race card, take a look at some of the accusations:

On twitter, students “advised” her to sign up for an all black dating site.

Another student tweeted “I think I accidentally took Dr. Cobb’s class on black history, instead of junior English,” and attached a minstrel like image of Dr. Cobb.

A picture of Dr. Cobb waiting for a bus was tweeted with a caption suggesting she was working as a prostitute.

To make matters worse, it’s alleged that some parents actually “favorited”  the racist and sexist tweets.

Still not convinced that her accusations are true? Check out this video:

CBS 5 – KPHO

That should be evidence enough for any critical thinker. Two white thugs get up in her face, one taps her on the head with a bathroom pass. Sick!

We know that it would benefit black women to go out into the global village and take advantage of all it has to offer. But how do we reach women that have suffered interracial trauma? It’s not enough to dismiss every woman as a mammy, mule, ride or die chick, or black man only. You should consider the fact that some black women have a lot of racial hurt and pain to overcome. Some of us might “remind her” of our toxic experiences from other blacks but we should not allow such reminders of INTRAracial trauma to silence her. She has suffered just like you and her experiences need to be addressed as well.

White racism exists and will continue to exist. In spite of it’s existence, it is in the black woman’s best interest to venture out into the global village.  What are some ways that we can encourage women still hurting from experiences with white racism to avoid limiting herself to the black collective?

 

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Has The Army Declared War On Black Women’s Hair? http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/army-declared-war-black-womens-hair/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/army-declared-war-black-womens-hair/#comments Tue, 15 Apr 2014 02:21:32 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=29717 Are you shocked and awed by the U.S. Army’s “tough” new hair rules  that many say targets black women?  According to Army Times, critics believe that the new rule, AR 670-1, basically outlaws the natural hair of black women: These critics argue the Army, through a handful of rules, has essentially made natural hair illegal […]

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Are you shocked and awed by the U.S. Army’s “tough” new hair rules  that many say targets black women?  According to Army Times, critics believe that the new rule, AR 670-1, basically outlaws the natural hair of black women:

These critics argue the Army, through a handful of rules, has essentially made natural hair illegal for these troops.

The specific styles deemed unprofessional are twists, dreadlocks, cornrows and multiple braids that are more than 1/4 of an inch in diameter, and hair stretching more than 2 inches from the scalp.  Regarding those cornrows, you can’t have more than two in your hair. If you really want to get technical, the new rule suggests (see page 6) that black women are only authorized to wear wigs as close to their natural textured hair as possible. Does that mean only kinky wigs are allowed for black women while white women are forbidden to wear kinky wigs? In fairness, this wasn’t a decision without any input whatsoever from black women. Here’s another snippet from Army Times:

These standards were not made without consulting women. Hundreds of female soldiers were surveyed about the rules, and a black female sergeant major led a focus group discussion.

Black women included or not, there has been a huge backlash against the implementation of the new rules. What exactly is so upsetting about AR 670-1? According to the New York Daily News, some of the women of the Congressional Black Caucus reference the “offensive language” used to describe certain hairstyles worn by black women:

The lawmakers took particular issue with the document’s use of terms like “unkempt” and “matted,” which they said shows “a lack of cultural sensitivity.”

I’m sure we’ve all seen natural hairstyles on women that did indeed look unkempt and messy but we’ve also seen some that were quite neat and professional looking. Still, there are those that say we all need to stop sweating “small things” like this. Yes, there are black women veterans that see no problem with the rule.

Check out an article from Ebony.com:

“Toughen up, buttercup” to those who are terribly bent out of shape. There are many things about life in the U.S. military that I can (and have) criticized, ranging from substandard medical care on some posts to the climate that allows sexual harassment and assault to be swept under the rug.

This is a powerful point. Why make a huge deal about rules that are actually not as restrictive as some may think. They point to the fact that there are bigger fish to fry?

So what do you think about the Army Hair Rules?

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The Great Debate: Should WM and BW Get Together Because Their Same Race Counterparts Are High Maintenance? Some Say Yes http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/great-debate-wm-bw-get-together-race-counterparts-high-maintenance-say-yes/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/great-debate-wm-bw-get-together-race-counterparts-high-maintenance-say-yes/#comments Wed, 09 Apr 2014 04:15:26 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=29666 Anyone that hangs around IR blogs for a significant length of time,  has already noticed that *some* black women express the following: “Black men didn’t like my dark skin and natural hair ” or  “I couldn’t find a black man that met my standards so I decided to date white men.” The former suggests the […]

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socializingAnyone that hangs around IR blogs for a significant length of time,  has already noticed that *some* black women express the following:

“Black men didn’t like my dark skin and natural hair ” or  “I couldn’t find a black man that met my standards so I decided to date white men.” The former suggests the only reason she wants to date a white man is because a black man rejected her. One could reasonably wonder what she would do upon meeting a black man that embraces her features. Would she dump the white guy she’s dating? The latter appears elitist on the surface but if you dig a little deeper, there might be a grain of truth.  If a professional black woman desires marriage and family, specifically with a professional man, the pickings among black men are slim. This is based on the ratio of black men to black women. Even if every single 30-year-old black man were a marriage-minded professional, it still wouldn’t be enough. Black women out number them.

On the same IR forums, a few white men might express things along the lines of:

“White women are too high maintenance so I started dating black women.” Huh? A woman classified as high maintenance is usually attractive and wants the finer things in life. This position assumes that a white guy should pursue a black woman because she will settle for less. Thus, he’ll have to give less. On the flip side, it could imply that a white woman is so emotionally needy that he could give his all and it still wouldn’t be enough.

Are these legitimate reasons to date outside of your race? After all, it’s not unusual to hear a black man say he doesn’t date black women because “we have attitudes.” What’s the difference? Opponents of dating out due to high maintenance men/women of your own race would point out that no matter how you slice it, such views are racist. You are applying adverse behaviors to a an entire race and sex. Proponents of this view would say that the environments whites and blacks live in produced different ways of looking at the world. White women, as a result of being placed on the feminine pedestal, are high maintenance. Black men, as a result of black people’s endless practice of black male protectionism, are high maintenance.

Finally there is the group in the middle. They don’t ascribe positive or negative characteristics to any group. They focus on the character of the individual.

Should white men and black women date each other because our same race counterparts are too hight maintenance?

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Need A Boyfriend For Valentine’s Day? Rent One! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/need-boyfriend-valentines-day-rent-one/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/need-boyfriend-valentines-day-rent-one/#comments Thu, 13 Feb 2014 16:29:54 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=28578 Are you tired of being the only manless woman in your circle of friends? Does your family constantly ask you if you’re seeing anyone? If you’ve got $525 and can pay round trip air fare from China plus accommodation, you can rent a man. Many young people face crushing pressure to show off a sweetheart […]

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Are you tired of being the only manless woman in your circle of friends? Does your family constantly ask you if you’re seeing anyone? If you’ve got $525 and can pay round trip air fare from China plus accommodation, you can rent a man.

Many young people face crushing pressure to show off a sweetheart when they visit family on Lunar New Year, the biggest and longest holiday in China. It’s spurred a growing trend in “rental boyfriends,” fake beaus who charge as much as a month’s average salary – and a dollar a pop for hugs.

Don’t panic, sex is NOT a part of this deal.

Apparently, there is such a stigma for a woman to be single in her late 20’s+ that some are resorting to sacrificing a months salary for a make believe boyfriend in order to avoid humiliation. I’m not going to argue the merits of being a “secure with your single self.” But, I suspect that not a few men and women would welcome such a service here in the United States. It’s discreet, not promiscuous, and it will get meddling family members off your back. But what will happen after the fake date is over? You can compound the lie with a break up story or you can cough up another months salary to continue the show.

This service isn’t limited to the Chinese Lunar New Year or our Valentine’s Day. If you want the general public to know that you can get a man, you can rent one for a day or so. Pay a couple of dollars to walk hand in hand in Times Square or even get a peck on the cheek. How’s that to boost your self-esteem.

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There’s a similar service in the U.S. called Rent-a-Gent. According to the company, “Rent a Gent fills a void for the independent, successful, single woman who want to have fun, who may need an extra set of hands for a home project requiring some muscle or yes, looking for a charming stud to strip down to their birthday suit for that unforgettably wild bachelorette party.Forget those lackluster French lessons that you booked, the run of the mill cooking classes, or tiresome music lessons, Rent A Gent provides women with an exciting and stimulating way to learn new skills and enrich their social lives.

With women taking over the power positions and making more money than ever, it’s the perfect time to introduce Rent A Gent, giving women what they want and when they want it letting them take control of their social and dating calendars once and for all.”  

Is this necessarily a bad thing? Thoughts?

 

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Does Al Gore Believe African Women’s Fertility Rates Will Cause Global Warming? http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/al-gore-believe-african-womens-fertility-rates-will-cause-global-warming/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/al-gore-believe-african-womens-fertility-rates-will-cause-global-warming/#comments Mon, 03 Feb 2014 07:45:55 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=28232 You’d think so if you listened to conservative media sites. Take a look at this snippet from Human Events: Gore said such efforts to manage African women’s fertility were important in his desire to reduce the growth of human population. Gore complained there will be more Africans than either Chinese or Indians by mid-century and […]

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You’d think so if you listened to conservative media sites. Take a look at this snippet from Human Events:

Gore said such efforts to manage African women’s fertility were important in his desire to reduce the growth of human population.

Gore complained there will be more Africans than either Chinese or Indians by mid-century and more Africans than Chinese and Indians combined by the end of the century.

That sounds like some “naziesque” crap! You may very well be incensed by the above but critical thinking is in order.  You might get a very different understanding of Gore’s comment when you LISTEN TO HIM speak in context.

 

Gore seems to be implying that African women lack access to reproductive healthcare and education to make informed choices. Nothing wrong with bringing that fact to light. However, an argument can still be made that his remarks are racially insensitive. For example, he emphasized that Africa’s population will explode at such a rate that by the end of the century, they will outnumber the Chinese and Indians combined. Even if black Africa’s numbers do skyrocket, did he really have to make such a comparison between Africans and Asians? Non-blacks in America generally view Asians as less threatening so Gore’s words might invoke racial panic. Also note that the focus is on African women instead of Africans in general.  So black African women are the catalysts for a global catastrophe. Would a Republican get away with the same suggestion? Say what you will about Republicans but they would be burned at the stake for such a suggestion.

Gore may not have meant any harm by what he said but one has to wonder what effect his views would have on the image of black women. That is, if African women don’t stop having so many children, the planet will descend into global warming.

Are you offended by Gore’s remarks? Are conservatives just pulling the race card?

(Photo courtesy of Herb Way)

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