BB&W Exclusive: A Chat with the Cute Black Dude Who Told It Like It T-I-IS on Youtube!

We'll know we have built it right if we can release it on certain forums and it is accepted as a righteous member.

Aabaakawad fer shur!

2CentsNowBrenda55Jamila I made the comments that I made because in the interview you indicated that you had issues with making commitment.

Jamila

You called it right Jamila. VULTURES, the whole lot of 'em.

Christelyn LOL it's okay, we handle those trolls pretty well. Even when they're trying to sound all edumacated and stuff, we still got their number. They don't even come with a challenge anymore, it's always the same ol', same ol' now.

Christelyn LOL!

Toni_MChristelyn Even worse he tried to throw arrogance in with his, it's like 'oh dude you've so buried yourself' LOL.

Love ya'll for holding down the fort. The children thank you, too. ;-) eugeniamitchell Toni_M

eugeniamitchellChristelyn Yeah, just because you're lucky enough to be allowed into someone's house, does NOT mean you get to piss on the carpet and then tell the person they're lucky to have your piss stains on their floor. SMH.

Toni_M LOL I have to use that Toni, I'm dying laughing over here. Christelyn

Christelyn When trolls invade this space it feels like walking down the street in a hood being heckled by Rayray in front of the liquor store. I hate that feeling. They're so smug, think we're not protected and they can lord it over us as they do to BW in real life.

DeeDeeRussellChristelyn

I agree. They could only be smug among black women. You put them outside of the black community and it is something else entirely.

StellaTrishaScottChristelyn Indeed!

Brenda55 Amen let's stop giving ppl pats on the back for doing what they are supposed to do, you shouldn't get a cookie for doing the right thing.

eugeniamitchellBrenda55

I believe Chris Rock did a whole bit on this in the 90s during one of his stand up routines:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LaPHPQt91w8

"N___s always want credit for ish they're SUPPOSED to do:"

Case in point:

"I ain't never been to jail!"

"I take CARE of my kids!"

bwahaha!

Flutter One of the best routines upon his reportoire (sp).

FlutterBrenda55ROFLMAO!!!

Fluttereugeniamitchell

Here is a little something for the commitment phobes from Chris Rock.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qjPBMAmNH14&feature=related

Brenda55Flutter You guys got me laughing so hard, it's great!

Brenda55

I completely agree Brenda.

Brenda55 THANK YOU !!! I coul dnot have said it better myself

Monique8

I agree. There was nothing really momentous in his commentary on dating out. Black women don't need permission in this regard. What was important was what he said with respect to commitment. That is an interesting and worthy topic of discussion, regardless of what one's racial preferences are.

Monique8

I thought the same thing when I first read about him. For some weakminded BW, what he's saying may be revolutionary.

Wonder why BM are not sitting around waiting for BW to make videos approving their unions with non-BW. We never see that because BM could care less what anyone thinks about their relationships.

Patricia Kayden Monique8

Well them not caring less about what anyone thinks about those relationships is part of what led to the need for BWE in the first place. I am not sure why they need to be applauded for being so indifferent to the feelings of Black women, which included their own daughters, nieces, younger sisters, etc. Let us also not forget how they have and continue to leach of off Black women all the while in relationships with someone non-Black.

Monique8

I do not think a Black man showing love/concern for Black women is something that should be so casually dismissed. Like it or not, there are Black women who need to hear this from a Black man, and if it leads them to living better lives, that is all that matters IMHO.

AIO I'm not causally dismissing it. I'm saying that I don't think that the majority of women on this board NEED to hear a BM say "date interracially." I would wager a bet that the majority of women on this board got it. I think his message is better suited to BW who ONLY want BM and ONLY want to mate and date BM. THEY need to hear his message coming from him. And perhaps they'll decide to start thingking about the possibility of dating a non-black man...or they may not. I don't need to hear a BM say that it' sok to date non-black men because BM aren't going to commit. I know this already and I did not need BM to tell me this. I also question why so many women, BW in particualr NEED men to validate what they are feeling, living and seeing everyday of their lives. IMHO when we as women and specificaly BW put our selves in the center and realize that we don't need anyone to validate our decisions, views or opinions we'll be in a much better place to navigate our place in the world and negotiate and advocate for our needs.

Monique8 Not everything on this board will apply specifically to you.....shsss....Abrasive..

SurlySammy

I know; I looked it up in Urban Dictionary. You know, where disaffected Caucasian youth living in gated communities go to get them some verbal swag. And, clueless middle-aged immigrant Chinese go to figure out half of what they hear.

Swag is a contraction of Swagger. Swag has more swag than swagger as it is monosyllabic. Tendencies toward unashamed polysyllabic verbal modalities is indicative, nearly diagnostic in strength, of probable effeminate tendencies.

[Oh, darn.... where DID I put my "Hello Kitty" wrist brace? Well, there it is, on my shelves of collector "International Barbie Princess" figurines.....]

Law Wanxi The Urban Dictionary is a very handy tool for me as well. I'd certainly be less hip to my nieces without it.

Law Wanxi

Urban Dictionary. "You know, where disaffected Caucasian youth living in gated communities go to get them some verbal swag". Ha, never heard it's primary function put that way. So basically it means an arrogant cocky self-assurance act (ususally based on nothing solid) I suppose. I still think that the copasetic hipster hepcat argot of the bygone hardboiled gangster and Miles Davis & Chico Hamilton jazz era soaked in Kerouac Beatnic times possessed so much more oomph and clever spice meaning than the now weak milk & water Urban Dictionary jejune junk. Caveat - Now I'm only speaking for myself on this score. That's all. Well I guess i'm gonna light me up another coffin nail and crack some suds until I can't see a hole in a ladder. Plant ya now, dig ya later.

SurlySammyLaw Wanxi lolz Sammy you made me think of this cartoon hahaha

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W6Gwdj0C6S4

ForestElfQueenLaw Wanxi

My kind thanks to you immersed in apple blossom nectar honey, sprinkled with nutmeg, ForestElfQueen. I watched, just a few mins ago. Ha ha cute good cat n mouse jive. With all dat Zuit Suit mania....and Mr. J having the last ho ha - straight from the fridge (that means "Cool") Haven't seen Tom and Mr. J in a dog's age (maybe three in succession). Good stuff. A nice cartoon intermission from my Day's readings of Jack Douglas' "The Neighbors Are Scaring My Wolf" and some selections of The great short stories of John O' Hara.

Ok. God bless:)

Rosie SSurlySammyLaw Wanxi I love Boomerang! We've been taking a tv break for the children but we do have several T&J dvds. ...don't know what I'll do when Mad Men and Breaking Bad return. Itunes, I guess.

Toni_M I like that, 'this is not debatable' let's say it again. No woman on here wants a bm, so what do we care if bm are commit-phobes or not. I don't even care if white men are becoming commit-phobes there's a lot of me in the world besides black and white men. BWE is telling bw how to reach the masses if you're looking for a good mate and love. Enough said.

eugeniamitchell The thing is that we tend to touch on topics about what affects the wellbeing and happiness of black women, and that often includes limitations imposed by DBR males. I think in the twisted minds of some people, that means that "Oh, we really still want BM, but we're just bitter." Um, no. Actually some BW never wanted relationships with BM at all, and some aren't specifically fixated on a phenotype-dictated relationship. Discussing damaged males and issues that are harming BW =/= desire to partner with BM, especially the damaged ones, who don't seem to realize that they aren't remotely in the picture.

Toni_M Well that's just unbelievable especially when you suffer from NPD, how dare us not want bm, he considers it a privilege that he's even here posting to us. In the mind of a NPD it just can't be true, that would harm their 'false' selves.

eugeniamitchell What was REALLY telling was when this person just automatically assumed that Joyce345 's comment was directed at him, even though he was not tagged anywhere in the comment.

eugeniamitchellToni_M

I understand what you are saying, but marriage rates are going down across the developed world, not just the US. Read this (first referenced by jamila):

http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2011/12/15/relationshipstrategies/the-grim-beeper/

exmachina1Toni_M And...it's not like ppl aren't still getting married. I don't get why you're here, are you trying to tell bw on here to give up on their chances of getting married b/c it will never happen. Because I happen to married, never thought I wouldn't be. I mean you keep saying you want to talk about subject, but you're talking about what you want to talk about, not what this blog or even this blog post is about. You wanna talk about this, go make your own blog. Stop usurping on other ppl's territory you have no rights here.

eugeniamitchellToni_M

Please, just read what I write. Don't "read into" what I write. I strive for clarity and I think I write plainly. Nowhere have I stated that black women should give up on marriage or anything of the sort. What I am saying is that many black women are themselves reluctant to commit, which is part of the reason the black OOW birth rate is so high.

Christelyn introduced this topic. I am just expounding on it.