Turning heads, coy smiles, and sudden attempts at conversation: things I experience everyday down in London. I’m going to answer the question I’m sure all of you have been wondering. Are the Brits down for the swirl? YES, ladies. And the desire is strong.
(added by Christelyn, because she thought it would be funny.)
No, I’m not talking about the kind of attention you want to avoid. No cat calls, puckered lips, or hissing coming from the mouths of the less than desirable. From what I can tell it’s not a fetish but a diverse pallet that the majority of Londoners share.
Throughout the city it is quite obvious that the Brits don’t have a set “type” like most Americans do. Here in America I can almost guess to the eyelash what type of preference someone has after talking to them for five minutes. But the Brits? They always keep me guessing.
In England the swirling isn’t limited to vanilla and chocolate. I have seen all types of people from all over the globe in a relationship with each other in London. It was clear that the Black women didn’t have to fear when they were not approached by a Black male. Every Black mother I have come into contact with proudly holds hands with her biracial daughter.
But what limits Americans from thinking in the same terms? The argument can be made that London is a Metropolitan city, where swirling is not uncommon. But I have a different theory.
In America, color often (wrongly) dictates the expected commonalities we have between one another. Americans think of themselves in terms of White, Black, Yellow, Brown, or Red.
For example, when is the last time you met someone who identified themselves as primarily Norwegian? And in the rare case that this would happen, what characteristics would you expect this person to have? In America we don’t usually think in these ethnic terms. We think in basic terms of color.
It is hard for the British to think strictly in terms of color, because their respective countries of origin are so close. In Great Britain even the various Western European countries are known to have their own distinctive ways of life and traditions, and many citizens still feel attached to them. Here there is no guarantee or expectation that you will have something in common with all the people of your race. Therefore, being in a relationship with someone of a different race is not that different than being in a relationship with someone of a different ethnicity.
According to the UK newspaper the Independent, mixed race children are becoming a significant portion of the UK population:
On current trends, mixed-race babies will soon outnumber those born to black couples in Britain. The last census showed that people of mixed race make up the third-largest minority group behind Indians and Pakistanis. But with half of them aged 16 or younger, they are the fastest growing. In time, people of mixed race will become Britain’s largest ethnic minority.
It is very refreshing to be in a place that takes advantage of their diverse surroundings. And hey, I don’t mind the attention;) Reason #17383272 to move to London.
I live in London and British men, Europeans in general are very open minded when it comes to dating interracially. I am an American expat and my partner is a white Englishman. We are getting married next year and I have to say that I have not had any issues about my relationship over here. I find that European men just like beautiful women...and they do enjoy learning about different cultures. The idea of being with someone who is different from you is exciting. My fiancée and I talk about our differences, but also our similarities. The differences are small and really do not matter...in the end people are people. I myself am the result of generations of interracial love...so I'm all for it. I get compliments on my skin colour all the time, told I'm beautiful daily and to most men over here I am just a beautiful women 1st...American 2nd...black last. It's not important to them. Obviously I'm not saying relocate because there are white, black, Asian, Hispanic men in th US who will cherish you.... but I think just by being more open minded in your city and realising that the world is full of handsome, intriguing men of all colours is a good thing. I think it's silly to limit yourself, so try love out on the next sweet guy you meet. Look at him as a man first, colour last. Black women take a lot of flak from everyone...including black men, so sometimes it's hard to realise that we are desirable to many men. Don't be fooled thinking that no one wants us. I was beating men ( of all colours) off with a stick in the US and also here in Europe. So ladies please believe its white, black, Asian, Hispanic men in th US who definitely want you! Maybe you aren't noticing them or giving them a fair shot. I would like to see all black women just have an open heart. Just by being open to love then you are already putting yourself in the path to being more loving towards yourself, but also finding a man...no matter the colour, who deserves you and will treat you the way you deserve. Life Is short, so live and love without fear.
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