**Attention all–I got this question today, and because of the sensitive nature of the post, I brought in a licensed therapist, Tina Tessina, PhD, to chime in. As always, feel free to pass along your sage advice. Let’s take good care of this girl.**
Just when some of you were ready to pack up your marbles and leave the whole online thing, or at least use your net time playing online games like Farmville and Cheeky Bingo, there just might be a hopeful new option for some of you.
“Wow! Did this white man just asked for my number in front of these brothers? Yes he did! Oh my god! Did I just give this man my number in front of these black men? Yes I did! I love it!”
Every so often one of the ladies here says they are not meeting non-black men who are interested in dating them. Now those ladies have a hint as to why that may be so: you work for the Department of Health and Human Services while many of the men you should be dating are working at Deloitte and Touche.
Rainbow men, that is, non-black guys of varying hues, tend to prefer a svelte physique. Now before you get all huffy about having to give up your daily donuts, deep-fried Twinkies and 500-calorie mochachocalattechai (and then try to be all, “no whip cream!” about it), just hear me out.
Do you know when a guy’s hitting on you? How many signals have you missed, chica?
Beauty doesn’t live in the mirror of many black women, and contrary to what you may think, this is not a “complexion issue” because my ‘light skin and good hair’ didn’t save me.
David and Chibi met through BB&W and the Facebook group, Asian Men, Black Women United. David, who is Hmong, and Chibi, a black woman, have faced tremendous obstacles to be together. David’s Hmong family have refused to honor their relationship and Chibi’s father has also expressed his disapproval. Despite all that, they’re relationship is stronger than ever–they plan to marry.
Since it’s initiation, I HEART Black Girls has had a number of events and on January 15th they are scheduled to have a Q & A with Karyn Folan, author of “Don’t Bring Home A White Boy.” She will discuss her experience of dating and marrying outside of her race.
(Woo hoo! Go Karyn!)
I’m taking a break from my usually schedule hair posts to write a bit about love and culture. Yeah, I like to touch on the relationship stuff too!
So yesterday, I came across an interesting article in my Facebook Newsfeed about Robin Thicke. Actually, I just came across his picture and immediately clicked on it to get a closer look at him in all his glorious sexiness. Gosh I love me some Robin Thicke… even back in his long hair hippie days.
Now in this Essence magazine article Robin gushed about his wife of 18 years, Paula Payton and how he loves giving her multiple orgasms (I hate her, lol). He also took the time to make some interesting comments about Black women, relationships, and finding a “good Black man.”
Gotta give whopper props to Carnell Evans (aka 2CentsNow on You Tube) for sticking his neck out and break his fraternity to tell many black women what they already know. YES; black men have some serious commitment issues. YES; you should expand your dating options. And finally, if you’re in your thirties and still this swagger is the be all, end all, then you might need more help than this blog can give you.
I don’t know who this guy is, but he’s got my respect. This microscopic group of Ralph Richard Banks-esque men truly DO LOVE black women, so much so that they are willing to tell the truth, even though it betrays the fraternity.
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