Beyond Black & White http://www.beyondblackwhite.com Chronicles, Musings and Debates about Interracial & Intercultural Relationships Thu, 17 May 2018 04:22:34 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.5 I Took MCT Oil for a Week and This is What Happened http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/i-took-mct-oil-for-a-week-and-this-is-what-happened/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/i-took-mct-oil-for-a-week-and-this-is-what-happened/#respond Mon, 30 Apr 2018 10:16:52 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=44180 Medium-chain triglycerides, popularly known as MCT oil, has recently become the health food darling. It’s a souped-up form of coconut oil popular with the low-carb, keto folks, and has people claiming to have better concentration and reduced food cravings. It’s also constantly on the displays at my local Sprouts. I thought it was time to […]

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Medium-chain triglycerides, popularly known as MCT oil, has recently become the health food darling. It’s a souped-up form of coconut oil popular with the low-carb, keto folks, and has people claiming to have better concentration and reduced food cravings. It’s also constantly on the displays at my local Sprouts. I thought it was time to give it a try.

Now before I go on, you should know that I don’t really believe in diets, in that, I don’t believe that one should drastically change their way of eating for a period of time until they reach their desired weight only to go back and do exactly what they did before they lost it. So if I adopt a new form of restrictive eating, it has to be something I’m willing to take on for the rest of my life. So the “paleo” way of eating has been most effective for me because of my family history of diabetes. It just makes sense to eat whole, minimally processed foods, and stay clear of all the wheat, rice, and refined sugar.

That doesn’t mean that I couldn’t have stood to lose a few pounds, which I have recently. My “aha moment” was realizing I was eating entirely too much food every day. But my body, used to operating on a higher caloric intake was yelling at me. I thought the MCT oil might become a thing.

I did a preliminary search and saw that the Bulletproof brand of MCT oil received tons of favorable reviews. For $14, I gave it a try for a week. Here’s what I observed.

MCT Oil Does Seem to Have an Effect on Appetite Suppression. I took a tablespoon straight up no chaser. Some use it in coffee, and I have, but it was just “meh” for me. It really just tastes like…nothing, with a hint of coconut. The texture is oily, obvi. Taking the oil in the morning kept my hunger at bay until around noon, but I still ate sensibly.

I Felt Mentally Sharp. Sometimes hunger causes lack of concentration and focus. The MCT oil seems to help with this. From the Dr. Axe website: “Medium-chain fats are digested easily and sent directly to your liver, where they have a thermogenic effect and the ability to positively alter your metabolism. This is one reason why many people claim that MCTs, including coconut oil, are burned by the body for energy, or “fuel,” instead of being stored as fat.” From the liver to the brain, this stuff is lubing my neurons.

Taking Too Much MCT Oil Will Anger Your Sphincter. Duuuude…after I got the hang of the MCT morning swallow, I stopped measuring and took a gulp and thought it was close enough. It was too much. About an hour later from the big gulp and I was on the toilet experiencing a serious laxative effect. Ex-Lax has NOTHING on MCT oil, let me tell you! Have you ever heard of a “shart?” You will if you take too much MCT oil. You’ll wish you had some adult diapers handy if it happens away from home.

Is it worth you trying? I would say so, but your sphincter insists you use as directed.

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Shonda Rhimes Shocked…SHOCKED that Weight Matters http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/shonda-rhimes-shocked-shocked-weight-matters/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/shonda-rhimes-shocked-shocked-weight-matters/#comments Fri, 30 Jun 2017 18:32:57 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=42844 In a recent article on LOVEBSCOTT, mega-successful producer, Shonda Rhimes says, “NOW people saw me as a PERSON,” when she lost a substantial amount of weight. She said more people talked to her, and “gushed” as if over a newborn baby. Men stopped and talked to her. Told her she looked pretty. She was dismayed, because […]

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In a recent article on LOVEBSCOTT, mega-successful producer, Shonda Rhimes says, “NOW people saw me as a PERSON,” when she lost a substantial amount of weight. She said more people talked to her, and “gushed” as if over a newborn baby. Men stopped and talked to her. Told her she looked pretty. She was dismayed, because she said, “being thinner doesn’t make you a different person.”

It might not make you different, but it sure does reverse the invisibility shield that builds around you as you pack on the weight. Sure; no one will say anything; and even “go girl” you about how empowered you must feel to not worry about meeting unfair beauty standards. They’ll internally kick themselves about body shaming, while watching your arms jiggle five seconds after you waved. Nope. Nobody will say anything, but what they say with their actions speaks volumes.

My friend Ebony shared an enlightening comment with me about this topic, and I want to pass it along:

Florita: Hell, being overweight counts against black women MORE. She can’t be that naive. Has she not seen any ads or videos? Does she not know that when glorifying plus-sized women, it’s always white/nonBlack/racially-ambiguous/*maybe* light-skinted women? When plus-size black women are featured, they’re always sweaty and unmade up. She can’t be that blind. Men are allowed to be overweight. It’s their right. They’re allowed to be overweight and feel entitled to fit women. They’re owed women like you and me. Girl. Shonda!!! Come on, nah. You know better! The sources and causes of our out-of-shape and unhealthy weights and bodies are systemic and socio-economic, so as a collective, we feel that we should be absolved from health requirements. It’s very telling. There are very few black women working at the gym when I’m there.

Unless you’re the current president, men nowadays know better than to openly complain about a woman’s weight. But it will be crystal clear what body shape they prefer in their dating selection practices. And while society as a whole is becoming more tolerate of obesity, a man with options and preferences will exercise them, while smiling and waving at the body positive crew.

I will disagree somewhat with the previous quote, because men are also affected, also unless you’re the current president and a billionaire. I have a long time fan named Matthew who, while having an amazing personality, highly educated and gainfully employed, struggled to find women to date when he was 70 pounds overweight. He’s managed to keep it off for three years, and tells me how much his love life has improved.

Matthew, clean your room. Looking good, though!

In my position as a blogger and interracial dating coach, I straddle the line between trying to be supportive and empathetic, while also trying to be brutally honest. Bottom line, it’s simple addition: Eat less, move more. The more fit you look, the dates you’ll get.

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Sharing My Big, Fat Weight Struggle… http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/sharing-big-fat-weight-struggle/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/sharing-big-fat-weight-struggle/#comments Mon, 19 Jun 2017 05:29:42 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=42765 I mentioned a while back that I’d received some troubling test results from the doctor’s office about elevated blood sugar levels and the threat of looming diabetes. I acted shocked, but when I looked at myself in the mirror, I immediately knew what the problem was. It’s what is always has been. My big, fat […]

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I mentioned a while back that I’d received some troubling test results from the doctor’s office about elevated blood sugar levels and the threat of looming diabetes. I acted shocked, but when I looked at myself in the mirror, I immediately knew what the problem was. It’s what is always has been. My big, fat weight struggle is in my belly.

And while I’ve touted eating a low-carb diet with a paleo-practice emphasis, truth is, I’ve been slipping. My weakness is wine. There’s nothing more enjoyable and refreshing than pinot grigio in the heat of summer and a warm cabernet in the cool fall. But the sugar surge and extra calories were raking up. Two big glasses of wine, 300 calories. Multiply that by 7, and we’re talking about thousands of empty, non-nutritious calories.

I was also deluding myself about how big I was really getting, because I really hadn’t changed in clothing size. Yes; things were getting a bit tight, but I wasn’t trading my size 6 for an 8. The only clothing clue came when I tried to wear some of my vintage dresses that tend to cinch at the waist. It…wasn’t pretty.

I also decided to chronicle my progress. The first time I saw myself on camera, I was pretty disgusted at how I’d let myself go.

You know you’ve let yourself go when your head starts looking too small for the rest of your body.

So I made so major changes. Stopped buying wine to drink at home, and only partake of libations socially, and no more than once a week. I’ve upped my workouts on YogaDownload and do a strenuous workout by Becca Ripole. I’m running at least three times a week and eat mostly vegetarian and out of my garden. It’s been a grind, and I probably have two more months before I get to where I really want to be, but there’s been progress.

There’s lots more I can say, and I will in time. I’m just taking this process one day at a time, and feeling a lot better in the process. Letting you guys in on my big, fat weight struggle will keep me accountable.

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Cauliflower “Bread,” a Game Changer For Gluten Free and Paleo People http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/cauliflower-bread-game-changer-gluten-free-paleo-people/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/cauliflower-bread-game-changer-gluten-free-paleo-people/#comments Thu, 16 Mar 2017 03:59:50 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=42266 I’ve been (mostly) living a gluten free, paleo-type diet for years now, and I will never look back. Yes; bread is delicious, but wheat wreaks havoc on people at risk for diabetes and tend to store fat in their abdomen. But that doesn’t mean that I don’t miss the occasional quick-to-make sandwich or pizza. While […]

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I’ve been (mostly) living a gluten free, paleo-type diet for years now, and I will never look back. Yes; bread is delicious, but wheat wreaks havoc on people at risk for diabetes and tend to store fat in their abdomen. But that doesn’t mean that I don’t miss the occasional quick-to-make sandwich or pizza. While the flute-free and paleo market has made some strides in offering different options, but rice flour or other options can create the kinds of blood sugar spikes I try to avoid. But dammit, I still want a sandwich. And some pizza.

So imagine my delight when I saw wraps made of cauliflower in the tofu section at my local specialty market.

“A delicious bread substitute made with fresh cauliflower, parmesan cheese, clean label cottage cheese, egg whites and sunflower lecithin. Naturally gluten free, low carb, low calorie, no flour, no nuts and no soy. No artificial ingredients. 1 serving of vegetables in each piece. Simply delicious!”

“Delicious pizza crust made from fresh cauliflower, parmesan cheese, clean label cottage cheese, eggs, basil, oregano, garlic and sunflower lecithin. Naturally gluten-free, low carb, low calorie, no flour, no nuts and no soy. No artificial ingredients. 2 servings of vegetables in each piece. Naturally delicious!”

I made a pizza today with the pizza crust, and it was absolutely delicious. I followed the directions, using the toaster over and putting the crust directly on the rack so it would crisp. It came apart somewhat, and it wasn’t perfect, but it was totally enjoyable. The funny thing, it doesn’t even taste like cauliflower. It kind of tastes what it’s supposed to imitate–bread.

The crust was a little over browned because I forgot I was cooking it for a while doing homemaker stuff. I love that it only has 5 grams of carbs, so no fear of blood sugar overload. The 9 grams of protein is also a plus, because it will keep you full longer and help with muscle recovery if you’re working out.

So what do you think? Will you try Outer Aisle?

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7 Qualities Gardeners Have that Make Them Marriage Material http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/8-qualities-gardeners-make-marriage-material/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/8-qualities-gardeners-make-marriage-material/#comments Tue, 03 Jan 2017 12:50:45 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=41795 Hobbies can tell a lot about a person. For example, men who skydive, street race, or snow board might be adrenaline junkies. Coin collectors might be bookish. But there’s more than a few qualities that gardener’s have that make them excellent marriage material Let’s take a look. https://youtu.be/TlydfzsIHVU They’re Nurturing Gardeners have to plant, water […]

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Hobbies can tell a lot about a person. For example, men who skydive, street race, or snow board might be adrenaline junkies. Coin collectors might be bookish. But there’s more than a few qualities that gardener’s have that make them excellent marriage material Let’s take a look.

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They’re Nurturing

Gardeners have to plant, water and care for a tiny seed with extreme care in order for it to grow to it’s maximum potential. When a plant is “sick” with a disease or bug infestation, the good gardener identifies the problem and treatment when the plant is unable to take care of itself.

Patience and Delayed Gratification

Some plants take years to grow and bear fruit, and in the meantime, you have to have the patience to see the bigger picture and know that eventually, that plant you care for can and will give you a lifetime of fruit.

Planning and Organization

When it’s the fall and winter, gardeners are planning their spring and summer crops. In the spring and summer, they’re plotting their fall and winter gardens. They know which plants grow well together, and which ones hate to be near them. They have to have the foresight to measure out how tiny plantings could eventually take up a ton of space and organize their plots accordingly.

Consideration for the World 

A good gardener knows that little needs to go to waste when it comes to the circle of life. Old plants are ripped out and put into the compost bin to decompose and eventually feed new plants. While non-gardeners see kitchen scraps like banana peels and egg shells as trash, gardeners see fodder for a rich fertilizer.

We’re Generally Fit and in Good Health

Gardeners are super proud of the things they grow and never miss the opportunity to enjoy their fruits of their labor. All those fruits and vegetables are loaded with essential vitamins and minerals, cancer-fighting antioxidants, protein and fiber which lends to general good health. The reduction of chemicals in processed foods allows for the body to operate at it’s optimal level.

They Believe in Doing for Self

People who grow their own food don’t depend on grocery stores to provide for them–they have an entire living farmers market in their backyard. If there’s a lot left over, a gardener might see an opportunity to sell or trade their crops within their communities.

Vegetable Gardeners are Really Great Cooks

Gardeners are some of the most creative and skilled cooks around, because they’re always researching and experimenting new ways of preparing the foods they harvest.

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Angela Bassett Just Turned 58. What’s YOUR Excuse? http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/angela-bassett-just-turned-58-whats-excuse/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/angela-bassett-just-turned-58-whats-excuse/#comments Wed, 17 Aug 2016 13:40:14 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=40977 Hell…I for one, don’t have one. If this woman, a member of AARP, can look like this at 58, I can’t really build an reasonable defense for why my ass and back don’t look like this. One of God’s blessings for black women is that, if we take care of ourselves, eat well, take care […]

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Hell…I for one, don’t have one. If this woman, a member of AARP, can look like this at 58, I can’t really build an reasonable defense for why my ass and back don’t look like this.

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One of God’s blessings for black women is that, if we take care of ourselves, eat well, take care of our minds and bodies, we age the slowest of all races of women. But just because you were gifted by the melanin gods doesn’t mean you can sit on your laurels and eat Ding Dongs all day. While we age more slowly, black women have the highest rates of obesity, diabetes, stroke, high blood pressure, and hormone-related cancers. What’s the point of having no wrinkles if you’re dying inside?

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Angela is looking at you, girl. She’s wondering when you’re going to get up of the couch and take your health in your own hands. If you have some hesitation  about how to get started, take a look at the other post I did today about a way you can kick start your Angela Bassett body TODAY.

Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to go do about 1,000 squats.

I’ll leave this final thought with you.

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