Beyond Black & White » News http://www.beyondblackwhite.com Chronicles, Musings and Debates about Interracial & Intercultural Relationships Sat, 24 Jan 2015 17:27:27 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1 A Nigerian in Paris – Torn between 2 Terrors   http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/nigerian-paris-torn-2-terrors/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/nigerian-paris-torn-2-terrors/#comments Fri, 16 Jan 2015 05:23:39 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=35647 Written by: Zara Chiron, check out her website here. I guess this is what I was getting at when I defined what the term ‘Afropolitan’ meant to me. West-African born with my life’s years spent across 3 different continents. I feel connected to everything, without ever truly feeling like I belong anywhere; a multi-cultural person somehow […]

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Written by: Zara Chiron, check out her website here.

unnamedI guess this is what I was getting at when I defined what the term ‘Afropolitan’ meant to me.

West-African born with my life’s years spent across 3 different continents.

I feel connected to everything, without ever truly feeling like I belong anywhere; a multi-cultural person somehow always on the outside.

When the first terrorist attacks occurred in Paris, I was heartbroken. I cried. I cried for the world. I may joke about being a Mars personality, but I don’t like violence – of any kind.

I cried for the people who had lost their lives and had been hurt, I cried for Muslims everywhere because I knew that Islamophobia would rise. I cried for myself, as  yet another reason had been given to justify “other-ing” me as a black woman in Europe. Like I didn’t already have my own challenges to deal with.

When the second incident occurred in Montrouge. I remember seeing all the scores of CRS French policemen on the road driving into the region. And I felt weak, but I didn’t cry this time. I wasn’t even given a chance to as one of police officials noticed my entourage.

He came up to us – the other black person and myself, and proclaimed, “Anyone can come to my country I don’t f___ care but just don’t do whatever the f__ you like when you’re here.”

I just looked up at him, taking in the irony of his uniform. My Caucasian friend from Spain sitting next to me was peering at him too. Not once did he address her since he hadn’t assumed she wasn’t French. Her skin colour was the non-threatening one I guess.

I did not let myself take offence to his racist display. He was hurting. But he failed to recognise that I was too. That we ALL are.

During the solidarity March that brought a ton of world-leaders to Paris, I cried again.
Another Islamist terrorist attack had just occurred, yet again, in my country. And just like the many times before that, nobody cared.

20 people die in France and the whole world cries foul.
2000+ die in Nigeria, and nobody bats an eyelid.

I guess African lives don’t matter

I felt so alone. Invisible, yet on display. Stuck between two tragedies with the unique burden of seeing them both from the same lens. Not the African one. Not the European one. The human one.

But what could I do? Lash out at the next white person in sight like the French policeman had done to me? Scream at those who justified the lack of coverage of Boko Haram with neocolonial diatribe? No.

I don’t care how much a nation is hurting. I don’t care how much we are ALL hurting.

It is never wise to justify hate, and the world needs to stop repeating this mistake.

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There are so many more positive and intelligent ways to make collective efforts to a more just, equal and positive world as opposed to further dividing each other.

Empathy, compassion, accurate history, universal solidarity, practical, purposeful action and Love are our strongest weapons as human beings.

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Tamera Mowry is Pregnant..AGAIN!! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/tamera-mowry-pregnant/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/tamera-mowry-pregnant/#comments Mon, 05 Jan 2015 04:19:44 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=35533 Tamera Mowry (who was unaffectionately dubbed, “white man’s whore”) is pregnant again by her HUSBAND, Adam Housley.       Remember when this happened?   I love how this couple continues to thrive!

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Tamera Mowry (who was unaffectionately dubbed, “white man’s whore”) is pregnant again by her HUSBAND, Adam Housley.

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I love how this couple continues to thrive!

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Charles Barkley: “The Black Community Has a Lot of Crooks” http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/charles-barkley-black-community-lot-crooks/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/charles-barkley-black-community-lot-crooks/#comments Wed, 03 Dec 2014 15:27:45 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=35001 Skimming over news reports this morning, I couldn’t help but click the CNN video of Charles Barkley telling some very uncomfortable truths about what goes on in black communities, and how some events can contribute to strained relationships with police. Charles first goes into racial profiling, and then comments on Mike Brown,  then the Eric […]

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Skimming over news reports this morning, I couldn’t help but click the CNN video of Charles Barkley telling some very uncomfortable truths about what goes on in black communities, and how some events can contribute to strained relationships with police.

Charles first goes into racial profiling, and then comments on Mike Brown,  then the Eric Garner case. He’s not calling the chokehold police gave Garner murder, and is giving the cops the benefit of the doubt, saying that they might have used “excessive force” but they didn’t set out to murder him. I disagree. Chokeholds are forbidden for the exact reasons Garner died…because they kill people. If you deliberately use an tactic forbidden by your organization for the precise reason someone died, then I think an argument can be made that they murdered this man without premeditation, otherwise known as second-degree murder (thankyouverymuch, Investigation Discovery).

However, at the end of the conversation, Barkley brings up an uncomfortable truth–“the black community has a lot of crooks.” And if you form your lips or poise your fingers to argue, don’t bother. There’s a culture in the black community’s lower classes called “getting over,” at least that’s what they called it when I was growing up. “Getting over” was viewed as almost a “fight the power” action, where you rob, steal, and cheat to “get over” on ‘The Man.’ It’s seen as some type of rebellion against a system that poor folks deem unfair and unjust to them. A more extreme example is one of the members of the Black Panthers announcing that he would rape as many white women as he could *cough* you know, to get back at the white devil. “Getting over” is often celebrated and earns you a certain level of respect in the hood. The mentality of “getting over” has lead to a certain level of acceptance of criminality in the hood, which often leads to constant targeting by local police in order to prevent utter chaos and anarchy.

And if you think I’m just full of it, read this Eldridge Cleaver…

”I became a rapist. To refine my technique and modus operandi, I started out by practicing on black girls in the ghetto — in the black ghetto where dark and vicious deeds appear not as aberrations or deviations from the norm, but as part of the sufficiency of the Evil of the day — and when I considered myself smooth enough, I crossed the tracks and sought out white prey. I did this consciously, deliberately, willfully, methodically — though looking back I see that I was in a frantic, wild and completely abandoned frame of mind.

”Rape was an insurrectionary act. It delighted me that I was defying and trampling upon the white man’s law, upon his system of values, and that I was defiling his women — and this point, I believe, was the most satisfying to me because I was very resentful over the historical fact of how the white man has used the black woman. I felt I was getting revenge.”

How sweet. This sociopath practiced rape on black girls (not women, girls). Who was he getting revenge for when he defiled his “own?”  As usual, black girls and women are seen as sacrificial lambs or human collateral damage. What a load of bullshit.

Let’s not be naive. Imagine a week in the South Side of Chicago in which the police decided not to show up. Would you walk those streets? Would you patronize a business? Would you let your kids play in the park? Yeah; I thought so. I shudder to think about black girls and women in that scenario. It’s the stuff horror films are made of.

Racism aside (because this author will never deny it doesn’t exist), unless and until the black community acknowledges that they are not helpless babies who trip and fall into all their problems, and we continue to infantalize black boys and raise our girls to be mules and single mothers, nothing is ever going to change. There will be another Mike Brown. Another Eric Garner. And so on, and so on, and so on….

And after you done looking at that, take a look at this…

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Are you ready to have these types of conversations?
I don’t think most of you are there yet. Some of us are, but most aren’t. I can tell by the level of defensiveness and emotional knee-jerk reactions we get whenever we discuss certain issues.
It tells me that black women are hurting but still unwilling to challenge the mental programming they have received for generations. They are trained to see “white supremacy” in everything that counters their cultural programming, even if the concept can serve to reverse the damage of that programming.
But we’re still going to have these conversations, whether you like it or not. We know we may lose page likes but that is not why we do this, anyway. We do this to increase the critical thinking skills among black women to a level necessary for them to improve their own lives.
That includes conversations on selective reproduction.
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BW Think Tank in all her glorious wisdom writes:
“NOPE, and when you try to talk to them about BREEDING FOR VOLUME they start talking bout genocide and eugenics. SMDH. For black women, (I only deal directly with BW) motherhood is the biggest issue because it is the single greatest indicator of POVERTY.
So much of what they are protesting about in Ferguson has to do with black women RECKLESSLY having children they cannot afford and CANNOT PROTECT. Mike Brown’s mother was 16 years old when she had him. He was raised by his GRANDMOTHER, while both his parents went on with their lives.
NOBODY is talking about how THAT impacts the chances of something like this happening to black children.
Black women are “fighting for their sons’ – AFTER THE FACT. They should be fighting for them BEFORE they have them under precarious circumstances by bum ass dudes. BW do more damage to their own children’s lives in the choices they make BEFORE they are born, than any white police force does, after it. NOBODY wants to talk about THIS side of the game. And any woman who does is cast the side eye.
This is about CLASS more than anything else. Black people have NO infrastructure, so they become reliant on the very system that oppresses them, to protect them and they are surprised when their kids end up dead. What other role would their children serve when they birth them with no PURPOSE and no PLAN in a capitalistic society?
All one must do is study NATURE. There are NO useless organisms in nature. Each ecosystem has organisms that in SOME way, benefit that system. Those that don’t are RE-PURPOSED, FED OFF OF and eventually die out. Breeding in high numbers with no infrastructure, no building, no production and no plan means your progeny will be designated as the SYSTEM sees fit. We keep arguing with this rather that studying it and then acting accordingly.
I only have one child. Why? Because I KNEW that it was beyond my capacity to SUCCESSFULLY rear more than one human being given the reality of my circumstances. PERIOD. And no amount of love for a man or loyalty to the race was going to make me “UN-KNOW” what I already knew.
Think about animals that are bred in high numbers. Pigs. Cows. Goats. Chickens. These animals are BRED TO DIE and be fed off of for their meat, skin, and byproducts. No consideration is given to their living conditions, except those that will increase the bottom line.
But when animals are bred for niche purposes, then the ART and SCIENCE of breeding is used. Quality is key and careful consideration is given to make sure that only the BEST, most desirable traits are created in each birth. Those animals are NOT consumed. they are protected and valued and coveted for their genes and beauty. And they are not shot down like rabid dogs in the streets.
Breeding for Volume = the Sacrifice/Slaughter.
Breeding for Pedigree= Quality and Specialty
And that has EVERYTHING to do with CLASS.
Those who don’t get it end up on the back of the train talking bout ‘race’.
SMDH.”

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Resignation of GOP Staffer Proves What Happens When Black Womanhood is Protected http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/resignation-gop-staffer-proves-happens-black-womanhood-protected/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/resignation-gop-staffer-proves-happens-black-womanhood-protected/#comments Mon, 01 Dec 2014 16:04:46 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=34979 Somebody’s gonna learn today what happens when you mess with the daughters of the most powerful man in the free world. LOL…guess she thought that Barack Obama’s girls were a good target since black women are everyone’s favorite whipping boy, huh? But who could blame Elizabeth Lauton? She probably sees black women thrown under the […]

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Somebody’s gonna learn today what happens when you mess with the daughters of the most powerful man in the free world.

LOL…guess she thought that Barack Obama’s girls were a good target since black women are everyone’s favorite whipping boy, huh? But who could blame Elizabeth Lauton? She probably sees black women thrown under the bus left and right by everybody, so why not feel emboldened to port that the daughters of the first family are little more than bar hoes?

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Nope.

This from the Huffington Post…

Elizabeth Lauten, the communications director for Rep. Stephen Fincher (R-Tenn.), resigned Monday following a Facebook post that criticized Malia and Sasha Obama’s appearance at the annual White House turkey pardon ceremonyaccording to NBC News.

According to screenshots posted by Gawker on Saturday, Lauten wrote to the first daughters, asking them to “try showing a little class”:

Dear Sasha and Malia, I get you’re both in those awful teen years, but you’re a part of the First Family, try showing a little class. At least respect the part you play. Then again your mother and father don’t respect their positions very much, or the nation for that matter, so I’m guessing you’re coming up a little short in the ‘good role model’ department. Nevertheless, stretch yourself. Rise to the occasion. Act like being in the White House matters to you. Dress like you deserve respect, not a spot at a bar. And certainly don’t make faces during televised public events.

Lauten took to Facebook again on Saturday to apologize for the rant.

“I reacted to an article and quickly judged the two young ladies in a way that I would never have wanted to be judged myself as a teenager,” Lauten wrote. “After many hours of prayer, talking to my parents and re-reading my words online, I can see more clearly how hurtful my words were. Please know that these judgmental feelings truly have no place in my heart.”

Lauten’s apology came after many on Twitter and Facebook accused her of cyberbullying the Obama daughters. Lauten acknowledged those who were angered by her statements in her apology.

“Furthermore, I’d like to apologize to all of those who I have hurt and offended with my words, and pledge to learn and grow (and I assure you I have) from this experience.”

If more people in power would galvanize against attacking black girls and women and see them as a group you do not DARE disparage, the world would be a very, very different place for us.

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#Ferguson http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/ferguson/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/ferguson/#respond Tue, 25 Nov 2014 19:06:17 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=34840 Because of the sensitive nature of this story, we’ve decided to hold the conversation over at the forum. You can read and contribute to the conversation here. This is an important conversation to have, and it should be done in a safe and secure environment.

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Black Female Aggressiveness at Epic Levels. Why? http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/black-female-aggressiveness-epic-levels/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/black-female-aggressiveness-epic-levels/#comments Tue, 18 Nov 2014 03:42:56 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=34708 A subway brawl between a Dominican man and a black woman has gone viral leading to four arrests. Danay Howard was subjected  to a very hard slap from Jorge Pena after she ridiculed and insulted him for several minutes before hitting him in the head with her high heeled shoes. It has been dubbed “the slap […]

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A subway brawl between a Dominican man and a black woman has gone viral leading to four arrests. Danay Howard was subjected  to a very hard slap from Jorge Pena after she ridiculed and insulted him for several minutes before hitting him in the head with her high heeled shoes. It has been dubbed “the slap heard around the world” and it seems that it has become just that. The ladies of “The View” as well as the London based news outlet, The Daily Mail and every media outlet in between has sounded off on it. Overwhelmingly, people who have commented agreed that she deserved the slap due to her behavior on the footage. However there were some who felt that he was in the wrong despite her odious behavior. My concern is after seeing several video clips of black women and girls posted on line engaging in violent aggressive behavior like this is why are so many eager to engage in confrontations  with men?

Here is one of a young girl who was physically assaulting a young white male on the bus:

 

This one is of a girl screaming at another student for two minutes, he kept asking her to leave him alone and she kept talking mess and called him a bitch as she walked away he called her one back and then she attacked him.

 

And I have seen plenty more like this and a colleague of mine expressed disgust that media outlets like World Hip Hop should stop posting ratchet videos like this on their website . Her argument is that it is focusing on the worst rachet black women making black women look bad. Here is the thing, If so many black women did not behave like this, there would be NOTHING for people capture on their cell phone. In regards to this situation all some want to focus on is that he slapped her. Do we not pay attention to HER behavior before that slap? She insulted him, put him down, continued to ridicule him as her little clique chimed in on the mockery. She knocked the cell phone out of the hand of the guy that was filming it TWICE. Then went back to verbally assaulting the guy and when he decided to walk away she hit him with her high heeled shoes before he slapped her.

Another colleague of mine expressed feeling sorry  for the girls, she questioned their upbringing, were they abused at home, etc. That is all fine and good and that can definitely contribute to their behavior, BUT they are still making the choice to engage in this behavior. I knew girls like this from my school days like Danay and her friends. At the bus stop and on the bus, they would try to start fights with complete strangers or other students; name calling, hurling insults, hitting and shoving. They are not helpless, they are choosing to be bullies. The only difference between then and now is the availability of cell phones. While stories based on human memory may differ, filmed footage does not lie.

I find those who defend Danay regardless of her huge contribution to the altercation is they  tie it on to domestic violence against women. While I do not support women getting hit, I am also of the mind women and girls should not put their hands on people. I will not band wagon the backlash that a violent aggressive female receives with a woman who is being abused. We say the other person (always the male) should have exercised self control? What about the person who STARTED IT??? Many of these women bank on the fact that many men will not hit a woman to enforce their unchallenged aggression and find themselves suprized when they are called on it
My support goes to black women who are unfairly targeted, harassed, and bullied by men, other women, etc. BUT I REFUSE to defend females like this who go after trouble and get it. Black women that start altercations with black men (and other people) when the men try to walk away they CONTINUE to accelerate the situation many times assaulting the guy and he in self defense lets her have it. You cannot start mess then claim your vagina when it is convenient.
I am tired of these half cocked admissions by women ,“yes she was wrong but, he should not have done A.B.and C.” we have to be willing to hold women accountable just like the men. While opinions differ on what Danay did or did not deserve. The law is holding her accountable for her behavior. She has not only been charged with felony assault, but this snapshot of her will be all that people remember and it is a permanent record of her. WTF

Our image as black women is already severely compromised. We want our voices heard when it comes to how black women are treated and mistreated by men maybe it is time we held other women accountable for what they contribute in certain situations to harm being brought to them and others. There are no winners in this situation and for every person involved? Their life is forever changed.

And not in a good way.

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