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Sad News. Jacque Reid Pulled Out if the IR Dating Challenge, and it’s All Over the New York Post http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/sad-news-jacque-reid-pulled-ir-dating-challenge-new-york-post/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/sad-news-jacque-reid-pulled-ir-dating-challenge-new-york-post/#comments Mon, 17 Nov 2014 09:23:50 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=34699 We were all thrilled when Jacque Reid took up the challenge to expand her dating options with the help of my coaching and InterracialDatingCentral.com. What I couldn’t tell you until today is that Jacque pulled out. There’s a reason, and I’ll get more into detail as to the reason for this on the forum, because […]

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We were all thrilled when Jacque Reid took up the challenge to expand her dating options with the help of my coaching and InterracialDatingCentral.com. What I couldn’t tell you until today is that Jacque pulled out. There’s a reason, and I’ll get more into detail as to the reason for this on the forum, because of the sensitive nature of the reason, which boils down to Jacque and her handlers getting cold feet about the whole project.  You’ll find it under “Jacque’s Chronicles.” You can read the New York Post story. You’ll find my quotes in there as well.

This may be the last remaining taboo in our supposedly colorblind society.

A New York City woman — beautiful, educated, successful and single — accepted a challenge presented by an online dating service that aimed to fix her up with available men.

“I’m not desperate to get married,’’ said Jacque Reid, who co-hosts the “New York Live” lifestyle show on WNBC-TV News Channel 4, serves as a correspondent for the nationally syndicated “Tom Joyner Morning Show” on the radio, and is the editor in chief of SingleandLivingFab.com.

“I’ve met some good men. I’ve met some bad men and dated very bad men,” laughed Reid, a fitness enthusiast and never-married Atlanta, Ga., native who lives in Manhattan with her pet Shih Tzus — a boy named Sugar-Shane and a girl named Zoe.

“I’m happy being single,” said Reid, who declined to give her age.

She said, “I’m excited about” the Web-based matchup service. “It will be fun — and I’ll get some dates.”

But two days after we spoke last week, a WNBC spokeswoman informed me that Reid no longer planned to accept the dating service’s challenge because she was “busy.”

A friend told me that she’d changed her mind about it.

Why?

The answer may be found in the dating service’s name: InterracialDatingCentral.com.

Reid, who is African-American, had opened herself up to the possibility of going out with men who are not.

Except for one white guy, she has dated only within her race.

Reid had talked about the challenge on the radio and publicly accepted the service’s offer.

She agreed to be featured in a news release announcing that she would go on a series of blind dates with four New York-area bachelors of all races, including African-Americans.

Then the pushback began.

In this day and age, some people are vehemently against the idea of a woman of color going out with men of other backgrounds.

And the opposition comes from within the black community.

How can this be?

Mayor de Blasio, who is white, has been married to a black woman, Chirlane McCray, for more than two decades, and race matters to no one.

But the black character Olivia Pope (played by Kerry Washington), a Washington, DC, crisis manager on the ABC show “Scandal,” is routinely savaged online for having a fictional affair with the show’s married, white president of the United States.

“People don’t understand. They think it’s no big deal, but it is,” said Christelyn Karazin, co-author with Janice Roshalle Littlejohn of the book “Swirling: How to Date, Mate, and Relate Mixing Race, Culture and Creed.”

Karazin also writes the blog Beyond Black & White, runs an online forum of the same name and is brand ambassador to the interracial-dating site.

She was set to help Reid find new men.

“Why do you have to be brave to date whomever the hell you want to? This is 2014, not 1814!” she told me.

More than 12 years ago, Karazin, 41, who is African-American, married a white insurance executive, Michael, 42.

The pair lives happily in California with their three kids and Christelyn Karazin’s daughter from a previous relationship.

Yet criticism — some of it hurled online, some of it in Karazin’s face — for “marrying out” can be cruel.

Most of it comes from black men, she told me.

“Black men date or marry interracially at more than double the level women do,” she said.

“They are given a pass. They can date anyone they want to — black women, white women.”

The purpose of the dating challenge, she said, was to expand a woman’s choices.

Black women are up to 50 percent more likely than their male counterparts to graduate from high school, reports the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People and The Schott Foundation for Public Education.

About twice the number of black women attend college as black men, according to the National Coalition of Black Civic Participation.

And the Pew Research Center determined that black men were more than six times as likely as white men to be serving time in prisons and jails in 2010.

Meanwhile, said Karazin, the rate of out-of-wedlock births to black women is 72 to 80 percent — up to 100 percent in some communities.

Some of the ills facing black men, particularly high incarceration rates for relatively minor crimes, are unfair to them.

But Karazin does not believe that black women should be limited by race when choosing partners.

She’s right.

Skin color should not matter when it comes to love.

You can read my explanation and more background on the forum…if any subject needed to be discussed in a private and protected forum, this is it. You’ll have to register to see it.

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Mia Love Elected for Congress! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/34532/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/34532/#comments Thu, 06 Nov 2014 04:14:26 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=34532 She’s black,  she’s republican, she’s Mormon and she can now add congresswoman to the list. Mia Love has  made history by becoming the first black woman in Utah’s history  to be elected to congress. The former mayor of Saratoga Springs has been the one to watch since she first ran in 2012  for the seat […]

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She’s black,  she’s republican, she’s Mormon and she can now add congresswoman to the list. Mia Love has  made history by becoming the first black woman in Utah’s history  to be elected to congress. The former mayor of Saratoga Springs has been the one to watch since she first ran in 2012  for the seat in Utah’s 4th congressional district. She lost the election, but undeterred she turned that setback into a come back and claimed the seat.

As the daughter of Haitian immigrants, Mia sees her victory as the opportunity to silence the naysayers some of whom have already labeled her “the Obama of the republican party”. “I love the story of David and Goliath, because in that story David turn toward Goliath..toward a seemingly impossible challenge,” She states. She does not ignore the fact that her victory is going to have its challenges but she is determined to make a difference and is bold in her intentions.  In her victory speech last night she had this to say:

“Let this be a lesson to the nation that we’re not interested in dividing Americans based on gender, race, social status. We are more interested in the integrity and honesty of a candidate,  someone who is going to return power back to the people  and away from Washington. “

The married mother of three, is used to rebelling  against the norm; she is a pro-life, pro-gun advocate whose maverick ways are going to ruffle a few feathers on Capitol Hill. She is not interested in playing the race card, but bringing integrity back.

“I am kind of a nightmare for the Democratic party, they don’t want me here. But I’m coming,” She declares.

And God help anyone who stands in her way.

Go get them Mia!

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Beyond Black & White Fan Page is Under Attack Again. Time to Go to War. http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/beyond-black-white-fan-page-attack-time-go-war/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/beyond-black-white-fan-page-attack-time-go-war/#comments Wed, 15 Oct 2014 15:53:41 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=33997 Not even a week since we launched Beyond Black & White The Rebirth, and we’re already under attack. As you know, the last page was deleted by a concerted effort of trolls who unjustly reported and complained to Facebook until we were shut down. The reason the haters did this? Because we tell uncomfortable truths about […]

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Not even a week since we launched Beyond Black & White The Rebirth, and we’re already under attack. As you know, the last page was deleted by a concerted effort of trolls who unjustly reported and complained to Facebook until we were shut down. The reason the haters did this? Because we tell uncomfortable truths about what goes on in the black community that makes some folks just too uncomfortable.

With the inception of the new page, while there has been ZERO content that is hate speech, they have now changed tactics and are coming into the page to instigate fights and start debate topics on thread…

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Here’s another. I’m just going to add screenshots of all the hate to PROVE what is going on here. There can no longer be any speculation.

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You guys, this is not a prank. This is not a gag. This is a full-on act of social media terror. Our page is INNOCENT, and we are being stalked and bullied into silence. Those who mock me said I was being “dramatic.” Really? Wait until those people have their pages attacked. Because make no mistake, the enemy is emboldened. They took me down, and now they WILL come for you.

These people want a war, they got one. I may be feminine, but I am not WEAK. WE are not weak. I was going to keep this to myself, but I think it’s appropriate to announce that BB&W just acquired the domain, BeyondBlackWhiteForums.com. We are now in the process of site construction. This will be a real, live SEPARATE forum (think Long Hair Care Forum and (gasp) LipStickAlly) just for our community, where we can discuss the topics important to our community without FEAR of someone TEARING DOWN WHAT WE BUILT. So all this reporting to Facebook will be in vain, because what we are building there CAN NOT be torn down. But it will have to be a community effort. We will charge a nominal fee of $9.99 per year for site upkeep. In closing, trolls have done me a favor. They have reminded me of the tremendous support we have built over the years from people, like me, who REFUSE to be silenced. You BW haters have BlackMenVent, and TheColi, etc. Our light will shine on OUR space, so all this effort you’re putting into destroying our community is only galvanizing us to make it stronger and iron-clad protected. You have won NOTHING.

But I need you help. If you really care about this community, you have to FIGHT for it, same as I am.

Here’s the summary of the campaign:

Many of you are aware that the original Beyond Black & White Facebook fan was disbanded by a group of haters who organized to unrightfully flag and report all of our posts so that we would be booted over sheer quantity of complaints. We now have a new page, but we are STILL under attack. People are coming to our page SPECIFICALLY to intigate fights so that they can run to report hate speech to Facebook. Make no mistake, these people don’t want to silence the fan page solely, they want to silence our entire message. They DO NOT want us to talk about how black women should maximize their options dating interracially. They DON’T want us to talk about the victimization and exploitation of black women by perpetrators in our OWN communities. They DO NOT want us to talk about the rampant out-of-wedlock rate and how it leaves black women vulnerable and mired in poverty. They DO NOT want us to talk about how some segments of the community are hell-bend on black women being the mules of the race and to never desire and deign to rise above their station.

The only hope we have of protection against these attacks is to insulate ourselves in communities that we OWN. Facebook is a “rental,” and we can be evicted at any time, for unjust cause and false accusations. With our forum, no one can come in a take away the community, support, personal stories and essential coversations we have in our community. We can not let them win. First, Beyond Black & White, and then watch all of your favorite black female empowerment pages be attacked and disappear. Make no mistake–we’re all in danger.

We did an estimate of costs for the forum…approximately $1,000.

Domain name and hosting: $41.88
Puchase of forum software: $250.00
Graphic Design and layout: $300.00
Labor cost of web person: $60.00 per hour

So I’m asking for your help to keep our space sacred. Any little bit helps. Let’s go!

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Is Greg Orman the future of American politics? http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/greg-orman-future-american-politics/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/greg-orman-future-american-politics/#comments Thu, 09 Oct 2014 15:26:37 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=33441 by Dani NBC News has called him “the most interesting man in politics this November.” Newly released polls show Greg Orman (I) leading long-time Kansas Senator Pat Roberts (R) by seven points, a few weeks before Election Day. Roberts, who survived a scathing Republican primary against a Tea party candidate, initially seemed surprised by the […]

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NBC News has called him “the most interesting man in politics this November.”

Newly released polls show Greg Orman (I) leading long-time Kansas Senator Pat Roberts (R) by seven points, a few weeks before Election Day. Roberts, who survived a scathing Republican primary against a Tea party candidate, initially seemed surprised by the surge of support for the little known businessman, who has previously identified as both Republican and Democrat. Orman’s website indicates a mish-mash of policy positions, ranging from supporting background checks at gun shows to term limits to adoption of a territorial tax system. He seems most passionate about campaign finance reform.

On running for the U.S. Senate as an independent, Orman said, “I didn’t feel like either party fit me well as someone who is fiscally responsible and socially tolerant.” Likewise, younger voters are choosing not to identify with a political party, with nearly 50% of Millennials describing themselves as independents (though they tend to vote Democratic).

If this trend holds, both as millennials age and with the next generation (as yet unnamed), then America’s troubled two party system could very well begin to unravel over the couple of decades. For me personally, I’m sick of economic ignorance on the left and social intolerance on the right. Both seem perpetuated by rigid, “all or nothing” party line ideology where defectors are “punished” in the next election cycle (as opposed to issue by issue coalitions). Maybe a rise of the independents will get America to where we can move past partisan, lockstep gridlock and toward issue based solutions.

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A Picture Says 1000 Words… http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/picture-say-1000-words/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/picture-say-1000-words/#comments Sat, 04 Oct 2014 05:13:25 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=33759 I took this screenshot of the individuals arrested during protests in Ferguson. This picture is poignant on so many levels that I really don’t need to add any commentary. But I WILL ask this question: Can you recall a time when “the brothers” were gathered in the courthouse, arrested on behalf of a black woman […]

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I took this screenshot of the individuals arrested during protests in Ferguson. This picture is poignant on so many levels that I really don’t need to add any commentary.

But I WILL ask this question: Can you recall a time when “the brothers” were gathered in the courthouse, arrested on behalf of a black woman being victimized?

I’ll wait.

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