Beyond Black & White http://www.beyondblackwhite.com Chronicles, Musings and Debates about Interracial & Intercultural Relationships Thu, 19 Apr 2018 05:08:06 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.5 Real Men BUILD. http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/real-men-build/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/real-men-build/#respond Sun, 25 Feb 2018 13:08:30 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=43916 Yesterday I took some photos of my 12-year-old son creating yet another massive fort. When he saw that we were getting shipments in large boxes, he secured and negotiated for them. He recruited his neighborhood buddies for the project, here’s what they built. They made it “weather proof”… And added halways and a room for […]

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Yesterday I took some photos of my 12-year-old son creating yet another massive fort. When he saw that we were getting shipments in large boxes, he secured and negotiated for them. He recruited his neighborhood buddies for the project, here’s what they built.

They made it “weather proof”…

And added halways and a room for each of them.

I have to admit I’m impressed with this ingenuity and spacial skill, because I can tell you that at his age, I was more focused on my Barbies and baby dolls and Sweet Vally High.

But as a mother of three girls and one oy, I noticed that the inclination to build structures and problem solve was innate in my son in a way that was not in my daughters. So I wasn’t really surprised when I recently discovered a new study from the University of Missouri that reported that countries with greater gender equality have a lower percentage of female STEM graduates.

“The researchers found that, throughtou the world, boys’ academic strengths tend to be in science or mathematics, while girls’ strngths are in reading,” states the news release. “In countries with greater gender equality, women are actively encouraged to participate in STEM; yet, they lose more girls because of personal academic strengths.”

Sigh. Can’t be just get past all the PC nonsense and finally admit that boys are, in general, more inclined to science and engineering, and just let that be OKAY? Now does that mean a man can’t be an amazing interior decorator, or a woman can’t be a research scientist on a team to cure every disease known to man? Absolutely not. But frankly I’m getting tired of the push for complete gender neutrality which forces boys and girls to feel like that just can’t be themselves. Boys and men are suffering with this all the more, because stating the facts like this study has is grounds to be called a woman-hating demon.

Men being better at math, science and engineering doesn’t mean they’re superior. Women being better at the “softer sciences” doesn’t make the inferior. Both talents are ESSENTIAL. Equal doesn’t mean SAME.

As a mother, I will happily tolerate this mess in my backyard, because I know my son is happy that his inclination towards structural engineered is being encouraged by his mommy.

Can’t we just let boys be boys and girls be girls?

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Politics Can Be Deceiving: My Encounter with Trump-Supporting Mexicans http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/politics-can-deceiving-encounter-trump-supporting-mexicans/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/politics-can-deceiving-encounter-trump-supporting-mexicans/#respond Wed, 07 Feb 2018 06:27:30 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=43850 Yesterday while I was filming a promo at a winery for my best-selling Pink Pill series, I decided to reward myself for my hard work with a drink at the upscale bar at the hotel. Towing my camera bag and tripod in hand, I headed for the watering hole. I was dressed up for the […]

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Yesterday while I was filming a promo at a winery for my best-selling Pink Pill series, I decided to reward myself for my hard work with a drink at the upscale bar at the hotel. Towing my camera bag and tripod in hand, I headed for the watering hole. I was dressed up for the promo and got the attention of four men laughing and joking. They all turned to me and insisted I sit next to them and allow them to buy my drink.

That’s when something really surprising happened. I discovered that all these men were bothers, and they were there with their father. They were speaking a mix of Spanish and English, and because I understand a bit I responded. I find that non-European Spanish speaking people are amazingly gracious and forgiving of you butchering their language. As long as you try, you’re OK in their book.

I found out that the men were Mexican, and the father is an immigrant, born in Yucatan. All the men served in the military and despite their relatively youthful look, retired. They asked me what the gear was for and what I do. When I told them, they were audibly thrilled. One of them moved his chair closer to me and started flirting heavily. All of them were disappointed to find out I was married, but we became fast friends. We jumped from one conversation topic to another. That’s when I discovered that all these men, Mexican descendants of an immigrant, were Trump-supporting Republicans.

I looked at the dad for a long time. I think my mouth was hanging open. With all the news about building a wall, deporting illegals, and racist alt right craziness, I was looking at four men who cheered all of it.

Before I could ask, the elder exclaimed, “I support Trump! Do you want to know why? Because I AM an immigrant and I came here the right way, and everyone else should too!”

Then one son chimed in. “We also support him because he supports the military and we are all retired military. We also run our own businesses and the economy is booming.” One is a risk consultant and lives on 20 acres and runs a small farm, the other is a defense attorney, and the last is a probation office with his own jewelry business.

Yes…about that. Despite the recent dips, I can not deny that the economy and Hispanic and African American unemployment rates have come down precipitously. The business community is responding to the administration’s tax cuts and relaxing of some government rules. As much as I find our president utterly pathological and distasteful, I have to at least admit that.

You know what’s funny? They don’t particularly like Trump’s personality either, but the policies he promotes are more in line with their values than that of the liberal Democrats.

I realized in the moment these Mexican men told me they were Republicans, a fleeting judgment that they were betraying their people flashed in my mind. Then I mentally kicked my own behind. This is the same kind of thinking others have about black people, and why Democrats continue to take the Hispanic and Black vote for granted. They don’t really see us. Not really. We are merely blobs of voting blocs to keep them elected.

While I know for sure I will never like the current president, I am reminded of why I am a registered Independent. And…’your girl who swirls’ was reminded never to judge a book by it’s cover.

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Oprah for President…Really? http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/oprah-president-really/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/oprah-president-really/#comments Wed, 10 Jan 2018 16:29:25 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=43756 Aside from the 24-hour news cycle dominated by WTF Trump said/did/tweeted, I’ve observed a flurry of stories about whether or not Oprah Winfrey has a real chance at the presidency in 2020. I think it’s a horrible idea. But not because bigots would have a twofer for their hate. After all, she is black AND a […]

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Aside from the 24-hour news cycle dominated by WTF Trump said/did/tweeted, I’ve observed a flurry of stories about whether or not Oprah Winfrey has a real chance at the presidency in 2020.

I think it’s a horrible idea. But not because bigots would have a twofer for their hate. After all, she is black AND a woman. My reasons are much more intangible.

After having a reality star who has clearly shown his main priority is himself, surrounded by a Keystone Cops situation of cabinet members who range from inexperienced to hopelessly sycophantic and corrupt, topped with losing the collective goodwill and respect from our allies, I’m ready for a president who REALLY knows WTF he/she is doing.

What is more, I think it sets a terrible precedent that people are being elected primarily based on how much time on television they have instead of possessing a full understanding and interest in the very real issues and challenges of being the leader of the free world. Being president shouldn’t be a high school popularity contest. Honestly, I’m deeply disappointed in my fellow Americans that so many seem to have such a lack of interest in real issues and are more interested in the cult of personality than respect for the Office of the Presidency.

How cheaply that position is now being peddled! You don’t have to have any military service, never serve in a political post, and I guess you don’t even need to know the words of the national anthem.

What happened to wanting someone for president who is bookish, reflective, if not a bit nerdy? Is someone with a strong moral compass with and a sober understanding of the deep responsibility and burden of being responsible for literally billions of people just too boring for our increasingly lower-IQ collective? Are we only stimulated by flashy moving objects like the puppies and kittens we watch on Facebook and YouTube videos?

What happened to civic responsibility? My late father, born in the 1920’s and a sharecropper’s son, didn’t always have the right to vote. By the time he did, he took his privilege and responsibility seriously. He toiled through the voter guide for hours at the table, while we lather ourselves into a frenzy over one-liners and hashtags that don’t mean anything and are more concerned in our side winning than the well-being and status of our country.

We only have ourselves to blame. I’m more disappointed in us than I am in our politicians. I had more hope for Americans desiring a distinction between celebrities paid to entertain us and policymakers who are “boring” brilliant strategists and intellectuals that revere the principals of our country.

Hucksters, slick-talkers, and opportunists now know that so many of us are no longer interested in the issues, and more motivated by a temporary hormone surge that comes when they feed us a bunch of emotional bullcrap we want to hear. They know that we are so ignorant that we don’t even realize that the real fight we’re having isn’t about race; that’s only a distraction while corporations continue to rob all of us blind and so we become unthinking slaves of consumption. We are the fools, not them.

And while I have a tremendous fondness for Oprah; her achievements and success cannot be understated. Her innate intellect and benevolence will never be in question by me. Despite all that, I think her talents are better served on the periphery of politics as she maintains her activism. Just because we elected one president because he’s a celebrity doesn’t mean that we should leave that position open for the next person who has more Twitter followers or better ratings.

Is that who we really are???

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Black Media Swoops In to Remind Us Meaghan Markle Is Marrying the Slave Master. Why?? http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/black-media-swoops-remind-us-meaghan-markle-marrying-slave-master/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/black-media-swoops-remind-us-meaghan-markle-marrying-slave-master/#comments Thu, 07 Dec 2017 03:46:46 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=43638 Did you see the article published in The Grio today, about their “concern” over the idea that a mixed race woman of African American decent is marrying into the royal family and people FORGETTING about England’s legacy of slavery. Oh…really?? Here’s what they said… The British royals may be set to welcome a Black member […]

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Did you see the article published in The Grio today, about their “concern” over the idea that a mixed race woman of African American decent is marrying into the royal family and people FORGETTING about England’s legacy of slavery. Oh…really??

Here’s what they said…

The British royals may be set to welcome a Black member into their family, but that doesn’t mean they’re off the hook for hundreds of years of colonizing and enslaving Africans and dark-skinned people around the globe, all while amassing a ton of wealth in the process.

Sorry to be the one to throw cold water on the recent announcement of Prince Harryand Meghan Markle‘s engagement, but somebody has to do it.

Hmmm…let’s see what else…

The British royal family presided over the exploitation of untold millions of people in Africa, India and around the world. Britain’s national wealth, and the riches of the royal family were built off the backs of slaves, making the Industrial Revolution possible.

Oh wow! That’s TERRIBLE!! They really, really HATE slavery. And-and-and-and this organization is being very specific about reminding black people that those white English folks are white supremacists too, and probably Meaghan is a bed wench. That is what they like to call us black or mixed race women with African ancestry when we don’t fall in line, now isn’t it?

Do you notice that when a black man marries a white woman, nobody is rushing in to do DNA tests and ancestry forensics to see if that woman is the decedents of slaves? That’s so weird…

I’d rather them STOP trying to remind us of ancient history and focus MORE on the slave trade that is happening RIGHT NOW in Libya. They’ve written a few articles, but can we please get some more, maybe organize and mobilize your vast audience to march on Washington to free our black brothers and sister? Maybe ask Prince Harry and Meghan Markle to pitch in our something?

Ladies, don’t be so gullible. See the game that’s being played on you.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-TP-a5zU82M

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Libya: Black People Only Care About Slavery When White People Do It http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/libya-black-people-care-slavery-white-people/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/libya-black-people-care-slavery-white-people/#comments Mon, 04 Dec 2017 03:16:23 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=43612 I heard about the slave trade happening in Libya a couple weeks ago, when my Sudanese hair braider alerted me to the news channel she watches from her country. She was outraged, and I was puzzled, and a bit suspicious. I mean, if there were actual people being SOLD WHOLESALE…BLACK PEOPLE…wouldn’t our mainstream media–or at […]

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I heard about the slave trade happening in Libya a couple weeks ago, when my Sudanese hair braider alerted me to the news channel she watches from her country. She was outraged, and I was puzzled, and a bit suspicious. I mean, if there were actual people being SOLD WHOLESALE…BLACK PEOPLE…wouldn’t our mainstream media–or at least black media like The Grio, The Root, SOMEBODY–be talking about it? Weeks later, the only major American news outlet discussing this is CNN. You know…the organization our “president” calls “Fake News.” But this doesn’t look fake to me at all. There are actual people in cages. IN CAGES.

IN CAGES!!!!!!!!!!!! They’re being sold for as low as $800.

Now, I’m not going to expect media companies headed by white folks to care more about this than the black media, but…THE BLACK MEDIA IN AMERICA HAS BEEN SILENT. This SAME black media who screams white supremacy boogeyman, slave reparations, and evil whitey because of slavery hasn’t even picked up the CLIPS about it, and WHY? I’ll tel you why. BECAUSE THE PEOPLE SELLING BLACKS ARE BLACK TOO. And Arab. Their silence suggests they only CARE about slavery when WHITE PEOPLE DO IT. Which means they don’t really care about slavery at all.

Educate yourself on what’s happening in Libya.

Listen Hotep Nation, if you’re going to rail about “evil albinoids” and the inherent moral deficit of whites but ignore what’s happening in Libya right now, you’re hucksters. You’re fakes. You’re phonies. You’re not talking about it because it doesn’t fit into your narrative about how evil white slavers were, while you BLATANTLY IGNORE the EVIL that is happening RIGHT NOW. And why? Because the evil doers are NOT white. Not White = Don’t Care. Not White = No Media Coverage. Not White = No Clever Twitter Hashtags. You people make me SICK.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nnEpzU8Y53g

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Texas Attorney General: Parishioners Should be Armed. http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/texas-attorney-general-partitioners-armed/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/texas-attorney-general-partitioners-armed/#comments Mon, 06 Nov 2017 03:46:15 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=43495 Another day, another mass shooting in America. You’ll have to excuse me today; It’s hard to write about happy things when every week we see mass killings. And with the Texas attorney general Ken Paxon suggest on Fox News that church partitioners should be armed and ready to act if someone crazy starts shooting. I […]

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Another day, another mass shooting in America. You’ll have to excuse me today; It’s hard to write about happy things when every week we see mass killings. And with the Texas attorney general Ken Paxon suggest on Fox News that church partitioners should be armed and ready to act if someone crazy starts shooting.

I want you to really look at where we are. Armed militia at churches.

We officially have lost our souls.

It’s obviously not going to take a crazy man killing 50 people at a country music concert in Las Vegas, or a deranged man going into a church and killing 26 people to get anyone with any power to do anything, or anyone organizing in any concerted way to say ENOUGH, so…I guess this is the new normal.

The saddest thing about it is, nothing will change. The gun lobby is too strong, and our president is a sociopath with no empathy and will only care about these attacks if he can make himself richer.

This is no longer the America I believed in. Hillary Clinton wouldn’t have been better…she is thoroughly corrupt in a different way. I’m looking around as a citizen, and beginning to think, for the first time in my life, that my vote doesn’t count, that it never did, or ever will.

From my vantage point, I’m digging into my reserve and trying hard to remember why this country was supposed to be the shining city on the hill. Our policy is deeply flawed and can’t be changed without another American Revolution. Our policy makers are corrupt and sociopathic.

I give up.

I’m done believing.

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