Studies (and experience) Show Black Men Benefit and Lose by Conforming to Stereotypes while Black Women Always Lose

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In two separate studies, Megan Holland and  Simone Ipsa-Landa examined the experiences of Black boys and girls who participated in diversity programs … [Read more...]

59% Of Black Women Have Multiple Fathers. I’m One of Them, But…

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  This little bit of go-kill-yourself news appeared on my Facebook feed this evening... Black Women: 59 Percent Have Multiple Babies’ … [Read more...]

Black Women, Swirling, and Self-Sabotage

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Saturday I got the kick-ass pleasure of attending the Atlanta premier of My Last Day Without You, starring Nicole Beharie (Sleepy Hollow, anyone?) and … [Read more...]

Everyone Loves The Strong Independent Black Woman!

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Dear wonderful Black community, Interacting with Black women has been such a pleasure and I have learned so much! One thing I never realized was … [Read more...]

Who Owns a Black Woman’s Womb?

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*gets behind a podium* *clears throat*   Blogmistress, moderators, community regulars, lurkers and guests-   The black … [Read more...]

QOTW: “Should a Woman Ever Play Down Her Accomplishments to Attract a Man?”

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I got this question from a pretty successful friend of mine, and it took me a while to answer because I wanted to make sure I wasn't coming from a … [Read more...]

DUPLICATE POST with fresh comment thread ~ comments about porn will be deleted

The Exotic Okey Doke: How Black Women Got Tricked Out Of Sexy

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This post was published on July 26, 2013 by Toni. Things quickly got out of hand in the comment section, derailing into talking about women-friendly … [Read more...]

The Marissa Alexander Story: This Is What Could Happen When You Choose the Wrong Man

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In May of 2012, Marissa Alexander, a 31-year old black women with a master's degree and 3 children, was sentenced to 20 years in prison after being … [Read more...]

ORIGINAL POST with restored comment thread ~ Black women and porn can be discussed here

The Exotic Okey Doke: How Black Women Got Tricked Out Of Sexy

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This post was published on July 26, 2013 by Toni. Things quickly got out of hand in the comment section, derailing into talking about women-friendly … [Read more...]

Why Do Some Black Women Consider Marriage “The Enemy”? Part II

I wrote the first part in response to the negative attitudes I'd seen from single black women regarding marriage. Specifically people who have never … [Read more...]

Women are Winning in the Workplace…Kind of

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The Pew Research Center released a report last week under the headline “Breadwinner Moms.” The census-based report detailed findings that 4 in 10 … [Read more...]