Beyond Black & White » Engagements http://www.beyondblackwhite.com Chronicles, Musings and Debates about Interracial & Intercultural Relationships Sat, 01 Nov 2014 00:20:28 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.0 Another BB&W is Getting Hitched! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/another-bbw-getting-hitched/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/another-bbw-getting-hitched/#comments Mon, 06 Oct 2014 05:05:23 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=33765 And another couple who met online!! You all know her as “friendswithmimi,” and I know her as Michelle, who just got engaged to her boyfriend, Don! It’s so wonderful to watch how this relationship developed–with the first tentative message she wrote me about what a wonderful man she’d met. And here they are… And they […]

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And another couple who met online!!

You all know her as “friendswithmimi,” and I know her as Michelle, who just got engaged to her boyfriend, Don!

It’s so wonderful to watch how this relationship developed–with the first tentative message she wrote me about what a wonderful man she’d met. And here they are…

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And they met online on OkCupid!

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Congrats, Michelle and Don!

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Best Ever Engagement Video from BB&W Fans, Jacob and Joy! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/best-ever-engagement-video-bbw-fans-jacob-joy/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/best-ever-engagement-video-bbw-fans-jacob-joy/#comments Fri, 26 Sep 2014 21:16:54 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=33634 by Christelyn Karazin  Before I show the video, note that this couple met ONLINE on Plenty of Fish. Again; sort through the frogs and find your prince, ladies! Oh–and they’re in Tennessee. Jacob wanted to ask his girlfriend, Joy for her hand in marriage in a creative way, and got their friends and family to […]

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 Before I show the video, note that this couple met ONLINE on Plenty of Fish. Again; sort through the frogs and find your prince, ladies! Oh–and they’re in Tennessee. ;-)

Jacob wanted to ask his girlfriend, Joy for her hand in marriage in a creative way, and got their friends and family to create just about the cutest engagement video I’ve ever seen.

I’ve got to say, I’m smiling from ear to ear at seeing my sisters being loved and cherished. Stop believing the LIE that you’re not worthy.

Congrats, Jacob and Joy! Check these two out on their website, JacobandJoy.com. From the looks of it, they’re building something pretty spectacular together.

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BB&W’s Very Own ‘EarthJeff’ is Getting Hitched!! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/working-title-jeff-toni-wedding-announcement/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/working-title-jeff-toni-wedding-announcement/#comments Mon, 08 Sep 2014 14:06:57 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=33003 Jeff and Toni’s Story Old, balding, creaky-kneed white male high-school science teacher about to cross the threshold to 50. Adorable, sweet, cute black female “nerdy mom” (as she likes to jokingly call herself) with a very close family that outnumbers the population of the State of Mississippi. A decade ago these two NEVER hook up. […]

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Jeff and Toni’s Story Old, balding, creaky-kneed white male high-school science teacher about to cross the threshold to 50. Adorable, sweet, cute black female “nerdy mom” (as she likes to jokingly call herself) with a very close family that outnumbers the population of the State of Mississippi. A decade ago these two NEVER hook up. Five decades ago – within his lifetime – a pair that could not legally marry in a handful of states (changed by the courage of a brave couple by the appropriate name of “Loving”). But… that was all then. This is all Now. Meet a couple very much in love with each other. Meet Jeff and Toni. unnamed-2 Yes… BB&W’s very own EarthJeff. And that shy lurker known as “Bella”. They are engaged, committed to each other and planning the event that will “seal the deal”. Next July. Even though Michigan is lovely in July, how much fun is it to get married surrounded by orange road construction cones? (Quick Michigan joke… what are the two seasons in Michigan? Winter, and road construction season). She wants to get married in Las Vegas? I would do anything for my lady….. Vegas it is. I will say this, though. “Running off and getting married in Vegas” is NOT the same thing as “having a wedding in Vegas”. Kids involved in this new family unit? Of course. He brings to the table a 21 year old daughter and a 17 year old son. She counters with a 20 year old son and a 13 year old son. All four are really great kids. All of them want their mom or dad to be happy. Not quite the Brady bunch in either numbers or complexion, but a group that sure would make a cute TV sitcom… If anyone out there has any influence in TV-land, keep us in mind. unnamed-5 So how did we meet? Yes…. Online dating can work. Actually I will start with a story about the site that we did not meet on. We were both on Match. They send you those Daily Matches. AFTER we met and were dating, one day she tells me that she got a daily match…. someone that looks exactly like me…. 92 % match. So we often will drop a joke about how we are 92 % compatible or when we may not totally agree on something, will joke how that must be the 8 %. On to how we did meet, though. I was on AfroRomance and she on InterracialDatingCentral (they are connected somehow), checking out profiles for women in the appropriate age range (at 49, mine was plus or minus 10 years), in the metro Detroit area, ideally with a picture (yes, we are visual creatures) looking for pretty eyes or sweet smile. I would save profiles to my favorites, or send winks, or drop one of my favorite opening lines like “May I politely wish you a good evening? My name is Jeff, by the way”. After sending her a wink, I did grace her with that opening line. (I have had some success meeting with that kind of line…. Either women choose to ignore it or get the “wow, at least he is polite” kind of reaction and respond. Nobody is going to be rude to the level of saying “no, you may Not wish me a good evening…. Bug off…”. unnamed-3 Anyway, she was interested enough to respond. Some messages led to email and text. Finally a meeting in a safe public place (Pizza Hut that was about 40 degrees… we still joke about how cold it was). Both nervous as we chatted over Pizza. Walking out I was brave enough to ask for a kiss and she at least liked me enough to give me one. Wow. The next date, also safe and public at the library for some wonderful conversation and just a bit of rubbing her hand. We havent looked back since. unnamed-4 So time rolls, we fall harder and harder for each other. At some point, I know. She knows. Finally, it is time to give her the ring. Am I going to be able to snag the cutest, sweetest, most adorable woman in the world? We go to our favorite Mexican restaurant and I act like I am looking at the take out menu on the table and lay it back down with the box under it. We talk for several minutes and then I ask her to hand me the take out menu again. She picks it up, sees the box, and says “Jeff… no….”. I remember saying “What do you mean, no? Really? That fast? No?”…. she laughed and said “ I didnt mean no like that…. of course, yes”….. And suddenly I am planning this event known as “Lets get married in Vegas” with this woman that I love dearly and want to make my mate Forever.

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Some May Have Scoffed, But 300-Sandwiches Lady Just Got Engaged at Sandwich #257. http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/may-scoffed-300-sandwich-lady-just-got-engaged-sandwich-257/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/may-scoffed-300-sandwich-lady-just-got-engaged-sandwich-257/#comments Wed, 21 May 2014 04:44:47 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=30587 Three-hundred sandwich lady made headlines last year (and sparked outrage to both militant feminists and the pro-black, anti-interracial relationship crew) because she found joy in preparing delicious and creative sandwiches for her boyfriend who once jokingly told her that if she made him 300 sandwiches he would marry her. There were a few disgusting master/slave […]

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Three-hundred sandwich lady made headlines last year (and sparked outrage to both militant feminists and the pro-black, anti-interracial relationship crew) because she found joy in preparing delicious and creative sandwiches for her boyfriend who once jokingly told her that if she made him 300 sandwiches he would marry her. There were a few disgusting master/slave references in there too by hateful, lonely, no-life-having Lipstick Ally readers.

Of course all of us here at BB&W thought it was a sweet gesture, and I for one was giving her a virtual high-five on how she parlayed that interaction into a thriving, money-making venture doing what she loved. Isn’t that the feminist ideal? You can be domestic AND run shit. That’s the feminist theory I like to see.

She says in her blog, “Words cannot express how extraordinarily happy I am. Not because I have a engagement ring, but because I’m going to spend the rest of my life having ridiculously amazing adventures with my soul mate,” she wrote. “My mouth hurts from smiling.”

Congrats, chica. Now go make your future HUSBAND his 258th sandwich.

Sigh…and that photo…so romantic…

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So what the lesson here, folks? The meme still stands: The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach after he’s digested 257 really delicious sandwiches.

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Eve is On Wedding Countdown to Becoming Mrs. Cooper! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/eve-wedding-countdown-becoming-mrs-cooper/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/eve-wedding-countdown-becoming-mrs-cooper/#comments Mon, 21 Apr 2014 06:03:33 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=29844 Once I was able to wade through the mass of ads and commercials to actually see what’s up, Madame Noire reported that Eve has just celebrated her bachelorette party, and is officially on wedding countdown to be a “Mrs.” I’ve been following Eve’s relationship with Max Cooper and I have to say that it’s like […]

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Once I was able to wade through the mass of ads and commercials to actually see what’s up, Madame Noire reported that Eve has just celebrated her bachelorette party, and is officially on wedding countdown to be a “Mrs.”

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I’ve been following Eve’s relationship with Max Cooper and I have to say that it’s like a modern-day Cinderella story. Eve, a rapper and in “the life,” meets handsome billionaire clothing designer, whom I sure many of her friends in “the life” told her was out of her league or that he would never take her, a “commoner,” any more seriously than for one night, complete with boots and notched bedposts. Yet here she is, happy as can be and about to be the new bride of a man who adores her.

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I remember hearing a lot of “he’ll date you but he’ll never marry you” crap when I started dating my husband. If I’d listened, we wouldn’t be celebrating our 12th anniversary next Sunday.

Just something to think about.

Congrats, Eve!

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Model Lanisha Cole Fires Back On Haters of Her Non-Black Fiance http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/model-lanisha-cole-fires-back-haters-non-black-fiance/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/model-lanisha-cole-fires-back-haters-non-black-fiance/#comments Thu, 20 Feb 2014 04:01:37 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=28704 If you’ve ever watched The Price is Right or Deal or No Deal, you’ve probably seen Lanisha Cole prancing around the set. With a gorgeous set of legs and a face to match.   Lanisha recently fired back in a blog post regarding folks (gasp!) hating on her choice of mate on her blog. The […]

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If you’ve ever watched The Price is Right or Deal or No Deal, you’ve probably seen Lanisha Cole prancing around the set. With a gorgeous set of legs and a face to match.

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Lanisha recently fired back in a blog post regarding folks (gasp!) hating on her choice of mate on her blog. The hate came from SURPRISE!! an urban website–you know how they just loooove to mock black women in interracial relationships and marriages while giving rappers and ballers passes all the day long.

Here’s her open letter:

Where to begin… My engagement announcement yesterday has highlighted a very sensitive issue… the topic of interracial dating.  Though please know that it was never an issue for me, my fiancé, our friends and family.  It’s unfortunate that a few ignorant people have taken an event that every girl dreams of and turned it into a negative with their vile and ignorant comments. I won’t give this urban gossip website the benefit of being mentioned (I used to be a huge fan, by the way) but among some of the comments came the term “Sellout Negro” and other disgusting and derogatory references.

As many of you know, I don’t usually speak about my personal life.  It’s more important to me for people to focus on what I do professionally, but this particular topic has been swept under the rug far too often and I feel that its important for me to put this issue out in the open. Calling someone a “sellout” based on the race of their significant other is mean spirited, pathetic and highlights everything wrong with our society. I have never been in a relationship based on wealth or status. If that was the case then I’m sure you would have seen me out and about with rappers, athletes, artists, etc. I’ve always stayed under the radar (by choice) and made my life decisions based on what I value, what my parents taught me and what my heart tells me to do.

This man RICK LICHT is the person I love… the person I plan to build the rest of my life with.. the person who’s supported me through great times and of course the rough times. He’s been my rock and I love him for the person he’s proven himself to be. We’ve been together for a while… 5+ years… and this was before his new project was even a thought. I’ve seen this man work VERY HARD day and night to make his dreams a reality and I’ve been there every step of the way. He is honestly the definition of hard work, persistence, determination, and strength and I’m proud of what he’s been able to accomplish.

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I have had an amazing career and worked hard to support myself financially. I’ve managed to go from being in music videos at the age of 18 to spending 8 years on a well known game show, spent 9+ years with Milani Cosmetics, opened an art gallery, opened my photography studio, and I’ve also dedicated my time to mentoring young women who need guidance, among other things. None of this came easy.  Nothing was handed to me.  I’ve faced the challenges time and time again, fighting to get to where I’m at today. I’m very proud to say that I’ve done it in a way that my family can be proud of and other young women can hopefully be inspired by. Getting married to the man I love is simply the icing on the cake… and I will continue to stand by his side regardless of the bitter betties who feel the need to make negative comments and call me hurtful names.  I’m not the first one who’s been called out and I’m sure I won’t be the last.  But if they read this post, perhaps some of those people will think twice before take the low road and act that way again. I say this on St. Valentine’s Day, a day for love, and just weeks after the day honoring Dr. Martin Luther King, a day for peace, hope and treating everyone with the proper respect – regardless of race, creed or color.

I pray that those who took the time out of their day to try and put me down will one day find someone who treats them like a queen or king, and who’ll inspire them to see the light and be a positive influence in this world during the time they’re here on this earth. Remember that everyday is a blessing… so stop spending time perpetuating everything wrong with society and instead do something to help lift each other up.  As Dr. King said, “Hate cannot drive out hate.  Only love can do that.” I’m incredibly fortunate that there are so many warm, special and beautiful people in my life so I usually don’t address the hate but I had to share my feelings on this topic today.

I hope this note proves beneficial to some of the folks out there. . .

God bless,

Lanisha

This is just a guess, but I think she’s referring to the bottom-feeding hood-boogers over yonder. I get it. Black women aren’t allowed to be happy with non-black men, not pre approved by the GAT-DL (Guardians of All Things Dark and Lovely). Just ask Tamera Mowry.

 

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