Beyond Black & White » Married Swirling http://www.beyondblackwhite.com Chronicles, Musings and Debates about Interracial & Intercultural Relationships Fri, 31 Jul 2015 05:59:29 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.2.3 BB&W Exclusive: The Nive Nulls!! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/bbw-exclusive-the-nive-nulls/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/bbw-exclusive-the-nive-nulls/#comments Mon, 27 Jul 2015 05:33:29 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=37972 Guess what? They’re as cool in person as they are online!!

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Guess what? They’re as cool in person as they are online!!

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Christelyn Meets Gabe and Babe! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/christelyn-meets-gabe-and-babe/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/christelyn-meets-gabe-and-babe/#comments Fri, 24 Jul 2015 05:41:05 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=37950 So I’ve been away the last couple of days at VidCon, the convention for…you guessed it…You Tubers. After having some mixed results in my networking, I’d decided to call it a day and make the hour and a half trip back home. Lo and behold, I stumble upon a couple I’ve seen on You Tube […]

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So I’ve been away the last couple of days at VidCon, the convention for…you guessed it…You Tubers. After having some mixed results in my networking, I’d decided to call it a day and make the hour and a half trip back home. Lo and behold, I stumble upon a couple I’ve seen on You Tube for years–Gabe and Babe! I was totally doing the happy dance. So we did what You Tubers do…made a video!

 

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Intermarriage By the Numbers: More Black Women are Marrying Across Color Lines http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/intermarriage-by-the-numbers-12-of-black-women-marry-interracially/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/intermarriage-by-the-numbers-12-of-black-women-marry-interracially/#comments Thu, 16 Jul 2015 16:09:37 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=37908 Last month, the Pew Research Center released new numbers about intermarriage in the United States. The numbers are rising across the board with a few exceptions, but there’s some good news when it comes to black women. To make a long story short, your feeling that all those interracially married black women you see on […]

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Last month, the Pew Research Center released new numbers about intermarriage in the United States. The numbers are rising across the board with a few exceptions, but there’s some good news when it comes to black women. To make a long story short, your feeling that all those interracially married black women you see on the street seems like a lot more than a few years ago, you’re right.

I’ve been clocking the intermarriage rates since I started research for my book, Swirling. That was in 2008. In 2008 and again in 2010, the rates of intermarriage amongst black women was at 9 percent. “Gender patterns in intermarriage vary widely. Some 24% of all black male newlyweds in 2010 married outside their race, compared with just 9% of black female newlyweds. [SOURCE] That doesn’t mean that a quarter of ALL black men intermarry, because only 43% of black men marry. So of that 43% group, a quarter of them marry non-black women.

However, between the years of 2008 and 2012, the rates of intermarriage for black women have risen from 9 percent to 12 percent, while the numbers for black male intermarriage remains about the same.

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To read the entire current study, click here.

I’m going to go ahead and claim a small victory here. Google black women dating interracially and see this blog pop up on the first page. We my friends, are making history.

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So…Who’s Fault is It? 92% of Biracial Children Born to Black Fathers Out of Wedlock; 82% on Welfare. http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/so-whos-fault-is-it-92-of-biracial-children-born-to-black-fathers-out-of-wedlock-82-on-welfare/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/so-whos-fault-is-it-92-of-biracial-children-born-to-black-fathers-out-of-wedlock-82-on-welfare/#comments Mon, 13 Jul 2015 03:03:59 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=37865 If you’ve been on social media long enough, and have known my tireless crusade with “No Wedding No Womb,” and trying to find solutions to the 70% out-of-wedlock rate in the black community, you know I and my supporters have face fierce opposition. I think I’ve heard it all: “Black women need to keep their […]

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If you’ve been on social media long enough, and have known my tireless crusade with “No Wedding No Womb,” and trying to find solutions to the 70% out-of-wedlock rate in the black community, you know I and my supporters have face fierce opposition. I think I’ve heard it all:

“Black women need to keep their legs closed!”

“Black women use abortion for birth control!”

“Black women maliciously keep fathers away from their kids!”

“Black women are whores and not worth marrying!!”

“Black single mothers LOVE being black single mothers!!!”

But what I hear the least, is any blame directed at the other 50% of the  problem–the men. The blame is almost always volleyed back to the women, and we hear such explanations like, “Well men are going to do what men do!! You should choose better!!”

This is often a reason haters of black women use to justify why they date interracially. Everything is always our fault, 100% of the time. And it’s not just the men who often say this, but their misogynistic handmaidens as well.

Yet, a small study published recently is making it’s way around social media garnering much outrage indicates that 92% of biracial children born to black fathers are born out-of-wedlock, and 82% of them are in need of public assistance.

Wow.

And don’t think everybody doesn’t know about our dirty laundry.

It is well known that in the African American community fatherlessness is a major problem, 70 % of black children are born out of wedlock in the African American community. The tendencies for fathers to be absent from their children’s lives has grown into what one can definitely call an African American cultural norm.

Yep. That’s what they’re saying about the black community. And it’s painfully true.

The researchers asked white, Hispanic and Asian women who had children with African American fathers the following:

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So…if black women are the problem, then how come the out-of-wedlock disease is being exported by the men?

I believe in thinking critically, so don’t take my word for it. Read the study for yourself. While I still believe the onus to address our fractured families lies on both men and women, I reject the messages that it is the complete fault and failure of black women. As with all of these studies, take a look around you. Is it what you’re witnessing in real, day-to-day life? It’s been mixed for me. My brother’s best friend growing up got his white girlfriend pregnant and eventually married her, and went on to have four other kids. He’s in the ministry and she’s a computer geek, and they appear to have a wonderful family with happy, intelligent kids. On the other hand, I have a litter of cousins running around in Texas from white women dumb enough to get caught up with my trifling, distant male cousins with nary a marital benefit.

It would be interesting to see research on how many black women with biracial children are married to their kid’s fathers. In fact, why not do one right now?!

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Video: Jeff and Toni’s Wedding Recap! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/video-jeff-and-tonis-wedding-recap/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/video-jeff-and-tonis-wedding-recap/#comments Mon, 13 Jul 2015 02:12:26 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=37862 I know many of you were chomping at the bit to see this, and this is the first cut. I’m the videographer and editor, so please be kind. 😉   What a great time we had!!

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I know many of you were chomping at the bit to see this, and this is the first cut. I’m the videographer and editor, so please be kind. 😉

 

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They Did It! Jeff and Toni Tie the Knot! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/they-did-it-jeff-and-toni-tie-the-knot/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/they-did-it-jeff-and-toni-tie-the-knot/#comments Wed, 08 Jul 2015 05:53:59 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=37814 Ah…it was a beautiful thing to see. “EarthJeff” and his bride, Toni, exchanged vows in an adorable little chapel at The Linq Hotel, pretty convenient, since that’s where all the gang is! Two days in, that this trip has been a blast. This is just a few photos, but just wait because there’s tons more, […]

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Ah…it was a beautiful thing to see. “EarthJeff” and his bride, Toni, exchanged vows in an adorable little chapel at The Linq Hotel, pretty convenient, since that’s where all the gang is! Two days in, that this trip has been a blast. This is just a few photos, but just wait because there’s tons more, plus video!

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Loved that we blog folks got together…this can’t be the first and last time. There must be more. We need more reasons for mojitos.

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Too much love and silliness…

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Jeff and Toni met on InterracialDatingCentral, the company in which I am brand ambassador.

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