Beyond Black & White » Married Swirling http://www.beyondblackwhite.com Chronicles, Musings and Debates about Interracial & Intercultural Relationships Mon, 22 Dec 2014 18:39:54 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.0.1 Christine and Masa – East Meets West http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/christine-masa-east-meets-west/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/christine-masa-east-meets-west/#comments Tue, 16 Dec 2014 05:42:02 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=35165  Masa and Christine Nishiguchi This is another online dating success story.  Chris and Masa met in February 2013 on Match.com.  Chris was looking for and found a guy who met all her criteria.  She was looking for a quality, marriage minded Asian man who wanted a family.  Masa on the other hand was not having […]

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 Masa and Christine Nishiguchi

This is another online dating success story.  Chris and Masa met in February 2013 on Match.com.  Chris was looking for and found a guy who met all her criteria.  She was looking for a quality, marriage minded Asian man who wanted a family.  Masa on the other hand was not having so much luck and was about ready to close down his account when he got Chris’ email.  From Chris’ profile, she was too good to be true and Masa was intrigued.  He responded to Chris and they hit it off.  Masa was smitten and after a few phone calls they met.  Masa was everything Chris wanted and Chris was the answer to Masa’s prayers.

After their first dates the newly in love couple became inseparable.  By early May, Masa presented Chris with a beautiful diamond ring and she presented him with a date.  Since Masa is from Japan and that is where his family lives, he and Chris told his family the big news by Skype.  Masa’s mother cried, not out of disgust or shame, but happy tears.  But because of illness, she was sad because she could not attend her son’s wedding to the love of his life.  Masa’s family loves Chris and will get to meet her in 2015 when Masa takes her to Japan for a visit.  Chris can hardly wait.

In late May 2013, Chris and Masa were married in a simple ceremony with her family and a few of their friends.  They had a quick honey moon weekend in Canada came back and returned to work.  They are planning their family and future.  Proof again, that when two, well vetted and committed people are on the same page, there is no need for a long and drawn out courtship.  Wishing this happy couple a wonderful future together.

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Justin and Krystal – 18th Century Class and Elegance http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/justin-krystal-18th-century-class-elegance/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/justin-krystal-18th-century-class-elegance/#comments Mon, 10 Nov 2014 18:43:43 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=34556   I found Krystal and Justin’s wedding on WedLuxe Magazine.  I could not take my eyes off this classy couple and their Parisian and Versailles-themed wedding and reception.     These beautiful photographs were done by Corina V. Photography.  The venue at the Liberty Grand Entertainment Complex was perfect for the architect couple who met while studying architecture.  The […]

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I found Krystal and Justin’s wedding on WedLuxe Magazine.  I could not take my eyes off this classy couple and their Parisian and Versailles-themed wedding and reception.

 

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These beautiful photographs were done by Corina V. Photography.  The venue at the Liberty Grand Entertainment Complex was perfect for the architect couple who met while studying architecture.  The photos are beyond gorgeous and glamorous.  The rest of these fabulous photos can be seen on Wedluxe Magazine.

 

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Justin and Krystal’s engagement photos are just as beautiful as the wedding pics.  Krystal wanted a Marie Antoinette themed shoot and that is what she got.  Krystal provided the props for the 18th Century background.  The rest of Justin and Krystal’s phenomenal engagement photos can also be seen at Corina V. Photography.

 

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From Uganda to Serbia, Rose Bugarčić’s Incredible Journey http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/uganda-serbia-rose-bugarcics-incredible-journey/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/uganda-serbia-rose-bugarcics-incredible-journey/#comments Fri, 24 Oct 2014 15:09:50 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=32172 From Uganda to Serbia, Rose Bugarčić’s Incredible Journey   Decision on employment presented by the Minister Ivica Dacic (Photo A. Vasiljevic)   Rose Bugarčić I am happy with the title of “SwirlQueen” bequeathed to me by BB&W founder Mrs. Christelyn Karazin.  It suits me well.  However these days I feel more like a “Swirl Huntress”.  […]

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From Uganda to Serbia, Rose Bugarčić’s Incredible Journey

 

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I am happy with the title of “SwirlQueen” bequeathed to me by BB&W founder Mrs. Christelyn Karazin.  It suits me well.  However these days I feel more like a “Swirl Huntress”.  I scour the Internet and all corners of the world to find black woman interracial marriage and relationships.   Last year I found Rose Bugarčić.  In 2011 Rosa Josiah Mirembe Abbott Bugarčić or simply Rose, became the first black woman to be appointed to the Serbian government, specifically the Ministry of Internal Affairs. Originally from Uganda, is married to Serbian Zivko Bugarčić and they live with their 3 children in Belgrade. Minister Ivica Dacic officially charged Rose with the challenge to resolve issues mainly because of her expertise in European integration. She felt the need to do her part and contribute to Serbia’s application to the European Union.  I don’t know Rose, but I am awfully proud of her.   She must have overcome tremendous odds to achieve such lofty status.  Hat’s off to you Minister Bugarčić!

 

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Originally from Uganda, Rose graduated with an Agriculture degree there in 1994. She went to the Netherlands to a seminar on new technologies in potato cultivation where she met her future husband Zivko. They traveled to Uganda to meet her family, and from there they went to Guca, Serbia where Zivko was born and met his family. The couple and their children have lived in Serbia for the last 15 years.

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 Zivko and Rose met in the Netherlands.

 

When asked what she thought about living in Serbia, Rose thinks it is very nice. But there was the issue of the weather. Rose did not leave the house during the first two Winters when they lived in Guca. She could not get used to the cold. So they just kept fires going. It was also a challenge to Rose tying to master Serbian so Zivko served as her translator. But before too long, Rose learned to speak Serbian fluently. And she even learned the Cyrillic alphabet so well that she was able to read Politika, a newspaper. The children, who are Afro-Serbian speak Serbian and English but unfortunately don’t know too much of their mother’s native tongue. Rose relinquished her Ugandan citizenship preferring to become a naturalized citizen of Serbia.

 

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John and Jenese–You Will NOT Want to Skip This! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/john-jenese-will-want-skip/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/john-jenese-will-want-skip/#comments Tue, 07 Oct 2014 03:31:15 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=33784 Before I give you the details about this gorgeous couple, you’ll have to endure my commentary on how social media has made the world smaller. I met Jenese through our mutual friend, Jenn Jackson, at her going away party last month. We instantly hit it off. I loved how sweet, bubbly and humble she was, […]

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Before I give you the details about this gorgeous couple, you’ll have to endure my commentary on how social media has made the world smaller. I met Jenese through our mutual friend, Jenn Jackson, at her going away party last month. We instantly hit it off. I loved how sweet, bubbly and humble she was, as well as admired her incredible beauty. She showed me a photo of her new hubby, and my oh my…he was FINE! We ended the evening promising to stay in touch, and memorialized the day with this photo…

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We made friends on Facebook, but hadn’t spoken much. But today Jenese sent me this message…

OMG!!!! I’m just putting this all together now, so embarrassed!! Okay, so almost 5 years ago, my husband (then boyfriend) and I were figuring out if and how we could have a relationship with 3k miles between us. I also was concerned about what it would mean to be in a interracial relationship since this was my first one. He pretty much always dated outside his race, so I was the newbie. I searched the net, looking for intelligent conversations about “swirling” in the 21st century, especially about a Black woman and a White man. I visited your blog time and time again, loving the perspective, gaining confidence in my own feelings, no longer feeling alone. Then fast forward to meeting you at Jenn’s going away party, and she mentioned that you were the “sheeiiit” with a famous blog, etc., but I never put two and two together because she never mentioned specifics!! LOL!! WOW, so let me just say now, THANK YOU!! You really helped me a lot as John and I reconnected as our love continued to grow. Keep doing what you are doing, LOVE IT!!

Oh…awesome sauce. Love that this community precedes me! So now you know the background, take a read at how they met:

“The Story of Us…”
Jenese’s version –
Even though it may seem like our journey is only a few years old, our love story began back in the Summer of 2001!
We met on the set of the movie, Minority Report, both of us working as background players, a.k.a., extras. HA! It was my first professional job with the agency I just signed with, but JT already had years of experience under his belt. They had us all in one giant room at a rec center in Georgetown (Washington, DC) and from the moment we sat down, JT and I couldn’t stop staring at one another. Our call time that morning was 4am and they did not release us until about 5 or 6pm, so we had tons of time to check each other out, but both us trying to play it cool. Once we were released and everyone was walking back to their cars, I hear a voice behind me saying, “Wait…Miss..hold UP!” I turn around and there he was, actually talking to… me! I tried my best to be cool, I’m sure I failed miserably! We exchanged information and shortly after set up a date. Our first date is STILL the best first date I ever had, I felt like I was floating the whole time. And our kiss under the full moon while sitting next to the Baltimore harbor was an amazing way to wrap up the evening. I’m usually against kissing on the first date, but when I saw him moving closer, I couldn’t help myself! We continued to talk to one another over the phone for months afterwards until life basically took us in two different directions. JT went back West to chase his dreams of playing professional baseball with the Dodgers and me back to start my Junior year at Howard University.
Fast forward to July 26, 2009 and my Facebook page says I have a new message from a “John”. I did not put 2-and-2 together right away because he was going by “Jonathan” when we met. JT had recently joined Facebook and decided to look me up and sent me a message. I stared that message and re-read a million times. It just CAN’T be him, right? RIGHT??! Indeed it was and we started to catch each other up on all we had done in the past 8 years. The Facebook messages turned to emails that turned into text messages that turned into phone calls that turned into 5 hour phone marathons… It became clear pretty quickly that the feelings we had for one another were still very much there and were growing. But how could we know for sure with me in VA and him in CA??
Months and months pass with not a word between us as we tried to determine the best way to handle what was clearly happening between us. Were these feelings real or a fantasy? Then one day, I get a short message from JT checking in with me. I was happy to hear from him, but cautious. A little more time passed and we were back to talking to one another all day, everyday. Finally, we couldn’t take the distance anymore and I flew to CA for a visit. Remember, the last time we saw one another in person was 2001. I get off the plane and head toward baggage claim after having a complete freak out in the ladies room. I was SO nervous. I make a wrong turn and when I spin back around, there he was with open arms. I literally walked into his embrace. Ladies, I know you understand what I mean when I say I “exhaled”!!! In that moment, I knew right then, this is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with.
He set up an interview with his talent agency during my trip to see if I could obtain Commercial representation and they signed me on the spot! After such an amazing time together, we knew we did not want to spend another day apart. So, wait, now I have the opportunity to continue my performance career, the career I’ve always wanted, on a real professional level AND the man of my dreams are both in Southern California?? I prayed to God to send me a sign, a CLEAR sign letting me know if this was the way He wanted me to go. Well…I got one! I had been driving the same car for a few years before JT and I reconnected, but never really paid any attention to my liscense plate. A few days after my prayer for a sign, I just happen to notice that my license plate reads: “JST-4553″. It was like a bolt of lighting me — “JST” = JT’s full name, John Scott Thomas, “4553″ = add up to 17, JT’s number when he played ball and the day of his birth (12/17/76). THANKS God, looks like I’m moving!! So after a few more visits within a 3 month time frame, I was packing up all my earthly belongings and moving to California. We’ve been in a state of bliss ever since.

Not a bad story, huh?! Just like a movie script…

John + Jenese Wedding Highlight Film from MFB Entertainment on Vimeo.

John’s version –
So, my whole life I’ve been focused and career driven, very serious about being successful. At this particular point in time, I was living in Randallstown, MD as my home base, but would split time between Baltimore, DC, and New York pursuing my Acting/Modeling career. I was cast as an extra in a Steven Spielberg movie starring Tom Cruise called “Minority Report”. I was ecstatic to be paid to be on a movie set all day. I was waiting to be called for the next scene and during this time all of the extras would congregate in a decently-sized waiting room. I will never forget the moment I noticed from across the room an undeniable attraction to this girl standing on the other side of the room. I had to know who she was. I like to think I’m 007, secret-agent-smooth but I could not keep my eyes off her and I am sure I was obvious. We exchanged a few glances and smiles but I didn’t have the chance to talk to her until the end of the day as we were walking to the wardrobe trailer. She was approachable and easy to talk to, I knew instantly she was special. A rare gift. We went on one date where we just talked for hours. I was relieved that she was as genuine as I originally thought and we connected more and more with each word we shared. It was truly a very special night and we seemed very close to God and each other. We both went back to school and work and as life happened, 2 months later I moved back to Los Angeles to continue my career pursuit. Little did I know, it would be 9 years before I ever saw her again and that one date would become the standard in how I evaluated a “connection” with someone I was dating. It left an imprint to say the least.

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I’ll never forget the feeling of my heart sinking into my chest the moment I searched for and found a picture of Jenese on Facebook (of all places!). She was holding her God-Daughter (Jelani, now one of our Flower Girls) and I immediately had a vision that this was my Wife. I was amazed at how intense my feelings were even after all these years. I had to send her a message to at least say “Hello”‘. Come to find out, the magnetic attraction I felt for her was mutual and I couldn’t believe that this was the same girl I met in 2001. Well, after reconnecting and getting to know each other again via text messages, emails, and phone calls, we both decided that we had to see each other. We were dying to see if the powerful emotions we were experiencing were indeed real and not just some hopeful connection. I remember scheduling her flight and the day I was to pick her up from the airport, I’d never been so nervous. I must have washed my hands 5 times waiting for her flight to arrive because my palms wouldn’t stop sweating! When I finally saw her coming down the escalator, I noticed she went the wrong way. So, as I was walking over in her direction, she realized she should’ve went right instead of left, and turned around and walked right into my chest as I wrapped my arms around her and got the best hug ever! It was surreal that I was hugging this woman I knew 9 years earlier (as a girl). I hardly remember the walk out to the car as it felt as if we floated there. I had a bouquet of tulips for her on the passenger seat with a card that read, “Welcome Home”. We decided to follow our hearts and together is where they landed us!

Wedding photos courtesy of http://www.qiananicolephotography.com

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Another BB&W is Getting Hitched! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/another-bbw-getting-hitched/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/another-bbw-getting-hitched/#comments Mon, 06 Oct 2014 05:05:23 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=33765 And another couple who met online!! You all know her as “friendswithmimi,” and I know her as Michelle, who just got engaged to her boyfriend, Don! It’s so wonderful to watch how this relationship developed–with the first tentative message she wrote me about what a wonderful man she’d met. And here they are… And they […]

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And another couple who met online!!

You all know her as “friendswithmimi,” and I know her as Michelle, who just got engaged to her boyfriend, Don!

It’s so wonderful to watch how this relationship developed–with the first tentative message she wrote me about what a wonderful man she’d met. And here they are…

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And they met online on OkCupid!

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Congrats, Michelle and Don!

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If It Can Happen to Amber Rose…..Why That Marriage Certificate Makes All the Difference in the World http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/can-happen-amber-marriage-certificate-makes-difference-world/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/can-happen-amber-marriage-certificate-makes-difference-world/#comments Sat, 04 Oct 2014 05:21:16 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=33708 Somewhere, out there, many many men are celebrating. Somewhere, deep within the corridors of single men’s mind there lives a plan to snag one of the most beautiful women in pop culture today. Whiz Khalifa’s wife, Amber Rose, has filed for divorce after learning of her husband’s infidelities. The mother of Sebastian will receive approximately […]

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Somewhere, out there, many many men are celebrating. Somewhere, deep within the corridors of single men’s mind there lives a plan to snag one of the most beautiful women in pop culture today. Whiz Khalifa’s wife, Amber Rose, has filed for divorce after learning of her husband’s infidelities. The mother of Sebastian will receive approximately one million dollars in additional to all the benefits provided by law based on the details of her prenuptial agreement with the rapper and producer.

Model and personality Amber Rose filed for divorce immediately following evidence that her husband of 1 year had been unfaithful.

According to friend Rosenburg, Amber is a very dedicated wife that expected traditional behavior from her internationally known spouse. She first became suspicious of his activities when the forbade her to join him on his most recent tour, suggesting that she stay home and ‘Momma’ their child instead of accompany him.

Let this be a lesson to those of you looking to partner up and procreate with the men who say they love you. If he’s really real, then he’ll provide a ring and paperwork, and in the event things don’t pan out the way YOU expected, make sure the union is beneficial enough to provide for the needs of yourself and your child after the fact.

If it can happen to Amber Rose, it can happen to anyone of us. I’m not saying she’s the epitome of YOU, but let’s keep it 100, if you think there is something you can do or can look like or can achieve that will MAKE your man be the man you deserve then you need to sell that shit on the open market. You’ll make a killing. Otherwise realize that bad things happen to good people, beautiful people, and nice people.

Such is life…..

But on the flip side, I am so sure there are several prominent men who are lining up with their A game to get the attention and affection of this beautiful woman. I hear she’s a very nice and down to Earth young woman, and once married women have a better chance of RE-MARRYING than those who were never married at all.

(I never did see what she saw in Whiz, Kayne is Kayne but you can’t argue that he isn’t a brilliant artist and a dam nice looking dude pre 2010. I don’t know what’s up with that dude lately tho!)

I wish her and her son well……

A SIDE: Peep her Twitter avi with that beautiful ORANGE fuzzy thing and her perfect profile. This look is saying to the world that, ‘SHE’S NOT FEELING NO TYPE OF WAY!!!’

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