Beyond Black & White » Married Swirling http://www.beyondblackwhite.com Chronicles, Musings and Debates about Interracial & Intercultural Relationships Thu, 29 Jan 2015 17:07:10 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1 OMG…”Scandal-ishous” Wedding! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/omg-scandal-ishous-wedding/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/omg-scandal-ishous-wedding/#comments Wed, 21 Jan 2015 17:26:43 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=35776 All you ‘Olitz’ fans out there might not ever see the fictional couple tie the knot, but drown yourself in the fantasy of this couple, who themed their entire wedding on the two characters giving us the happy ending we hope for! Event planner, Roxanne Duncan, tried to imagine the fictional couple’s fondest dreams come […]

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All you ‘Olitz’ fans out there might not ever see the fictional couple tie the knot, but drown yourself in the fantasy of this couple, who themed their entire wedding on the two characters giving us the happy ending we hope for!

Event planner, Roxanne Duncan, tried to imagine the fictional couple’s fondest dreams come to life. And we think she nailed it!

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Like many other fans of ABC’s hit political drama, Scandal, I’m sure we’ve all fantasized and asked ourselves “what would Fitz and Liv’s wedding be like?”

As the eagerly anticipated 4th season premiered in September, I was on a mission to bring this fantasy to life.

We borrowed some key elements from the show that would appeal to those who are true “gladiators” but also provided visual inspiration for those who aren’t. 

From the gorgeous stationery design to the amazing cake, there is a lot to be inspired by.

The focus was on a particular scene and ongoing fantasy in Scandal where main characters, Olivia Pope and Fitzgerald Grant, fantasize about life after the White House in their home in Vermont. 

The shoot was designed to be an intimate affair where Presidential black tie meets rustic elegance all brought together with a warm neutral colour palette: blush & winter whites with gold & black accents. It is classic, traditional and elegant femininity with an edge, that accurately reflects the style and characters of the show but can easily translate to any newly engaged couple.

 

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Tracy and Adiaya – Chasing Dreams Together http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/tracy-adiaya-chasing-dreams-together/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/tracy-adiaya-chasing-dreams-together/#comments Wed, 14 Jan 2015 06:14:22 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=35608 Everyone, meet Tracy and Adiaya. Tracy reached out to us because he wanted to share his story.   I was born Vallejo, CA, and am 40 years old. Adiaya’s 37 and from Atwater, CA. I saw her profile on InterracialDatingCentral.com and decided to make the first move – I asked if we could talk. We […]

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Everyone, meet Tracy and Adiaya. Tracy reached out to us because he wanted to share his story.

 

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I was born Vallejo, CA, and am 40 years old. Adiaya’s 37 and from Atwater, CA. I saw her profile on InterracialDatingCentral.com and decided to make the first move – I asked if we could talk.

We chatted a bit, then met for dinner so we could get to know each other. I texted her a copy of my license so she could give to her mom because I wanted her to feel safe and comfortable.

I was drawn to Adiaya because of how beautiful she is, her goals in life, how much she cares for people, and how easy she is to talk to. We both want to travel, get a house, try new things, start a family and live life to the fullest.  

We’d been dating for 6 months when, on December 27, 2014 (my grandparents’ wedding anniversary), I asked her if she would marry me. She said yes!

She said yes! (The ring includes both of our birthstones.)

She said yes! (The ring includes both her and my birthstones.)

Her mom, sister and nephew, as well as everyone in my family are happy for us.

I’ve always liked and dated only African American women. I just think they are way more beautiful! But nothing serious came out of that until I met Adiaya. I’m the first man of another race she’s ever dated but she and her family never treated me any different.  

I always thought race is just a color nothing else. I grew up in the ghetto and have always been treated better by other races.

It’s the 2000s now. Why care what anyone says because you are dating a different race? Just think, there’s really no pure race anymore and it’s a great thing. I want to say thanks for all the people in the past, loving whoever you wanted, even if it’s a different race or same sex. It’s just a lot better than hating.

I think the advice you give is good and really wanted to say thanks for all the support.

 

Congratulations Tracy and Adiaya! We wish you all the best as you chase your dreams together!

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Winter Wedding! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/winter-wedding/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/winter-wedding/#comments Mon, 05 Jan 2015 04:09:22 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=35527 Presenting Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Friedrich! A few pictures from our celebration with my in-laws in Germany. They met in church in 2009, and just got married in Germany amongst a winter wonderland!          

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Presenting Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Friedrich! A few pictures from our celebration with my in-laws in Germany. They met in church in 2009, and just got married in Germany amongst a winter wonderland!

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Farhia and Jason – Customs, Cultures and Baby Makes Three Yeah! http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/farhia-jason-customs-cultures-baby-makes-three-yeah/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/farhia-jason-customs-cultures-baby-makes-three-yeah/#comments Tue, 23 Dec 2014 07:49:54 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=35186 Farhia and Jason were astounded that their beautiful wedding photographs went viral on the Internet.  The pics of this chic and hip urban couple are on many many Blasian and interracial couples Tumblr site as well as bridal and wedding websites.   I even covered them here on BBW.  Amal and Nada, the fab female photographers […]

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Farhia and Jason were astounded that their beautiful wedding photographs went viral on the Internet.  The pics of this chic and hip urban couple are on many many Blasian and interracial couples Tumblr site as well as bridal and wedding websites.   I even covered them here on BBW.  Amal and Nada, the fab female photographers who make up Black Earth Studios deserve an award for The Koyama Wedding Shoot.  These photogragphs are absolutely beautiful.   I did not want to just piece together facts and display photos,  I wanted an interview.  So now I am sharing a little of Farhia and Jason’s story with you.  Farhia is very open minded and had no inhibitions dating or marrying interracially in the least bit.

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Where were you born/ grew up?

I was born in Somalia, grew up in Kenya and came to Canada when I was 13. Husband was born in Canada and grew up in Canada as well.

What is your husband’s ethnicity?

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How did you meet?

We met at his 23th Birthday party. I was invited by a mutual friend and we exchanged numbers at the end. He messaged me before I even walked out of the door lol.  We continued texting back and forth the entire time and he called me when I arrived home. We ended up talking till the wee hours of the morning and met up for a lunch date the following day. The rest is history.

And how long had you known him when you got married?   We had known each other for a year and a half.    When were you married?  March 14th 2013.

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Was this your first interracial relationship?

Yes it was.

How did you feel about interracial marriage and relationships before you were in one?

In a melting pot like Toronto Canada, Interracial couples are plenty. I was used to seeing so many different types of couples; I suppose I felt that the odds of being in an interracial relationship were high for many people. I never thought it strange at all to be romantically involved with another race; in fact, I thought it would be somewhat exciting.

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Do you feel any different about interracial/international marriage and relationships now?

I still feel the same.

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 Did you face skeptics and criticism from friends and/or family about your interracial/international marriage?

My immediate friends and Family were very supportive about us. The only skepticism we received was from the odd acquaintance and strangers.

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Do you recall how you first informed your friends and family of your interracial relationship?

I did not introduce Jason to my family in the traditional Somali fashion. Typically how it works is, the man you intend to marry has to approach the oldest male in the family and ask for your hand in marriage. In my case it would be my older brother. After they talk, my brother would assess if he would be suitable for me and if so, would accept him. A dowry would be agreed upon (the man has to offer something of value to my family) and then a Makkah (a marital ceremony) would occur.  I explained to Jason how it worked and he agreed to do so. He offered to drive me to my mom’s for a visit and as he was dropping me off, my mom happened to be sitting in the balcony. Jason got out and opened the door for me and next thing we know, we hear my mom’s voice. We turned around and waved awkwardly and she asked Jason to come in for some tea. My mother is not reserved or shy in any way and started off with the hard questions right away, I eventually ended up telling her I’m seeing him and we wanted to tie the knot. She took an instant liking to him and so did my siblings. Though it didn’t go as planned, it couldn’t have worked out better. It was a huge relief for me.

Jason invited me to a dinner with his mom and dad. He had already told them about me and that is how we initially met. A year and a half later, he told them he planned to propose to me and after that event; we had a celebratory dinner with his family.

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What about your husband’s family —- did you or he face any criticism from them?

Not in the slightest. They are the most accepting and gracious people.

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Have you ever felt pressure or experienced a significant difference between your non-interracial and interracial relationship?

Yes, a few cultural differences — things such as greetings, holidays, customs, foods. Nothing major but definitely an adjusting period needed (Farhia says smiling).

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Do you feel that there are societal criticisms and pressures concerning interracial relationships?

Yes, people expect you to somehow conform to their stereotypes about what type of person you should be and who you should be with.  If you don’t fit their mold, they have many negative things to say about you. I have heard some disgusting things I would rather not repeat.

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Do you attribute or connect it to negative images of blacks from slavery, African colonialism or something else?

Perhaps Colonialism.  It has left a negative sentiment that has echoed through the centuries. It is something repulsive and to be feared, and an abomination.

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Do you have children?

Yes, we have a son who was born this year on March 13th..

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Does race figure into child rearing for you?

Well, we would like to teach him both his cultures and languages.

When your children first experience racism, what will be your advice will be to them?

People fear what they do not know, doesn’t mean there is something wrong with him, and it means that they just don’t understand that people come in different shapes, sizes and color. He is perfect just the way he is!Farhia 8

 Are your families’ different religions?

Yes, my family is Muslim. His is Buddhist, however Jason converted to Islam and he is also Muslim.

What about politics? Are you both on the same page politically?

We aren’t very politically involved or inclined. But if I had to pick, I’d say we are both liberal.

Where do you live?

Toronto Ontario, Canada.

Do you think Toronto in general is a good place for interracial couples and families?

Yes. I think it’s probably one of the best.

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Do you work outside the home?

Currently a stay at home mom, Jay works at the Japanese Cultural Centre.

 What do you do for fun?

We’re both very active, we like playing all kinds of sports together, we both love trying different foods and play board games. Dancing, karaoke amongst other things.

Do you have any suggestions for black or African women just entering or considering an interracial relationship?

Do it and go with it.  It opens up a new world you may not have known otherwise, the world becomes just a little bit more beautiful.

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Thank you so much Farhia and I just have to tell you again; you looked like royalty in your wedding pics and your little family is just beyond beautiful.

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Christine and Masa – East Meets West http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/christine-masa-east-meets-west/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/christine-masa-east-meets-west/#comments Tue, 16 Dec 2014 05:42:02 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=35165  Masa and Christine This is another online dating success story.  Chris and Masa met in February 2013 on Match.com.  Chris was looking for and found a guy who met all her criteria.  She was looking for a quality, marriage minded Asian man who wanted a family.  Masa on the other hand was not having so […]

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This is another online dating success story.  Chris and Masa met in February 2013 on Match.com.  Chris was looking for and found a guy who met all her criteria.  She was looking for a quality, marriage minded Asian man who wanted a family.  Masa on the other hand was not having so much luck and was about ready to close down his account when he got Chris’ email.  From Chris’ profile, she was too good to be true and Masa was intrigued.  He responded to Chris and they hit it off.  Masa was smitten and after a few phone calls they met.  Masa was everything Chris wanted and Chris was the answer to Masa’s prayers.

After their first dates the newly in love couple became inseparable.  By early May, Masa presented Chris with a beautiful diamond ring and she presented him with a date.  Since Masa is from Japan and that is where his family lives, he and Chris told his family the big news by Skype.  Masa’s mother cried, not out of disgust or shame, but happy tears.  Too bad that Masa’s family could not attend his wedding to the love of his life, but all is well.  Masa’s family loves Chris and will get to meet her in 2015 when Masa takes her to Japan for a visit.  Chris can hardly wait.

In late May 2013, Chris and Masa were married in a simple ceremony with her family and a few of their friends.  They had a quick honey moon weekend in Canada came back and returned to work.  They are planning their family and future.  Proof again, that when two, well vetted and committed people are on the same page, there is no need for a long and drawn out courtship.  Wishing this happy couple a wonderful future together.

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Justin and Krystal – 18th Century Class and Elegance http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/justin-krystal-18th-century-class-elegance/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/justin-krystal-18th-century-class-elegance/#comments Mon, 10 Nov 2014 18:43:43 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=34556   I found Krystal and Justin’s wedding on WedLuxe Magazine.  I could not take my eyes off this classy couple and their Parisian and Versailles-themed wedding and reception.     These beautiful photographs were done by Corina V. Photography.  The venue at the Liberty Grand Entertainment Complex was perfect for the architect couple who met while studying architecture.  The […]

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I found Krystal and Justin’s wedding on WedLuxe Magazine.  I could not take my eyes off this classy couple and their Parisian and Versailles-themed wedding and reception.

 

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These beautiful photographs were done by Corina V. Photography.  The venue at the Liberty Grand Entertainment Complex was perfect for the architect couple who met while studying architecture.  The photos are beyond gorgeous and glamorous.  The rest of these fabulous photos can be seen on Wedluxe Magazine.

 

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Justin and Krystal’s engagement photos are just as beautiful as the wedding pics.  Krystal wanted a Marie Antoinette themed shoot and that is what she got.  Krystal provided the props for the 18th Century background.  The rest of Justin and Krystal’s phenomenal engagement photos can also be seen at Corina V. Photography.

 

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