Beyond Black & White Chronicles, Musings and Debates about Interracial & Intercultural Relationships Thu, 19 Apr 2018 05:08:06 +0000 en-US hourly 1 Twenty Six Year Old Southern Guy Takes On Swirling in the South, Starts Blog Sat, 17 Nov 2012 02:43:09 +0000 He calls himself, "YoungTeach" because yes, at 26, he's young, and works as a music teacher to a predominately African American student body in Tennessee. He's a newbie to interracial dating, and apparently read SWIRLING in two days. I love him already.

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OMG he’s adorable.

Ah…the bathroom pic. I normally hate these, but he’s so scrum-delish I’ll let it slide.

He calls himself, “YoungTeach” because yes, at 26, he’s young, and works as a music teacher to a predominately African American student body in Southaven, Mississippi . He’s a newbie to interracial dating, and apparently read SWIRLING in two days. I love him already. Here’s what he wrote me yesterday:

I just received your message on my blog.  I must say, I’m flattered that you would contact me regardless of the situation.  I bought a digital copy of Swirling and read it in two days.  This was after spending hours on your blog, devouring as much as I could.  You, personally, have shaped much of my (albeit brand-new) outlook on the world of interracial dating; and, on the subject of black women in particular.  In fact, it was you who inspired me to start my own blog!  🙂


Okay he’s in the will! I can not tell you how unbelievably fulfilling it is to know that you produced something that changes the course of someone’s life–even if it’s just their love life. It’s awesome sauce to the nth degree.

Here’s more about him. Single ladies, (especially our BB&W Staff) take some notes!

Well, I’m new to swirling, so I can’t provide a whole lot of insight just yet, but I can say that it’s interesting!  I’ve only gone on one “date,” technically.  It seems like the women I’ve spoken to are really interested right off the bat, and then cool off really quickly.  I’m not certain about the reasoning, just yet.  I think women are reluctant to start something that could potentially turn serious, as relates to interracial dating.  The first girl I met, and had a date with, I think was just interested in sex but wasn’t ready to admit that.  The second one was really interested one day, and then disappeared the next.  She was also twenty-two and looking to move soon, so she seemed to me to be a commitment-phobe.  I met another but we just spoke a bit, I gave her my number and haven’t heard from her since.

I’ve read that black women are reluctant to date white guys for many reasons, and I feel like those reasons are probably exacerbated by the complex racial climate in the South.  I’m actually getting just as much enjoyment out of discovering the subtleties and truths of interracial dating down here, as I am from the actual dating process!

All in all, I’m hopeful for myself and my future relationships but blogging is proving to be a fantastic outlet for my thoughts, which can get a bit disorganized and unreliable as far as positive information flow is concerned.

I’m open to any advice you may have, though I will certainly continue to be a BB&W reader.

Side note: The girls you work with are beautiful, and present such an intellectually unabashed front.  I can imagine that if there were a central office where everyone worked in close proximity, that would be a place I would enjoy to be in!

So check “YoungTeach” out before some southern belle snatches him up! Shout out to Brenda55 for bringing this cutie to my attention!


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“Goddess” and a “Hottie” Sitting in a Tree… Thu, 15 Mar 2012 18:35:30 +0000 Don't you just LOVE love?

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When I saw this picture on my news feed I was just tickled to death. Well, near death. I love that Niki Chambers, a former BB&W Goddess, and former BB&W Hottie, Jason Hendrix are officially a couple, taking pitch-as and stuff.

Because I want to hook ya’ll single folks up already, we are resuming the series, which has gone on the back burner because your host is overworked. But this is important, dammit!


Potential Goddess and Hotties, email me at if you want to look this happy in photos.

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Hottie of the Week: Jack Milici Thu, 23 Feb 2012 01:57:03 +0000 The disclaimer stands, ladies. I don't know Jack personally, so don't come crying to me if he kills you.

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Some of the more mature ladies on this board have been nagging me about getting some “hotties” on here that don’t qualify as jail bait. Meet fifty-year-old, Jack Milici of Sewickley, Pennsylvania. He’s an investigator for the State of Pennsylvania, and has a degree from St. Joseph’s University (which makes sense; he’ Catholic).

From the sound of it, he’s every woman’s dream: he likes museums, cooking, long weekend trips, reading a good book and generally avoiding smoking and bars.

Jack has always had an attraction to black women, but as with many men of his generation, swirling was hard during the Stone Ages. (Just kidding). “I caved in to peer pressure in my younger days. Now I won’t. I have external support by people like you,” he told me. Jack, flattery will get you everywhere. Except on a date with me. But lucky for you, there’s TONS of wimmins here that might be great potential for you.

Has never been married, and is single by choice. But…

If you’re interested in getting to know more about Jack, find and friend him on Facebook here.

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Niki Chambers: BOINKABLE Hotties, Super Bowl Edition! Fri, 03 Feb 2012 17:55:31 +0000 Is it just me, but is there an unusually high number of Greek-god-looking football players?

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I love football. I belong to an all female fantasy football league (named Cougar Blood…yeah, wasn’t my idea) and I took first place in the league this year. With the Super Bowl right around the corner, football is on the minds of many. And it got me thinking about the number of professional athletes that date interracially. Now, it’s usually black males dating outside their race (I’m talking to you, Reggie Bush), but off the top of your head, it’s tough to think of any rainbeaus dating or married to black women. (Oddly enough, when I Googled “white athletes with black women, 7 of the top 10 links were actually about black athletes dating white women…go fig.)

But the larger question remains: Would you want to be married to a professional athlete? There are probably worst gigs in the world. You could spend 72 days stuck being married to a Kardashian. Granted there are probably lots of horror stories about being married to a professional athlete (I’m talking to you, Vanessa Bryant) but relationship drama and shenanigans are not limited to the professional ranks, am I right?

And if you can’t stand football, but will likely be at some sort of Super Bowl shindig, think about some of the great eye candy for you. There are some really good looking players in the NFL, some of whom will be on the field on Sunday.

I’ve taken the time to highlight a few football hotties for your perusal. It’s tough work but someone has to do it. And if you should land a pro athlete hottie, please…for God’s sake…don’t get on a VH1 reality show and act a fool. I’m serious. We will call you out for that mess.

Wes Welker, New England Patriots: At 5’9” and 175 pounds, this four time Pro Bowler is considered small by NFL standards. But hell, to get a look in to those blue eyes, just make him stand on a milk crate or something. He’s also got a pretty wicked sense of humor. Just ask Rex Ryan.

Mark Sanchez, New York Jets: This So Cal cutie has often been dubbed the second coming of Joe Namath for his skills on and off the field. But “Sanchito” has a lot more to prove on the field so that he becomes known for more than his pretty boy looks. Proud to be Mexican-American, Sanchez wore a custom mouth guard that featured the colors of the Mexican flag in honor of his heritage on occasion when playing at USC.


Aaron Rodgers, Green Bay Packers: First, I will say I love me some Aaron Rodgers because he attended my alma mater, Cal. Go Bears!! But beyond that, this Super Bowl MVP is pretty hot. This is a good thing considering he plays in cold ass Green Bay. There are few ladies that would love to take a Lambeau Leap in to this QB’s arms.

Will Demps, unsigned free agent: Damn, damn, damn. Honestly, I’m not even sure if he is still with an NFL team. Does it matter? Will is half African American and half Korean. That equals 100% hot.

Vernon Davis, San Francisco 49’ers: This was a tough pick for me. I’m an Oakland Raider fan, which means anything 49’ers is persona non grata. But I can’t hate on a brotha…Vernon Davis is easy on the eyes. This Pro Bowl Tight End (yes, that is the position he plays…geez…I do have some class) is a multitalented athlete, lettering in football, basketball, baseball and track and field in while in high school.

Now, I know what you are thinking:

“Come on, Niki. Men are more than eye candy. We don’t want to be objectified, so why would be objectify them? We are enlightened!”

And to that, I say…wait, what did you say again? I’m still distracted by Wes Welker.

I know there are lots of players that I missed. So, tell me…who would you add to this NFL hotties list?

Enjoy the big game on Sunday!


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Hottie of the Week: Pete, the Canuck! Sun, 27 Nov 2011 03:40:28 +0000 Disclaimer: Although Pete seems like a very nice person, I don't know him personally so I relinquish all responsibility if he comes to kill you.

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Pete Palaschuk, 35, lives in freezing cold Calgary, in the United States of Canada.

Yes; of course I know it’s not really called that, but it’s so close to us it might as well be. Canada seems like a cool place to swirl, since from all accounts I hear it’s not a big deal to see interracial couples peppering landscape. I suspect, like in the U.S., Canada is pretty socially liberal in large cities where lots of nationalities meld into the pot. But!–like here in the U.S.– go to the country a bit and it might look a lot like a freezing Montgomery, Alabama. I say this because I kinda know. I once did publicity for a gift ware company that contracted some Canadian artists–and you know how whacky artists can be about their environment–some want to be close to Bambi and all that. I interviewed one backwoods artist for fodder on an upcoming catalog, made small talk before I just went in with the questions, and long story short, dude didn’t know I’m black and started bad-talking the black Canucks! Next question I asked him is if he’s married to his first cousin. I was laid off soon after. (That story is mostly true. Some parts have been elaborated for effect.)

Anyway, back to Pete. As you can see by the looks of his ADORABLE seven-year-old daughter, he categorically DOES NOT live in the backwoods, freezing Canada-bama. He’s never been married, but regrets doing things a bit backwards–his handle is ‘babydaddy’ on AIM. (-_-) and is now at the point in his life that he is desiring a serious, long-term relationship.

Pete owns a painting company that specializes in new housing developments. Warning! He is one of a set–he has an identical twin. I asked him if he and his brother have ever shared girlfriends and he hold me “no,” but…

Anyway, I feel like I’ve said too much.

Find and friend Pete on Facebook here.

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Question of the Week: “Is it ‘Interracial’ When Blacks and Latinos Date?” Wed, 16 Nov 2011 03:51:24 +0000 It's rare that I have a man volunteer for HOTW and pose a Question of the it still a full moon?

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I got this cute note from a twenty-something man on Facebook and I just couldn’t resist:

Hi there, How are you doing? My name is Armando Gil. Just saw your website and I believe it is a great website. I would like to participate on your website if that is possible. I saw 2 categories which I am interested in. One of them is hottie of the week, and the other one is question of the week. Well, let me introduce myself a little further. I am Puerto Rican from New York, have a Master’s degree in Computer Security. I love Black women have always like them since I was a kid. In the Bronx, New York Hispanics and Blacks were the majority and still are the majority.

As for the question of the week, maybe you put “How close are Latinos with Blacks”, “Is it interracial dating when Latino and Black Date?” Something along those lines, because I have so much to say about that topic.

Well, since Armando had so much to say, I threw the question back at him, and he had some interesting answers:

BB&W: Let me ask you, what’s your take? I hear Hispanics (like some blacks) tend to be colorist, favoring lighter-skin over darker. Some black women have been so discouraged by this knowledge that they don’t pursue the men. I think a commentary from an “insider” would be good, so what say you?

Armando: For the purpose of this question I will say that I am Puerto Rican and that I will talk a lot about New York since that is where I am from.

In many of the countries the lighter you are the better that you will get treated. This is even true in the Latino countries such as Puerto Rico, Dominican Republic, El Salvador, Colombia, Mexico, and so on. In my opinion, this exists because of how people are raised, and some are not well-travelled to be able to experience different cultures. For example, in many of the movies you will see a black person stealing or living in the ghetto whereas, in the movies you will see a light- skinned person or white person living in a high-class area. So when they see this, the people will think that all Black people are ghetto and that all White people carry themselves better. I have met Black people who carries themselves well and White people who are ghetto. This is why, people should not go by what they see on TV.

Hispanics from the states are very different from the Hispanics from their country. Also it depends on where you are raised as well. For example, in The Bronx, New York Hispanics and Blacks get along very well. We live in the same ‘hoods’, listen to the same music, date each other , and see each other in the same struggle. Due to this we do not see ourselves as interracial when it comes for us to date. Also we must keep in mind that there are Hispanics who are Black, White, etc. A good example would be my family. I have family members that are White and Black, and Indian. The reason for this is that back in the days, Taino Indians were living already in Puerto Rico when Spanish people came from Spain to Puerto Rico. The Spaniards arrived in Puerto Rico with African Slaves. When they got to Puerto Rico, the Spaniards were raping the Taino women, African Women etc. This is why there are Puerto Ricans who are White, Black, or Indian. Now, that I live in Virginia people always think that I am mixed with Black and White. They would have never guessed that I am Puerto Rican if I did not say anything to the people in Virginia.

Many people do not know this, but Hispanics (mainly Puerto Ricans) and Blacks (African Americans, Nigerian Americans, and Jamaican Americans) led to the creation of what we know today as Hip Hop in the South Bronx, New York. The original Tats Cru was a famous group of Puerto Ricans from The Bronx that are well recognized in many cities of the world. Now they have other members. Crazy Legs is a Puerto Rican from New York that was part of a break dancing group called Rock Steady Crew. Dj Charlie Chase was a Puerto Rican that played Hip Hop records when Hip Hop originated. Not to mention, one of the biggest rappers from New York who have passed away was Big Pun. He was also Puerto Rican.

Moreover, a lot of the rappers from New York are mixed with Hispanic. Jim Jones is half Puerto Rican and Half Aruban, NORE is half Puerto Rican and half African American, Fabolous is African American and Dominican, Juelz Santana is African American and Dominican, Cam’ron is African American and Puerto Rican. Lastly, this shows that Hispanics and Blacks get along very well for the most part in New York.

BB&W: So I’m wondering, is New York City it’s own cushy incubator, where colorism between Hispanics and Black don’t exist?

Find and friend Armando here.

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