Beyond Black & White » *uncategorized* http://www.beyondblackwhite.com Chronicles, Musings and Debates about Interracial & Intercultural Relationships Mon, 03 Aug 2015 14:24:14 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.2.3 As If Black Women Needed Another Reason to Open Their Dating Options… http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/as-if-black-women-needed-another-races-to-open-their-dating-options/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/as-if-black-women-needed-another-races-to-open-their-dating-options/#respond Mon, 03 Aug 2015 06:53:53 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=38037 Take a look at this video, and the “man” harassing this woman, and the reason he is harassing her. The heckler must have grown up listening to gangster rap. I’m only half kidding. Kudos to the well-dressed and classy black men who tried to intervene. You can only shake your head at how truly pathetic […]

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Take a look at this video, and the “man” harassing this woman, and the reason he is harassing her. The heckler must have grown up listening to gangster rap. I’m only half kidding.

Kudos to the well-dressed and classy black men who tried to intervene.

You can only shake your head at how truly pathetic these child-men are. Oh…and please note the title of the video. And this idiot has the nerve to call her a bed wench. Like…really? Why on God’s earth would a woman volunteer to be with men like this?! Circling back to this…

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OPEN THREAD:Beauty, Bags and Bling http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/open-threadbeauty-bags-and-bling/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/open-threadbeauty-bags-and-bling/#respond Thu, 30 Jul 2015 02:28:51 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=38005 kennaGransberg, 3 minutes ago Three Beauty Products Giving Me Life This Summer One of the mods could do an open thread where we share our favourite beauty products. OK Kenna……just for you. The Beauty:     The Bags:   The Bling:   Have fun!!!!!!!

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One of the mods could do an open thread where we share our favourite beauty products.

OK Kenna……just for you.

The Beauty:

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The Bags:

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The Bling:

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Have fun!!!!!!!

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Fashion, Food, And Fitness Tips And Tricks For Men http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/fashion-food-and-fitness-tips-and-tricks-for-men/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/fashion-food-and-fitness-tips-and-tricks-for-men/#respond Tue, 28 Jul 2015 21:45:17 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=38001 It’s summer time–time to have fun, be fashionable, and stay fit. So what can a guy do to make sure that his summer is filled with all of these things? Keep reading and you’ll find some great tips, from finding the right clothes to look good and stay cool in, to snacking right and fitting […]

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It’s summer time–time to have fun, be fashionable, and stay fit. So what can a guy do to make sure that his summer is filled with all of these things? Keep reading and you’ll find some great tips, from finding the right clothes to look good and stay cool in, to snacking right and fitting in outdoor activities to a busy summer schedule.

Being Fashion Forward This Summer

Being fashionable can mean many things, but when it comes to summer fashion you want to make sure that you are wearing natural fabrics, like cotton and bamboo, that can help keep your cool on hot days.

You can find a ton of style advice online, from summer essentials to the best watches to wear. There are summer looks for guys that prefer a suit and tie. There are summer styles for the t-shirt and jeans guys. And, there are even summer looks for the hip guys that want to stand out.

The most fashionable thing to do though it to wear what makes you feel comfortable. Your comfort will equal confidence, whether you are at the golf course, at the beach, or at an outdoor summer concert.

Finding Time For Fitness

You may not have gotten all the exercise you should have during what seemed like an endless holiday season. Of course you got back on track with that new year’s resolution, but you need to remember summer is no time to slouch.

You want to stay fit even during the summer, so don’t skip your daily workouts just because you’re spending more time swimming or playing beach volleyball.

You also want to watch out for all of that great summer grilling and summer snacking by paying attention to what you eat and working off any extra calories you do consume at graduation parties, beach parties, and backyard parties.

Picking The Right Snacks And Foods

That’s where watching what you eat and making the right food choices come in handing. There are good snack choices and there are great grilling choices that won’t give you extra laps around the pool.

Drive-in theaters aren’t completely extinct, and if you have one in your area you may find yourself enjoying the open air to watch the hot summer flicks. When it comes time to buy your snacks, go for the popcorn, but pass on the extra oil and salt. Drink water instead of a soda as well.

Need some munchies around the pool or at the beach? Take fresh fruits and vegetables to snack on. There are so many choices with so many flavors and textures that you won’e miss chocolate, chips, and other junk foods.

When it comes to grilling, go for chicken instead of steak and turkey burger instead of hamburger. White meat has less fat and is just as filling. Grill up vegetables on the side and make a fresh bean salad to go along as a side instead of over filling pasta salads. The beans will also give you an extra protein boost.

Summer may be a time of fun and indulgence, but you don’t have to let it ruin your body. Eat right, stay fit, and make sure you look good for the ladies!

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How Dressing Like a Pin Up Girl Got Me Into the VIP Sections at #VidCon http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/how-dressing-like-a-pin-up-girl-got-me-into-the-vip-sections-at-vidcon/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/how-dressing-like-a-pin-up-girl-got-me-into-the-vip-sections-at-vidcon/#comments Sun, 26 Jul 2015 05:59:07 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=37958 Shhh…I’m going to share a little secret with you. I went to VidCon this week with only a “Community” pass, which means that my access to the inner sanctums of the You Tube elite were closed off to me. And while the community is obviously an essential part of a You Tube star’s success, I […]

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Shhh…I’m going to share a little secret with you. I went to VidCon this week with only a “Community” pass, which means that my access to the inner sanctums of the You Tube elite were closed off to me. And while the community is obviously an essential part of a You Tube star’s success, I wasn’t there to be a fangirl. I was there to network. I knew before I got there that all the “Creator” badges–the ones that gained you access to the panels and speakers–were sold out way before I even knew about VidCon, so that was out of the question. I was hoping that if I smiled and bated my eyes I’d might be able to gain access at registration, but again, it was a big, fat NO.

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Nope. Even with my sweetest, doe-eyed smile the gatekeepers weren’t letting me through the sanctum.

So I started getting depressed. I’d rented a hotel room and made an investment, and it looked like I wasn’t going to get anywhere. But little did I know that the very clothes on my back would make the whole trip worth it.

When I go to conventions, I usually play up my look a little bit…dress like me…but just…amplified. Since I’ve discovered PinuUpGirlClothing.com, I’ve basically used the dresses I’ve purchased as “costumes.” They look normal enough to not be creepy, but distinctive enough to be a conversation starter. And that’s exactly what I was aiming for. I wore looks that gave people an excuse to talk to me. And boy, did they!

Dressed up in this, I visited the Marriott bar, ready to drink my cares away for fear of a wasted trip…

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In addition to the many positive comments on my outfit, I got one from an executive with Best Buy, who secured half of the hotel’s fourth floor for a studio and VIP section for “Yellow Tags,” which were featured You Tubers and part of the ‘elites.’ I mentioned my predicament, told here I was indeed a creator and recently celebrated my 15,000 subscriber milestone, and she thought I was interesting enough to participate in a project they were producing and was kind enough to allow me to use their studio for my own projects.

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But it didn’t stop there. On my way to my hotel, I saw that You Tube was have a private party, and I just stopped by casually to say hello, and politely ask if there might be any hope for me to get “creator” access, since well, You Tube basically sponsored the entire convention. They couldn’t. But guess what? They invited me into the private party, where I met new people, learned that I have access to the You Tube studios in Los Angeles, that’s fully equipped with all the stuff you’d ever need to create a kick-ass video, and made contact with the head of You Tube kids, a special app for shorties between the ages of two and eight. Malik was intrigued with my brood of kids, and invited them to meet his four kids at the Playa Del Rey location! Can you spell S.C.O.R.E?!

And once I was “in,” others just assumed I was part of the “in crowd,” which opened doors for me to meet and connect with new people.

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Shameless Maya!

In the end, my trip was a smashing success. I met some of my favorite You Tubers, including Gabe and Babe and The Nive Nulls, and made important contacts with You Tube executives. What’s more, I didn’t ever need to buy a drink or pay for a meal, because Best Buy and You Tube had it covered!!

So what was it about me that got me noticed and grated me access? Sure; the clothes had a lot to do with it. But what had the most impact was the CONFIDENCE those clothes gave me. I felt so good about how I looked, how I was presenting myself, and the positive feedback and attention I received, that I felt brave and confident to make the big guys assume I should have been there in the first place.

Learning what it is about my appearance that gives me the most outward confidence is bittersweet, because I discovered it in my late 30’s and early 40’s. Of course it’s not too late, but I just think about how many opportunities I might have passed up because I was so self-conscious.

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But like they say, better late than never!!

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OPEN THREAD. IRR romance and Erotica. http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/open-thread-irr-romance-and-erotica/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/open-thread-irr-romance-and-erotica/#comments Tue, 14 Jul 2015 20:34:54 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=37882 Well, it seems that we have readers who are interested in WM/BW romance and erotica. Ahhhh.  A subject very close to our hearts at BB&W.  We have featured many books here on the site and I will update this thread with links to the books and writers that we have presented.   So have a good […]

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Well, it seems that we have readers who are interested in WM/BW romance and erotica.

Ahhhh.  A subject very close to our hearts at BB&W.  We have featured many books here on the site and I will update this thread with links to the books and writers that we have presented.

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So have a good time sharing your favorites for people who are just discovering these fine books.

 

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Here is the discussion that started over on the othere thread.

lom1lola

I’m sorry this is a bit off topic. I had no idea that so many white women writers are writing BWWM romance novels.
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London Girl

London Girl

@Iom1Iola Really. Wow. I have seen them on Amazon although I have never bought one.Edit

lom1lola

lom1lola

@London Girl Me either.
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London Girl
London Girl

 @lom1lola Hmm I better start writing. Clearly they have forecasted a market opportunity. This very telling. #blackwomencreate

There is an opportunity here and who better to tell our stories and fantasies than us.

BiaJackson

BiaJackson

@lom1lola Srsly? Whats the name of one of the novels? i wanna check this outEdit

London Girl

London Girl

@BiaJackson ‘Marriage of Convenience: A BWWM Billionaire Love Story by Cher Etan Amazon.Edit

BiaJackson
BiaJackson

@London Girl I’m goning give that read. Sounds hot and romantic. Edit

London Girl

London Girl

@BiaJackson I’ve had my eye on this one I must say. Let us know how good it is. studying at present so don’t get to leisure read.Edit

London Girl

London Girl

@BiaJackson It’s only $1.56 on Kindle. I’m buying it now.Edit

Brenda55

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@London Girl

A list of titles. Not nearly all that is out there.

http://www.goodreads.com/shelf/show/interracial-romance

A list of IRR publishers:

http://www.goodreads.com/topic/show/707160-list-of-publishers—sweet-only

As you can see I am a fan of this kind of stuff.  LOL

London Girl

London Girl

@Brenda55 Wow! You have opened up a another world of books for me! I did not imagine that this genre was so wide scale. Forget about Fifty Shades of Grey. I’m gonna browse these from now on. I wonder what the narration is like with the black women characters? I’m excited now I have new toys to play with LOLEdit

London Girl

London Girl

@BiaJackson Thanks for the link. I will look through the other titlesEdit

juleah

juleah

@BiaJackson @London Girl There are plenty of BWWM books on Amazon written by Black women too. Just put BWWM romance or fiction in the search engine and plenty will come up. if you’ve never read this genre before some of the Black women authors are Sienna Mynx, latrivia Nelson, Theodora Taylor, Amarie Avant, S.K. Lesley. This is pretty much the only genre I read and there are some really good books.Edit

BiaJackson

BiaJackson

@juleah @BiaJackson @London Girl Omfg thank you !thank you! thank you! ive been trying to get my hands on some good books. Edit

juleah

juleah

@BiaJackson @juleah @London Girl They also have some books that are free. Put free BWWM romance in the search field and you can get some that way too. Some of those aren’t the best stories but they’re good filler while waiting for one you really want to read come out.Edit

London Girl

London Girl

@juleah Eh, did you say “free book”? Chai! Kindly direct me so I can swiftly go and add to my eBook library. God bless you my dear! Mightily!Edit

juleah

@BiaJackson @juleah @London Girl There are PLENTY of BWWM erotica too! Edit

Brenda55

Brenda55 moderator

@juleah @BiaJackson @London Girl

Girrrrrrrl I know.

BiaJackson

BiaJackson

@juleah @BiaJackson @London Girl Omfg this is gold. mmm mmm mmm yes!  What are your recommendations? Edit

juleah

juleah

@BiaJackson @juleah @London Girl Do you like series or straight shots? Sappy romance, erotica, crime family?Edit

juleah

juleah

@BiaJackson @juleah @London Girl I really liked Before Sunrise by Sienna Mynx, Taste of Lacey but Linden Hughes, Thursdays in Savannah by Olivia Gaines, anything from Latrivia Nelson. It’ss hard to think off the top of my head because I’ve been reading this genre since around 2006/2007 before the Kindle got really big. Once the Kindle came along I was even more addicted to thid genre.Edit

London Girl

London Girl

@juleah @Brenda55 Which books do you recommend? That are the best titles you’ve read?Edit

juleah

juleah

@London Girl It depends on what you like to read. Do you like series or straight shots? Sappy romance, erotica, crime family?Edit

Brenda55

Brenda55 moderator

@lom1lola

That is true. Further, there are men who write these stories also as well as black women who write WM/WW stories.

A good writer is a good writer and a good story is a good story as far as I am concerned.

London Girl

London Girl

@Brenda55 I agree with you however it is also good for black women with especially those who are creative in writing to also be beneficiaries of this. I actually assumed that these books were written by black women when I initially saw them. I would still buy them but would be excited to see black women more as a diving force behind this particular genre.Edit

Brenda55

Brenda55 moderator

@London Girl

Black women do write a number of these books.  We have featured them on this site as a matter of fact.  We will feature more very soon BTW.  I am currently working with an author now to get a series of promotional article ready for publication on BB&W.

One of the best ways to get publisher’s attention and to get more books written is to buy them and comment on them.  Publishers do lurk sites like this one to see what people are reading and what they are thinking.

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London Girl

London Girl

@Brenda55 Wow really I did not know this, I am very happy to hear this. I am really into writing so this has got my thinking cap on big time. I didn’t even consider. Thank you for the advice about publishers I am going to read up on this.Edit

Brenda55

Brenda55 moderator

@London Girl

Hop over to the site Goodreads.  There is a forum over there for BW/WM IRR writers that you may be interested in.

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London Girl

London Girl

@Brenda55 Excellent! I certainly will, thanks for the information.Edit

London Girl

London Girl

@Brenda55 I just signed up and created an account on thisGood reads. Very interesting.Edit

MeliaFavors

MeliaFavors

@lom1lola I discovered BWWM romance novels around the beginning of the year, and I’ve become hooked! My favorite authors are S.K. Lessly and Phoenix Daniels. I’ve read several others, but these two authors write the most captivating, interesting, and realistic stories imo.
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jazzyfae45

jazzyfae45

@lom1lola

I noticed this too, but the bwwm books I buy are written by black women. We should support each other after all. The white women are just seizing an opportunity that is still widely unknown.

lom1lola

lom1lola

@jazzyfae45 I know, and I’ve been sitting on my three novels since 2006 by constantly rewriting and editing. I pray that I’ll have my two-book set out by the end of August and my third one out by the end of the year.

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Worth a Look: Laura Byrnes, Pinup Girl Clothing http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/worth-a-look-laura-byrnes-pinup-girl-clothing/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/worth-a-look-laura-byrnes-pinup-girl-clothing/#comments Thu, 09 Jul 2015 18:33:34 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=37846 Ever since someone on this blog gave me the link to Pinup Girl Clothing, I have been in absolute love. The cut and quality; the style that makes me feel like the classiest, sexiest woman in the room. It’s a throwback of an era I’ve always been fascinated by…long, skinny cigarettes, jazz, cocktail parties, Audrey […]

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Ever since someone on this blog gave me the link to Pinup Girl Clothing, I have been in absolute love. The cut and quality; the style that makes me feel like the classiest, sexiest woman in the room. It’s a throwback of an era I’ve always been fascinated by…long, skinny cigarettes, jazz, cocktail parties, Audrey Hepburn. I truly believe that the styles of the 1940-1960’s was the golden era for women’s style, and as such, will never go out of style.

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While I love so much of what’s on Pinup Girl, I find that many of my purchases favor the Laura Byrnes line, because of the designer’s obvious understanding of what makes the female form so alluring. The dresses also provide internal support through lining and figure-cinching fabrics.

Alas, the dress I’m wearing was released as part of the Spring 2014 line and is no longer available. However, the “spirit” of this style can be found in this season’s offerings as well.

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