Beyond Black & White » *uncategorized* http://www.beyondblackwhite.com Chronicles, Musings and Debates about Interracial & Intercultural Relationships Fri, 24 Oct 2014 05:45:50 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.0 SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday: AfroPunk http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/sirloins-babe-wednesday-afropunk/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/sirloins-babe-wednesday-afropunk/#comments Wed, 22 Oct 2014 00:33:10 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=34099 I would like to thank mlee for bring this to my attention.  I have to admit that as a seventy something I had never heard of AfroPunkers but the more I dug into this subgroup the more I liked what I saw. The journey began here  www,afropunk.com and of course continued on by searching online […]

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I would like to thank mlee for bring this to my attention.  I have to admit that as a seventy something I had never heard of AfroPunkers but the more I dug into this subgroup the more I liked what I saw.

The journey began here  www,afropunk.com and of course continued on by searching online all things AfroPunk  and for the various festivals held in Brooklyn NY since 2002. Did I find gold so of course I had to feature  some of the lovelies  I found  here in this bastion of all things beautiful.

 

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To learn more about the scene check out this article:

Afro-Punk Scene, Inspired By Santogold, TV On The Radio And More, Explodes Into A Multi-Genre Movement

http://tinyurl.com/kagabwn

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Man Candy Monday: A Well Dressed Man http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/man-candy-monday-well-dressed-man/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/man-candy-monday-well-dressed-man/#comments Mon, 20 Oct 2014 18:33:36 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=34045 After a short hiatus I’m back with treats that aren’t necessarily for Halloween but you may want to bring a large pumpkin with you, nonetheless. Men are amazing naked and in the bed but there is pleasure to be found in those who are dressed as well. This week’s Man Candy Monday is dedicated to […]

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After a short hiatus I’m back with treats that aren’t necessarily for Halloween but you may want to bring a large pumpkin with you, nonetheless. Men are amazing naked and in the bed but there is pleasure to be found in those who are dressed as well. This week’s Man Candy Monday is dedicated to well dressed men. Depending on what he’s wearing may determine whether or not I want him to remove those articles later on, but I digress.

I adore a man in a suit, and not just a blazer and slacks, no. I LOVE a man that takes the extra initiative to add a vest or even a bow tie to the mix. Sometimes you can’t escape the requirements of dressing a certain way but you can seek to make the look all your own. Small details like pocket watches, suspenders, and vests under a suit tells me that my candy has a sense of drama, style and individuality. He may be wearing the typical, but there’s nothing average about him.

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Living on the East coast makes me have to work a little bit harder to find candy during the winter months. I’ve come to appreciate men in certain coats and outdoor fashion accessories. From goose down feather coats, to floor length wool overcoats, I look forward to the day when I am cold and one is offered for my use. Between the huge coat eating up my small frame, the smell of his cologne on the article and the chivalry, I’m often left feeling like a well cared for baby girl. The only thing ALMOST as good as a man offering you his coat is if you can convince him to let you “borrow” one of his sweaters, and I use the term loosely.

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I require a man that is capable of making people stop and stare. I’m known for being dramatic and slightly edgy when it comes to style and it wouldn’t be right to have a fashion wallflower by my side so any man able to put the ‘stank’ on his style is the one for me. Clothing should tell a story. Is his byline putting you to sleep or making you think of you and he running off to another time and place?

There are so many styles for men to choose from. What are some of your favorite styles to see on men? Of course, there’s nothing like a man in a tux,  though I can also get down with a man wearing leather biker jackets, those wearing flannel and plaid, and those who know what an awesome pair of shoes looks like.

Feel free to share your own candy in the comment section and try not to leave fingerprints on the clean walls, thanks!

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AAWG: SavageTango tells it. Why I Swirl. http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/aawg-swirl/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/aawg-swirl/#comments Sun, 19 Oct 2014 08:09:19 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=33596 By SavageTango msdsarah asks: ” I would like to know what started you on your journey to date black women and what you like about black women?” Once upon a time a white guy woke up one morning, got out of bed, looked in the mirror and said, “I’m gonna start dating Black Women today.” […]

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msdsarah asks:

” I would like to know what started you on your journey to date black women and what you like about black women?”

Once upon a time a white guy woke up one morning, got out of bed, looked in the mirror and said,
“I’m gonna start dating Black Women today.”
And he Swirled happily ever after.
The End

Yeah, I really don’t think so. There’s gotta be more to the tale than that.

So this yin and yang, chocolate and vanilla, mocha and cream Swirlin’ thing…why do we find this so fascinating? Why do we go on and on about this the way we do? What’s so special about 2 people who care for each other?
Today we shall delve into the mystery that is known as “The Swirl”.

Now, originally we were gonna be joined by the widely recognized foremost authority in the whole damn world on this topic but I couldn’t get her to show up so it looks like you’re stuck with me. Sorry, but them’s the breaks Little Lady.  Them’s the breaks.

So lets rewind this train wreck that is known as the life of Savage Tango and take a deeper, closer look in order to shed some light on your question. I reckon about 40 years or so will do. God, I hate when I make myself feel old like that.  Like I’m some kind of Old Dirtyman, ya know what I’m sayin?

There was this kid growing up in cattle ranching, pickup truck driving, cowboy country in the High Desert of Eastern Oregon. You know that place they sing about in songs around a lonely old campfire at night…

“Give me a home where the white people roam and the cowboys drink beer every day. And seldom is heard a hip hoppin’ word cuz them black folk are hundreds of miles away.”

Yeah, something like that, close enough. That was me. I was that kid. It was Wonder bread white out there and it was all I had ever seen and all I knew.  Until one Saturday morning I was flipping through channels looking for Scooby Doo and my eyes took in a beauty that I had never before known. An angel who entranced me. She intrigued me. She reached deep down into my very soul, grabbed something I didn’t know was even there and has yet to relinquish her grip upon me these many years later.

Yeah, I’m talking Valerie from “Josie And The Pussycats”. You know, the tambourine playing black chick? Just kinda standing there in her cheetah print outfit and 70’s fro? Yeah, her.

Who was this brown girl who awakened such feelings in this young white boy? What was this spell she cast upon him? Who the hell cares? I liked the way she made me feel when I looked at her!
So yeah, most guys my age had their first TV crush on Marsha Brady, Ginger, Mary Ann or Jeannie.  Mine was some cartoon black chick. Heh heh…no one saw that one coming!

So the seeds of Swirling were planted but there was no water to cause them to spring forth and blossom. Hell, looking back, that was gonna be one long ass drought.

So blah blah blah, you know, kid grows up, moves to the big city of Seattle, goes to school and works part time.  I was pretty much focused on getting my name out there as a freelance cameraman. I liked sports. I liked watching sports.  I liked watching sports through a camera and getting paid to do it. It’s a unique lifestyle that requires sacrifices you don’t always know you gotta make. For me it was dating. I didn’t really put much effort into it, I just kinda went with whatever came along. Freelance work can do that to ya. You definitely don’t work a conventional Monday thru Friday 9 to 5 schedule.
Eventually I met this chick who grew up on a ranch on Montana, connected and went to Las Vegas a single man and came back a married man.

And yeah, she was white! Duh!! I just told you she was raised on a ranch in Montana. It was almost like incest getting her and I together.
Hey, quit looking at me like that. I said ALMOST.

So fast forward a few years and my job transfers me to the great city of Houston Texas. I was a happily married, loyal and faithful husband…but my black female co-workers looked good.  I mean, like…they REALLY looked good! One of them was a US Olympian in the 88 Olympics. She got 5th in the 800m run. Now see, I was married but that doesn’t mean every single woman in the world suddenly became pig ass ugly overnight. They were still attractive, but ya just kept that stuff to yourself and don’t act on it out of respect for your spouse and your marriage.

Unless you’re swingers, but that wasn’t the question I got asked this week. Maybe next week I’ll get to that one.

So fast forward a few years later and my wife heard the call of Montana bidding her homeward. But not me. I liked Houston. Houston, like…totally rocks and Montana, like…totally sucks.
Devoted husband that I was, we dropped everything and moved back to her ranch and built a house on the Fairfield Bench overlooking the Sun River Valley. Sounds nice talking about it, looks nice in pictures but until you have tasted the hatred of Mother Nature at 40 below 0, you know nothing  about the suffering I endured.
So one thing led to another, we parted ways on decent enough terms as we simply didn’t want the same things in life anymore and she stayed in Montana and I hightailed it back to The Lone Star State! God bless Texas! Yippee-ki yay.

So, there I was, newly divorced, and ready to start anew.  Well, sort of. I got my old job back cuz I made damn sure I didn’t burn that bridge when I left. I came right back and picked up where I left off…which was basically lusting after my Black Female co workers. But this time? This blessed time? This blessed beautiful time they were NOT off limits! Woo hoo!!  30 years later and I am finally on The Valerie Express!

First order of business, get friendly with Ms. 88 Olympics.  That was a nice post divorce gift to myself and my first true swirling experience. Hey, why not start right at the top? I waited 30 damn years for this and I got me some catching up to do! Besides, get 3 more of her friends together and I got my own relay team passing me around like a baton. LOL.
So post divorced dude that I was, I simply didn’t feel it realistic to jump right back into another long term committed relationship.  Hell, I’d been married for 13 years, I waited 30 years to Swirl, I owe it to myself to unleash my inner Charlie Sheen Swirling Machine.

And here I am today. Yeah, I see ya giving me that side eye crap. I ain’t gonna apologize for that comment up above. Ain’t gonna happen. Not now not ever. No way.
But yeah, I became a decent, moral and scrupulous citizen in due time. At least my parole officer thinks so ;-) (Joke)
I Swirl exclusively. It how I roll, baby. In fact, I am so far down with “The Swirl” I don’t remember the last time I came back up for anything else.

Now see, you tried to put one past me and ask 2 questions. Don’t think I didn’t notice that. You owe me now. You owe me big time. How about dinner next Saturday night? I know this intimate place called “The Melting Pot”. It is a dining experience you won’t forget anytime soon ;-)

Now, your second bonus question, what do I like about Black Women?

That’s the real puzzler now ain’t it? Now see, some people take the “We’re all human beings” approach or “She’s not a Black Woman, she’s a Woman who happens to be Black.”

Well that guy ain’t me. Screw that guy.

I like you BECAUSE you are Black.  I am drawn to you BECAUSE you are Black. I find you insanely attractive BECAUSE you are Black. I don’t go for that feel good kum-bah-yah politically correct stuff.

Now you Ladies, you Lovely Black Ladies with your special God Given Grace about you…listen to what I’m saying here. I’m telling ya point blank, straight up. Men do indeed find you attractive. White men particularly find you attractive in your Yin to his Yang kinda way. You have a charm, style, flair and charisma about you that is unique among the Women of this world.  I see it, I sense it, and I answer to it.
Your silky smooth, creamy ebony skin is not something to look past in a vain attempt to claim I am color blind, for I am not! I like the way your skin contrasts with mine. I like the way we compliment each other as we enter the room together. I like the way we are truly unique together and manage to merge our outward visual differences into one beautifully blended vision of Swirling glory.
I like the way you make me feel complete as a man with a Lovely Black Lady by my side.
And finally, cuz this is starting to sound like a damn Hallmark card…

So there ya have it, straight from some Swirling white guy. Hope that’s what ya wanted cuz that’s what ya got.

But ya know what the cool thing is here?
No two paths to “Swirldom” are the same.  No two roads run parallel to one another. No two journeys are identical.  Its birth, growth, and final realization are truly as unique as those who choose it. It takes many forms and expressions, yet it is considered as one single entity. And that, my friends, is the beauty of The Swirl.

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Open Thread: Brainstorm Session -The Forum http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/open-thread-brainstorm-session-forum/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/open-thread-brainstorm-session-forum/#comments Sun, 19 Oct 2014 07:37:51 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=34026 Now that the new forum is being constructed it is time to turn our attention to just what you want to have in it. I have taken some of your ideas from the brainstorm thread that could be adapted as subject headings on the forum. Here is your chance to critique this list and add […]

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Now that the new forum is being constructed it is time to turn our attention to just what you want to have in it.

I have taken some of your ideas from the brainstorm thread that could be adapted as subject headings on the forum. Here is your chance to critique this list and add to it.

I am asking that everyone with an idea. Serious or silly. Women and men chime in. You all are building this so you all have a say.

  1. A section on BW/non-BM parenting biracial children

  2. A section on Beauty, fitness, health and wellness 

  3. A section on BW/non-black men relationship/marriage articles

  4. A section on BW/non-black men dating advice

  5. A section on femininity and deportment

  6. A section on news concerning black women, IRR couples

  7. A section on profiles of educated bw, professionals and small business owners

  8. Classified section

  9. A section on conversations about peer support for black women entrepreneurs.

  10. A section on Perspectives of Non-BM regarding their interest in BW

  11. A section BW Globe Trotting

  12. A section on the relationships and interactions between bw and wm throughout history 

  13. a section for non-black men in IRRs to offer advice,support and to sharer their experiences

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IRR Romance: Nichelle Gregory’s Talk Sexy http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/irr-romance-nichelle-gregorys-talk-sexy/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/irr-romance-nichelle-gregorys-talk-sexy/#comments Sat, 18 Oct 2014 06:49:21 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=33897   Nichelle Gregory, author of  “Soul Sweet” is back with another  IRR Romance offering where “pleasure is just a phone call away”. Coloring Characters? Creating believable, relatable characters is a delightful challenge that I’ve always enjoyed. I think the truly magical part of reading is how we as readers create mental pictures in our mind regarding […]

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Nichelle Gregory, author of  “Soul Sweet” is back with another  IRR Romance offering where “pleasure is just a phone call away”.

Coloring Characters?

Creating believable, relatable characters is a delightful challenge that I’ve always enjoyed. I think the truly magical part of reading is how we as readers create mental pictures in our mind regarding details of the story given to us by an author. Chances are if you asked two readers of the same book to pick out a real life look –a-like, they would pick two different people. Readers can read the same words but interpretation varies because of our imagination!

As an author, when it comes to describing characters, I strive to give enough details to help my readers picture the traits that make up my hero or heroine without being distracting. I want you to know the race of my characters but after I’ve somehow subtly woven in the particulars, I don’t tend to keep reminding the reader.

I know such details are necessary, but once given, I move on. Unless…Racial reminders intensify the scene in a needed way or add to the sexual tension between my characters, like with Peyton and Michael in Talk Sexy. In fact, this is the first book where I used phrases like ‘white boy’ and ‘black woman’. I felt the story required use of certain words in order to (hopefully) evoke a response from the reader as my character reacted to what was said.

For me as a reader, overstating physical traits detracts from the tale. I want to be immersed in the experience of what I’m reading. I don’t need the author to constantly remind me of the physicality of the characters I’m reading about because I want to draw my own mental pictures where they are concerned.

Ultimately, I want my readers to be emotionally connected to my characters and engaged by their personalities to the point that they must read on to find out what happens as they embark on the journey their hearts take. That’s my goal as an author and the reason I delight in writing sexy books that celebrate diversity by exploring the emotional heartfelt commonalities all of us can relate to when it comes to lust and love.

Nichelle Gregory

 

About Talk Sexy: Part one:

This is book one in the Talk Sexy serial, see the full serial listing here

 

Peyton enjoys role-playing many of her private kinky erotic fantasies as a phone sex operator…she never dreamed they’d come true with one very sexy caller!

Peyton decides to become a phone sex operator on a whim, but soon discovers she has a flair for sexy gab! For the first time in her life, Peyton indulges her latent yearnings, enjoying the sexual freedom to safely explore her private kinky desires as part of her role to create the ultimate erotic fantasies for her callers, but the more she talks the more she craves. No one knows about her new job…not even her boyfriend who has made it clear he’d like to take things to the next level. Peyton isn’t sure that’s what she wants, especially when it seems one demanding caller seems to know exactly what she needs…

 

Excerpt:

“Hello?”

“Is this Pepper?”

The male voice was rich, layered with a mixture of warmth and charm, totally unfamiliar to Peyton. She adjusted her pillows again and lay back, ready to find out what this caller needed to get off.

“This is Pepper. Who am I speaking to?”

“Michael.”

No hesitation. Peyton liked that.

“Good evening, Michael.”

“Good evening, Pepper.”

The amused tone to Michael’s voice made her grin. She glanced at her clock on the nightstand, aware of the seconds ticking away. It always amazed her how fast or slow the fifteen minutes went by on a given call.

“Michael, I like a little heat to spice things up…do you?”

The throaty chuckle that caressed her ears sent a tiny shiver through her. This guy obviously wanted to string things along and Peyton was content to do the same. When his allotted time was up, he’d either have to pay for more minutes with her or hang up frustrated. It truly was the easiest, most interesting job she’d ever had and it paid damn well.

“I do, indeed. I also like the sound of your voice.”

Peyton smiled, pleased. “Why don’t you tell what else you like?”

“I like pepper. It heightens the flavor on so many things.” “It does. Heightened flavors…mmmm.” Peyton turned her head and watched the flickering flame dance on the wall behind the aromatic candle on her dresser. “You’re making me hungry, Michael.”

“What are you hungry for?”

Peyton closed her eyes. “Mmm…”

Michael had to have one of the sexiest voices she’d heard on the line. The deep timbre of it floated into her ear and warmed her. He had a way of speaking so every syllable was smoothly enunciated. There was no rushed edge to his words. Peyton could tell he was as relaxed as she was, which meant his cock was not yet in hand. She was beginning to think he just wanted to talk. It was amazing how many men were willing to pay for a woman to simply listen.

At least he isn’t boring.  

“Pleasure.” Peyton took another sip of wine as Michael chuckled. “I know you crave the same. I want to give you pleasure.”

“And what if I told you the only way you could do that is to allow me to give you pleasure?”

Peyton frowned and opened her eyes. This is different. She’d never taken a call where the caller wanted to please her, though there were those men who assumed she was reaching a climax lightning fast like they were and she let them believe in the fantasy.

“You want to give me pleasure?” Peyton toyed with the silky tie of her teal nightie. She twirled it around her finger as she looked at the clock.

Six minutes left.

“Yes. I want you to come for me. I want to hear the sound of you coming undone.”

Peyton stilled, taken aback by Michael’s request. Her heart skipped a beat and a rush of heat swirled over her, centering between her legs. She was momentarily at a loss for words. An occupational hazard that rarely happened.

 

 

About Nichelle Gregory:

 

Nichelle Gregory

Nichelle Gregory has been in love with books and writing since middle school. A lover of the arts, she enjoys anything that embraces the creative nature within us all. Bringing believable characters to life that thrill and excite her readers is a challenge that continues to push Nichelle. She loves creating stories involving super sexy alpha heroes with divine heroines in magical, exotic and fantastic scenarios. So, go on…indulge your secret fetishes and desires!

 

Buy the book HERE.

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Just for Fun…What Makes a “Creature Like No Other?” http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/just-fun-makes-creature-like/ http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/just-fun-makes-creature-like/#comments Thu, 16 Oct 2014 06:42:03 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=34011 Black women have the most unique physical makeup of all women, everywhere. Our beauty is an asset! It’s important that each one of you know the tools, tips and tricks to maximize your unique beauty. For me, it’s wearing my hair natural. When straightened, my hair is flat and lifeless, and the look did little […]

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Black women have the most unique physical makeup of all women, everywhere. Our beauty is an asset! It’s important that each one of you know the tools, tips and tricks to maximize your unique beauty. For me, it’s wearing my hair natural. When straightened, my hair is flat and lifeless, and the look did little to differentiate me from the rest of the herd.

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Here’s my advice:

Hair: Get a style that fits your face. This post might be helpful for some of you who wear straight or relaxed hair.

Skin: Exfoliate, exfoliate, exfoliate! It’s the secret to why I look decades younger than my actual age.

Diet: Get off processed foods…all of them. Watch your sugar intake and learn to embrace the green smoothie.

Body: A least three hours of exercise per week. Not just cardio, but weight-bearing practices like yoga, pilates and the barre method.

Makeup: If you’re dark like me, don’t be afraid of color! Heck, if I can pull of green and gold eyeshadow, so can you!

 

So dish! Let’s share with one another ways to maximize our natural and unique beauty!

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