Beyond Black & White https://www.beyondblackwhite.com Chronicles, Musings and Debates about Interracial & Intercultural Relationships Tue, 12 Jun 2018 04:28:24 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.6 Moving to Canada Might Just Be the Thing for Black Women https://www.beyondblackwhite.com/moving-canada-might-just-thing-black-women/ https://www.beyondblackwhite.com/moving-canada-might-just-thing-black-women/#comments Tue, 07 Mar 2017 02:51:27 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=42203 It looks like our trip this summer to tour Toronto for our first Girl Who Swirls Goes Around the World tour is just in time, because it seems like all the opportunities that have been earmarks for success in the United States is declining, while those same earmarks are increasing in Canada. From Macleans, Canada’s […]

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It looks like our trip this summer to tour Toronto for our first Girl Who Swirls Goes Around the World tour is just in time, because it seems like all the opportunities that have been earmarks for success in the United States is declining, while those same earmarks are increasing in Canada.

From Macleans, Canada’s largest magazine:

[…where once America stood alone as the land of opportunity, there are now dozens of other countries that have surpassed the United States; chief among these is its unassuming northern neighbour, Canada. Where do you go now for “Life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness”? Canadians live 2.5 years longer than Americans. They are six times less likely to be incarcerated. And the World Economic Forum ranks Canadians as the 6th happiest people in the world, while Americans lag behind at 13th.

Every aspect of the American dream is now more easily found in Canada. In the United States, 46 per cent of the population has been able to obtain a college degree—in Canada it’s 59 per cent. After graduation, Canadians are more likely to find work, with an employment rate four points better. You are more likely to afford a house with a white picket fence in Canada, where home ownership rates are five per cent higher. Canadians also have more time to enjoy their homes, as they work over 80 hours fewer per year—and they take an extra three days vacation.]

Wow. You mean a black woman can move to Canada and live longer, get more vacation time, stay healthy, not be mired in school debt and face less prejudice and discrimination? Do tell.

The magazine goes on to brag, “Whether it was due to geography or history or maybe even policy, we have arrived. Everything America once aspired to be, we now are. Not only have we achieved the fabled American Dream, we are arguably among the safest, healthiest, happiest human beings to have ever existed.”

To be fair, Canada is STILL pretty darned white, and a lot less populated than the United States. Canada has a population of 36 million, while the United States has a whopping 322 million. And let’s not talk about how the weather in places like Toronto have frigid cold temperatures and people basically travel hither and thither underground like human moles.

On the other hand, our chilly northern neighbor isn’t bogged down with a nasty legacy of slavery and inbred bigotry this country has to overcome. There’s something to say about a clean slate. What is more, the country appears to be pretty welcoming of immigrants. Doesn’t hurt that it’s an English-speaking country so there’s no new language to learn.

When we visit in July, we’ll be investigating ALL aspects related what it would be like for a single black American woman to pack up and move to Toronto–one of the most populous and diverse city in the country. We’ll explore opportunities to emigrate, live and work. For more information about the project or to contribute, click here.

So what say you? How many of you single ladies are ready to become an expat in Canada? Here’s an article on the four ways you can pack up and leave.

 

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Christelyn’s Big Announcement! Swirling Around the World! https://www.beyondblackwhite.com/christelyns-big-announcement-swirling-around-world/ https://www.beyondblackwhite.com/christelyns-big-announcement-swirling-around-world/#comments Sun, 11 Dec 2016 07:03:22 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=41711 This has been a secret I’ve had a really hard time keeping and am really glad I don’t have to anymore! Remember all those conversations you’ve seen on You Tube about black women leaving the U.S. for greener pastures? Have you ever had the thought that you wanted to pursue men of other cultures out […]

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This has been a secret I’ve had a really hard time keeping and am really glad I don’t have to anymore!

Remember all those conversations you’ve seen on You Tube about black women leaving the U.S. for greener pastures? Have you ever had the thought that you wanted to pursue men of other cultures out of the United States? Want to see what your average day might look like in a totally new and foreign place?

It’s time for Beyond Black & White to go global. What does this mean? This means we can finally tell more success stories from around the world. We can explore the many dating and relationship possibilities available to Black women across the globe. Men of all cultures, nationalities and races who love and marry Black women.
We want to empower Black women all over the world, to no longer fear finding true love. There are many paths to happiness and we want you to choose THE ONE that’s right for you, whether he’s Brandon from America, Lorenzo from Puerto Rico, Errol from Jamaica, Carl from Great britain, Jean-Pierre from France, Mario from Italy, Alejandro from Spain, Hans from germany, Kwame from Ghana, Kareem from Dubai, Haruki from Japan or Greg from Australia.

Beyond Black & White is now going BEYOND BORDERS! First stop….CANADA!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wivREA9rBu4

 

Sounds great, right? But I need your help! We need your support and financial contribution–no matter how small. This is a big community, so even the meekest of donations gets us closer to our goal! And because this is my FIRST family, I want you to know where your donations will be going towards:

  • Flights and ground transportation
  • Camera equipment: e.g. travel camera such as GoPro, microphones, editing services
  • Small research staff to summarize vital information about our target locales (e.g. education and employment opportunities, demographics, crimes rates, etc.)
  • Lodging and food
  • Studio time
  • Meetups
  • General admin

We currently have a minimum threshold to when we can hit the ground running: $3000.00 (click here to see how much we’ve raised so far). Our first stop is Canada!

Nothing like this has ever been done…not like this. Let’s continue to be innovative, and let’s be the first…AGAIN…to empower black women in a way that we all can benefit.

 

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Exclusive: Black Woman (Madison Amelia) Who Filmed Ex Boyfriend’s Racist Rant Speaks https://www.beyondblackwhite.com/exclusive-black-woman-madison-amelia-filmed-ex-boyfriends-racist-rant-speaks/ https://www.beyondblackwhite.com/exclusive-black-woman-madison-amelia-filmed-ex-boyfriends-racist-rant-speaks/#comments Tue, 15 Nov 2016 20:45:08 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=41564 I got a chance to speak with Madison Amelia, the young woman who recorded the viral video of her ex boyfriend’s racist rant about black people and Donald Trump’s politics. I thought it was important to try and talk to her directly, because in the absence of facts, people have created so many lies and […]

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I got a chance to speak with Madison Amelia, the young woman who recorded the viral video of her ex boyfriend’s racist rant about black people and Donald Trump’s politics. I thought it was important to try and talk to her directly, because in the absence of facts, people have created so many lies and misinformation about this young woman, it was important to allow her to have her say. After all, that video is now being used as some kind of cautionary tale to warn black women off dating white men for fear they all may one day call you the n-word. Madison, who is biracial, has been dragged for filth, being called a “bed wench” and even gotten notes hoping she will get lynched. Madison’s father is black and her mother is Portuguese.

Turns out the video was made a while ago, and Madison just waited to post it on election day because she felt it was important to expose how the election has brought out some of the worst in people. While being a Republican herself, she told her boyfriend that she couldn’t bring herself to vote for him, which was the source of all his rage.

But what we didn’t know is that the monster in the video is a diagnosed narcissist, a borderline personality disorder on the spectrum of sociopathy. That explains a lot.

During the unfolding on the story, I learned that Madison had been struggling for over three years to get away from this mental and physically abusive user, and gives some insight on how she finally got brave enough to flee.

Hear the full interview…

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aUspIdwoDu8

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The Power of Femininity and Donald Trump’s Unprecedented Crash and Burn https://www.beyondblackwhite.com/power-femininity-donald-trumps-unprecedented-crash-burn/ https://www.beyondblackwhite.com/power-femininity-donald-trumps-unprecedented-crash-burn/#comments Tue, 11 Oct 2016 20:15:33 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=41316 It didn’t take him saying John McCain, a decorated war hero who was a prisoner of war for five year, a loser. It didn’t take for him to call Mexican immigrants rapists. It didn’t take for him to diminish the pain of a Gold Star Family by saying he’s made sacrifices too, because, you know…he’s […]

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It didn’t take him saying John McCain, a decorated war hero who was a prisoner of war for five year, a loser.

It didn’t take for him to call Mexican immigrants rapists.

It didn’t take for him to diminish the pain of a Gold Star Family by saying he’s made sacrifices too, because, you know…he’s built many structures.

It didn’t take for him to say that he would implement a complete ban on Muslim immigrations until “we figure this thing out.”

It took for him to say that, because he’s a star, he can do whatever he wants, included grabbing (white) women “by the pussy” for the powers that be to FINALLY and publicly call this man out and withdraw his support, which has lead to him being down in the polls by double digits and essentially handing the presidency to Hillary Rodham Clinton.

White men in POWER do NOT play that shit with their wives, daughters, nieces, girlfriends, etc. You tell a guy you can grab any white woman (married or not) by the pussy because you’re a star, you WILL get you ass handed to you.

Trump has been disavowed by an unprecedented 16 Republican leaders, including the most powerful Republican, Paul Ryan. All the other media stunts, crazy tweets, insults and lies in the passed year never really and truly stuck. It took an arrogant, crass video of Donald Trump bragging about being able to do whatever he wants to women 11 years ago to undo him.

This, ladies is a case study happening in real time displaying how the power of femininity works to galvanize men to act in a patriarchy. The men in power have an innate understanding that the women in their “tribe” are essential in the proper functioning of their society. Most other men with “sub” patriarchies in the U.S., such as Hispanic, Asian and Middle Eastern seem to have similar credos about their women. Sure; they may not treat the women in their “tribe” so great, but NO OUTSIDER will have access to do so.
As a result, all “sub” patriarchies have mostly functional communities with cooperation, business interests and cultures. It’s not perfect, but it’s there. There’s an exchange: “You have the babies and be the keepers of the culture, and we, the men, will offer protection of your honor, provide and produce the society in while our two genders can thrive.”

It is an unstated agreement that every functioning community has–except one. I think you know which one that is. Sort of puts into perspective why some black women feel they always have to stand in for themselves and in their own defense, doesn’t it? This piece however, isn’t about bemoaning how black women have and continue to be debased, demeaned, and unprotected both within and without, it’s about how savvy, crafty women take that knowledge and create a course of action and alliances that can extend individual benefit to her.

Let’s discuss.

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Are You Here for Michele’le and Her Side of the Story in “Surviving Compton”? https://www.beyondblackwhite.com/michelele-side-story-surviving-compton/ https://www.beyondblackwhite.com/michelele-side-story-surviving-compton/#comments Wed, 21 Sep 2016 22:08:51 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=41182 Lifetime Movie Network will premiere Surviving Compton, a biopic of singer, Michele’le’s experiences being affiliated with NWA and married to Dr. Dre, and then later, her relationship with Suge Knight. It was the story of abuse, debasement and violence against women that was scrubbed clean from the blockbuster, Straight Outta Compton. Living on the periphery […]

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Lifetime Movie Network will premiere Surviving Compton, a biopic of singer, Michele’le’s experiences being affiliated with NWA and married to Dr. Dre, and then later, her relationship with Suge Knight. It was the story of abuse, debasement and violence against women that was scrubbed clean from the blockbuster, Straight Outta Compton.

Living on the periphery of Los Angeles, with relatives and friends near Compton, California, there was a lot about Dr. Dre and Suge Knight we knew about–it was the talk of the town. Suge Knight even dated a girl who worked for me when I was an assistant manager at a retail store in the Fox Hills Mall. We all knew Dr. Dre beat Michele’le’s ass, and I have to admit, no one in my circle was outraged on her behalf. Dre beating on somebody was just another Tuesday. Suge was no  better, and his level of sociopathy was legend.

I look back and am shocked at how neutral and accepting everyone was to know about her abuse–how numb we all were about it. At that particular time in my life, I was almost completely affiliated with African American people, and not one of my friends, family, or cohorts thought there was anything criminal about “beating on some hoes.”

Now I will vicariously relive Michele’le’s story with the scales off, and really SEE how horrific the abuse was, and how normalized it all was. Even Michele’le herself seems to be numb about the whole thing. Take a look at this interview, and the hosts siding with Suge’s awful behavior after he slapped her so hard he dislocated her jaw. It’s truly disgusting, and the way all involved react pretty much sums up how OKAY the black community is with woman beating.

Now here’s my take on all of it…

https://youtu.be/jFW4QNYvNkg

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A Note About Fake Friends and Fake Allies https://www.beyondblackwhite.com/note-fake-friends-fake-allies/ https://www.beyondblackwhite.com/note-fake-friends-fake-allies/#comments Mon, 29 Aug 2016 14:53:43 +0000 http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=41029 I’m going to be writing this post in general terms, because the people interested in what went down already know the story, so I’ll not pollute my blog with the details. But I will say this. This whole experience was a both a costly and priceless learning experience for me, and…and deeply changed me for […]

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I’m going to be writing this post in general terms, because the people interested in what went down already know the story, so I’ll not pollute my blog with the details. But I will say this. This whole experience was a both a costly and priceless learning experience for me, and…and deeply changed me for the better.

During this whole debacle, I saw people who swore their love telling me I’m not “fit to lead” and am “too emotional” and went in other folks’ inboxes “advising” others not to affiliate themselves with me. I also observed the glaring silence of my non-black male fans on You Tube do very little as my name was dragged through the mud with video after lying video. Yeah; I saw that too.

But during all of this, I learned a very valuable lesson. Ladies, I don’t care how popular or private you are, build a circle of support of people who can pick you up off the floor when you are down, give you good advice, and bounce off ideas with them about how to make critical decisions in your own life.

But don’t just pick ANYONE in your circle. Sure; the bestie you had down the street during your childhood might be a nice girl, but if she’s not making good life decisions and her orbit is messy, she shouldn’t be in the circle.

If possible, make your circle comprised of both men and women you trust–because men and women will have wildly varying opinions on the exact scenario, which will allow you to have a more 360-degree view of what your challenges are.

I consider it a blessing to know who I can trust and who I can not. In the long run, it will make me more crafty.

In the end, it was a victory. 300 new subscribers and supporters in three days. Check? Meet Mate.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lOOqpHpR240

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gZN1H09SfqY

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