Archive for the ‘Thriving’ Category

156 Why Saying, “You Aaaiight” Can Be So Damaging to Young Black Girls–Peep the Game, Play Smarter.

Why Saying, “You Aaaiight” Can Be So Damaging to Young Black Girls–Peep the Game, Play Smarter.

Honey, if a man you’re dating refuses to tell you that you are beautiful TO HIM, dump him, do not look back.


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120 Like Bees to Honey: Be Charming…It’s Totally Easy and Well Worth it!!

Like Bees to Honey: Be Charming…It’s Totally Easy and Well Worth it!!

Have you ever been in the company of a person that made you feel instantly at ease? The way you interact with them is almost like you are familiar with each other, even if you’ve never met, yet you leave the interaction with a feeling of genuine happiness and an upbeat attitude. You can’t quite put your finger on it, but its a pleasantness that certain people give off about themselves.


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92 “Clutch” Gets it Right…White Feminists Dropped the Ball On the Quvenzhané Wallis Debacle

“Clutch” Gets it Right…White Feminists Dropped the Ball On the Quvenzhané Wallis Debacle

We’ve been battling this issue for months. Many of us (including myself) believe that most white feminists don’t give a crap about black women and girls, but talk a good game because they know and understand the power of building alliances in order to further your agenda. Black women have lapped up this pablum for decades and in many ways, we are worse off. People thought I was being unreasonable about my stance on feminists, but here’s a real-life example, and I for one am glad Clutch was brave enough to run this story.


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174 Becoming Kerry Gabrielle Michelle

Becoming Kerry Gabrielle Michelle

Some women have “it” and some just don’t. By “it” I mean the motivation, willpower, and means to become women who everyone admires, emulates, and reveres as “the best when compared to the rest”. These are the women who respectable, successful, and admiration-worthy people of all races hold up as examples of the type of woman or Black woman they wish all Black women could be. Let’s call her “Kerry Gabrielle Michelle”.


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38 Damaged vs. Damaged Beyond Repair vs. Work-in-Progress: What’s the Difference?

Damaged vs. Damaged Beyond Repair vs. Work-in-Progress: What’s the Difference?

Question: What are some other ways to differentiate between someone who is “damaged beyond repair” and a “work in progress”?


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91 A Self-Proclaimed ‘DBR’ Black Woman Reaches Out To Us. It’s a Bird’s Eye View Into How Some of Us Are the Way We Are.

A Self-Proclaimed ‘DBR’ Black Woman Reaches Out To Us. It’s a Bird’s Eye View Into How Some of Us Are the Way We Are.

“Admitting this openly is something that I wouldn’t normally do, but I guess I felt it had to be said openly to someone in the hopes of preventing or reducing the number of functional DBR women produced in the black community. Even though I’m only sharing my story, I’m sure there are many more instances of black women who share the same background as me.”


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5 SOCIAL GRACES 201: Home Gathering Raises Your Relationship Stock!

SOCIAL GRACES 201: Home Gathering Raises Your Relationship Stock!

Small, intimate gatherings give an excellent opportunity for the single men to observe your domestic skills in entertaining and interacting as a hostess (don’t worry, no one is trying to push you back to the 50’s) If you can’t cook, don’t worry,you can always cheat!


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197 Black Women Scare You? Get Real!

Black Women Scare You? Get Real!

Is it fair when people, men in particular, express fear of black women?


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109 Letter From a BB&W Reader:  “I don’t want someone else to wake up and realize they made a mistake.”

Letter From a BB&W Reader: “I don’t want someone else to wake up and realize they made a mistake.”

“I am relatively new to your website and blog. I think most of your readers are young women and men. I wished there was a website like yours in my 20’s and 30’s perhaps I would have made different choices.”


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8 Triple Consciousness and the Black Woman

Triple Consciousness and the Black Woman

It is a strange lot to be a black woman in American society. She was brought to this country to be an unpaid worker, a concubine and a broodmare. Her body and her sexuality has been reviled and experimented on but from the various brilliant shades of brown black people come in, is curiously loved.


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53 What Tony Goldwyn means for Black women

What Tony Goldwyn means for Black women

No, I am not talking about his breath-snatching, deliciously passionate scenes with Kerry Washington as President Fitzgerald Grant on the TV show, Scandal. Instead, I am referring to his work as a director and producer, as well as his lineage from one of Hollywood’s most prestigious families, which continues to sharply shape the film industry today. Tony was recently interviewed by Tavis Smiley, who has a program on PBS. In response to being asked for his thoughts on diversity and inclusion in Hollywood as a white male, given his family’s roots in showbiz, Tony responded:


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75 Are Black Women ‘In’ Right Now?

Are Black Women ‘In’ Right Now?

From Michelle Obama to Kerry Washington to Beyonce, black women are LITERALLY taking over everything. And it is pretty darn awesome.


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292 When Hood Boogers Attack, Black Kids Wish They Were White.

When Hood Boogers Attack, Black Kids Wish They Were White.

Some of you might balk at my language, but if it walks like a beast and talks like a beast, it’s a beast. God help the kids who have to live in this Hell.


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289 Being Soft is Pretty Sweet :)

Being Soft is Pretty Sweet :)

WARNING!!! This post is not meant for happily masculine women, happily androgynous women, or feminists, so for all of our sake please skip this post. This post is ONLY meant for women who are interested in becoming more old fashioned/classically/traditionally feminine . Please focus your comments on the topics presented in this post and keep it [...]


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19 Weight Loss Surgery?  Sometimes You Just Need Help

Weight Loss Surgery? Sometimes You Just Need Help

Hear some real, compassionate talk from a former gastric bypass patient.


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96 Come Hither: Dirty Old Man or Experienced Lover? Let’s Talk About it!!

Come Hither: Dirty Old Man or Experienced Lover? Let’s Talk About it!!

I’m often the predator, but a young girl couldn’t walk around being plump and juicy without coming to learn about the dreaded neighborhood phenomena known as the DIRTY OLD MAN.


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