Searching for a Matchmaker: Back to a Familiar Place

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If you had access to ten men who had been vetted for good character and were already attracted to you, would you meet them? What if all of them … [Read more...]

Inside the Male Mind: Why Divorced Single Mothers Get a Pass and Why Never-Marrieds Often Don’t

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I'm about to get really real in here for a minute, and what I'm about to say is going to offend a lot of people. I understand that. And I need to … [Read more...]

OK, So You Possibly Hate (Or Love) Beyoncé’s New Album, But At Least You Now Know Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie Is

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She deserves the hype. And by "she," I'm referring to Nigerian feminist author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. Beyoncé's recent eponymous album--and the … [Read more...]

Hilarious Bedsider PSA’s Addresses the Birth Control Without the Outrage

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I was up at the wee hours of the morning last night and saw this commercial... This is brilliant, and I wish it could be shown on the … [Read more...]

Know What ‘Empowerment’ Really Means? It Means I’m Not Your Mammy

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I made a few resolutions for this year. For example, I would try to be less confrontational and not expend energy in pointless arguments. Another … [Read more...]

My True Confession: I Advocate Swirling Because I Was the Black Man’s Cast Off.

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A very strange and angry black man called Sergeant Willie Pete is enraged by me. He's enraged because he took a comment I said in a You Tube video in … [Read more...]

Toni: Desirable educated black women who don’t exercise their options are dying out. LITERALLY.

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I find it absolutely hilarious that we get black woman after black woman writing all these open letters and blog posts about how they only want a … [Read more...]

Toni: “Don’t Judge” = “Help Me Save Face”

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Any Twilight Zone fans out there? "Neither sympathy nor compassion can be handed out wholesale like cheap bubblegum." This is a quote from the … [Read more...]

Dear “I’m Here To Find My Black Queen” Black Men

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Dear "I'm Here To Find My Black Queen" Black Men, Hello, how are things? Is the new year off to a good start? I hope so. :) I see that more and … [Read more...]

Former Bachelorette, Misee Harris Dives Head First Into “Shark Tank”

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Remember the short-lived stint of bachelorette, Misee Harris? If not, that's okay, because she's giving America another chance to recognize how … [Read more...]