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OK, So You Possibly Hate (Or Love) Beyoncé’s New Album, But At Least You Now Know Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie Is

She deserves the hype. And by "she," I'm referring to Nigerian feminist author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. Beyoncé's recent eponymous album--and the … [Read more...]

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Hilarious Bedsider PSA’s Addresses the Birth Control Without the Outrage

I was up at the wee hours of the morning last night and saw this commercial... This is brilliant, and I wish it could be shown on the … [Read more...]

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Know What ‘Empowerment’ Really Means? It Means I’m Not Your Mammy

I made a few resolutions for this year. For example, I would try to be less confrontational and not expend energy in pointless arguments. Another … [Read more...]

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My True Confession: I Advocate Swirling Because I Was the Black Man’s Cast Off.

A very strange and angry black man called Sergeant Willie Pete is enraged by me. He's enraged because he took a comment I said in a You Tube video in … [Read more...]

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Toni: Desirable educated black women who don’t exercise their options are dying out. LITERALLY.

I find it absolutely hilarious that we get black woman after black woman writing all these open letters and blog posts about how they only want a … [Read more...]

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Toni: “Don’t Judge” = “Help Me Save Face”

Any Twilight Zone fans out there? "Neither sympathy nor compassion can be handed out wholesale like cheap bubblegum." This is a quote from the … [Read more...]

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Dear “I’m Here To Find My Black Queen” Black Men

Dear "I'm Here To Find My Black Queen" Black Men, Hello, how are things? Is the new year off to a good start? I hope so. :) I see that more and … [Read more...]

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Former Bachelorette, Misee Harris Dives Head First Into “Shark Tank”

Remember the short-lived stint of bachelorette, Misee Harris? If not, that's okay, because she's giving America another chance to recognize how … [Read more...]

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Black Father Gets Racist Hate Mail & Goes Viral…Because He’s Taking CARE OF HIS KIDS!

This story has appeared several times in my Facebook feed. Apparently Black fathers can't do anything right when it comes to their kids. I don't buy … [Read more...]

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QOTW: White Man Asks, “What Is Black Culture, Minus All the Ratchet Stuff?”

I can hear some of you rolling your eyes. Okay, I might answer this question myself pretty well, but most non-Black people, and apparently the … [Read more...]

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Some Good News: Study Shows that Black Fathers More Involved with Kids than We Give Credit For.

Okay here's some really good news. A fairly large study was recently reported showing that black fathers who live in the home with their children are … [Read more...]

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Praise Jesus! Black Women Leaving the Church for Some REAL Soul Feeding

I ran across news of the book, "The Ebony Exodus Project: Why Some Black Women Are Walking out on Religion—and Others Should Too" in one of my … [Read more...]

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You Can’t Blame the Police and Racism for This…Video Showing “How to Raise a Thug 101″

I have always, ALWAYS been for the kids, ya'll. And I just discovered a video of a child...A BABY IN DIAPERS being called a "bitch ass n*gga" by his … [Read more...]