Etiquette 101: 9 Tips for a more polished appearance at social gatherings

Etiquette 101: 9 Tips for a more polished appearance at social gatherings

I have learned by experience that because people are always watching you and making internal judgments, it is wise to be aware of your outward presentation. The little things can send a big message.

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I have learned by experience that because people are always watching you and making internal judgments, it is wise to be aware of your outward presentation. The little things can send a big message.

1.   Yawning-  If you are tired or in the company of boring or dull conversation try to stifle the yawn, always cover your mouth and apologize graciously for the yawn.

2.   Staring and pointing- It is never in good taste to stare at people or to point at them. A quick  glance in their direction is fine. Pointing can make a person feel self-conscious.

3.   Gum Chewing- Mints to freshen up your breath is a better alternative.

4.   Nail biting, cracking knuckles, foot taping- these are nervous behaviors, just relax and enjoy the atmosphere.

5.    Angry outbursts- Avoid them. If the situation is too intense to address in a calm tone, take a deep breath or two and politley excuse yourself from the room until you can regain your composure.

6.   Public grooming- freshening your make up, fixing your hair, etc. in public is not appropriate. Make those adjustments in the restroom. A quick glance at yourself in your compact is fine.

7.   Loud talking- Unless you are hard of hearing, speak softly with those around you.

8.   Putting on airs-Being pretentious or snobby is unacceptable.

9.   Negative attitude or Complaining- Like a wet blanket, this behavior is very annoying and unwelcome so don’t go there. If you find yourself on the receiving end of this type of conversation try to graciously steer the conversation in a positive direction or politely excuse yourself.

The hosts of parties and gatherings always remember polished gracious behavior and find great pleasure in inviting those guests to future events.

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Karla 18225 pts

Great list.  May I add that it's nice to excuse yourself when at a table and departing, in a group and moving on or when you have no choice but to break up a crowd to get somewhere.  Also, remember your home training and always say "please" and "thank you".  If you're going to give a compliment, ensure it's sincere; I never say something like "Wow, your new hair color looks great!" or "You clean up well.".  I think it's tacky and implies that the person never looked good until now; also, IMO, pointing out a particular thing (weight loss, hair, makeup) is a no-no.  I just say, "You look wonderful, as always."  If I want to know about a particular thing, I may ask them but offline, not in a crowd.

KingsDaughter 4597 pts

>Listen to others. Don't just pretend to listen while you're thinking about the next thing you want to say.

>Be aware of other people's personal space especially with those you've just met.

>Don't be rude to waiters and such, EVEN if the service is bad.

>Watch the elbows on the table.

>Sit upright, and when standing don't slouch (makes you look exhausted and bored).

>Try to lessen the things in your handbag when going out. Rummaging through a bag filled with stuff is not elegant.

DU2 2150 pts

 KingsDaughter  Good stuff, thank you for adding!!

MixedUpInVegas 1643 pts

To add one more, please, Demita: being gratious and kind to everyone in social settings clearly identifies you as a lady.

KingsDaughter 4597 pts

 MixedUpInVegas Yes. Even if it is just a small nod conveys appreciation. Better still, say "thank you".

Black Women With Other Brothers 1656 pts

 I like this and will share this! Well said.