I Might Be Crazy: Life As An African American Female Football Fan

I Might Be Crazy: Life As An African American Female Football Fan

Soccer players are so dang HAWT!

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I’ve decided to start a new series of posts, ones that will be considerably less serious than the other stuff I write about. And a bit fun, I’d like to think. “I Might Be Crazy” is about enthusiasms, hobbies, or habits that others may regard as anywhere from a little unexpected for a black woman to down right “hand in your black card now”. Some people may look at you and think that you might be crazy for getting into activities or music-styles or what have you that aren’t expected of you. But it’s not about them: It’s about you doing whatever makes you happy. I hope to maybe also get some features going. I can’t be the only quirky black woman in these parts. ;D

 

First and foremost when I say “football”, I don’t mean this. I actually mean this. “Soccer” to the average American. It feels odd to call it that since I’ve managed to wrap my mind around the international term for the sport. I could write essay upon essay about that sometimes contentious controversy over football vs. soccer, but that’s another post for another blog.

 

I’ve just wrapped up my second full season as a football fan. I came aboard with the World Cup back in 2010, and after watching the entire thing (rather than bowing out after the United States suffered a crushing loss to Ghana) I found I liked it. A lot. I was eager for more and thanks to some good suggestions, decided to check out the English Premiere League and La Liga.

 

Why do I love International Football?

 

I’ve never been nearly as emotionally involved in anything remotely sports-related before I started watching football. I guess that’s a major reason I love it: I’ve found that it moves me in ways that few other things actually do. I am not ordinarily an emotional person. But I’ve scared my poor old grandmother to death at least twice as I was over her house watching a game and she thought I was dying or being murdered.

At its purest form, it’s a testament to amazing skill, coordination, and team work. These are qualities I’ve come to strongly admire.

I had watched the NFL, basketball, and even hockey through the years, and hadn’t been much of a dedicated fan since childhood. In fact, I actually found myself drifting away from sports altogether. I think the stories of lockouts, walkouts, and doping controversies cooled my enthusiasm. And as I was developing various non-sports related interests, I couldn’t be bothered to care anymore.

The funny thing is that football is not without its own share of controversies.

 

And with every up…

…There is a bit of a down side. There are some inescapable complications if you are a football fan who happens to be (1) a woman and (2) black. Mainly misogyny and racism. It’s not something that smacks me in the face often, but when it pops up it’s like, “….” And it does suck. But I’ve decided I love football too much to allow a segment of mouth-breathing nincompoops to chase me away.

Another thing you hear a lot is that if you are a female football fan you are ONLY watching because you want to see footballers taking off their shorts jerseys. Or all female football fans are groupies and wannabe WAGs, and you can’t be a real football fan if you find a number of these men very attractive. This bothers some female fans a great deal and they go on crusades to prove that they are real fans. I do not have that kind of time or energy.

Do you see this?

And this?

And ESPECIALLY this (Sixteen seconds in…)?

[youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZTdAHrp-frE&version=3&hl=en_US]

Yes, those are some very healthy, handsome, athletic men. And I am not ashamed to say that my love of the sport is hardly so noble and pure that I would kick any of them out of my bed. No, I’m afraid I’d have to take one for the team. And if someone has a problem with that sentiment, I’d remind them that I am a heterosexual woman and I don’t want to hear it from champions of the “male gaze”.

I might be “crazy” because…

I am not logical when it comes to football. I am embarrassingly superstitious (I don’t wear my jerseys until AFTER the game is over because I fear a jinx) and I have lied to get out of going out on game day. Just a couple of times, but I felt it would be strange to tell someone, “No, I can’t go out because we twenty minutes left, and it’s tied and I refuse to move my behind from this spot until this game is over.”

Then there is the crying, screaming, swearing, throwing things, jumping up and down, running around the room, running around the house, and randomly hugging whoever is near me (and this is from someone who is not necessarily touchy-feely), etc. that I experience as a result of this sport. The ups and downs can certainly wear on you.

However, I’ve found that it’s totally worth it, and you had better believe I’m already gearing up for the Euro Cup.

 

 

Are there any other female football fans out there? Care to share your experiences?

 

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chocolate_girl 20 pts

not to get too off topic here,  but does anyone know if cristiano ronaldo's son is mixed race?  i recently saw a picture of his son and he looks to be.  he's extremely adorable!  

Blackberry 1225 pts

@chocolate_girl I'm not sure....i'm surprised you even saw a picture he's pretty secretive about all thought. At one point he was calling the mother a surrogate .......I don't know what the deal is at all? H is portugese he can tan to very dark, by the end of the season, but also his family is quite fair skinned. Babies change in complexion a lot so who knows the raceof the mother. But then again if he mentioned anything about the mother the press would try and track her down again. I can respect his position.

Blackberry 1225 pts

Secretive about all that....

chocolate_girl 20 pts

 Blackberry thanks!  yeah, i googled the picture and the baby is so adorable.  but i started to wonder because of the babies features - a slightly rounder nose, definitely darker than his father, plus the baby has curly hair.  usually, for mixed race kids hair along with color reflects their african heritage. i'm not buying the 'surrogate' story.  he had a one night stand and payed her off, at least that's what i read in the british tabloids.  don't know how true it is, but Cristiano does not strike me as the type that would need a surrogate imho.  i am a HUGE soccer fan.  had a conversation with the xfinity cable guy about european football.  found out that he was a fan too.  i never feel out of place for my obsession with football and i don't have noble reasons for watcing it either.  many of the players are hotness itself plus soccer is an easy game to follow.  suits me just fine!  my favorite players are Yoann Gourcuff,  Alessandro Matri, Raul Albiol, Marco Borriello, and Johan Elmander.  i'll never be a WAG, but i can still dream!!!

ivanperonaamo 195 pts

 chocolate_girl  Blackberry As a football fan I can tell you this: is true that Cristiano is very secretive of his private life. But yes, it was rumored that it was the result of a one night stand, and that the mom is African-American. I've found 2 pics of the supposed mother:

http://www.cristianoronaldoportugal.info/wp-content/uploads/2010/10/cristiano1.jpg

http://www.comentemos.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/10/Cristiano-Ronaldo-y-la-mama-de-su-hijo-353x217.jpg

Blackberry 1225 pts

Bit more..... is that second picture of Mesut Ozil?! 

Toni_M 19968 pts moderator

 Blackberry Actually yes. I actually liked this gif of him. Admittedly he's a bit hit or miss with me in that department. Though most of the time he reminds me of a puppy.

Blackberry 1225 pts

Dude I'm a huge fan...my whole family got into soccer because my mother played in college and therefore we all played growing up. I started at five years old. I'm a total fan..got the ridiculously over priced cable package...and I too lied to stay home and watch the game and gone to sports bar in the middle of the night (when I lived in Australia) to catch the games. I don't have the jersey jinx...but I sit a certain way on the couch during penalty kicks.

 

True story: during the World Cup (the one in the US in the 90s) The tv my family was watching went out ...my brother knocked me, my mother and my grandmother over...shouting "everyman for himself...in the rush to get to another tv. He watched the last penalty kick of the finals and the rest of us had to catch the replay.

 

What idiot says women can't be soccer/sports fans...and I'm not sure what race has to with it either? 

 

Race: I do like that the sport is much more international in nature. Players from different countries routinely  play in different leagues. By contrast how many non-american play in football? In america its like...you're white and you want to play basketball? You're play and you want to play golf? Soccer really doesn't have that stigma. Soccer players all look different, have different names and speak different languages. There are also the national team games too!

 

Lastly, they are hot. But then again anyone who spends as much time running around as they do is bound to be quite fit! Oh and I like that the game isn't plagued by commercial breaks like other sports!

 

Escapedthefoolishness 276 pts

I'm a huge Man Utd fan. I've met many of the players and they're so cool! I actually get my hair trimmed in the same salon that Rio Ferdinand attends and it's amazing how down to earth he is. That being said I'm waiting for Utd to get back to their former glory. There was nothing more painful for me than seeing Man city walking around with that trophy!

Toni_M 19968 pts moderator

 Escapedthefoolishness That LAST MINUTE victory was absolutely unexpected. I think everyone had given it to Utd. at that point.

SirLoinDeBeef 2616 pts

What happens when ya like a sport that isn't in the common American culture? - if it's not American football, baseball, hockey or basketball, ya don't get to watch any + American folks 'look at you funny,' and edge away if you admit to liking other stuff.

I like fell running (European cross-country, no roads or tracks) - fencing (particularly saber) - full-contact, armored jousting (only within the last year might it be catching on here) - unrestricted sail-area sailing - pentathalon.

Thank Gawd for YouTube.

Noelle_Jaci 28 pts

YES! I've been a soccer fan all my 20 years. Never have I been so emotionally invested in a sport. It's the reason I picked my major in college. Yea, the guys are hot but just watching the beautiful game makes me giddy. Going to Manchester Utd matches are the highlight of my year. Can't wait for Euro to kick off and I can rock my Sergio Ramos kit for game days :)

jldrumm1 322 pts

OMG!  I love soccer.  Alessandro Del Piero, Fabio Canavaro, Fabio Quagliarella, Gattuso, I could go on and on.  I'm going to beat the "when I was in Italy horse" again.  I had the fortune of being in Italy during the 2010 world cup.  There is nothing like watching the game with a bunch of rowdy Italians, Brazilians, etc.  You literally can hear the yells of glee, groans, boos, and cursing from the apartment buildings and restaurants when Italy scored and when they didn't.  I tell you there was nothing like it.  Plus, the men are FINE and fit.   Woohoo.  Now I'm all riled up.  

shelly 28 pts

hey toni i think you should give the Bundesliga a chance. It is much more fun to watch than the EPL and La Liga. (it's Very fast pace!) and the games always have you on  the edge of ur seat.  they have some really good looking guys there too. Mats Hummels and a few others. 

Toni_M 19968 pts moderator

 shelly  I'm not sure if I have the attention span. XD I keep telling myself I'll give it a go, but then I forget.

 

Well, maybe next season I'll have a look at it and the Portuguese league. I keep hearing a lot of good things about Porto.

HarlemGirl 216 pts

You know, I think I will start watching foot ball to see what it is all about!

Toni_M 19968 pts moderator

 HarlemGirl The Euro Cup is coming up. Definitely a prime opportunity to check out the sport. :D

Takunda 36 pts

i like soccer, played it in high school but haven't been watching it since the world cup in S.A. but the guys are definately HOT!!! lol

 

this is way off- topic but i had to lol when i read it....

 http://now.msn.com/money/0518-man-30-kids-child-support.aspx

Shulamit 1986 pts

you're not the only one. I prefer soccer (football), tennis,rowing and rugby over american footbal or basketball. let's start a group. lol

p.s. I don't think its strange to like these things because we are black, I think it is strange because we are Americans. It is odd to have the love for these sports as Americans. Strange I know. :-)

Toni_M 19968 pts moderator

 Shulamit I know. It's just usually with being African American there's the double-whammy of something being doubly odd. For example preferring a foreign sport to domestic ones where POC dominate (NBA, NFL). 

Bren82 1390 pts

I'm not a football fan but after those clips, I just might reconsider!

SheThrives11 315 pts

Football players do have the best physiques: low fat to muscle ratio, washboard abs, square chin lines, broad-chested, etc :)

Karla00 382 pts

@SheThrives11 Agreed! Awesome bodies! However, their gaits tend to be a little off, hence the spiked shoes. Most of these guys walk on their toes. But their bodies are unbelievable!

Skayi 574 pts

I love the emotions, the screaming, and the roar of fans. I just love the football culture. Plus it isn't a violent sport. Its a thing of beauty.

 

Toni_M 19968 pts moderator

 Skayi True it's not like rugby or American football, but some of those tackles can be a bit scary since they go for the legs. Some of the falls/trips look a bit painful.

Karla00 382 pts

I'm from a British island so football "as we call it" is a huge part of most of our lives. Pure hotness! 

Toni_M 19968 pts moderator

 Karla00 I think for black non-American women, it's not quite as unusual as black-American; at least at the professional level.

 

Soccer is actually an intergal part of many childhoods. For some reason, unlike other sports, it's less important when it reaches a certain stage. 

 

I think it's because our country's professional sports arena is already very crowded, where as in most other countries it's all football, and other sports are a distant second.

Karla00 382 pts

@Toni_M We have plenty of other sports as well, cricket, netball, rugby, volleyball, etc. However, football gets everyone's blood pumping!

IntegratedMemoirs 342 pts

I was about to become very happy until I read you're talking about soccer. I'm from the south, and that's American football nation...BAMA!!!!

CherieMaria 838 pts

Hala Madrid! I love soccer, the players are so hot and the excitement of the game and the dedication of the fans in soccer just made me fall in love with it 2 world cups ago. I remember my roommate was looking at me funny when I was watching the Uefa championship semi finals; I was going crazy when Real Madrd lost to Bayern. But both teams have amazingly hot guys. It's going to be cool seeing Bayern play at home today, even though they beat RM I hope they win, I can't stand Chelsea lol

ivanperonaamo 195 pts

 CherieMaria Hala Madrid, Maria! As a Real Madrid supporter, that was a tough day for me. Anyway, we'll come back stronger next season, yup!

ann4950 732 pts

LOL, should I admit I watch wrestling and a little racing, ?

 

Toni_M 19968 pts moderator

 ann4950 Yes, yes you should. :D

Ndreea 75 pts

thats me when it comes to hockey lol watched last year's stanley cup and the year before lol my family thinks am nuts lol but hey they love american football but as a fellow african descent the men are more obsessed with football just like i am with hockey plus the guys aren't bad to look at  ;)

Toni_M 19968 pts moderator

 Ndreea Oooh, any comment on life as a black woman and hockey fan? I'd like to use it for a future article. :)

 

Basically: How'd you get into it. How long have you been a fan. And why "might you be crazy" for being a hockey fan. That last part can address anything from stereotypes to ways you are affected that would ordinarily drive someone away.

Ndreea 75 pts

 Toni_M

 i got into it in college i mean my state is big when it comes to sports but hockey just recently got recognized cause we won last year's cup. this will be my fourth year as a fan. i watched some college hockey but am more into the pro's and i even watch the world championship one that's being held in Finland. I guess am crazy cause a) i don't skate but what i think they do is incredible on the ice  b) cause am a total "girlie girl" but when it comes to hockey and ufc i get loud and emotional lol. as for stereotypes it's usually the looks when i wear my jersey lol especially from caucasian people black people just glance but that's it although when i went to an african event and we started talking about sports they were totally shocked lol they even started this whole debate about it being more dangerous than american football didn't care argued right back lol i mean what sport isn't dangerous. The good thing though is that my state is more liberal so to me it's awesome to find like minded people and talk about hockey in general the best part is when the guys are cute ;)  

mspbody 117 pts

@Toni_M @Ndreea I am a hockey fan and Detroit is known as "Hockeytown" ! Go Red Wings!!! Hockey players tend to be European or Canadian and well known in this area for swirling!!

Ndreea 75 pts

 mspbody  Toni_M  Ndreea  they are an awesome team btw the captain is amazing

ann4950 732 pts

 Ndreea  The first time I watched an entire hockey game was during the Winter Olympics at Lake Placid, New York. 

 

The United States team, made up of amateur and collegiate players and led by coach Herb Brooks, defeated the Soviet team, who had won nearly every world championship and Olympic tournament since 1954.

 

That game was considered one of the best in sports history

Ndreea 75 pts

 ann4950 oh i saw that documentary to me canada was literally creamed in that game lol

VickiMallory 23 pts

As someone who's played soccer into adulthood, I have always enjoyed the Europe and international leagues.  I never understood why it never caught on in the US, given that soccer is the a sport that many people have played throughout their childhood into adulthood.  I get the odd comments from people who think that I'm African because I watch matches like other people watch NFL games.  My interest has given me the opportunity connect with people from other country where soccer is VERY popular..and boy are they rabid about the sport as well.   Good post.

Law Wanxi 5934 pts

It's funny, but every time you really hit the nail all the way down to the wood in a single stroke like a master carpenter on a post, Toni, I think 'gooooooooolllllll!!!!!!!' like Andres Cantor. So much of what you write is so good, it happens several times a week.

 

Andres Cantor for those few people who are not familiar with him.  http://youtu.be/8AMIrxx3gx8

Toni_M 19968 pts moderator

 Law Wanxi I admit I tend to watch games with Spanish commentators if I can because they make the game sound so much more exciting, and the GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL! It's contagious. I tend to tweet or write that if my team scores because some how it doesn't seem write just putting down a single "O".

 

But as far as saying it, I wonder: Do these guys ~practice~? Are there breathing exercises you have to do to hold the "O"? XD

TheFrocker 38 pts

 Toni_M  Law Wanxi I only watch soccer (okay, okay... FOOTBALL) with Spanish commentators. They make everything so damn exciting. I wish I could hire one to narrate my life. "And Monika gets on the Metro just before the doors close! GOLASOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO ASO ASO ASOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!! She won't be late for work today!" (in espanol, of course)

edenifill 112 pts

I am a proud footy fan (I play too). I'm glad I'm not the only one. BTW, I hope you're watching the Champions League final in 2 1/2 hours. I'm not rooting for Chelsea! 

 

It is "The Beautiful Game" for a reason! 

 

BTW, men with strong legs are a turn-on!

Toni_M 19968 pts moderator

 edenifill GO BAYERN! They may have broken my heart regarding Real Madrid's 10th, but it will be eye-rollingly unbearable if Chelsea takes it. Considering that Bayern have %1000 home field advantage maybe it will help. This didn't help Man United last year but who knows? It could work out. I WANT it to work out.

Veron 1412 pts

Have you ever heard of Dieux Du Stade?  The calendar where a bunch of hot, muscled, beefcakey rugby players pose with nothing but a rugby ball covering their junk (sometimes not even that)?  In 2009, they expanded their model pool to European "soccer" players, and all was right with the world... if not homoerotic.

 

What I think I'm saying here is that I only like soccer for the beefcake, and I'm out there making all the female diehards look TERRIBLE through my unfettered objectification of these sexy, muscled, well oiled, ball-playing beasts. Ugh.

Toni_M 19968 pts moderator

 Veron Yes to the first question and no to the second, actually. I wasn't aware.

 

I think there are female soccer fans and female fans of soccer players. I doesn't bother me at all that there are women who find these guys attractive. Especially the ELITE athletes who often have bodies that look like they were carved by Michelangelo. If you are a woman who likes guys and you have functioning eyes, you're gonna look. It's just a matter of whether you don't care about the sport and just think the guys are hot or whether you can both enjoy the sport and think the guys are hot. I'll go on record as saying that I think heterosexual women who enjoy soccer who happen to NOT get a "girl boner" over rather attractive athletes are rare.

 

I think the problem is that women are conditioned to ignore physical traits in men to the extent that men are encouraged to make female body parts a big deal. If women "ogle" men, there is something wrong with them. Their motives are questioned. The irony is that I suspect the people who say this are speaking from their own twisted perspective: Unable to see women as anything other than objects, so everyone else must be just like them.