Black women are not working where the eligible men are also working. The result: black women have fewer opportunities for ‘dating, mating, and relating’ (hat tip to Chris for the phrase) men who are interested in the same. The result of the result? Black women have lower rates of marriage, in part because of our career choices.
From Opting Out by Maya A. Beasley:
Bowen and Bok’s seminal work on the life experiences and life outcomes of college adults at elite universities (1998) shows that African American and white students occupy career sectors in very different proportions. For example, while 76 percent of the white male graduates they tracked were working in the private sector, only 67 percent of black men and 48 percent of black men did so. Instead, African American graduates were disproportionately working in government or non-profit sectors–34 percent of black men and 52 percent of black women relative to 24 percent white men and 39 percent of white women.
Every so often one of the ladies here says they are not meeting non-black men who are interested in dating them. Now those ladies have a hint as to why that may be so: you work for the Department of Health and Human Services while many of the men you should be dating are working at Deloitte and Touche.
If you’re trying to catch fish, go where the fish are jumping. If your trying to catch a man, go where the men are working.
This just one way to meeting eligible men. You have to travel, expand your interests, take up new hobbies, read everything, go to different restaurants, expand your social circle, hang out at museums, go to different movies,(like independent films), take a class in something, whatever. Develop a sense of wonder. Meeting non-black men (excuse me, but I find the term, 'rain beau' a tad strange) will take a bit more work, but it will be worth it.
Let me also point out that some of us are working for ourselves at home, so the opportunity to meet anyone is not there unless I go outside. I've met guys everywhere so I would say to the ladies out there that perhaps your career and where you work is fine, and that branching out a little better in other aspects in your life might be in order.
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