Grammy-nominated R&B singer Keyshia Cole and her husband Daniel “Boobie” Gibson, a basketball player for NBA team the Cleveland Cavaliers, recently admitted that even as newlyweds it takes a lot of hard work to make a marriage successful.
Married since May of 2011, the couple had already had a son, who was slightly older than a year when the ceremony took place.
In an interview with Essence.com Daniel spoke about how marital counseling helped he and Keyshia weather the storms in their still nascent marriage: “At first, I didn’t believe in it. I’m a strong Christian, so I believed that, like, you go to God and you fix it and you pray about it, but sometimes you do need a different opinion.”
The belief that “Jesus is all you need to get your through” is, unfortunately, a common one in the black community. While a healthy spiritual life does help reduce stress and provide a believer with a social support system in the form of other believers, there are times when professional help may be absolutely necessary in order to come to grips with deep-seated issues.
Keyshia, for her part, admits to anger issues. “Once I get upset, there’s kind of no turning back,” the singer explained. “He knows that that’s not fair, and I know that’s not fair. Sometimes I really get caught up in my emotions and I’m really good at it. So, like our psychiatrist says, I have to try to do ‘the unnatural thing.’ So, I’m trying.”
And it’s good think that Keyshia acknowledges her anger problem and is working to solve it. We’ve all seen what can happen when a black woman lets her emotions run away from her.
A man and a woman who are committed to each other–committed enough to attend therapy–is something that viewers and fans enjoy seeing. Cole and Gibson’s reality show, ‘Keyshia & Daniel: Family First’ is the #1 new reality series debut telecast on cable in 2012 among total viewers and adults.
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