Comments on: Mammy, The Mule and Equally Yoked: Black Women As Tools of the Trade Chronicles, Musings and Debates about Interracial & Intercultural Relationships Tue, 13 Mar 2018 20:35:49 +0000 hourly 1 By: Shawnna Thu, 27 Dec 2012 23:47:32 +0000 From Yahoo Education Dictionary:
Definition of yoke-
“A crossbar with two U-shaped pieces that encircle the necks of a pair of oxen or other draft animals working together.”
As Blanc2 pretty much stated, animals of equal kind or size were yoked together for easier transport.  They were yoked (attached) together so they could be moved easier.  Right now, you wouldn’t yoke (attach) a pit bull with a chihuahua and expect them to get around easily.  One’s size and strength would overpower the other, not to mention they’d both be very miserable and uncomfortable.  
To be equally yoked means to be equally attached.  Can the term possibly mean more than transporting animals?  Can the term possibly mean more than reducing a woman to a mule, (and if she’s just a mule, what does that make the man she’s attached to?)   Of course it does!
Being equally yoked (attached) means aligning yourself with another who complements you, makes your journey easier…(note, I didn’t say easy, cause aint nobody’s journey easy).  Again, to loosely quote Blanc2, aligning yourself with one who allows you “to plow a straight line”.  
The sister who holds herself in high regard and carries herself well will do herself a favor by yoking (attaching) herself to a man who does the same.  Likewise, a down and out DBR woman with the lowest of standards will most likely be right at home with a man in the same situation.

By: Lady A Thu, 27 Dec 2012 23:30:22 +0000 Great read, wish I could post it on some of these forums that consist of said women you mentioned, but I don’t feel like being bothered lol.

By: tracyreneejones Thu, 27 Dec 2012 22:36:05 +0000 Yoke and yolk..TWO DIFFERENT WORDS….I’ll be handing out cookies at the end of this writing exercise to anyone who can comprehend that my writing is not standard (I’d die first) nor is every misspelling or misuse of a word ACCIDENTAL. Read my poem titled Active Voice if you need more help understanding this writer’s lack of respect for standard grammar. THIS IS WHY I’M DOPE…. and referring to myself in the third person which is an additional sign of my genius. 🙂

By: dani-BBW Thu, 27 Dec 2012 22:35:55 +0000 @Toni_M I think the “prosperity gospel” movement was an effort to try and correct the idea, stemming back to the Middle Ages, that religion and Christianity meant burden and deprivation, struggle and gloom. In an effort to balance that out, the pendulum swung way too far in the opposite direction, that God wants everyone to be happy (and rich) and if you aren’t, it’s because you’re doing something wrong. I don’t care for either extreme.

By: tracyreneejones Thu, 27 Dec 2012 22:31:17 +0000 @Blanc2 I’ sure everyone who is familiar with the term is aware that its derive from the Bible. Regardless of what the intention of the word/phrase meant its clear that words develop and take on different meanings. Yoke and Yolk are two different words; glad you noticed, I used the same word for my comparison because of the implied meaning. Hope that clears things up.

By: Blanc2 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 22:22:22 +0000 It’s derived from the Bible, I think the book of Corinthians(?).  The phrase has to do with the concept that a Christian person should only marry another Christian person.
In agriculture, a plow pulled by two oxen that are equally yoked will go in a straight line, whereas yoking two unequal animals, such as an ox and a mule, will make plowing in a straight line difficult.
Translating that concept to Christianity, if both members of the couple are Christians, they will be able to move the family in a straight line, on the path of Christ.
The phrase has been over-used and mis-used in recent times, but its origin makes a lot of sense.
The yellow part of an egg is a “yolk”, not a “yoke”.  Different etymology.