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Matthew Hussey Answers BB&W Relationships Questions: “What’s the best way to strike up a conversation?”
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Law Wanxi
Under small talk, try to skip "What do you do?" Men see that as the 'Wallet Biopsy', which, of course, it is.
"I'm a physician" gets a much different reaction than "I work in a hospital." Way different. Mention of doctor-ness gets the lick-the-lips, fluff the hair, self-touching response. The other one brings out women's hidden teleportation capabilities. They twinkle and fade, just like the old 'Star Trek'.
I realise women have to vet, but frankly, at least for me, I'm weary of being seen as an ATM with legs.It's bad enough to actually be one, IRL, without being constantly reminded of it.
Brenda55
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Law Wanxi
Oh now Wanxi. I married a wealthy man who as it turned out was never made to feel like a human ATM.
Sure I vetted. Knew his level of education, where he was from, what he did for a living, past relationships and marriages, his family, lifestyle, values you name it. I found out what I needed to know to to make the decision that he would be a good catch. I just did not know that there were far more zeros after the number representing his net worth. The number quoted was in line with his profession.
He kept the true extent of his assets hidden until after he proposed and revealed the extent of his holdings and pending holdings during our engagement. Of course by then I had been thoroughly vetted and "wallet biopsied" so that he, and his family, knew the woman he was marrying was not a "precious metals excavator" looking for a money pump.
When it comes to money it is best to stay on the DL.
Pearl Rose
He's hot.
Tropicslady
I wonder. How does that work? Say hi and get back to talking to your friends....I doubt a guy is gonna try and take you away from your group to talk some more after you say hi and then turn away from him. He's probably busy doing his own thing.
Are we supposed to take our group to a guy standing by himself and then say hi and turn back to your friends?
Am I making sense with my question?
Wakawaka
Great tips. I was reading the book "The Rules" which my friends recommended (they swore by it and say it works) and Rule #2 says to never ever talk to a man first. I find this rule extreme and sometimes when I go out and I see a cute guy I am usually so tempted to start a conversation but I think I will settle with smiling and looking friendly. Plus it truly feels great when a guy actually puts the effort to actively seek me out and strike a conversation rather than me doing it, it shows that he really is interested and willing to put in the work.
Micky Stew
Ok, I could have sworn I typed "GREAT" video, not "GAT" video. He looks a lot like the pics of your husband. Sorry about that. If I saw someone I was interested in I would never say anything first because I am just too shy. Now, I can bat my lashes and smile, but beyond that I would freeze up.
ASwirlGirl
I definitely believe in doing more than just the usual when initially meeting someone or trying to engage them in conversation. I try to pick something out about the person and use that after the initial hellos: "I really like your shirt; it makes your blue eyes pop," or, "You smell nice! What cologne are you wearing?" It makes me chuckle because in almost every case when I make a comment like that, the guy blushes first, then beams - and then heads straight into conversation.
Micky Stew
Great video. However, the music was somewhat loud and drowned out your voices. Question: Isn't he your husband? If not, he looks a lot him. Very handsome!
Christelyn
moderator
Micky Stew No that's not my husband--Matthew is 14 years younger than me. My husband does have the same hair color and eye color though.
Law Wanxi
Micky Stew
Cosign on the music sound level. No music would be better after the intro.
He's not her husband, except during certain phases of REM sleep.
As for the 14-year younger thing, well, uh, let's dip into the Dream Journal.........
......Matthew is a recently transferred student in a high school in Temecula. Because of his accent and quiet reserve, he's having problems adjusting to school life and has few friends this early in the school year, which is affecting his studies, even in AP Calculus. His kind and concerned teacher, Ms. Karazin, asks him to stay after class.
"Matthew, I notice you're having problems with trigonometric identities in differentiation. Maybe you and I could work together after school. You know I want to help you any way I can..."
"Crikey, Ms. Karazin, can you make me super at maths?"
"When it's just us, Matthew, you can call me Christelyn....."
Cue the saxophone background while dream progresses.
You know, THAT dream.
Christelyn
moderator
Law Wanxi Micky Stew Okay, same video sans the music, as you command, my lord. ;-)
Law Wanxi
Christelyn Micky Stew
Back to post-prod.
You still have the solo piano from about 2:03 to approximately 3:18. Leave the lead-out when you fade to end titles because it works. The lead-in titles are short and don't need music.
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Christelyn, well spill it. Is Matthew single AND does he date IR?
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