Here’s an article that will raise your blood pressure–in a good way. Writer Arielle Loren, publisher of Corset magazine, wrote about her mind-blowing experience doing “the grown up” with a rainbeau in Ebony, of all places!! (I guess adding some fresh blood over yonder is actually helping a bit!) She also mentioned “Swirling’s” chapter on sex, written by my writing partner, Janice Rhoshalle Littlejohn. Here’s a sneak peek into the chapter:
My first time with this White kid from Jersey was intense. The sex was focused primarily on my pleasure, and he wasnâ€™t lacking in anyway to be able to deliver it. But it did make me reflect on why I had limited myself for so long to just having sex and dating Black men or never challenging the popular stereotypes.
Janice Rhoshalle Littlejohn, co-author of the soon-to-be released “Swirling: How to Date, Mate, and Relate Mixing Race, Culture, and Creed“, put it best in the chapter called, â€œLetâ€™s Talk About Sex â€¦ and Stereotypesâ€:
â€œWe think we have evolved into new-millennium modern-day thinkers, but black women all over the country, regardless of education and socioeconomic status, are living with age-old ideas when it comes to our consideration of the ideal sexual partner. We yearn to embrace our sexual bliss, and yet have allowed what our mothers, grandmothers, aunties, and sister-friends have said about â€œthemâ€ keep us from pursuing something new. We know how hard it is to fight against the stereotypes of black women as lascivious, innately promiscuous, and even predatory, deviantsâ€” and yet we feel more than justified in projecting our own labels on others, unfairly sizing up men and defining their capabilities between the sheets (or lack thereof) based on what so-and-so- said instead of considering the realities of the individual that just might be the guy who can makes your toes curl.â€
This is a great sign if Ebony’s willing to give swirling a chance. har har har