“My First Time with a White Guy” Ebony.com Feature Mentions “Swirling!”

There are sexually selfish men in all races but  I have to agree without saying a whole lot  that from my experience that it was the WM  I encountered that are more focused on the woman's pleasure than their own. No complaints here.  And we as black women give give give so much, to have someone making our pleasure a priority is a good thing!!

I saw the most fascinating show on Science Channel this evening called 'Why is Sex Fun' all about the female orgasm. I caught it halfway through but the part I saw as interesting. Women are capable of thinking themselves to orgasm so for us our brain is the most important part of orgasming. They're doing lots of studies about the vaginal orgasm which exists but it's not exactly a spot like g-spot. The other was that women being in love made for the best quality orgasm, you had to be in love not lust. Women have more orgasms with men they find attractive and that usually women find men with symmetrical faces more attractive but I'd heard that before. That here orgasm is something has biologically evolved, it's a genetic reward for choosing an attractive mate, you know one she can bear the healthiest children with. If I see again, I'll have to watch the full show. That part was totally interesting. That women's orgasm last longer than men, men on average have 6 seconds, women 20 seconds and orgasm is the point where the most points in our brains are firing at once. Didn't get to hear anything about male penis size being a factor but who knows. Hey I say sex with someone you love is the best sex of all. 

OK I’ve got to tell all of you the story about the gambler back in the old west. He would take bets on anything. One day he rode into town and stopped in the saloon for a beer and steak. The local card shark asked if he would like to join the card game, but the gambler said “no, I don't really have the time. However, I will offer you a wager if you are interested. The card shark says "wager on what?" The gambler says" I'll wager everything on that table I can make any horse in town laugh." Well of course, everybody wanted some of that action and got in on the wager. Everybody knows horses can't laugh! The gambler goes out to the horse they showed him, walks up to the animal and whispers something in its ear. A few seconds later, the horse is rolling on its back laughing so hard it lasted for ten minutes. All the men asked the gambler what he told the horse, he says “I told him I have a bigger pecker than he does.” The gambler gets his money, thanks the men for being good sports and rides out of town. Two months later, the gambler comes back through town going back home. He stops in the same saloon, has a steak and beer and asks the card shark if he would like a chance to win his money back. Everybody says “yes very much so.” He says “I’ll wager I can make that very same horse cry like a baby.” Everybody laughed and said “we’ll take that bet, nobody can make a horse cry like a baby!” The gambler goes out to the same horse and in a few minutes they heard something crying like a baby. They all ran outside, and the horse was lying on the ground crying, like a baby. Everybody again asked how he did it. The gambler simply says “I showed him.”

Wow!  I'm gone for a day and look what happens!  I like it!

What I've read is the average black guy is 7 inches and the average non black guy is 6 inches. So on average it's not that much different. The smallest guy I ever dated was a black guy. Literally thumb size. I've seen babies that were more blessed. I have noticed that African guys can be a lot larger. Up to 14 inches in my experience. I don't like more than 8 myself. I'd like to keep my cervix intact, thank you very much.

I've dated every race. In my experience black men have been the most selfish on average. Refusing to perform oral sex but expecting a BJ. Some of the ones that are willing to perform oral sex rush through it and are done before you can even get into it. One black guy I was with for 8 years was a master at it. So of course it varies. The most selfish individual that I ever met was an Indian. He would not perform oral. But felt like a woman didn't really love him if she wasn't willing to swallow. We never actually went on that first date after all of that came out.

The main difference I've noticed with black men is that they are so aggressive sexually. They talk about wanting to beat it up. Brag about hitting it so hard that the woman couldn't walk. Complain about women running back on their elbows and how they should just take it like a big girl.

I had a co-worker tell me that she will tell a new lover that if she's sore the next day he will not be getting a repeat performance. The last black guy I was with I actually asked him who he was angry with? He was 10 inches and coming with that attitude. To be fair he was receptive and changed his style when I talked to him about it.

I've never had a non black man announce a goal of beating it up so bad that I won't be able to walk. Or have sex like he's pissed off at the world and taking it out on my goodies.

I wish I had gotten in on this conversation a lot sooner! The largest men I've ever been with were white. One of them was mixed. The smallest man I've ever been with was also mixed. Regardless of color, going downtown is not an option. Take the ride or hit the door!

Whoo-hoo for my JPC Family!  We doin big things over here!  Jet actually featured a lesbian couple in their wedding announcements a few months ago.

So all of you guys go to Ebony.com and don't forget to subscribe!

Reading the comments make me laugh. You ladies are so wrong and naughty is just too right!!! LOL

It's all relative though.

Some women are into size - and I salute them it's never really been a preference of mine. 

Others are into the full experience. 

I really don't buy into the black men are huge thing, but similarly, have from my own experience noticed that they there can be a bit more girth.

That said though, you have to really be careful with this stereotyping. I have had some rather nasty shocks. I have had to kick out more that 2 white guys for not declaring their full enormous size status; I have my limits people!!!!

My white girlfriend told me that the most selfish lover that she ever had was a black man. I have no desire to ever have sex with another black man in this lifetime.

Ah yes, this post is right up my alley. Like some of you other commenters, I've never been with a black man and I know for sure that I'm not missing out on a damn thang. When I was with my man on Saturday night I was begging him to stop because I wasn't sure I could handle what he was puttin' on me without passing out ;-). Yes, most of the time when we do the "grown up" that man makes me light-headed. Afterward I have to sit for maybe five minutes before I'm able to get up and walk without hitting the floor, hahaha!!!

when it comes to sex ,seduction & lovemaking i will say this:

those who can,DO.

those who can't,BRAG.

;-)

.....quietly thinking back of  an affair i had in the 90's (don't worry, i told my husband.)

one was with a white male stripper....curved like a banana.....couldn't think straight for a week....let alone walk...and to think i just got back from seeing "The Bodygaurd" too....