New FB Trend: “I Love Black Girls!”

Yay! It's Sunday anyway. Sunshnz

PNW: Pacific Northwest

"A woman who knows how to speak her mind, takes care of business, doesn’t take $h!t from anyone, puts it down like it’s nobody’s business, and looks sexy the whole time doing it."

I don't understand your comment. Can you explain what you mean when you say that BW don't take sh!t from anyone and put it down like it is nobody's business?

That is one stereotype of BW that keeps non-black men who may be interested in getting to know a BW for a serious relationship (not just sex) from trying. Sounds like you think that BW are basically men with curves.

" Sounds like you think that BW are basically men with curves."

I agree, the desription above does sound quite "mannish". Personally, I love relishing in my femininity instead of being the imitation of a man. There may be some BW out there that fit that description, but we're not all that way.

O.K girls, I'm only a white guy, but I can tell you that the one thing a guy values most in a girl is her femininity, gentleness and sweetness. I know this is a stereotype of all women but that's what guys like. We aren't very receptive to statements like, "Yo, white boy, what you lookin' at me for. I'll come over there and slap you upside your head." Usually delivered with the volume of a Wagnerian Tenor, embarrassing everybody within five blocks. This wasn't directed at me, but I felt very sorry for the guy who dared to look at a pretty black girl. You can guess it will be awhile before he looks at a BW again.

Yeah...there's a certain page I just wanted to wreck the place, you know, like when Jesus threw all the merchants out of the temple.

Girls of any color are usually very intuitive. I think most could tell if a WM just had a case of Jungle Fever. But not too many years ago BW took it for granted that that was the only reason a WM would ask them out. It stands to reason that some of those guys were sincere about liking then.

Hi David:

Thank you for your comment. I find it amazing that some WM still have this negative image of BW. I mean, REALLY! Considering that every bit of debuchary imagined in their minds of BW can also be applied across the board to any ethnicity. I think a lot of these negative images are a remnant of the past when society prohibited mixing of ethnicities. Imagination is quite powerful especially in the absence of truth! With that said, BW are like any other woman; afterall we are from the same planet (smile)! I am sure you can attest to this.

Pamela

they don't see classy, accomplished, well mannered black women as the norm but as the exception based on what movies, music videos and tv shows tell them. People need to wake up in general...

this is why i screen men, if i see that he has some form of ebony fantasy going on...i cease all contact and block him!

You have an excellent point...many are just faking the funk for their limited view of black women's sexuality or the stereotypes. This also goes for Asian and Indian men as well in some cases. It seems to be changing on some level. Just bears knowing oneself and being clear about what you seek and ensuring that you are treated with respect and balance.

Sounds like his friends are just tying to discourage him.

Agreed.

GURL, YOU BETTA!! And if he's on FB, have him friend me, and I WILL HOOK HIM UP. That's just BS, poor thing. Tell him to come to Mama. ;-)

Of course those "friends" want to convince him no BW would be interested in him. Sounds like the same types that also say WM aren't interested in BW.

A white guy friend of mine from high school attended a HBCU. Where he met (and eventually married after college) his lovely black wife!

Definitely. Point him to Christelyn's site AND advise him to find some new friends with a more positive outlook.

Fresh meat in the 18-22 range? YES PLEASE

I like how he said his family was aware of his preference. My family's been aware of mine since I was 3 and crushing on another 3 year old white boy in my preschool. I guess I took it for granted that my folks were fine with my white boyfriends.

I'm not a bit surprised. This has been going on secretly since I was in high school-------and that was a looonnng time ago. Prejudice will probably always exist in some form or other, but as long as boys and girls like each other, color and race will fade as important factors. When you think about it, it's a pretty superficial drawback not to be able to openly like someone because her skin color is a shade darker than yours. But it is fantastic that we white guys can now openly admire any girl we find attractive. I can only wish I had been born a little later. But at least the world is over this foolishness and a new generation of people can be with whom they want to be with.

no i meant a shirt proclaiming "I love (insert race) girls" exists period. I've never ever seen a shirt like that in my life!

Ohh. Sorry. But I think its really about non-BM's support of BW in particular. So many of us WM find BW attractive that we want you to know it and not think we're just inflicted with Jungle Fever. BW can think, and have been told by so many in the BC, that A WM is just after the quick roll-in-the-hay, when in fact he may be quite serious. Not all WM of course, but more than you might think. I think we just want you to know.

Hey Debbie, ehr, I mean Niki! I know what you mean, and that's why I specifically didn't mention those scuzzy FB pick-up joints posing as IRR fan pages. I was specifically talking about the shirts and pics I seen dudes share on there profile pictures. I expect more from these groups too, they really are gross. Proud to say mine is oh-so-clean and oh-so-fresh. ;-)

Hmm...maybe Debbie could be my alias and I can have a fake FB profile like all the people in those groups. Aha! I have found the solution!!

On a positive note, I do like that fact that so many men are not hiding their appreciation for black women and that there are great venues (ahem, BeyondBlackandWhite.com, ahem) that showcase positive examples of IRR. Reading Eugenia's story today was wonderful and kind of gives my bitter ass some hope :)

No need to be a 'bitter ass' LOL but there ain't nothing wrong with a little suspicion as long it don't turn into paranoia. ;)

Would it be too much to ask what the names of these groups on FB are? :-)

My husband and I went to the African Arts Fair in Chicago a few weeks ago. I thought we'd be the only bw/wm couple there. OMG was I wrong! I saw more than I had ever seen in one location. It was so cute. And I don't know about the other couples/families, but I didn't sense any hostility or strange looks from anyone. If anything, we got a few smiles and a few folks wanting to dance with our two year old. I kind of think now that only a minority of vocal black folks are protesting loudly online and in segregated enclaves. But in the real world, swirling is booming and I don't see lots of people caring. Could it be because we were among artists and musicians at the fair so we got a good vibe? Who knows. But, I was pleasantly surprised and thinking, "Good! Maybe some women here need to see some white dudes going with their black wives/girlfriends partaking in the African Arts party!"

Yea Lili, I'm not sure but in my real life things are changing. PNW is swirl central and Seattle is a hub of interracial dating/mating but when I first showed up here in 1992 the bw in this town were 'nothing but a brotha' disciples, while bm were not even concerned. That has been turned on it's ear, bw all over this place are with wm and other non-bm and I can't say I notice many bm/non-bw couples but maybe I don't care to pay them any attention.

I'll be frank about the fact that, as a BW, that is what I remember about visiting there. I have platonic friends of other races that live there and really enjoy it, but that's something I'd struggled with whenever I visited them.