An Open Letter to Kim Kardashian Regarding Her Preggo News

An Open Letter to Kim Kardashian Regarding Her Preggo News

Hey Kimmie,

I heard you were knocked up a couple days ago when your boo of only eight months, Kanye West, announced that his 5,000+ audience pay homage to his “baby mama.” I’m assuming he gave that title to you, as you are the carrier of the Kanye spawn…

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Hey Kimmie,

I heard you were knocked up a couple days ago when your boo of only eight months, Kanye West, announced that his 5,000+ audience pay homage to his “baby mama.” I’m assuming he gave that title to you, as you are the carrier of the Kanye spawn.

Before I go on, I want you to know that I have nothing against you personally–I think you are quite beautiful and financially savvy (plus I spend hours in the mirror trying to get your smokey-eye look). But I want you to know that your newly-crowned status of “baby mama” will most likely have a ripple effect in the black community like nothing you’ve ever imagined.

Did you know that 80% of black children are born to mothers that are unmarried to the fathers? Most them aren’t as wealthy as you and Kanye, and many of the children of such situations will suffer from poverty, drop out of high school, use drugs, get caught up in the penal system, and make babies with other folks when they are not financially and psychologically prepared to raise them. Like many of these women who also are not wives or life partners, but “baby mamas,” you are now the honorary ‘Queen of the Baby Mamas,’ and young black girls far and wide will look to you as the shining beacon of baby-mamadom.

It blows my mind that people with as many resources as you and Kanye have could have this pregnancy occur by accident–you know where babies come from, right? Plus, no shade, but I’ve heard you enjoy all the “practicing,” which leads me to believe you and Mr. West did this on purpose, and that is your right, because in this country anyone, no matter how inept, selfish, narcissistic, insane, ill-tempered and unprepared, there’s no law to preclude anyone from making babies. But you know what’s funny (not in the ha-ha way but in the sad, that’s-a-damn-shame way?) While REAL black women have children outside of marriage and are seen as used, damaged goods by the very same men who themselves have out-wedlock-children, nothing you will ever do will be wrong in that regard.

Kanye was raised by his dearly-departed mother and was reportedly abandoned by his father when he was just three years old–and it shows. While his mother made sacrifice after sacrifice, Kanye is flippant about black women, and wrote a song about gold-diggers–did you hear it? But of course, you’re not a gold digger, typically only dark-skinned black women are called that name. Nothing you will ever do will upset your trophy status, you are the source of millions of black boys’ wet dreams.  You in all your glory, have replaced the black women as the standard of beauty for the black man. And since you have mega-millions of your own money, I’m sure it will hurt less if or when Kanye moves on to someone with less stretch marks. I think my friend Kola Boof said it best:

A few years ago, Kanye West and Jamie Foxx had a huge hit with a song about Gold diggers. This caused, at last, a music video that focused on beautiful child-bearing age Black women—the Black Man’s mother. At the end of the song Kanye announced, “I’m going to leave you for a White Woman!” And all of Black America and the White Pop music world laughed, applauded, cheered and drove the song to #1 on the charts—despite the fact that almost none of today’s rich and famous Black men being exploited for their money are getting bilked by Black women.

Wait!! Will Kanye insist on a DNA test to ensure that he doesn’t provide 18 years of support to a child that’s not his, like he talks about in his video? No? He only meant that for the black ‘hood boogers?’ Oh, okay.

I’m not going to spend any sleepless nights worrying about your little bun, because with all the resources you have–a close knit family and buckets of money–I’m sure your child will be more than fine, especially if he/she takes after you in the looks department.

But just know that as the newly-crowned ‘Queen of the Baby Mamas,’ there will be young girls and women with markedly less resources and more melanin than you that will follow in your footsteps, because HEY! “If Kimmy K can do it, so can I!!”

 

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bigapplestyle 10 pts

Although I understand the general message of this "open letter", I can't help but say "I think 'thou protesteth too much'".

 

First: No matter how many ppl emulate K & K, it's not THEIR responsibility to teach an entire community how to be. Where has Kim K ever said that she wants to be a role model? And Kayne is such a HAM, anyone emulating him deserves to get their butt metaphorically kicked by life. The high incidence of unwed mothers in the AA community is not dependent upon whichever hapless woman decides to hook up with Kanye, and Kim K is (outside of showing how to parlay NOTHING [a sex tape] into SOMETHING [financial empire]) no role model of morality for any woman regardless of race.

 

Two: Throwing shade at their suspect relationship ends up sounding more like jealousy than serious concern for either partner or their unborn child. Those are two lost souls who both have managed to acquire enough money to ultimately insulate themselves from the reality that most of us live in. So, attempting to throw rocks at them isn't really going to accomplish anything. It DOES however come off as bitterness and/or jealousy which is so obvious through the writer's tone that even someone who's been living as a hermit for the past ten years with no knowledge of K&K would clearly read through this letter.

 

There were unwed mothers & baby mama/daddy's before K&K and there will be afterwards. I DO NOT believe that K&K will create an uptick in the rate of underaged pregnancies. The only thing that can be sure to happen is the increase in the names Kim, Kanye and whatever ridiculous name those two decide to give their unborn child.

Brenda55 20939 pts moderator

Well heck how is KK & K gonna top this?  Beyonce has been voted the sexist women of the 21 century by GQ magazine

 

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http://www.salon.com/2013/01/09/gq_names_beyonce_sexiest_woman_of_the_century/

DeepWater 2519 pts

Hey, er'body:

 

I wish Courtney's, Chloe's and Kim's father Robert Kardashian was still alive.  He would have never supported any of this families' behavior.   I remember him from the 80s as well as  from the OJ Simpson's Dream Team in '95, a brilliant legal mind.   This mess this family portrays would have, I doubt, never been accepted had he still been with us, died of cancer, I remember him well.  

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DeepWater 2519 pts

 kia   True that, Kia.   In relation to what's happening with "the family clan", I still think had he'd been alive the level of narcissism would not be quite as strong as it is currently.

browniegirl360 205 pts

She will never be what you consider a baby mama, black men have reserved that title for black women....I have nothing against her or him period...white privilege will keep her protected...

BrokenHeartNSoul13 122 pts

Somebody grew up in retard-ville somewhere! Don't people notice that everytime a black woman gets pregnant she usually ends up a single black mother, (f she isn't already which is usually the case) at the time of her pregnancy? Kim is an idiot, and she is gross!! Black men are gross and most are not good people even when they are rich and "successful." She is a moron, i donot look up to her! YUCK!

Brenda55 20939 pts moderator

 BrokenHeartNSoul13 Ahhhh don't you think you're painting with a pretty broad brush? 

BrokenHeartNSoul13 122 pts

 Brenda55 Hi Brenda, no, i'm not painting with a broad brush, i'm telling the truth. Look at reality, black women are always walking around with kids and no man is in sight unless its the "baby daddy." Rarely its a husband or someone that really loves the woman. 

 

I kind of agree with BrokenHearNSoul mainly the part about being required to want a man because you share the same skin color. A lot of black women have fallen victim to that rhetoric. It's common knowledge that dating a man because he's of anothe race isn't going to be a miracle worker, but dating a man because he's black and I'm black and that's reason I shouldn't give up on him isn't working either. Im waiting on the day black women will wake up from that coma.

 

Also we don't have to jump to the defense of black manhood all the time, we don't even like to carry our own burden as black women so why do we feel the need to carry everyone else's? That's not beneficial either. We're not apart of everything black male and everything black male is NOT apart of us. Cold hard truth but it's true. No one should paint others with broad generalization based off personal experiences as none of us have met every single person on the planet (which would be impossible). I know I don't like seeing black women painted like that, matter of fact when we assume more black women are babymamas, mammy/jezebel,OOW birth making machines etc those are BROAD GENERALIZATIONS as well and do you think black men wil run to our defense and protect our womanhood? No, shoot most black women don't even do it. But no generalizing isn't cool.

 

However, black women are allowed to vent, we're allowed to not want for whatever reason it may be without feeling reluctant to because we might anger certain groups or people. Sometimes some of us need to be more politically correct about it but other than that it's human nature. I was bullied as a kid horribly by mainly black  people and I carried a long hard grudge towards my own race for a while. As a grown woman it's not completely gone but I know how to not paint everyone with the same brush but I also know not to have the "I'm black and they're black" mentality so I must be docile about it.

BrokenHeartNSoul13 122 pts

I was never bullied as a kid by blacks, i was bullied by different people. I just never liked black men and i never felt any desire for them. I honestly think they are ugly and gross and i don't feel anything sexual or romantic for them. I don't believe a man is required to like me just because our skin color, hair texture or facial structures might be the same and vice versa.

BrokenHeartNSoul13 122 pts

I think its pathetic and irritating when black women are with a man because they think they are required or obligated to be with him based on skin color. Not because they actually like or love him, that's a msierable way to live.       I will be with a man i desire and love, not a man that I think is ugly and gross and oh i'm just going to be with him so that other blacks don't get mad that i'm not doing what's required of me! LOL Hell no I am not going to be with someone i donot want.

HearMyTruths 6 pts

@BrokenHeartNSoul13 @Brenda55 Maybe he's at that thing called work! Kinda like the white woman and the stay at home father. Yeah, your brush is too broad for such a small canvas. But then again your soul is broken, everything looks awfully bleak to you .

BeautyIAM 1406 pts

 BrokenHeartNSoul13 

 

Black men are gross and most are not good people??????

 

Sorry, but you're kind of gross yourself for making that gross generalization. Sounds like you do have a broken heart and soul.

BrokenHeartNSoul13 122 pts

 BeautyIAM

 I hope black men find me gross, because i donot want them or like them and never did. I never believed that i am required to like or want a man just because our skin colors might be similar. AND if black men were mostly good men, we would not have so many single black mothers and black women calling out for other groups of men.

BeautyIAM 1406 pts

 BrokenHeartNSoul13  BeautyIAM 

 

I would prefer to hold individual men accountable for their own actions. I hate lumping bad apples with good ones. Sorry to say but your line of thinking really is not going to get black women anywhere. And please don't think that getting with a non black man is going to mean a black woman is not going to end up being a single mother.

 

"black women calling out for other groups of men."

 

Christelyn addressed this idea in a post above about black women thinking that their problems will be solved by getting with a man that is not black. I would suggest you read that because you're sounding like you think that black women getting with non black men will remedy certain problems. NOT TRUE.

 

You sound like you're hurt. But thinking that a certain group is "gross" and wanting that group to think your "gross" is very counterproductive. 

BrokenHeartNSoul13 122 pts

 BeautyIAM  BrokenHeartNSoul13

 I do hold individuals accountable for what they do, and I also OBSERVE REALITY. The reality is most black men are not good men, and good men, REAL men are rare in general. I never liked black men and I never will like them even out of desperation I would never like them. I don't think being with a non-black man solves all problems, I just think black men are gross and i donot feel any attraction at all to them. I don't like how society and people in general, try to program black women to only like a certain group of men, and try to teach them that they are wrong for liking something else.

BrokenHeartNSoul13 122 pts

 BeautyIAM

 And there is also an annoying epidemic going on where people assume that women with a certain skin color only date or have dated in the past men with the same skin color. I have never been with a black man, because I simply never liked them at all. I always thought they were ugly and gross and hated how i was forced by others to like them when i really don't. Its counterproductive to force yourself to desire or like someone when you really don't like them at all.

Brenda55 20939 pts moderator

 OK Broken.  You got your point across loud and clear. You don't dig black guys.

Enough already its getting old. move on. 

 

BrokenHeartNSoul13  BeautyIAM

Dr Lorraine 6 pts

 BrokenHeartNSoul13  BeautyIAM Oh my poor misguided sister.  Most Black men are good men; you just haven't ventured out of your zone or you only attract certain types of men.  I can't tell what ethnicity you are but if you are Black, there is some self-hatred going on there. 

LusciousDC 5 pts

 BrokenHeartNSoul13 .  What did a Black man do to you that makes you this bitter?

bougiegirl319 6 pts

 BrokenHeartNSoul13

 Chic you are so deeply wounded that its pathetic. Someone really scarred you and warped your mind. Its a free country and you can choose to love, like or dislike whomever. However, you have decided that ALL BLACK MEN are gross. That paint brush is so BROAD and the STROKES are all over the place. And im going to take a guess, you probably are in your early late twenties or early thirties and you haven't even lived yet. Other races of men disappoint as well. They cheat, they lie and Lord knows they steal. What I suggest you do is go see a Psch..get your ish together first before you can be compatable with anyone. Seriously, sister you sound like a moron. Thats real talk!

Maxine 1006 pts

 bougiegirl319  BrokenHeartNSoul13 Late twenties or early thirties??? I was thinking early teens to be honest.  Not casting aspersions, just calling it like I see it.

BrokenHeartNSoul13 122 pts

Congratulations Miss Kardashian, you are now officially, a true, SINGLE BLACK MOTHER!

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Lexi88 2206 pts

 kia 

I believe someone here ask why this letter was necessary....CutieBlkBarbie is exhibit A through Z. The Kim K worship is ridiculous!

SirLoinDeBeef 2655 pts

I've watche the famous sex tape - she just lie there like a barn plank - it'sw BORING!

okayillgetu 15 pts

In no way to I want to defend this couple or anything but it bothers me that the only clip that the media got of the announcement of the baby is when he said the "baby mama" comment. I was at the show where the announcement was made and at least 10 minutes prior to said comment, he was going on one of his infamous rants in the middle of a song wherein he was speaking about the power of love and telling people if they love someone to let them know and he made the announcement in a much more respectful way, by declaring she was having his baby. He said it several times and never said the words "baby mama" until she was exiting (not that this is an excuse cause he should've never said it).

 

Having casually watched the Kardashian show a little bit, I noticed one thing is painfully clear about Kim and that is that she is in love with the idea of love and I have no doubt that if Kris hadn't ended up being such a jerk, she probably would've stayed with him and had his baby by now. It seemed all she was focused on and I don't think there's any way this is an accident. I also think that if she wasn't already still married, she probably would have married Kanye first and then had a baby. I don't even think that SHE wants to be an unmarried mother but she isn't willing to budge on the terms that Kris wants for the divorce so she's rolling with it. 

 

*Kinda hates myself for making excuses for them* LOL

Jamila 7677 pts moderator

 okayillgetu "I noticed one thing is painfully clear about Kim and that is that she is in love with the idea of love..."

 

She reminds me of JLo.

MissFLondon 667 pts

 Jamila  okayillgetu Yes, another woman whose dalliances with black men and 'lifestyle' increased her fame.

Brenda55 20939 pts moderator

BREAKING NEWS:

George Lucus puts a ring on it.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/03/george-lucas-mellody-hobson-engaged_n_2404471.html

 

I know there will be a post on this soon.

Back to our regularly scheduled programing. 

mzsunshine 2613 pts

 Brenda55

 thank you for the breaking news... they are such a lovely couple.

VintageNarcissa 3152 pts

 Brenda55 Aww! That's awesome for them! :D Is it just me or does George Lucas look like a fat Robin Thicke. In a good way. lol. 

KingsDaughter 4967 pts

 VintageNarcissa  Brenda55 He could look like that in some 30 odd years.

DeepWater 2519 pts

 VintageNarcissa  Brenda55   Yeah, he does look a little like an older Robin Thicke and somewhat like Robin's father, Alan (always had crush on him).

 

Also, Mr. Lucas just sold LucasFilms to Disney (I think) for $4B, that's 4 billion dollars on top of his estimated $5B personal wealth.   Homegirl hit the jackpot, married a rich man of substance.   Love  that she's a super savvy businesswoman with her own wealth.   This is the example that I as a Black woman want to follow.   Get my own wealth (in somebody's lifetime......bwahahahaha) and marry up and right.  There it is.

 

Courtney86 69 pts

 Brenda55 

That's great news! They are one of my favorite couples, and because I am a huge Star Wars fan. :)

THE D 111 pts

I've read all the comments posted thus far and I have to say that I agree with this letter and it's intent. For those of you who have expressed dissenting opinions, well, my rational mind wants to agree with you, but I cannot reconcile reason with the things I have seen in the media. A few years ago, I would have bet my life that, after serving some time in prison, Chris Brown would disappear off the face of the earth never to be seen or heard from again. I could not have fathomed that he would resume his career, like nothing happened, and with an army of girls and young women defending him at every turn. The same holds true for Miss Kardashian.

 

A few months ago I saw pictures of the Kardashian sisters at an appearance at a mall in the UK; literally thousands turned out to see them. While there were whites there and some boys; words cannot convey the dismay I felt at the sea of black and brown female faces at this event. All of them smiling, cheering, crying, and swooning as though it were 1964 and the Beatles had just landed at JFK. I am heartened by the fact that, in time, many of these girls will look back at their adolescent infatuation with the Kardashians and their lifestyle with, at the very least, whimsical embarrassment. It's the potentially life-altering decisions that they will make in the interim which concern me greatly. 

 

I agree that black women should divorce ourselves financially, and emotionally from pop culture that has little to nothing good or interesting to say about us;and we absolutely should throw our support behind artists and media who reflect our true complexity. However, we must not cloister ourselves. We must not be afraid to call BS where we see it, for fear of our concerns being dismissed as petty, gimmicky, or irrelevant.

You have to frequent youtube and see the many black girls/women who make OOTD (outfit of the day) videos and hair videos based on Kim Kardashian. Whether we want to admit it or not despite momma and daddy's commands and rules younger girls are going to look up to and idolize whoever they want to. Why do you think Rihanna and Nicki are so popular? It ain't because they' have Whitney's vocals or Mc Lyte's rap skills. The media is one of the biggest social influencing outlets and we all know it. We place celebrities on pedestals. Also whether we admit it or not older women are influenced as well, by whoever the person may be. Black girls see certain black females condemned and shamed for certain behaviors that don't need to be placed on a pedestal which is good, but since a lot of black females mimick and look up to Kim Kardashian and her sisters for whatever reason they 're going to mimick the babymama part of her lifestyle as well and find them a nice little Kanye to have seed with, as if that doesn't go on enough.

onmywayup 1918 pts

 THE D Yeah, a few of my Facebook friends (mostly early 20s black women) love Kim K...I never understood it but it's true.

Blanc2 353 pts

Please don't give this puta any more ink.  You realize that simply by publishing this you're putting money into her pocket, correct?  As they say, so long as you spell the name right, any publicity is good publicity.  The only way this gets shut down is if/when people start ignoring her.

AleeL 440 pts

 Blanc2 

 

Blanc2, co-sign -- my thoughts exactly. I actually didn't even want to write this comment, as I didn't want to give the post more comments, but alas.

Uvo 70 pts

I understand what this article is trying to do but we really need to stop giving free publicity to these guys in any way or form.  Kanye West (and most of his type in the entertainment, business and professional world) have long shown that they neither care for, respect nor like black women, especially the dark-skinned variant.  Let them go and let's stop making them feel more important than they really are. 

 

As for Kim, she knows what she wants; she understands the psyche of black men like Kanye; and she plays her cards real well.  I don't like her but you have to admit she is good at what she does and she is laughing all the way to the bank.  If she's living her dreams; good for her. 

 

Black women really need to stop concerning themselves with the actions and antics of damaged men who seem to get a thrill from running down black women, and focus on building themselves up and living their lives to the fullest.  There is no sweeter payback than having those who wish you ill seeing you on top!

Uvo 70 pts

Also, in addition to pushing NWNW, what I would like to see get a lot more push as well is more awareness on the need for black women to stop supporting their enemies in any manner.  Let's stop giving our money to these people who run us down and diminish us and that means not spending our money on any of their services and products and encouraging others to do the same.  Sorry, if this looks like a digression from the focus of this thread. 

Chic Noir 28 pts

@Uvo preach it sister. Vote with your dollars.

LusciousDC 5 pts

 Uvo I absolutely agree.  But there are some of us Black folk that can't do without the brand names and such.  They see a celeb drinking a certain wine, they have to run out to get it.  I really don't get this behavior.  Why don't people want to be leaders anymore?

ann4950 732 pts

 Uvo

 I agree, kk does understand what bm want and they understand what she wants. 

Therefore, each gets whats they want out of the deal.  And, it is a deal...nothing else of subtance.

 ann4950  Uvo

 White women study their targets.  Even as a woman if they wanted something from you they would figure out what they need to do to get it.  Very manipulative.

MissFLondon 667 pts

 ann4950  Uvo 

 

Correct!!

 

Though i don't see this as manipulation; it's just common sense - This way, you find out if he's worth your time and increase your chances of success if he is. Perhaps, as black women we should try this. These things are only considered negative when a black american woman does them.

 

As a west african, I was unaware that it was considered gold digging to look for or prefer men who are financially stable and genuinely didn't know that it would be seditty or bougie to be looking for the kind of man who has a good education and whose family are polite and don't need instructions at the dinner table.

 

Funnily, with us, we are so marriage minded (which is bothe good and bad) that other west african women might be willing to let your poor choice in partner go. But If you even dare step outside your level in a downwards direction it's the male relatives who will tell you first!! My married uncle kept telling his 40 year old sister that she could do better than her dbr, even right up to the time that he stole her money, left a note telling her that she was too 'worldly' and rode off into the sunset with someone else. This is in Nigeria, dbrs' are going nuclear.

 

We have to set the tone. Sadly with black americans, the men aren't going to join the chorus anytime soon, so perhaps you just need to shout out your needs loudly enough for 2 and see what happens?

 

 

KingsDaughter 4967 pts

 MissFLondon  ann4950  Uvo 

"As a west african, I was unaware that it was considered gold digging to look for or prefer men who are financially stable and genuinely didn't know that it would be seditty or bougie to be looking for the kind of man who has a good education and whose family are polite and don't need instructions at the dinner table."

 

This made me smile. I'm east African and where I come from we have similar attitudes. Marriage is important and marrying to your level or better, not down is expected. Especially if you're female.  Having a kid out of wedlock is social suicide. Your parents would NEVER live it down because  it would come back to them and their (presumed) lack of parenting!

The Working Home Keeper 6964 pts

 KingsDaughter  MissFLondon  ann4950  Uvo "Marriage is important and marrying to your level or better, not down is expected. Especially if you're female."

 

This just makes so much sense to me - it's common sense, really.  As an American, I don't get why more Black American women don't get this either!