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…And This Man Calls Himself a “Prophet,” While…

In the new media age, where ratchetry can be disseminated globally in a matter of seconds, I’m starting to wonder just how many preachers and self-proclaimed prophets are really just sociopaths and up-and-coming cult leaders. Watch this video and tell me if you can identify how this (probable) sociopath is attempting to use reverse psychology […]

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Why Is Everyone Mad At A “Non-Working” Black Woman?…

I find that there are few things that piss off black people more than a stay at home black mother. Not stay at home mother, but stay at home BLACK mother. The minute a black woman opens her mouth to suggest she wants to be cared for out come the shamers and concern trolls in […]

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Hey Folks, Meet ‘Friends of Jay’…

Anyone ever wonder what the frequent commenter, ‘Friends of Jay,’ who often tells the story of the black woman he once loved who got away? Apparently some of you are wondering what he looks like. So…he sent us a photo. It’s from 20 years ago. I promised the girls on the blog a picture of […]

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You Tried It: On Unsuitable Men Hiding Behind “Feminism”…

In my previous article on the whole “gold digger” meme, I said the following: It is really tiring to me when I see people throwing [the word gold digger] at a black woman the minute she opens her mouth about wanting to date and marry a man of means or at the very least has more […]

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Talking To My Bi-Racial Kids About Black History Month…

On the outside looking in, folks might think being in an interracial marriage means we’re obsessed with discussing race. We’re not. We’re just like any other family with four kids…completely chaotic. But I take Black History Month as an opportunity to talk to the kiddos about the history of African Americans in the country–the good, […]

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What We Thought All Along! Internet Trolls are Sociopaths,…

And people wonder why we moderate the hell out of this blog.  This just in from Slate… In the past few years, the science of Internet trollology has made some strides. Last year, for instance, we learned that by hurling insults and inciting discord in online comment sections, so-called Internet trolls (who are frequently anonymous) have a […]

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Yolette and Dustin, Wedded Bliss…

I met Yvette Joseph Burger via Swirling and Marriage.  Yolette submitted some of her gorgeous wedding photos and now I am sharing with you.  I got a few engagement photos too. Yolette is so pretty and her beautiful skin is to die for —  flawless.  Dustin’s eyes are piercing and mesmerizing!   Enjoy photographs of Yolette and her new hubby […]

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Monday Punday #25…

Monday-Punday #25 SirLoin, up to his usual tricks, offers these groaners for your examination: A group of people are touring the White House in Washington D.C. As the tour ends, they are waiting in line to sign the visitors register. A group of Nuns are in line to sign the book, followed by a Jewish […]

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Lessons From The Hubster: What You Get With a Guy Who Wants to Go…

So The Hubster and I have many a conversation about the the blog’s goings on, and I mentioned how a new member of ours, ostensibly a software engineer who claims to make six figures who expects a woman to go halvsies with him when he asks her out on a date. I was aghast at the […]

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Chef Bob: Braised Oxtails with Mushrooms Recipe…

Braised Oxtails with Mushrooms Recipe Flavorful beef oxtails are braised in wine and chicken stock with mushrooms, leeks, garlic, and herbs. Plan ahead for this one so you can de-fat the dish before serving with noodles or mashed potatoes. Prep Time: 10 minutes Cook Time: 3 hours, 15 minutes Total Time: 3 hours, 25 minutes […]

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Stop Telling Women to Smile comes to Oakland!…

  I am very proud to share that the Stop Telling Women to Smile campaign that I backed continues to roll along. Tatyana Fazlalizadeh, the artist spearheading the public art campaign to raise awareness of street harassment, will be in Oakland, CA February 19th-28th. During the week, she will host group discussions, artist talks and pasting flyers […]

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The Sad Story of Sandra Laing: A tale of White Privilege, Rejection…

Have you heard of Sandra Laing? Her story, though originating in apartheid South Africa, will likely resonate with us here.  From the Guardian: The black woman – with white parents Sandra Laing was born black, but to white parents. It would have been strange anywhere – but in apartheid South Africa it was disastrous. Long […]

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Need A Boyfriend For Valentine’s Day? Rent One!…

Are you tired of being the only manless woman in your circle of friends? Does your family constantly ask you if you’re seeing anyone? If you’ve got $525 and can pay round trip air fare from China plus accommodation, you can rent a man. Many young people face crushing pressure to show off a sweetheart […]

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Searching for a Matchmaker: Back to a Familiar Place…

If you had access to ten men who had been vetted for good character and were already attracted to you, would you meet them? What if all of them were black? So awhile back, I wrote about my interest in using a matchmaker. Oddly enough, my search has led to a familiar place: a dating pool […]

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Do You Recognize a Psycho When You See One? Jordan Harbinger,…

My friend and “Swirlr” co-host, Jordan Harbinger just interviewed a very dangerous man: an admitted narcissistic psychopath. You must listen when you can. It WILL help you protect yourself. There are more of these people walking amongst us that we realize. “As a psychopath I abuse as thoughtlessly and automatically as you breathe … I […]

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Inside the Male Mind: Why Divorced Single Mothers Get a Pass and Why…

I’m about to get really real in here for a minute, and what I’m about to say is going to offend a lot of people. I understand that. And I need to first say I do not agree with this notion, but that doesn’t negate the FACT that these ideas persist. We’re having a pretty […]

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Health: Bad News for Diet Soda Drinkers–Study Says They Make You…

You think you’re doing something better for yourself when you skip all the sugary stuff at the fountain drink station for a seemingly-better choice of sugar-free diet soda to sip with your triple cheeseburger and chili fries, but you aren’t, according to a research team led by Dr. Sara N. Bleich at the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg […]

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Relationship Tweet Chat Today, 4PM PST/7PM EST…

I get so many relationship questions that I often can’t get to them all. But today, I’m going to be part of a tweet chat with my fellow co-founders of the She Thrives Network! One of our founders, Gennifer Miller, works as a matchmaker and coach, so you do not want to miss the chance […]

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Blessed? Amazing?! Wonderful?!! How Is Your 2014 Looking So Far?…

Thus far, my year has been all of the above and more! How many of you made New Year’s Resolutions at the end of 2013? Well, now that one month has passed since those resolutions were made its time to have a period of reflection. Look at your resolutions. What did you accomplish in the […]

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Treat Time: The Maxwell House International Green Smoothie…

I’m a sucker for green smoothies, and since my garden’s greenery is growing almost too fast for me to consume, I’ve taken to having one every morning. I’m getting a kick out of experimenting with different flavor combinations–kumquats for citrus; chocolate and coffee for the fancy coffee-house version; berries for, well, berry flavor. My journey […]