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No Excuses! Six Good-For-You Plants You Can Grow Without a Yard…

At some point, it will cease to be winter in the Midwest and East Coast and continue to be the never-ending summer it has been in California. Usually the last of the snow leaves for good in April so there’s plenty of time for you to stock up on seeds, starter plants and pots for […]

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Femininity Series, Part One: “What Does It Mean to Be Feminine,…

The topic of femininity is so polarizing. On one end, you have women who feel like even the discussion of femininity is a threat to feminism, and women on the other end–the girly-girls–who often feel  shamed by feminists who think they are slaves to patriarchy. I want to get to the bottom of the discussion […]

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Monday Punday # 28…

Monday-Punday #28   SirLoin, an amateur maritime historian, offers the following tidbit concerning the offshore sailing log of the USS Constitution, the oldest commissioned warship in the world.   “On 23 August 1779, the USS Constitution set sail from Boston, loaded with 475 officers and men, 48,600 gallons of water, sufficient food, 74,000 cannon shot, […]

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DISGUSTING! Father Beats 13 Year-Old Girl, Mother Watches, Records and…

What I find most disgusting about this video is how the mother is so gleeful in her blood lust, egging this man (is he her father?) to beat her, calling her a bitch, and recording it for World Star Hip Hop. As a mother of three daughters, I shiver at the clear disdain this woman […]

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Halle Berry Rumored Split Leads Me to Ask, “At What Point is…

Apologies in advance to #TeamHalle stans, but I’m scratching my head about the news that Halle Berry might be splitting from yet another partner, making this her third divorce and 50-11th failed relationship. Are Halle Berry, 47, and Olivier Martinez, 48, going down a rocky path? The couple, who haven’t been spotted together since Dec. 7, are […]

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Iffy Belly? No Waist to Speak Of? Consider the Monokini…

I am one of those unfortunate women who does not have an hourglass shape. Yes; I’m slim and fit, but no amount of exercise and diet will change my basic anatomy. So I have to fake it by choosing items in my wardrobe that give the illusion of an hourglass. Enter the most amaze balls […]

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I Told Tyler Perry I Want to See More HEALTHY Swirl Relationships on…

I had the opportunity of a lifetime today to speak my piece to Tyler Perry and get the peanut gallery to admit that colorism plays a MAJOR role in the dating options with black women. Oh, and we talked about my show, “Swirlr” too. During the show, Tyler Perry teased that black men have a […]

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Curvy Fashionista Talks Her Favorite Spring Looks…

Love this girl. Totally adorable. If you haven’t heard of the Curvy Fashionista, you’re way past due. Curvy Fashionista is seeing: White, white, and more white Black and white Crazy prints, tailored Sporty looks…fun tennis shoes Flared and wide legged jeans Lots of lace, lots of sheer

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Five Totally Unusual Ways to Travel Alone and Still Have a Great Time…

I know who you are…I see the stats. You’re single, young, educated, and have some money. So why haven’t you traveled abroad to discover the world and discover how fabulous the world thinks you are? Because you’d most likely have to do it alone, and that’s scary, right? But it you can muster up the […]

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Since You Asked…The Lipstick I Was Sporting When I Helped Hand…

LOL not really. I just love writing salacious headlines. Marc seems like a nice guy, just…perpetually “confused.” On purpose. Anyhoozle, I’ve been getting some messages about the lip color I was sporting and so I thought I’d share. It’s a tinted lip balm called “Big Apple” from CAILYN cosmetics. I told you in a previous […]

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Tired of Feeling Like the Dude? BB&W Fan and Friend, ‘Nicole…

Let’s face it: gender neutrality is confusing. So let’s just celebrate being girls, shall we? Long-time BB&W fan, ‘Nicole Abundance’ has creating a femininity boot camp of sorts, and wants to share the knowledge… What is the definition of being feminine? Is it the way you dress or how great your manicure looks? Is being feminine […]

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Thank God Your Statuses Are Worth a Dang! New Study Says Emotions…

Better think real hard about what you write on your next Facebook status update. Your selfie could be the butterfly wing that starts the tsunami. Evidence from a University of California, San Diego, Yale University and Facebook Inc. reported Wednesday your status can effect the mood–positively or negatively–of others. First, the researchers found that a […]

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In Case You Missed It: Me, Gina from WAOD, and Dr. Yaba Blay Weigh in…

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How Self Described “Good Guys” Usually Aren’t Good…

I’m the type of female that listens with her Spidey sense when it comes to men attempting to state their case on why I should consider them a formidable suitor. And considering that this is a dating website, I’ll presume that you folks would love to determine who is and is not a good fit […]

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“My Name is NOT Baby,” a Rant About Street Harassment and…

  One day, I was standing outside of a store waiting for my dad to meet me. While I was waiting, I made a phone call to my mom. While I was on the phone, I was approached my a man who was obviously more than twice my age who tried to engage me in […]

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It’s Not Always Easy To Love Me. But I Thank You For It…

I recently got an email from a supporter of mine who was worried about all the rumors going around about me–you know, the ones that say I’m an opportunist, I’m just in it for the money, I just want to throw black women under the bus. She asked me to explain myself, because she was […]

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Move Over, Halle–Lupita Up for the Role of X-Men’s…

I spend a large amount of time on social media.  I would dare to say at times its an unhealthy amount, since I can easily spend hours and hours enjoying conversation through my various social networks.  The photo above started to circulate the internet which was photo shopped by Marvel artist Mark Brooks, of Lupita Nyong’o as […]

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Monday Punday # 27…

Monday-Punday #27   SirLoin notes that one of the delights of teaching History is the occasional jewel of a student blooper in a essay, derived from students from 8th grade through College. Read carefully and you may learn a lot:   “The inhabitants of Egypt were called Mummies. They lived in the Sarah desert and […]

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Chef Bob’s Boston Baked Beans…

Boston Baked Beans When it comes to summer picnics, I look forward to a handful of things: blackened hot dogs on the grill, sweet corn on the cob, watermelon and baked beans. I’ve always heard rumblings that beans get a bad rap, especially among kids, but I’ve always been a fan. Whether it was refried […]