Prop 8 Overturned in California. Anyone Vexxed?

Prop 8 Overturned in California. Anyone Vexxed?

I remember when this proposition came out for voting back in 2008 and seeing all the little signs on the yards of the Mormon families in my neighborhood. Whew!–between denying the rights for gays to marry and the election of the first (half) black president, things got pretty tense around the cul-de-sac.

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I remember when this proposition came out for voting back in 2008 and seeing all the little signs on the yards of the Mormon families in my neighborhood. Whew!–between denying the rights for gays to marry and the election of the first (half) black president, things got pretty tense around the cul-de-sac.

You wanna know what I think? Well, I don’t know. I haven’t chosen a side. I’m a lukewarm-y. I can see the concerns on both sides. The pro-gay marriage crowd wants the same rights as everyone else to be married and happy, or miserable and divorced. Anti-gay marriage folks are afraid that the next thing people will want to do is to have the right to marry livestock.

I suppose I would care more if I thought gay people actually chose to be gay. That I am for certain. I had a male cousin who loved show tunes and Tina Turner from the moment he was born. I was practically there every summer vacation to see it all unfold. Even before either one of us knew about sex, I could feel he was…I don’t know…girlie. He screamed like a girl, gossiped like a girl, and was moody like a girl. As we entered our teen years, he tried so, so hard to pretend he liked girls. He later died in secret shame from AIDS at just 25 years old.

So in a sense, I’m pro people being able to be and love who they want without having to stuff those feelings down because it makes others uncomfortable. And I’ll be honest–I’ll never think two heavily muscled dudes French kissing and grunting is sexy, so please don’t make me. And while it’s kinda sexy to see girls do it, I’m not really feeling that either.

So I guess what I’m really trying to say is, this isn’t my fight, but you can count on me not to get in the way of yours.

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Brenda55 4388 pts moderator

Pearl, sparel. return to your corners and take a time out from this discussion. Pearl I have a not so tasty bar of soap for you if you do not cool it with the four letter words.

SirLoinDeBeef 572 pts

Please, let LBBT marry legally - then let them experience marital game-playing ... live-in in-laws ... legal separation ... nasty divorce ... child custody ... alimony ... child support ... parental alienation ... family interference ...

All the 'rights' that heterosexuals now take for granted.

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sparel 821 pts

Pearl What are you talking about? Atheism is not a Religion. I don't see how you can compare Atheism to ANY religion. It's just like having 4 people in a room and 3 of them have food and one doesn't. So does that mean the person with food eats? how can you eat something that's not there? I'm an Atheist meaning: A -theist meaning I don't believe in deity of any religion. But let's just say that you meant science. the evolution theory, not only is evolution a theory it is a bonafide fact. You can't compare evidence to some made up crap in a book (oh excuse me books)

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sparel 821 pts

Pearl "What the hell. I wasn't comparing it. I said all of them were not complete truths. So yes, that makes them a bit comparable doesn't it."

WAIT?!?! did you just contradict yourself? like I said you can't compare non religion to religion. I don't see any gods helping starving children. I don't see any god actually answering anyone's prayers...look if you want to believe in the spaghetti monster in the sky that's your business but their is no comparing

sparel 821 pts

Pearl it is proven to be true. it's funny how you talk about things you don't know. have you seen fossil records? no?

sparel 821 pts

Pearl I didn't have to reply to your comment but I did...sooo.......

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TigerTheLion 29 pts

Pearlsparel if evolution is bullshit, how do you explain the diversity you see around you?

kc 34 pts

Pearlsparel

Contrary to common usage, in which theory simply means "a conjecture", in science, theories are tested over and over and over again, until they are either discarded, tweaked an tested again, or regarded as "true". Facts are observations regarded as true.

The reason why a theory is a theory and not a fact is because there is infinite time and an infinite amount of tests to peform that could either affirm or contradict the theory. This process is called falsifiability. this does NOT mean that evolution will ever be proven false. it simply means that the process to prove evolution false exists.

Some theories are so strong that they are generally seen as fact. This is true for gravity, for instance, and in general, with evolution.

Evolution has been tested for centuries. It is a fact that organisms are related to one another. It is a theory that evolution caused these changes and will continue to cause changes.

You may find this Wikipedia article useful. It explains why evolution can be considered both FACT and THEORY. ;)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Evolution_as_theory_and_fact

sparel 821 pts

TigerTheLionPearl I think she's just pissed about this whole gay thing and trying to take it out on non believers

sparel 821 pts

Pearl lady I don't know who you think you're talking to about this "high horse" I basically said don't compare the two. what's your problem? it's no reason to get all bitchie with me.

sparel 821 pts

PearlTigerTheLion ok are you upset that I call religion crap in a book? the same book that says to GAYS that they shouldn't get married because GOD will send them to hell. so which side are you on? lol it's funny how all of a sudden your so holy your so for the book who says they are against people like YOU.

not me I don't believe in the shit

sparel 821 pts

Pearl ooowww so someones moody lol

sparel 821 pts

PearlTigerTheLion I act like I'm better because I said religion is bullshit? I guess I'll take that

sparel 821 pts

PearlTigerTheLion first of all it's YOU'RE secondly I guess calling someone out of their username is sooo respectful huh? where did you get your manners from?

sparel 821 pts

PearlTigerTheLion bad grammar at best? this last comment was laughable. I don't know which is worst being called out of my USERNAME from a complete childish twit or the fact that I'm even engaging in a mature commentary with a child. \

only children uses profanity against others when things they don't understand lol

Christelyn 3210 pts moderator

Pearlsparel TIME OUT!

sparel 821 pts

Christelyn Pearl she started with me. I didn't do anything to her...it's almost like my first comment was a direct blow to her and it wasn't. lol I don't even know her

Christelyn 3210 pts moderator

sparelPearl I don't care who started it, IT ENDS. Rule #1, no name-calling, cursing is feigned.

sparel 821 pts

Pearl I said you CAN'T but I don't care do whatever the hell you want to do. if you can't make a mature comment without bitching to others then why are you even on a adult forum in the first place? I personally don't know what your problem is lady and I don't care. but at LEAST I had enough RESPECT to say I disagree with you without calling you names...can I say the same thing for you?

Christelyn 3210 pts moderator

Pearlsparel STOP. I mean it.

sparel 821 pts

Christelyn Pearl my comments to her stops right now...I will not say anything else on here because it's obvious she's pissed about gay marriage and not me lol. and I have RESPECT for you and this forum Christelyn so I won't say anything else

Christelyn 3210 pts moderator

sparelPearl Thank you. Please, for ME. Stop this.

SirLoinDeBeef 572 pts

Pearlsparel Pearl, I hear the refrain, that 'Evolution is ONLY a THEORY." - OK, but please note - Gravity and Gravitation is only a theory, as well - scientists (and non-science folks) know what it DOES but, currently, no one knows what gravity IS.

Therefore, arguing from your current set of beliefs (which, as beliefs, are not subject to objective test, experiment or falsification), please go to a high place - building or cliff - and pray or address a universal diety - then step into space.

Gravity, like Evolution, truly is only a theory ... but both are subject to objective evaluation, measurement, and have withstood formal attempts at falsification.

Not so is a belief system ... which can only (and usually does) respond to calls for objectification by devolving to, "expel the heretic!"

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SirLoinDeBeef 572 pts

Pearl Copy that, and fully approve - you are so darned WISE for your years, I am often floored!

SirLoinDeBeef 572 pts

Pearl This is particularly true when religious Fundamentalists take hold of the 'bully-pulpit' - using that song I wrote, in a previous thread - regarding the Creationist, Evangelical, True-Faith, All-Believing, Apostolic, Rock-Bottom Fundamental Community (church, mosque, ashram, temple...) to _____ (fill in the blank).

"We never need apologize, our Faith is solid as a vault, 'cause, no matter what we do or say (pause), it's someone else's fault!"

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sparel 821 pts

Pearl you confused me on this one...you said that you don't care about Lovings vs Virginia and that you are going to be with someone of your own race. and I don't have a problem with that but it seems that if you don't care about that then why feel so strongly about this gay marriage issue? I mean it's it similar?

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sparel 821 pts

Pearl lol the queen of the internet hates to be replied to when people don't know what she's talking about...maybe if you explain yourself to people who don't be on the internet a lot maybe you wouldn't get replies like mines :)

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SirLoinDeBeef 572 pts

Pearl Robert Heinlein (SF author) suggested that the USA was, "the land of the brave and the home of the fee".

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sparel 821 pts

Pearl . People thought that ethnic mixing was sick and unnatural, that we were of different species and our off-spring would be deformed pieces of sh*t.

well slavery already prove this to be not true... Thomas Jefferson anyone?

lul 14 pts

I am truly shocked by your comments Christleyn, granted you have right to your opinion however I don't see how someone choosing to be gay should affect your feelings towards this issue. I am disappointed you would give validation to nonsensical arguments like "this will this lead to people marrying livestock" what part of two consenting adults choosing to spend their life together is the gateway to bestiality. I am sure the proponents of miscegenation laws made that very same argument.

DidiO 294 pts

I don't care about Prop 8 frankly. The gay struggle is not my struggle and if the whole thing is of no benefit to me in particular or like minded BW in general then I could give a rat's ass.

Yes, I am insular like that.

kc 34 pts

DidiO Um...The US Constitution doesn't affect you?

DidiO 294 pts

kc

Nope. I live in the UK.

candielady357 84 pts

LOVE IT!!!!!!!!!! In my opinion, what grown people do is their business, and everyone has a right to love, liberty and happiness. That is the so-called American Way. Whether or not marriage is sacred, or just a joke is a matter of opinion, but it not for anyone, especially the government to decide. This is a human rights issue.

For the Christians out there, I say this. Live, let live, and mind your own business. If you believe this is wrong in the eyes of God, then worry about your OWN salvation.

Blackberry 487 pts

candielady357 It seems the "like button" never appears on my iPad...so I like and agree with your comment

nyaw 68 pts

candielady357 It is impossible to ignore it, or in other words, mine my own business. It is on my tv everyday, I do not really watch the news now, just watch the things that matter to me, so in other words I mind my business however I comment on here because Christelyn ask what is my take on it.

Frankly it does not matter to me what the government does in concern with this, they have to govern plenty people, all kinds of people!! Religious people of all walks of life as well as non- religious, however the state does believe the bible is still a good book and respect it because it was the faith of the founding fathers, so it is given due respct (seen on the money, on the witness stand, when hand goes on the good book, when the president is sworn in).

So people unless you want the government of United States to be completely secular, being very secular in my eyes mean divided...in Europe it is so, especially France(I believe) where islamic women cannot wear their hijab (no religious belief shown in a secular setting ex. street, schools, etc.). Now what will have to happen is what many Jews do, segregate their children in Jewish schools and communities. I am not afraid of change but I hope this is not wide spread where people cannot show their faith in anyway, we will be going backwards instead of forwards, (jews, christians, Africans slaves had to worship in secret).

nyaw 68 pts

I am being openminded when I say that, I believe if you are a Chrstian we should have the same belief in common but if you are not it is okay, though I would love for you to be Christian, we have to live and let live...(good one). The government have to govern all of us with no biases. I love people and not all that they do, also, "black" people cannot change being "black". We cannot pretend to be something else as a gay man can to be straight!!! So PLEEEEEASE do not compare the 2!!! The struggle is similar only difference because there is scientific proof on the other...lol... Darwinism was soooo?ugh..

eugeniamitchell 3484 pts moderator

nyaw candielady357 We still have freedom of religion in this country which also means we have freedom from religion. That is not going anywhere it's in the constitution so you can't compare us to France.

nyaw 68 pts

I am not comparing us to France I do not want this country to become like France. Or perhaps we are completely secular in society already but we do things a bit different form France.

eugeniamitchell 3484 pts moderator

nyaw That's the example you gave so I took it. We are no exactly secular and probably won't ever be but we won't ever be a theocracy either.

Blackberry 487 pts

nyaw I'm not sure about the France thing ...I thought religious symbols thing applied to government jobs and court houses...not generally. It's a tad extreme to me...but as the US

Eugenia is right about both freedom of and freedom from religion. As for oaths...in court and presidential swearing in ceremonies people are given the option to swear on a bible or swear under penalty of law for atheists. I think everyone should swear on the constitution the same way civil servants do, but that's just me.

But think it's extreme to suggest that people will be praying in secret. Same partners are not anti religion they are simply tired of having something they don't believe in being used as reason that they can't be together. I think their frustration is reasonable.

lul 14 pts

nyawcandielady357 This is a constitutional democracy there is a separation of religion and state, completely secular government is how it is suppose to be. Secular governmental institutions does not mean violating peoples right to religious freedom as in the case in France. In the case of gay marriage the government is upholding the civil liberties of a certain group as it should, in no way is the government limiting anyone's right to practice their religion.

Blackberry 487 pts

I'm pretty pro-gay rights; I think everyone here knows that by now. But I am also a lawyer so look at this whole california mess differently. The mayor of SF started the battle when he changed the city's marriage license to read spouse 1 and spouse 2. This led to a huge court battle in defense of the marriages performed under the new license. According the california constitution they court declared the one man one woman disintinctionnto be invalid. This prompted more marriages. CA has a referendum system allowing citizens to make laws by gathering enough signatures to put the issue on the ballot. Boy it didn't take long. Enter prop 8.

Of course the California supreme court struck it down. Allowing the citizens of california to carve out exceptions to the state constitution every time the courts do something people don't like is unacceptable and seriously undermines the power of the court. They were quick and right to shut that malarkey down. I also think this is why the US S ct will decline to pass on the case. This is an internal state battle, and state supreme courts are within the right to curb politicizing in their system. If the US S Ct were to take the case, I'm not sure what grounds would be the basis on the appeal, but it would one the court to resolving every intrastate battle. Something the court is loathed to do.

Blackberry 487 pts

......but it would open the court to resolving every intrastate battle...

eugeniamitchell 3484 pts moderator

Blackberry But then how do you get Loving v. Virginia? You're missing something here.

eugeniamitchell 3484 pts moderator

Blackberry And with the SCOTUS it's well known all you have to do is ask a couple of times and they'll take stuff.

Blackberry 487 pts

eugeniamitchell You're in the legal field as well....so I think you understand the need to be simple in one's language about the law when speaking on a non-law blog.

I understand how cases are appealed from the state level through the federal circuit and to the supreme court. On all sides of this debate there has been a tacit agreement to keep same sex marriage out of federal court system. I also think federal courts are happy about this particular truce.

My larger arguement (too long to list here) was about the balance of power between the state supreme court and the referendum process in California. It would dangerous to allow the referendum system that kind of power. It'd be one thing if the equal protection clause of the california constitution were to the redrafted or excised entirely..... To allow a law to create exceptions to the state constitution because of disagreement as to how the courts interpreted the constitution is improper. I think the court was right to do so. The opposite outcome would completely eliminate the state supreme court a the final arbiter of constitutional law in the state.

eugeniamitchell 3484 pts moderator

Blackberry I see and yes you're right I try to keep it simple when I talk about the law. We have the referendum process here in Washington but it's all about taxes here LOL. It is not the most like process, it started out as this really lauded idea but many ppl in this state democrat and republican are not real happy with it. I've been hearing that more and more in the news from different states that use it usually from legislators. I wonder what the future holds for the referendum process.