Video: Black Man Offers Apology to Black Women

Yes! I've noticed it...Krazay with a K. dorothy56

AIO

After reading through the comments, these some of the objections:

- This is just one man. He cannot apologize on behalf of all black or AA men.

- Those are just words. When a man means to do something, he actually does it. He does not only talk about it.

- A section of bw have already moved on so it makes no difference to them.

- Nobody needs to apologize for dating outside the race.

- BM need to sort out their issues not for the benefit of black women, but FOR THEMSELVES.

- BM need to believe in themselves first. That way they can compete with other men for power and status instead of competing with black women.

keeks Y

But it will keep being an issue as long as Black girls continue to be born and be abused/mistreated by Black men and indoctrinated to be self-sacrificing/self-hating mules on their behalf.

That's about it, Sammy. lol SurlySammy

Christelyn

oh. I was 'fraid of that. *suck mah teeth, LOUD* I told them dim-witted doofus dingdongs that they wouldn't get much of anywhere at all with BWE & possibly other Soul Sista saving sorority girly groups gone wise by appropriating my painstaking pixilated production (I unremittingly worked so hard on in solilitude night after lonely night in someone's dark dank basement for extra privacy, I'd slipped into unbeknownst to sleeping snoring them), and beating me to the punches by trying to pass it off as their own “Bebe kiiid” up on YT for hornswoggled ratings. Well, thats their lumps they'll have to bear for vindicated me. I ain't feeling sore, anymore. Shucks.....

Christelyn

Oh BTW Chris, yeah, I uhhhh, included dat pix of you graced next to your endeared pen-pal colleague 'cause I thought that best to turn the trick to win you over so we could elope to New York and have a splash of ball for our honeymoon around Niagara Falls, as we much on cotton candy, knock back tumblers uf brandy, leaning over the damp rail (just the sprayed -wet two of us), and hope to catch some goofball drift suspensefully to sneak over the top of the plunging waters in a giant milk pail....:)

HAHAHA! I think The Hubster might have something to say about that. ;-) SurlySammy

Christelyn

He better! along with everyone else closest to you! I just can't STAND wasted typing effort. *grin*

SurlySammyChristelyn

Sammy we here did not burn too much off your tail surface with our responses did we?

Brenda55Christelyn

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knockoutchick

So why specifically don't you like the video? You gave generals about men being victims themselves. I for one dont believe all these hate videos put out by black men are any mistake. I find myself feeling less and less sorry for them when their own issues are ignored by the media. Look who they chose to pick on. I did get what it was about though. A guy on YT named DionStLaurent told me that since BW get the praise when their sons turn out to be gret doctors, lawyers or whatever, they also deserve teh blame when those same men turn out to be murderes, prisoners, etc. What a pathetic little children they are. They feel ignored, so they now attack. i can only imagine what whites think when they watch a video by a black man hating BW.

kiki100knockoutchick One person apologizing to a large group of peope for conditions they have no control over, is just silly. Further, the choice of images and juxtaposition of the wording used in the video gave it the feel of coyness and condescencion, IMO. I am sure the author is somewhere having a good laugh or like many of his "brothers" simply has no idea when he is or isn't being insulting.

I don't think BM want sympathy as it sounds much like pity, but rather empathy. Yet it is hard to have empathy when they themselves show none. Young BM are primarily driven by Id with no societal or religious boundaries. As they like to say "I'm going to do ME". Therefore all others can only do the same. So watching videos made by these clowns is only taking in their destructive thinking. Best to keep it moving.

knockoutchickkiki100

There is nothing silly about Black men FINALLY acknowledging how they have hurt Black women and girls and FINALLY doing something that at least appears to be on the road to making amends.

kiki100knockoutchick

I agree kiki.

knockoutchick

Knockout, I am sorry but I am going to have to disagree with you there. You see women doing nothing but sacrificing to take care of your male behind, then that alone should be enough for you to learn to respect her and love her, period. Fathers or no fathers.

Bunny77

feel warm and fuzzy, huh? like some cheap narcotic to make one temporarily forget disturbing persistent troubles & concerns, more or less. But after this watered-down morphine inevitably wears off life returns unwanted with it's seamy stage already set solid, from previous dismal unchecked developments, upon which to resume it's relentless role and have us all, as it's reluctant supporting disillusioned down cast to look forward to a very uncertain future or bleak denouement. Yeah I think I hear ya Bun. Indeed I do.

Exactly Sammy! I remember feeling like that when I read that letter I mentioned back in 1995. Never mind that I wasn't even dating anyone and hadn't been hurt or otherwise by black men, white men, purple men, etc., but I was so into the "aww, look at these great brothers apologizing" thing that I didn't even think more deeply about why I felt all "warm and fuzzy" about some words on a piece of paper written by some dudes I didn't even know!Oh well, I was just 17. I had an excuse. :) SurlySammy

Joyce345

We're a few days from 2012 and people still have this crazy mindset. One of my coworkers (bm) stopped speaking to me when he found out my bf was a wm. He said that I was a disgrace to the bc!!!!........huh?????......All of the dysfunction in the bc and I'm a disgrace???? But the crazy thing about people like this is that they will probably go to their graves with this warped mentality. I don't argue with these people and I ignore them when they stare and give me dirty looks because it's pointless.

glamdollJoyce345 Can you do me a favor glamdoll and expand on your experience with your co-worker. What is it like working with someone who is hostile with your choice of a boyfriend? What actually happens day to day with this person?

Brenda55Joyce345

Me and the coworker got along great until the bf came to the job one day and I introduced them. He(bm) became very sarcastic and hostile after that. Every time I see him "How's the white boy?" "The history is too unforgiveable" "You'll never meet his family" "He only wants you for sex,"etc. I was going to report him for harassment but he's leaving in January 2012. It's still shocking to me how people think they can "police" other people's relationships.....smh

glamdollBrenda55Joyce345

My dear he feels threatened! He feels like you are throwing it in his face. They are children. The biggest babies!

glamdoll Strange. He sounds psycho to me.

Joyce345

He considers himself an IBM and even though I talked about my bf, I think he thought he had a chance......I guess.....these people are so full of themselves they don't think rationally.

Joyce345

Well someone needs to tell Black men to stop acting like imbeciles and expecting that and more when BW date/marry men from other races.

Jamila

Jamila, you have identified yet another reason why BWE is so badly needed: Black women are subject to such blatant, unfair double-standards! You are darned right that someone should be asking Black men that question about the half-Black daughters they might have with the non-Black women who they love so much.

AIOJamila It's a question definitely worth asking. I have read some truly heartbreaking stuff written by biracial women who had racist white mothers. One woman was made to sleep in a closet and was always sent to the closet whenever company came over, because her mother and the rest of her family didn't want anyone knowing she had a half black child. I think there are some issues that definitely cut both ways, whether the Marlee87s want to admit it or not.

Toni_MJamila

Made to sleep in the closet? But White women are NEVER racist to Black women eh gaslighters? SMDH.

AIOJamila The good news was that her father actually found out about what was happening (apparently he didn't even know about the child or her situation), came there with his mother and removed her from their "care". But even so, that must have been an extremely hurtful situation that one can never reconcile. I mean, how does one begin to understand how your own mother would bring you into the world, and then treat you in such a vile way. :( At least she had a father who was willing and able to rescue her from that awful household; other women commented about not being nearly as lucky.

Toni_MJamila

Well thank goodness for her father. My heart goes out to those other poor women who were not so lucky. You are so correct, I cannot even begin to imagine having to deal with your own mother's hatred of you. Must truly be a living nightmare.

Toni_MAIOJamila whoa!! that's insane! :<

Toni_MAIOJamila

My friend (ww) has a son with a bm that left her when she got pregnant. She had to move in with her parents and told me that for the first 2 years of her son's life her mom would not touch him!!!! She said her mom totally ignored the baby for 2 years and only came around when her dad put his foot down. She said her parents were very racists, but the grandson has completely changed them.

Jamila Black women used to go ape-sh*t when they saw a black men with a non-black women and became the but of jokes and seen a shrill and angry. They were then held up as examples of why black men were crossing the color line in the first place.

Black women used to question that sort of thing and were told they were just hateful.

Black men who date and marry non-black women do not pay much attention to what black women think or feel about the issue. They are going to do what the heck they want. In fact I will go so far as to say that they will expect their moms and sisters to help their wives with grooming and hair care issue. Otherwise they are a poor sports and hating on their grans and nieces of nephews.

Bottom line this is a case where swirlers should not worry about what black men think.

Brenda55Jamila

Brenda that is all so true. Basically Black women were beaten into submission by Black men to accept their obsession with and lusting over non-Black women. It is truly disgusting to wrong a group then slander that group for responding to being wronged! Truly, truly DISGUSTING!

"In fact I will go so far as to say that they will expect their moms and sisters to help their wives with grooming and hair care issue. Otherwise they are a poor sports and hating on their grans and nieces of nephews." Brenda55 Jamila

Ooh, you took it there! Yes, I have seen this too... on a message board geared toward IR dating a while back, some BM with biracial kids were saying that they would all but expect their moms and sisters to step in to teach their non-black wives about grooming and hair care. And their mom and sisters betta not say nothin about the fact that he only dated/married white/Asian/Hispanic women because they'd be haters... oh but you betta help do your granddaughter/niece's hair because that's your blood, you know? To me, the non-black partner (male or female) should take it upon himself or herself to learn about styling black hair. Yes, he or she can ask the black side of the family for help, but as a parent, that's your job to figure out how to do it and take time to figure out what to do. It's not rocket science.

Yes, you bring up a great point. No one EVER asks this about black men who date and marry interracially. And I'm not saying anyone should, but it's funny that the BC is sooooo concerned for all these black/biracial/part-black boys who are going to grow up with white fathers. Oh noez!!!!I've even seen another version of this in which a single black mother of a black son will say that she would like to date interracially, but is scared to do so because her son might be "confused." Every time I see that, I say, "So you prefer then to have him grow up without any father at all rather than be "confused" about a white (or other non-black) man stepping in to take on the role of father?" I never get an answer for that.

And another thing... the whole "concern" has a large degree of sexism to it. The "concern" is always about WM raising black/half-black boys, but never about WW raising black/half-black GIRLS. Or even WM raising black/half-black girls, for that matter.

Not that race should matter either way (with sons or daughters), but why is everyone sooooo worried about what would happen with a black/biracial boy versus a black/biracial girl? Seems to me if there's such a big problem with white people raising black/biracial kids, both sons and daughters should be negatively affected by the evil white man's presence in the home, right? (Sarcasm)

JamilaToni_MAIO

Bunny77JamilaToni_MAIO

Most black Americans are not aware how they devalue girls. I have yet to speak with a BM in my family who believes chauvanism exists in the BC.