Our very own Ricky T in my backyard talking SWIRLING, Asian men, black women, and interracial dating.
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Video Interview: One Asian Guy’s Take on AM/BW Relationships
Our very own Ricky T in my backyard talking SWIRLING, Asian men, black women, and interracial dating.
temple
Thank you, Ricky, for sharing your knowledge & for carving out time to travel & provide this insight.
Having access to a man's viewpoint on the issue of IR relationships is very beneficial. I appreciate all the men who participate here at BB&W.
Of course, Christelyn, your efforts are always appreciated. Your use of the word "mocha" in ref to Ricky's lady-love was yummy :-)
Jazmine
Great interview Chris. Ricky T is cute. Thanks for sharing.
Morenika
He is very attractive. I like that he is an independent thinker. Mine will come I tell you......
ElfeV
Go Ricky! Go Ricky! (Sorry, couldn't help it.) :D
Great interview yall!<3
AnInterestedObserver
Cool interview. Just happy to see a sista with a good man who loves her and puts her first.
Shulamit
Awww Ricky T is adorable. But I must say, when I was visiting my friend Feather Ives in LA every time we went out I was getting hemmed up in the bar or club by an Asian. So much so that Feather looked at me and asked, "What the hell is up with you and the Asians?" I have no idea. Then it happened again here in Houston a few years later. My mom, a friend and I went to get pedicures and the Vietnamese guy doing my toes was feeling up my leg. He thought I had nice muscular legs. I was like WTF??
Asian men are very attractive I think, but I agree with Ricky T, it would take a very independent Asian to get my attention, hell it would take an independent thinking man period to get my attention.
Great talk guys.. Good luck Blasian couples. Gotta love it!
IntegratedMemoirs
One of my cousins is married to an Asian man, and even though they've been together for over ten years, his parents still don't respect/like/love/accept her AT ALL. They "tolerate" her due to their son's financial status (he is extremely well off), but her being black brought shame to thier family in their eyes.
ElfeV
IntegratedMemoirs :< sigh. that's so sad.
Law Wanxi
[dressed up like Justice Bao http://giras.co.cc/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/judgebao.jpg ]
So...
I see that order in The Middle Kingdom {中國} and the Balance of Nature is preserved by Tsao Lu Ma. It is only reasonable that Shanghai, filled with beautiful women, would also produce handsome and honourable men.
I await Episode 二.
Until it arrives, I will return to my underground lair to perform my daily ritual activities. Do not fail me by not posting Tsao Lu Ma's expository responses. I will, with anticipation, resume my previous activity.
[picks up digital voice recorder] .... [silence] ....... "A 44 year old male with previously confirmed Parkinsonian Motor Neuron Disorder, presented with assertions of daytime sleepiness and discontinuous night time sleep patterns. An electromyographic study was peformed with accompanying EEG telemetry........."
Seriously, this was great!
Ladies, a prime example of a self-confident STEM man. Even if he is one in a million, demography indicates there are 1,500 just like him. (Oh yeah, Ricky, I went there, LOL! ... that's private 中國人 humour; 不用擔心 it's all good)
SirLoinDeBeef
Law Wanxi My preference was for Judge Dee.
Law Wanxi
SirLoinDeBeef
Bao Zheng had way better dialogue and stories, lots of dynastic backstory.
Sample: http://youtu.be/QR3vVOhdRvc
It's in Mandarin, but it's subtitled so you can get some of the subtlety. Watch the whole thing for the surprise ending!
LuMaTsao
Law Wanxi many thanks for the many compliments Law!
Law Wanxi
LuMaTsao
不客氣
sMoriarty
Oooh, I haven't been on the site for too long. Haven't seen this dude before, he's cute. :)
*Confession Time*
*sigh* Ok...Im really attracted to Asian men, I mean *really* attracted to them. More so than black men, more so than white men. Koreans/Chinese especially. And I have been ever since I was a little girl. A lot of them fit into my vision of the ideal mate. They're so sweet, and stable, and just down to earth. But Im too shy to approach one romantically, and its not because I think Im ugly or anything (Im actually quite adorable, really), but my general social anxiety mixed in all the other issues a lot of them have with colourism. I just can't. I go out on dates with the guys who approach me (which is usually only white/mexican guys). I would love to meet a guy like Ricky, but Im afraid that I'll just end up getting hurt. White guys are easy. The risk is not as high. You just gotta be pretty, and smell nice. If you treat him kindly (and if you picked right), he'll even put a ring on your finger, buy you a nice pastel coloured house in the countryside, with a white picket fence, 2.5 kids and a dog. You can live the American Dream. Asian guys are like a giant 6 headed monster to me (no offence). I know that they want to have a good life like everyone else, I just don't know if they want to share that life with me. So I keep my feelings to myself.
*Confession Time Over*
Man, that sounded pathetic ._.' Really, Im not this pathetic in rl I have friends and everything *dead*
It did feel good to finally get that off my chest tho.
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sMoriarty
Honestly.
"I like that calm and detached aura they seems to have. Its sort of like a stillness in their character."
Thats such a great way of putting it. Im into meditation too. Usually when I see them, they have this blank face like they're thinking of everything and nothing at the same time (but then turn around a give you the biggest smile). They have this, like you said, calm aura, like a still river that I find really attractive. Guys who are overtly emotional and jumpy make me nervous for some reason lol.
Nicknames, cool~. My English professor gave me a nickname, well not really a "nickname" he (and everyone else in the class) just calls me by my last name, Moriarty, because he gets a real kick out of the fact that I have the same last name as the villain from Sherlock Holmes. Lol, I'll can you Hon from now on~.
SirLoinDeBeef
sMoriarty A couple of Native-American guys I hung out with, decades ago, gave me a name in Tewa (a New Mexican Pueblo language) - I've forgotten the pronunciation, but it translated pretty well as RUNNING TONGUE.
Because I wasn't, of course.
We were none of us sober at the time.
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zipporah
@Honestly. @sMoriarty 'calm detached aura' reminds me of the 'strong silent type'. many guys dont want to be that way, or if they are, it has a macho 'air'....oh Richard Gere comes to mind 'calm detached' w/o 'macho'----oh BTW, i think its the way asian men were raised..to be good in school and classical music :) over sports, i guess
zipporah
oh BTW asian men arent afraid of having a SAA---(standard american accent) a.k.a. sounding like a 'white boy'. Blacks go crazy if you dont sound like you are from 'blackistan' or at least pretend to be
Law Wanxi
zipporah
We do not emulate dysfunction. Due to the nature of the educational systems, we pretty much end up with either his accent or mine.
Mine, from the man I emulated as a little boy in HK.
Along the line, during the word-for-word repeating and imitation, I picked up a few ideas. Not bad stuff, really.
Christelyn
moderator
sMoriarty Aw, you don't sound pathetic at all--just honest. There is a Part II to this video, where Ricky talks about how Asian guys often meet women through mutual friends and networks. They don't usually approach women. He says that "hey baby" stuff is a Western cultural thing.
Grace80
Christelyn They do 'Hey baby' in Africa as well.
LuMaTsao
Grace80 Christelyn Not traditional Africa my friend. In traditional African customs, there is no phrase for 'hey baby'. Couples are set up through family and friends as well....or meet through gatherings. External influence in certain parts of Africa contributes to that whole 'hey baby' issue.
blackpanthershay
sMoriarty You don't sound pathetic at all
Brenda55
moderator
sMoriarty Not pathetic at all just an honest expression of how you feel. You're good.
Law Wanxi
Brenda55 sMoriarty
I cosign
AnInterestedObserver
Nothing pathetic about it at all. You every right to talk about your experiences and preferences.
ElfeV
sMoriarty I've sooo been there, esp. growing up in the SF Bay Area. 'Not pathetic at all IMO.
"White guys are easy. The risk is not as high. "
I agree, esp the famililes. I had some bad tween experiences and so later even if an Asian guy seemed interested I was so sure that someone was waiting in the wings to put the kiebash on >.<
I guess my consolation prize is that my husband's mom has some asian ancestry.( I can kinda see it in one of my BsIL and Aunt-in-law the most)
back on topic: I hope that you don't allow fear to close you off from possibilities.
ann4950
sMoriarty
You are too cute blushing about Asian men.
sMoriarty
ann4950
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