Video Series: Maximizing Your Dating Options in College, Part II

My parents this year will be married 26 years and my mom met my dad because he literally lived in her building. So yeah my mom didn't have a clue on mtg guys, even though she's extremely social. Guys weren't her focus, and my dad is one of those dad's like don't even breathe near my daughter lol. So this advice is greatly appreciated. My situation is a lil different though. I graduated in December and I'm going to grad school later this year or next year. Do the same rules apply or just get out there and mingle?

These are all very good points and perspectives. Also, I'd like to add that the film An Education is a must see for every college aged young woman who has a bright future ahead of them and doesn't want to risk losing it all because a man who is clearly a loser to everyone but her. I won't say too much but its a movie set in early 1960's about a very bright British young lady who ditches her years of hard work to get into Oxford because she's fallen in love with a seemingly glamorous older man double her age who is ALL sorts of wrong. She is left with nothing when she discovers shortly after he proposes to her that he is a married with children, has dated much younger women in the past, and gotten them pregnant. Luckily, she was still able to have fulfill her dream of going to Oxford and learned her lesson the hard way. Here is the trailer if you anyone wants to take a look. I highly recommend it. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eRbp-dd1QvM

The idea of not actively looking for someone is one I don't agree with. The other girl said it best to go out and mingle. I know a woman who did this (Nigerian) and married her fiance a year after meeting.

My folks didn't sit me down and give me that kind of talk. It was by their example (they were married to each other), that on some subconscious level, I said, I want that too. When I was in highschool, I didn't date a lot. Most of the guys weren't feeling the nerdy dark-skinned girl. But I did get to do slice-and-dice analysis with my friends who did: So I learned a lot (mostly of the how-not-to kind) from their experiences. I wouldn't discount these types of learning experiences at all.

Pay attention to a man's environment...make sure that I'm comfortable with him...Good to know. I'm loving this.

All I learned from my family is basic, as long as a guy is not a criminal, a drug addict or beats me, they're happy. Which are very real standards, that I've inherited, but when it comes to figuring out what I want, what to look for, marriage, I'm at a loss.