By Niki Chambers
Gather â€˜round children of Beyond Black and White. Mama has a story to tell.
Once upon a time, in a land far, far awayâ€¦
Oh HAYELL Noâ€¦itâ€™s not that kind of story.
As crazy as the blog title sounds, itâ€™s totally, completely 100% true. I met and fell in love with a pretty freaking amazing guy thanks to a blogger, an old school rapper and an Animaniacs cartoon. Hereâ€™s how it goesâ€¦
The Matchmaking Blogger: About seven years ago, I met Christelyn Karazin, famed author and blogtress (no, she did not pay me to say that). At the time, I worked for a nonprofit and Chris was writing for 951 Magazine. Somehow, I ended up meeting the owner of the magazine and was helping him plan a launch party for a special edition of the magazine. He said it was best that I touch base with Chris as she was playing a big role in this event. So I called Chris and we had many conversations about the party. But we also talked about being working moms and all that comes with it. We had these conversations but never met face to face. A couple days before the party, we finally meet at the venue. We come face to faceâ€¦and both pause with perplexed looks. Chris said, â€œI didnâ€™t know you were Black!â€ And I said, â€œI didnâ€™t know you were Black!â€ Yes, we played the whole â€œYou didnâ€™t sound Black on the phoneâ€ card on each other. A friendship was born. We each moved on to other jobs and cities, but kept in touch via Facebook.
Fast forward to September 2011. A veritable doo-doo storm broke out on a Facebook group that focused on interracial relationships. Basically, Chris called people out on theirâ€¦umâ€¦skankish behavior and they attacked her. I stepped up to defend my friend and noticed someone else was too. Some guy named Jason Hendrix that lives in the Bay Area (about a 6 hour drive from me). Now, I thought it was cool that he was defending Chris and trying to tell the women in this group that they were more than sex objects. That night, I think I sent him a friend request (something I NEVER, EVER do) and we sent messages back and forth that night. He was charming, funny, loved his adorable daughters and was pretty damn cute himself. And I thought there was no way heâ€™d be interested in me. But Facebook friends we remained.
DJ Kool: So, a few days after we became Facebook friends, Jason was the â€œHottie of the Weekâ€ on Beyond Black and White. Well, crap. Now every chick in the world was going to be eyeballing him. I decided to take a quick look at his Facebook page and saw he posted this:
â€œI hope ya donâ€™t mindâ€¦let me clear my throatâ€
So, I posted, â€œWhoa. DJ Kool lyrics. Flashback! :)â€
He says thatâ€™s when he knew I was the one. Ainâ€™t he the cutest? But we were both to freaking shy to say that we were interested in each other.
Back to the Blogger: So, one day Chris asks Jason if anyone piqued his interest from his Hottie of the Week feature. He says, â€œWell, I did kind of like that Niki Chambersâ€¦â€ This is when Chris the Blogger turned in to Chris the Matchmaker. She encouraged him to talk to me. So, he sent me a message just saying hi and that Chris has said nice things about me. I immediately sent Chris a thank you and added, â€œIf only a cute guy like that lived near meâ€. Then Chris proceeded to tell me (in the nicest way possible) â€œHello, dummy. Heâ€™s here every two weeks to see his daughters.â€ Oh, well that changes things. But I still wasnâ€™t sure he was interested. Chris told me he was. I wasnâ€™t convinced, so I said I would be the next Goddess of the Weekâ€¦just to make sure I could get his attention. It worked! I get another message from Jason where he says he was thinking of me. So, in the most awkward and nerdy way possible, I give him my number. I NEVER, EVER give guys my number, but I took a chance. Best decision ever.
Pinky & The Brain: After a few weeks of texting, phone calls and messages, I can tell I am falling for this guy. Like majorly falling. But we said weâ€™d take it slow, right? Too late. It was love. My birthday was coming up and Jason said he wanted to take me out to dinner. This would be our first face to face meeting. I was freaking out. I felt so comfortable with him, but this was the real dealâ€¦face to face. I tried on everything in my closet twice before settling on a cute sweater, jeans and boots. It was freezing in Southern California that week (plus I wasnâ€™t going to meet this guy I was in love with looking like a hoochie mama.) Anyway, we meet at the restaurant and he gives me a big hug which totally calmed my nerves. At dinner, we talked and laughed and had a blast. It felt like this was exactly where I was supposed to be. We shut the place down and, hand in hand, walked out to the parking lot. I was beyond giddy, feeling like a teenager with her first love. We were talking and laughing and then it happenedâ€¦he leaned in to kiss me. And said, â€œAre you pondering what I am pondering?â€ Classic line from Pinky & The Brain (itâ€™s a cartoon from the 1990â€™sâ€¦Google it, people). How could he have known I loved that show? He had me hook, line and sinker. Doneâ€¦and completely head over heels in love.
The Goddess gets her Hottie: So here we are. A new year and a success story for Beyond Black and White and its matchmaking blogtress. Itâ€™s still early in our relationship, but I can honestly say this is the happiest Iâ€™ve been in a long time. No one knows what the future brings, but I am pretty sure my future will have a DJ Kool loving, Pinky & The Brain quoting Hottie in it. And that would make for a definite happily ever after.