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Say It With Me Ladies: “I Will NOT Try To Meet My Future Husband In Church!”
After 50-11 different articles, studies, and research papers which have been published over the years showing that black Christian woman are a lonely bunch, we now have it straight from the horse’s mouth (i.e., “the good Christian man”): “I am not trying to find a wife in the church pew, second to the left, directly in front of the organist!”
In article titled “Why Won’t Christian Men Date Women Who Go To Their Church?”, Christy Krumm lays out the 5 reasons why Christian men don’t date women with whom they attend church.
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Black Women And Self-Esteem: Do Black Women Have High Self-Esteem, or Are Researchers Just Asking The Wrong Questions?
I wonder if there is a mis-measurement of pride and self-esteem–due to cultural misunderstanding–being reflected in the surveys that say black women have higher self-esteem than other women.
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“I Wanna Be a Baby Mama.” Why Poor Women Put Motherhood Before Marriage
Choosing to have a child is not an entirely rational choice, it is also an emotional choice.
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Who Knew? Surprising College Majors That Catapult You Into the “One Percent”
With all the harping on the greatness of STEM majors it can easy to sometimes forget that (1) everyone is not great a math and science, (2) everyone does not enjoy math and science, particularly when it comes to working with these subjects day in and day out, and (3) there are other factors, such as entrepreneurial ability that will determine how much money you can earn.
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Wisconsin Gov. Scott Walker May Soon Be Getting The Boot
The union members of Wisconsin have shown just what becomes possible when people organize for collective action against those in power.
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Is Kerry Washington About to “Pull A Halle Berry” in Django Unchained?
“Pulling A Halle Berry” (noun/verb)= when a talented African-American actress is ignored for years by the Academy until she finally agrees to act in a sexually-degrading scene
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Why Does the Media Keep Running Stories About the Relationship Status of Black Women?
Because black women, as a whole, have issues in the relationship department. While I understand that it can be annoying for individual black women to feel as if their relationship status is under the microscope and always up for discussion, those individual women just need to walk away while the discussions are going on. It is my firm belief that in order for problems to be solved they must first be openly, honestly, and sometimes brutally be discussed.
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OK, We Get It: You Don’t Find White Men Attractive…Now Can You Shut The F&*K Up About It Already!?
Here’s the thing, I completely understand that not all black women will find non-black men attractive. Thus my suggestion to a black women to open herself up to dating non-black men will sometimes fall on deaf ears. Heck, I don’t like short men, and any suggestion that I get to date a cute guy who happens to be the same height as Danny DeVito will be ignored. But whether the issue is that you don’t think you’ll like the look of a pale-colored penis or that height-challenged males turn you off, the LEAST you can do for other women is to not shout that crap from the highest rooftop–in other words, could you stop f&*king up it for those who do like pale-colored men and the vertically challenged? I’m just saying…*insert Kanye West shrug here*
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Preparing For An MBA Program? You Need To Learn About the GMAT
The GMAT is the Graduate Management Admission Test, the test most MBA programs in the United States require for admissions. I took a practice GMAT exam through an online learning platform with Kaplan, a leading provider of test preparation materials. I found the practice test to be useful in demonstrating where my gaps in my [...]
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The Koran Is Burned On A U.S. Airbase in Afghanistan, Death And Mayhem Ensue
The U.S. is supposed to be ‘nation-building’ in Afghanistan; NATO forces are not scheduled to leave until 2014. One has to wonder what kind of nation the U.S. is building if after over 10 years in the country the citizens don’t hesitate to take to the streets chanting “Death to America” after what was ostensibly only an accident on the part of some US soldiers.
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How Soon is TOO Soon for Sex?
How long should you wait? Third date? Three months? When you’re engaged? Married?
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True Story: I could have turned into a ‘Natural Hair Nazi’
I easily could have turned into one of those black women with natural hair who is forever taking every opportunity to tell her straight-haired sisters that they need to let the creamy crack go. Just let it go!
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Vanessa Bryant, Wife of Kobe Bryant, Has a Lesson for Black America
So how did Vanessa Bryant, the former Vanessa Laine, get it this good? There’s one main reason Vanessa is in this situation. And here it is: Vanessa Laine had parents that were not going to allow a man to mess over their daughter!
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“Keeping It Real†—A Phrase You MIGHT Want to Eliminate from Your Vocabulary
Whenever I hear someone use the word “real” in a sentence, I always wait for them to finish the sentence by telling me they are real what.
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The New, NEW Black Woman: Adaora Akubilo
Let me introduce you to Nigerian-American Model Adaora Akubilo, 24, who will be featured in Sports Illustrated’s 2012 Swimsuit Issue.
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Jeremy Lin and the Myth of Black Athletic Superiority
There seems to be something a bit more sinister coming from Lin’s male African-American detractors, something that hints at a fear that if non-blacks were to begin dominated the NBA, the myth of black male athletic superiority might be challenged. And if black males are not naturally athletic, then what exactly are black men ‘naturally’ good at doing? If the myth of superior black athleticism goes out the window, then what will be left to maintain the black male mystique?
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