“I bat my eyes when I see a cute guy and sometimes walk with a switch. AND, AND, AND I went to charm school. That’s right baby! I know which fork to use at the dinner table.”

Why is racial solidarity, especially, so important to black women? Margaret and I have lost count of the number of times black women have told us to our faces that race ‘mixing’ is wrong, and that black women should stay away from white men, due to slavery. In addition, Margaret, so I am told, has ‘abandoned’ her Yoruba Nigerian culture, purely by dint of her marriage to me.

I would love to see black women read the book. And whether you chose to crack up or curse me out, I don’t care. As long as it gives you a laugh and gets you a little closer to a good man, my work is done.

Most black women I encountered had no objections to my relationships with black men; in fact, black women were often the ones who made the introductions.

Sometimes it’s nice to get egg-heady people in here to discuss racial issues. Kind of like reading the entire New York Times on Sunday. So, save your $2.50 and take a gander at Dr. Mikhail Lyubansky’s take on why it’s so damn hard for races to trust each other. Published on Psychology Today (http://www.psychologytoday.com) On [...]