Etiquette 101: Sometimes it is ok to be a little “rude.”


Etiquette 101: Sometimes it is ok to be a little “rude”. “Why don't people trust their instincts? They sense something is wrong; someone is walking … [Read more...]

Etiquette 101: 9 Tips for a more polished appearance at social gatherings


I have learned by experience that because people are always watching you and making internal judgments, it is wise to be aware of your outward … [Read more...]

Opinion: “You think you BETTER than us?” As a matter of fact yes I do.


The owner of the Beyond Black and White website recently posted a blog regarding the disrespectful treatment she encounters from her family about her … [Read more...]

Deborrah Cooper Writes Open Letter to Taffi Dollar About Her Complicitness During Daughter’s Beating


Excerpt taken from Deborrah Cooper's site, The Black Church: Where Black Women Pray and Black Men Prey Though we have never met Mrs. Dollar, we … [Read more...]

She’s Moving On: Race Woman No More


At one time, not too long ago, I used to be a Race Woman. What is a Race Woman? A Race Woman is a black woman who fights relentlessly for the … [Read more...]

The French Connection: What can we learn from our sister abroad about dating, dieting and doing “the do”

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I am taking a break this week from Etiquette 101 to share a little from another one of my loves, French culture. One aspect of French culture I want … [Read more...]

BEWARE of the “Polite” Poisoner

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I've written about this sort of thing before, on my own blog and here, and I will continue to hammer this point home until the day I die. They may … [Read more...]

The Gift of Shame (Part 1): Is a Little Shame Always Bad?

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First, what is shame?   shame: [sheym] noun, verb, shamed, sham·ing. noun 1. the painful feeling arising from the consciousness of … [Read more...]

Etiquette 101: Culture Club- Ways to Deal Properly with Other Nationalities


By Demita Usher I have heard from people of different cultures about their love for America and American … [Read more...]

Of black women and totem poles…


Once upon a time, someone somewhere decided that there was a "totem pole" and that black women are at the bottom of it. Especially in terms of beauty … [Read more...]

Claiming vs. Exclusion: What makes a black woman “black”, anyway?

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I've seen the sentiment expressed on multiple posts now, so it's time to do what I enjoy doing: Diving in head-first getting to the bottom of certain … [Read more...]