Intimacy Is Not Built Through Sex. Surprised?

  A couple of months ago, I downloaded Tinder after hearing good things about it. And in one month’s time, I had four dates with three guys, pr... READ MORE

Femininity Series, Part One: “What Does It M...

The topic of femininity is so polarizing. On one end, you have women who feel like even the discussion of femininity is a threat to feminism, and wome... READ MORE

Tired of Feeling Like the Dude? BB&W Fan and ...

Let’s face it: gender neutrality is confusing. So let’s just celebrate being girls, shall we? Long-time BB&W fan, ‘Nicole Abunda... READ MORE

My True Confession: I Advocate Swirling Because I ...

A very strange and angry black man called Sergeant Willie Pete is enraged by me. He’s enraged because he took a comment I said in a You Tube vid... READ MORE

What is Wrong with the Black Man? (Written by a Bl...

Someone posted a quote from this citation on my You Tube channel and could hardly believe it was written by a Nigerian man. I’m reposting it, kn... READ MORE

Taking Off Your Desperation

I discovered the fabulous Ava DuVernay when it was announced she’d be directing an episode of my favorite TV show, Scandal (the episode will air o... READ MORE

Princess Learns the Hard Way “Project Help a...

Before I show the excerpt of this woman’s formal statement, I need to make myself clear so as to stave off the fire-breathing ass weasels who wi... READ MORE

Should White Men Be Telling Black Women’s St...

The majority the dudes writing stories about black women were probably raised by single moms and think we’re not supposed to have a feminine bon... READ MORE

Black Woman Stages of Grief: The Acceptance Stage

This post is the long overdue conclusion to my series on the “Black Woman Stages of Grief”. You can see Part I and Part II here. I think t... READ MORE

Miley Cyrus Isn’t the Only Dingbat Co-Opting...

Yes, as a white girl who is a protected species, she has the ability to pick and choose what part of "black culture" she wants, a la carte. And when s... READ MORE

Iyanla Vanzant: “There is no reason to conti...

It looks like Iyanla Vanzant is a fan of No Wedding No Womb. There's just so much truth in what she's saying, and it echos so much of what we teach, p... READ MORE

How Can Black Women Thrive in a Racist Society?

I read some articles over the weekend that left me shocked, angry, and speechless. The first was about a high school principal accused of racist verba... READ MORE

Transform Your Inner Critic Into An Inner Coach

"As black women, we can sometimes feel as if we have critics on every street corner and down every avenue. But, as bad as those critics are, the worse... READ MORE

Apologize For Wanting To Be (Or Being) Happy? Pfff...

Turns out whites AND blacks expect you to live a miserable life.... READ MORE