How to date, mate and relate. Mixing race, culture and creed.
Let’s face it, my attempts at online dating have been a giant fail and it became my only resource once I got too busy to try anything else. It is undoubtedly time for a new approach, so I decided to take a closer look at Matthew Hussey. (Seriously, what woman wouldn’t want a closer look at those twinkling blue eyes, that dazzling smile and totally ripped bod?
“Much of the advice people get about their marriage problems is wrong. It sounds good. It makes sense. The problem is: it usually doesn’t work,” Fertel says. “Reconciling a broken marriage is tricky. The process is not intuitive. You really have to be careful that the advice you’re following has proved to achieve the outcome you’re looking for.”
Some juicy fantasy erotica for your Sunday…
“To the single women over 40 who are reading this: Don’t give up. If you just believe that you will find someone in your life, you will. I truly believe in the power of positive thinking and positive energy. It will happen for you. And when it does, don’t run and hide from it. Meet it head on.”
R.K. Bryant reached out to BB&W because she is an unsure, up and coming author of erotica who observed our penchant for essays on the weekend. Here’s Part One of a story she’s working on. Feel free to give her input.
Author’s note: I wrote this essay when my daughter Wallis was in the second grade. She is now a junior in high school, but her views have not changed on this issue…she still warns me not to get angry and scapegoat others or myself for mistakes and blunders that happen. She has learned and absorbed these important epiphanies, and I share them with readers of this web page.
One (very) conservative man’s opinion…
Wasn’t it Voltaire who said “Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good?” Lately I have been wondering if I need to take Voltaire’s advice when it comes to my quest for love.
Parents, fathers of daughters in particular, YOU should be front and center in telling each of your daughters how beautiful, smart, precious, important she is to YOU! She should be able to sit on your lap safely, and hear those things that matter so much, first from YOU.
Not sure if you ladies are aware of the INCREDIBLE amount of non-black men lurking on this blog. Why are they here? Research and intelligence gathering, of course. Some have already dating black women in the past, some are currently dating or even married to black women, and other are here straggling along the fence. This post is for the straggling dudes. As many of you know, Jordan is my dear friend–and he knows his stuff. –Chris
In such a marriage and family-oriented society, I don’t see any kind of accommodations for singles happening anytime soon and black women are still marrying at the lowest rate among all groups (with the legal right) in America. Do you think it’s true that marrieds have it better than singles or is this just another case of the grass looking greener on the other side?
Swirling made another small step forward this weekend, when our Meet-up group (Sisters With White Misters) met at Rassela’s Jazz club in San Francisco. It was, for so many reasons, a memorable swirling experience and a true demonstration of community being created.
“I am relatively new to your website and blog. I think most of your readers are young women and men. I wished there was a website like yours in my 20’s and 30’s perhaps I would have made different choices.”
“There were only two ways to enter the “station” and go through the rest of the exhibit – two entrances. One was marked “white.” The other was marked “colored.” I pointed this out to Michael. He was amazed. He had never seen anything like that back in London, and certainly not in his social studies textbooks – they didn’t cover American segregation. They covered the Roundheads and the Cavaliers, and the Blitz.
But there it was, 20 years after the March on Washington, the actual dividing point. There was no way a visitor to this exhibit could escape the division and a decision on how to face it. The harsh reality of segregation was right in front of visitors, an immovable object. You had to make the choice.”