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Why Media Representations of Black Women Still Matter (And Always Will)
When black women are consistently portrayed in the media as being overweight (to an even greater extent than what they actually are), as Mammy, as Sapphire, as Jezebel, as the neck-snappin’-finger-poppin’ chick who loves to fight, please understand that these images are created with a purpose and with the consent of thousands of advertisers who are making money off of promoting ‘safe’ stereotypes of black women.
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The Trouble with DBR Black Women: In Life and Discussion…
There was NEVER a topic harder to discuss among those who champion the rights of black women or relating to one another as black women. I think this one might be harder to bring up than weight. If she is acknowledged to be damaged, it can pretty much only be in relation to men in her life and not in her own regard. Somehow, taking black men out of the equation means the kid-gloves come out. But knowing what I know of DBR black women, this is a curious decision.
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Newsflash: Good Black Men Definitely Exist! Doesn’t Mean I Want One.
Black men don’t heed that “black love” talk. You know it, I know it, and deep down the NBAB crowd knows it as well. They can grumble, holler, and stomp their feet all day long. But that won’t make black men dry up their well of dating options and “come home”.
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If I Prioritize Getting Married, Will That Make Me Look Desperate?
It’s become cool to feign disinterest in getting married. I can’t count how many interviews I’ve read in magazines where some Hollywood starlet claims that she doesn’t know whether or not she’ll ever get married–to her, being in love is all that matters and the whole marriage-thing isn’t on her radar at the moment.
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Heart of White Knighting: Looking for “Black Love” in All the Wrong Places
The reason some black women are so absolutely desperate to defend and uphold DBR black men at their own expense and that of other black women is the need to be loved and validated by ALL black men. Apparently even the ones absolutely not worth their time and energy.
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Why Colorism Is The Devil That Wont Die
For white people, not allowing people of clearly mixed heritage to identify as white worked out well. For black people, hypodescent has been a disaster due to the rampant colorism that took hold among black people.
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The Black Woman’s Bill of Rights: Boundaries
Do you have personal boundaries? Do you have a set of rules for what is required of a person to pass beyond your boundaries? If the answer is no, stop and FIGURE OUT what you need to do to go about constructing mental, emotional, and physical boundaries for yourself.
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Should Mitt and Rick Get on the Same Ticket?
Could a hard-core conservative and a namby-pamby conservative be a contender for Obama?
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¿ No hablas español, Señor Rick Santorum ?
Why is Rick Santorum telling Puerto Ricans they shouldn’t speak their NATIVE language in their NATIVE country?!
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White Knighting: The Bane of Feminine Black Women and Black Male Masculinity
I am not going to sugarcoat this for the black men who may be reading this who have no problem letting women handle their business as a man: When you desire to have a woman fight your battles, you have effectively surrendered your manhood.
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Say It With Me Ladies: “I Will NOT Try To Meet My Future Husband In Church!”
After 50-11 different articles, studies, and research papers which have been published over the years showing that black Christian woman are a lonely bunch, we now have it straight from the horse’s mouth (i.e., “the good Christian man”): “I am not trying to find a wife in the church pew, second to the left, directly in front of the organist!”
In article titled “Why Won’t Christian Men Date Women Who Go To Their Church?”, Christy Krumm lays out the 5 reasons why Christian men don’t date women with whom they attend church.
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Black Women And Self-Esteem: Do Black Women Have High Self-Esteem, or Are Researchers Just Asking The Wrong Questions?
I wonder if there is a mis-measurement of pride and self-esteem–due to cultural misunderstanding–being reflected in the surveys that say black women have higher self-esteem than other women.
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“I Wanna Be a Baby Mama.” Why Poor Women Put Motherhood Before Marriage
Choosing to have a child is not an entirely rational choice, it is also an emotional choice.
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