Gotta Say Something Because This is Inexcusable: Eric Gardner Didn’t Have to Die for 50 Cents.

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Many of you know that I draw a hard line on black men in the community who abandon their children en masse and never even think of marrying the … [Read more...]

Buzzfeed Does Creative Video On Who’s Most Interested in Interracial Dating. What’s Your Take?

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So what does this video reveal? Racial biases and stereotypes still persist. But who gives a shit? It all a numbers game, so play to win. … [Read more...]

Episode Two of “Swirlr” is Here!

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Sorry for the delay, folks. The editors are, well...very persnickety. In this episode, we follow the men and women we picked as good potential … [Read more...]

Video: Singer Dencia Says on Camera, “White Means Pure.”

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Ugh. Every time I hear this woman talk I like her less. Not only is she snappy and catty, that ridiculous blond wig and balloon boobs speaks for … [Read more...]

Big, Bold and Beautiful: I’m Loving NeNe Leakes on Season 18 of DWTS

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I don't know how you feel about NeNe Leakes, or if you even follow the reality show fodder enough to know who she is. But there is one thing that … [Read more...]

It’s Here! The First Episode of “Swirlr”

Kurt, Quintana, dating, Youtube, romance, series, Swirlr, Jordan, mixed marriage, black women, date non black men, interracial, advice, experts,

Sorry for the delay, but worry not,'s the first episode. I had a lot of fun with Kurt and Quintana. Both are young, and both … [Read more...]

Dear Black People, Can We Support More Songs Like This?!

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Okay I'm loving Pharrel right now. He killed it at the Oscars last night, and I loved how Lupita jumped in to get her grove on! Yes; Pharrel looks … [Read more...]

What’s In A Name?

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From time to time we discuss names black Americans give their children.  I have seen some pretty outlandish names encroached upon innocent children … [Read more...]

Video: “Black Women Get a Special Kind of Shade,” Says Me, Talking to Tom Joyner TV

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Check out my interview with Nikki Woods, producer for Tom Joyner TV and Black America Web, and I get pretty real about the challenges that black women … [Read more...]

Praise Jesus! Black Women Leaving the Church for Some REAL Soul Feeding


I ran across news of the book, "The Ebony Exodus Project: Why Some Black Women Are Walking out on Religion—and Others Should Too" in one of my … [Read more...]