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QOTW: “Help! My White Friends Ask My Black G...

How many us have felt like you’ve had to be the ambassador of all black people when you’re around people of other races? On guy wrote me,...
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ethnic men, families, influence, blended families, mixed marriage, biracial marriage, shame, family pressure, advice, warning, rejection,

Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents...

I recently read an article on Your Tango called, “My Boyfriends Was Ashamed of Me Because I’m Black.” I’ll admit, the first th...
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99 Reasons Wheat and Sugar are Your Problem.

One night last week when I had the munchies I decided to try eating a bowl of cereal that I thought was gluten free (silly me; buckwheat is still whea...
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reader comments, black men, racist, opinions, criticism, race relations, misogyny , sexism, abuse, exploitation, mules, mammies, push back, pop culture,

Reader Letter: Black Woman Married to a Black Man ...

I love it when people finally “get” it. The letter… I pop in on your site from time to time and my feelings about what you are tryin...
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Love It! Couple I Interviewed for Loving Day 2014 ...

I just love it when this happens, and it happens a lot. Last year, courtesy of online dating site, DateWhoYouWant.com, I was able to attend the 2013 L...
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Gotta Say Something Because This is Inexcusable: E...

Many of you know that I draw a hard line on black men in the community who abandon their children en masse and never even think of marrying the volumi...
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tomatoes, organic, food, health, gardening, veggies, DIY, make it at home, entertaining, weight loss, nutrition, urban gardening, lifestyle, economics, Roma tomatoes, Home Depot, affordable, cooking, dining, family, hobby, wellness,

Nutritious, Delicious, and Filling: How to Make Yo...

I’ve had mixed success with tomatoes this season. My heirloom tomatoes I grew from seed have produced “meh,”  (good but not prolifi...
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Have You Seen This Hunk? Nick Bateman Blows Up Fac...

Take a look at this specimen of perfection… So who is he? He’s Nick Bateman. A model, actor, and wanna-be Ninja Turtle that has everyone o...
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beauty tips, makeup, pink lipstick, fashion, style, Mineral Fusion, colors, Spring, inspiration, Chris tries it for you,

OMG Pink for Dark Girls…Yay Mineral Fusion!

I have about a half dozen pink lipsticks in my stash, so many that it took me a dog’s life to get to trying a Mineral Fusion shade that just abo...
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network, support group, lifestyle, positive, wellness, social media, advocacy, groups, chatting, friendship, diversity, interests, quality of life, depression, isolation,

Feeling Lonely? Isolated? Use Social Media to Crea...

I recently got a note from a black woman married interracially, and it got me to thinking about how sometimes, interracial relationships can cause cha...
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Essence, Black magazine, media, culture, class, race, stereotypes, Black Kang, dating options, self esteem, economics, messages, communication, marriage, value, bias, diversity in dating, misogynistic, racist, Idris Elba, skin magazine, Black interest magazines, sales, light skinned black women, Messence, Black Men Magazine,

The Unfair ‘Options’ Media Message: Wh...

As a former public relations executive, I can tell you without any doubt that the media sends us messages–messages that we expect, messages that...
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QOTF, black women dating white men, women with children, vetting, relationships, mating, dating, single mothers, advice, video, Youtube, using men as a back up plan, learn proper vetting, finding a step father, loser men, self esteem, priorities,

(Bonus) QOTW: Black Women, Multiple Children, and ...

Writer: Hey my name is “Sue” I’m a black female live in St.Louis Mo I have had bad relationship with black men so I decided to date ...
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hair, natural hairstyle, confidence, beauty, hair care, style, fashion, confidence, black woman with natural hair, no perms, making the switch, going natural, how does it feel to go natural, Chris Karazin, image, picture, face, beauty, dark skinned black woman,

Open Thread: Does Being a Natural Make You Feel Li...

I have a confession. I don’t think I’ll ever where my hair straight again for any length of time. Why? Because I feel like straightening m...
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QOTW, white men dating black women, interracial dating options, divorce, culture, diversity, preference, age, advice, dating, mating,

QOTW: White Guy, 51, Ready to Get His Swirl OnR...

The question: Just wanted to say thank you for your advice on fyooz for non-black men on dating or even just letting a black woman know that I’m...
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