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SwirlQueen: Blasian Love in Asia
It may surprise some that American sisters and African sisters are also living happily in Korea with their husbands and children.
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Commentary on the Crooked Room: Mammy, Oh Mammy, Wherefore Art Thou Mammy?
In the “crooked room,” we’ve met the Jezebel. Now, let’s meet her polar opposite: the Mammy.
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Fun With Your Foreign Boo’s Fam, Language Barrier Be Damned!
I date men who are not American. Stands to reason–I’ve lived in 5 different European countries over the last 12 years, with an autumn-long stint in Nepal last year. Only the parents of 1 out of my last 3 boyfriends, spoke English. I didn’t speak their languages either. (Seriously, who speaks Serbian??) This, however, has never been cause for concern for me. Why? As much as 94% of all communication is nonverbal. Therein lies the key to cross cultural communication, especially in the face of a language barrier.
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Anyone Nervous About Wearing Their Natural Hair to the Rainbeau’s Parents House During the Holidays?
I remember the first time I met The Hubster’s parents. I was more nervous than a swim suit model at a Taliban convention.
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Pics of the Day…Shameless Cuteness.
I’m celebrating. It’ took me a year to do it, but last month I paid off my insanely expensive Canon T3i camera and…I’m still trying to figure out how the damn thing works. So I decided to experiment on the local color.
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Beauty and Infidelity: How Do Looks Matter or Do They?
When it comes to a woman being wronged or hurt, do looks matter? Do you think the attractiveness of a woman can determine how and why people do (or don’t) come out in support of her?
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To the Swirling Familes, a Cautionary Tale to Remind Us to Vet The Neighborhoods As Well as We Vet Our Men.
The case of Glenda Moore and the downing death of her two young boys reminds mixed race families have to choose their neighbors and neighborhoods wisely.
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A Man’s Right to Choose: The Ongoing Battle over Your Uterus
Does it seem like women’s reproductive rights have been at the forefront of virtually every senatorial, gubernatorial, or presidential election debate thus far? Well, maybe that’s because as the parties polarize, more extreme views of social issues become the norm. So, what does this mean for the epic Roe v. Wade? Only time will tell…
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Nine Financial Mistakes Women Make When They Divorce
Going through a divorce is stressful enough. Get back on your feet by avoiding these financial pitfalls.
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My Birthday: Part Too
Part II or Tracy Renee Jones’ emotional conversation with her estranged birth mother.
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News Bites: Recent Census Data Reveals, Once and For All, 1+1=2. Marriage Can Make You Rich!
In the latest we-already-knew-that-news,” A third of families headed by single mothers are in poverty, and they are four times more likely than married-couple families to be poor. The disparity is on the rise, and as the number of single mothers grows, analysts are debating if more marriages could mean less poverty.”
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My Birthday, Part Won.
Our beautiful, poetic and brilliant Tracy Renee Jones Recounts her recent reunion with her birth mother. Get out the tissues…
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“Macho” Little Black Girls: The Anti-Femininity War on Black Women
Note: For the purpose of this article, I’m dealing with a specifically observed issue that has nothing to do with “butch” lesbianism in black women or non-black women. What I’m talking about is not an outgrowth of self-identified sexuality, sexual expression, or a conscious decision by the individual to move away from gender norms and form their own identity. This post is on something ENTIRELY different.
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When Racial Unity Becomes Dangerous: Pillars of Salt Extreme Edition
As discussed in the previous blog post, Pillars of Salt – What a Waste of Time! We saw the example of Lot’s wife in the Bible. Turning to look back, she became a pillar of salt. She simply could not resist the deadly draw of her community and could not let go of the ties that bound her to it – not even to save her own life. Today, I want to address Pillars of Salt Extreme Edition (POS-EE). These are women who for their own lives will not leave dangerous neighborhoods and environments. This extreme and dire situation prompted an open appeal to them.
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Photos of the Day: Maxi Me Goes to Homecoming!
Just have to brag, because Maxi Me is sooooo gorgeous. Thank the lawd for new acne-fighting technology, because she looks 10x better than I did at that age. She went stag, because, well, she’s 14. I’m sure we’ll be cleaning the guns in front of her perspective dates soon enough, though.
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VintageNarcissa: An Example of the Future of Our Family Trees?
Sometimes the branches of a family tree can cross and twist in ways that we may not ever imagine.
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Emergency Post for the BB&W Crew: Reader Wants to Go Natural, Mother Threatens to Kick Her Out
This is by far the most bizarre post I’ve received so far, but with reports from war-torn Blackistan coming out daily, I can’t say I’m surprised. I also have to admit that I have absolutely NO IDEA how to help this poor girl, but the least that I can do is post it to see if any of you have anything to lend. The writer understands this story is fantastic, so she agreed to post a photo of herself along with the email to prove she’s real.
So…here it is.
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Not Again?! Christmas Countdown Begins After Labor Day.
It’s August 30 and there’s only 117 days until me and The Hubster drain the coffers almost completely bare.
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