How to date, mate and relate. Mixing race, culture and creed.
Although America was ready for a black Bachelorette, The ABC Bachelorette franchise passed on a grand opportunity to select Dr. Misee Harris who was poised to be the first. Oh well, its their loss. Dr. Harris launched a social media campaign that took her on a whirlwind tour of television and radio talk shows and a myriad of magazine and blog interviews. On the way to becoming a super reality (and actual) star, this beautiful dentist inspired many Americans and garnered some 50,000 Facebook and Twitter fans to cheer her on. As well, Dr. Harris got some hate mail but she always kept it real without breaking a sweat.
Janet Hubert versus Wendy Williams? Some people just don’t know when they are out of their league.
Ms. Abdullah is a single mother from the Bronx who prior to her shot at modeling stardom was working three jobs to care for her family. She is a very lovely young African American woman.
However, her comment was simply unacceptable and if she has a brain in her head, she will apologize for it. And I don’t mean because a cellphone might go flying at her head from some random direction at any minute.
After the overwhelming response from the previous post , I decided to pick the brains of some men and collected their thoughts and feelings about their marriage relationships. Before I share those quotes I want to share some information from a book I used in my research called “For Women only: what you need to know about the inner lives of men” by Shaunti Feldhahn. She conducted a series of surveys asking men about
their private lives. (Don’t worry ladies, this book was published in the last few years, not 1955) She uncovered some very interesting insights. I will share some here. (She interviewed 100 men to collect this data.)
More artistry from our favorite BB&W poet…
I came across this post shared by a member of a private group I belong to on Facebook. She was seeking our thoughts on the issue and I had to chime in. Spare the Kids is a blog run by Dr. Stacy Patton, dedicated to provided black parents and families alternatives to corporal punishment. A white man wrote in to seek advice about his black wife’s family over the issue of spanking. Their differences have led to heated discussions as her family is are determined to do it no matter what he says.
Time to come clean.
It is no secret that black women have always been desired for marriage by men of all races for centuries. I am always looking for images whether photographs or oil canvas like these Casta paintings. These are gems of black women of various shades with white males. I only found a few of these fascinting art and history collections. So if you know of any more, please add the links. I have included credits when available as these portraits all came from the Internet. My focus is black woman interracial unions, not the names of the offspring they produced. By today’s standards the children of such unions would simply be biracial or multiracial, not assigned to some one drop, racist label.
Last year a controversial tweet about women changing their last name went zooming around the internet:”Mr. Wrong will compromise your purity and then disappear. Mr. Right will protect your purity and then change your last name.” Those who are of the religious persuasion that believes a woman needs ‘coverture’ from a man may not have seen any problem with that tweet, but for the rest of us it was one more reminder of the lowly legal, moral, and ethical standing under which so many religions and codes of law once upon a time placed women.
I was not prepared for the response to the first part of this post. I was not prepared to think of myself according to my skin shade rather than as simply a human being. I was not prepared for guilt for having written the article despite not being dark-skinned myself. But most of all, I was not prepared for the push back from non-dark skinned women.
It’s rare that I come upon a post that is just so delicious and well-suited for this blog that my fingers literally itch to cut and paste. This is one of those times. Thanks to BB&W Crew members, Kia and Brenda55, you are about to feast your eyes on the ultimate touché–a list of reasons why black women should date white men.
Anta Majigeen Ndiaye or Anna Madgigine Jai Kingsley was not always the free Senegalese woman who eventually became a plantation and slave owner. At 18 years old, her owner Zephaniah Kingsley, one of the most powerful men in Florida freed the 18 year-old woman mother of his 3 children and married her. As Florida was under Spanish colonial rule where manumission laws were more liberal than American. Her husband saw slavery as a temporary condition related to economics more than race. Anna learned to operate the plantations as effective as Zephaniah.
Emperor Kneegrowplease has attempted to execute Order What-The-Cuss, a mental override code intended to stop the flow of persons joining the Rebellion. The hope is this code will effectively shut down black women moving away from black group think that works against them, and at the same time promote the lie that THE MAN (TM) wants to break up black households and send black women off to be with white men and black men off to be with white women. Thus destroying black love forever.