This one is serious, so no silly sound effects. This is a real note, for a real person, so I want to be sensitive to how she might be feeling. It’s one thing to face rejection because of skin color, but it’s a whole other thing for folks to hide behind “religion to justify bigotry. In this video, I give the writer some tips on how to deal with it, identify red flags and how to talk to her mate about the situation. We go into a lot of details about these situations in “Swirling,” but I’ll share just a little bit here: