How to date, mate and relate. Mixing race, culture and creed.
I wonder if there is a mis-measurement of pride and self-esteem–due to cultural misunderstanding–being reflected in the surveys that say black women have higher self-esteem than other women.
“You don’t call, you don’t write…”
I had a brief exchange with a woman a while back about how improper behavior and the lack of proper manners is hurtful to people wanting to advance and improve their lives and her response to me was â€œyou canâ€™t impose middle class values on the ghetto!â€ I was amused at her response, but also a little sad, she clearly did not understand that proper behavior has nothing to do with race or ones financial status, but more in the respect we pay to ourselves and each other.
So how did Vanessa Bryant, the former Vanessa Laine, get it this good? There’s one main reason Vanessa is in this situation. And here it is: Vanessa Laine had parents that were not going to allow a man to mess over their daughter!
Whenever I hear someone use the word “real” in a sentence, I always wait for them to finish the sentence by telling me they are real what.
“The black community has become a place of massive role reversals. The thing is, black women simply are not benefiting from having this happen. This hasn’t stopped the community at large setting up black boys as being pampered and treated like princesses and black women expected to uphold the pillars of the community and be treated like workhorses. In so many ways, black women have had their femininity stripped from them with the expectation that they defend and protect black men. Black men are not required to do so for black women.”
Okay; the dog has absolutely nothing to do with this story. But…just look at how cute he/she is?
Some detractors of BWE/BWIP bloggers refer to them as ‘sellouts’ for encouraging black women to date interracially and leave the confines of dangerous communities. But Iâ€™ve not noticed that among those who sling the word sellout at black women, not all black women who date interracially and travel internationally are considered selloutsâ€”just those black women who actively encourage and tell other black women that they can do the same.
The New, NEW Black woman is politically aware, socially conscious, and deeply committed to any cause that she professes to support. How many women can you think of who are more passionately committed to their beliefs than Ayaan Hirsi Ali?
If only we could harness some of that power…
“Last year was the climax of my awakening from the nightmare of poisonous religious beliefs. One incident that led to my escape was an update on the life of someone who was a committed and strong Christian…”