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Tired of Feeling Like the Dude? BB&W Fan and Friend, ‘Nicole Abundance’ Gives Lessons in Femininity

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Let’s face it: gender neutrality is confusing. So let’s just celebrate being girls, shall we? Long-time BB&W fan, ‘Nicole Abundance’ has creating a femininity boot camp of sorts, and wants to share the knowledge…

What is the definition of being feminine? Is it the way you dress or how great your manicure looks? Is being feminine defined by how done up your hair is or how many times you remember to cross your legs like a lady while in public? What if I told you that your feminine essence is not fully defined by what you do or how you look on the outside, but how you cultivate your femininity from within? Here’s an even better question. What if I told you that by being more feminine, you can attract MORE men? I’m talking more of the men you DESIRE.

You may be doing all of the external things that may attract men but where the focus really needs to be is from within. Yes, men may respond to your flirtatious manner and may not be able to take their eyes off of you, but how are you inspiring them to want more than just the physical after a few weeks or even months go by? You may not have a problem with attracting men in quantity, but do you know how to actually maintain what you have attracted?

So what does being more feminine truly mean, then? Two main components to the feminine nature are rest and surrender.As women, we are naturally designed and more drawn to a more restful and playful way of living. We love to frolic and surrender to the moment. We are the keepers of the light and nurturers of the seed. Surrender means that you no longer have to chase, pursue, or fight for a man to make things happen.

However, when it comes to relating to men, the complete opposite may be true. With the way you currently attract men now, you probably don’t feel like you have a revolving door of options waiting at your doorstep. You may also find yourself operating in the pseudo-masculine role a lot when you interact with potential men of interest. The pseudo-masculine may manifest in the way you feel like you have to chase, pursue, lead the relationship, do all the work, worry about a man stepping up or showing up for you, feel like you are always rowing the boat.  Actively participating in this role is a surefire way to keep your attraction capacity at an all-time low. This is because the masculine doesn’t like to struggle all the time with a pseudo-masculine energy. Remember, you are the feminine and are designed to complement the masculine. Resisting the men in this way doesn’t really allow for men to show up for you.

A woman who is fully integrated in her feminine has applied a regime of practices and principles that help to keep her balanced and grounded on a regular basis. A woman who is more feminine is also aware of the masculine energy that resides in her and seeks to unblock and heal that energy for good. She has learned to fill herself up from the inside and invest in her emotional resources rather than giving them away at a moment’s notice. She doesn’t resist, fight, or try to compete with masculine energy. She embraces it and trusts in its protection and provision.

The key to attracting men by being more feminine requires you to give up the control you may THINK you have over your expectations of men. Being more feminine requires you to let go and release all of your worries and concerns into the universal drop-box, and trust that your desires will show up for you in the way you’ve always wanted when it comes to men. It requires you to get a little uncomfortable so that you can completely eliminate your current romantic model way of attracting and interacting with men. It requires you to open to the possibility of serving the masculine in a whole new way, a way that will set you free. Are you ready to open wider to attract greater?

Attracting men and inspiring them is easy when you learn how to master your feminine energy. Learn the Secrets Here: https://www.nicoleabundance.com/bigwildlove/

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