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IRR Romance: Perfect Fit by Taige Crenshaw…

    Beyond Black and White feature by: Taige Crenshaw   Characters and the impressions they make to the reader are pivotal to a book. Establishing a connection that makes the characters resonate with readers is an important factor to any story. When I sit down to figure out my heroine and hero I think […]

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Holiday Dresses for Every Body Type…

The holiday season is here and so are office parties, family functions, and any other excuse you can imagine to buy a dress. Now, the tricky part is finding a look that suits you to a tee. Outlined in this article are methods to finding the perfect holiday dress! The first step is figuring out […]

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Online Friendships Ain’t Real, and Why You Should Only Have 150…

Events over the passed 24 hours have resulted in the loss of two people I thought were friends and the dissolution of a business relationship. Of course I have cried, yelled and felt sorry for myself. I struggled with how relationships built of years could just go KA-BLOO-EY over something so benign as a difference […]

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End of the Year, End of the Drama, Part II…

People whom I care about have contacted me regarding my last post about my feelings of being dragged into petty Facebook wars and the subsequent gossipy, back-bitey fallout when women get their feelings hurt and put their claws out. Someone whom I am close to and work with could face lasting consequences if I don’t […]

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Leona’s Love Quest  OK, Cupid Tap Me Out: I’m Done with Online Dating…

I know I’ve threatened to quit online dating before, but this time, for realsies, I’m done with it. I’ve tried Plenty of Fish, Match.com, Chemistry.com, InterracialMatch.com, Howaboutwe.com, and currently I’m on OKCupid. All of them have produced the same results: nada. I won’t argue that internet dating works great for some people. I’ve told you […]

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QOTW: Geeky Guys Seeks Girl, but with Strings Attached.…

The question… Hello Christelyn, I’m going to be straight forward, how do I grab the attention of a woman as a geeky introvert? By introverted I mean I just can’t go up to just any pretty face and try to make conversation, I need a reason to not I feel like I’m not wasting my […]

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Sir Loin’s Babe Wednesday: African Beauty Part 2, Of Queens and…

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Former Naysayer Takes Health in Her Own Hands and Thrives!!…

Got this note from a longtime reader and Facebook friend, Amber McDowell a few months ago… I remember a post you wrote about black women needing to become fit and healthy in order to attract higher quality men. I wanted to thank you for that post. It really bothered me at first but as I […]

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Christine and Masa – East Meets West…

 Masa and Christine Nishiguchi This is another online dating success story.  Chris and Masa met in February 2013 on Match.com.  Chris was looking for and found a guy who met all her criteria.  She was looking for a quality, marriage minded Asian man who wanted a family.  Masa on the other hand was not having […]

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Television is STILL Not Ready to Make Black Women ‘The Main…

If you’ve been around for a while, you might know that I watch soap operas. Not just casually either–my DVR is set to Bold and the Beautiful. It’s a thoroughly horrible show, but of recycled story lines and romantic pairing that lasts about three episodes. So I wasn’t holding out much hope that a love affair […]

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What Pictures Say About You That You Might Not Like……

I am an amateur photographer, and I’m told I take a pretty good photo. The most important thing I’ve learned about the art is that each photo tells a story. It can inspire a feeling, remind you of something, spark a latent memory. But guess what? Bad photos in smeared bathroom mirrors, cluttered closets and […]

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Like What I’m Wearing? Get It for $5 on Hautelook Before…

I’ve been getting a lot of people on my Facebook page, raving about the lip color I’m sporting in this photo.   I’ve got news. What you’re seeing in not a lipstick, lip gloss or lip stain. It’s powder. I’ve recently discovered a great cosmetics company call BLEND MINERALS. I stumbled upon the company when […]

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QOTW: Should White Guys Date ‘Sister Soldiers?’…

The question… Getting to know a nice African American woman.  She is terrific – she graduated with honors from an elite liberal arts college in the Midwest – and has a law degree from an elite historically black college and university.  She not only is educated, this lady is driven – she is the sole […]

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New Book Presentation: Change Your Mind Change Your Destiny…

Change Your Mind Change Your Destiny  by Lakisha A. Watson-Moore          Unlike other books written for Black women, “Change Your Mind, Change Your Destiny” does not tell Black women that they are supposed to be miserable. It does not talk down to Black women or tell Black women what they are doing […]

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Another Letter From an Asian Guy……

Got this letter today, and it warmed my heart. Be encouraged! I enjoy reading your site. |I saw your last article on potentially throwing in the towel on Asian men. Well, I am here to ask all black  women, please don’t. I am an south Indian male, born in |India but brought up in the […]

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Three Camille Rose Natural Products I’ve Tried and Loved!…

I’ve been wearing my hair out a lot lately, and while I love the volume of my afro, all that handling is causing my ends to become very unhappy. The tips break off bit by bit until the length is affected, so it’s time to hide my ends for a few weeks and baby my […]

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Breaking the Bank? Three Personal Finance Tips to Get You Prepared for…

Three Personal Finance Tips to Get You Prepared for the New Year 2014 is just about done and the New Year is around the corner. How are you planning to better yourself this year? Do you want to lose weight, get out of debt, or maybe travel abroad? Whatever your goals are, the best way to […]

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IRR Romance Review: Hurricane by Taige Crenshaw…

My review of Taige Crenshaw’s “Hurricane” (The Singleton) – By Yema Nelson First thing’s first.  This IS A MUST READ!!! This is the kind of book that will not only tug at your heart strings, but will also have you saying, “Yep, I’ve been there!” “Hurricane” is a story about a no-nonsense, emotionally-scarred widow, Julianne […]

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As Much as I Love Christian Bale, I WON’T Be Watching…

…And neither should you. Hollywood has a looooong history of white-washing biblical stories that originated on or around the continent of Africa, so much so that Egyptian history is part of the Western History curriculum. There are some people who have no idea that Egypt is in AFRICA, and the average citizen looks like this… […]

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SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday: African Beauty Part One…

Marcelina Vahekeni – Angola     Edmilza Dos Santos – Angola                     Melkam Endale – Ethiopia     ISABELLA AGBOR OJONG AYUK NIGERIA                   CHANNA DIVOUVI – Gabon     TSAKANA NKANDIH -NAMIBIA GIFTY OFORI- Ghana