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Delish Vegetarian Zucchini Fritters and Plantains!…

I came back from a 10-day vacation with about 20 pounds of squash to go through, so I needed to be creative. I looked online and found a recipe for zucchini fritters and it came out delicious. You can find it here. The only variation from the recipe I took was topping it with chives […]

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Why Bristol Palin Won’t Ever Be Called a ‘Baby Mama’…

I’ve watched with interest as news outlets all over the world are reporting the second illegitimate pregnancy of Bristol Palin, daughter of once-presidential hopeful (and thank the gods she didn’t succeed) Sarah Palin. Once a spokesperson for abstinence, it’s reported that Bristol received $250,000 per year admonishing young people to not take the road of […]

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Wow! 61% Of Our Calories is Coming From Processed Foods!…

I swear, the more I learn about how the food industry is working against the best interest of humanity by providing for and creating additions for food only grown in a laboratory, the more I realize that lack of exercise is only about 40% of the problem we have with obesity. A new study publish […]

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Heard of Miliani Eyeshine Metallic Eye Color?…

I recently discovered Milani…well, that’s not exactly true. I’ve seen it at the drug stores, but mostly ignored it. I did make a note that it was one of the only store-brand makeups that openly marketed to women of color. But I have a bit of a prejudice about them, because in previous years the […]

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QOTW: “My Boyfriend Has Never Witnessed Racism Towards Black…

The Question: Hello: My name is “T.” I got your email from a your YouTube video: Should Black Women Marry Up. I am a black woman in an interracial relationship. Things seem to be getting pretty serious, but I still have my concerns. I am concerned, because to my knowledge he has never openly witnessed racism […]

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Amazing First Yield in the Summer Garden!…

We came back from a family vacation to the Poconos to find that our garden exploded. This was, by far, the biggest harvest I’ve gotten thus far. What you see are the following: Peaches Lemon Rhonde De Nice zucchini Yellow squash Cucumbers Tomatoes Eggplant Green beans Grapes Hot peppers Whew! And that’s not also counting […]

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Challenge to the Hoteps: Celebrate This Woman! Make Videos About HER!!…

This woman right here. That black community STAYS telling us we ain’t worth sh%t. We are less than. Everything is our fault. This right here is what makes black women AWESOME. And to HELL with whomever person, black, white or other, who refused to acknowledge it!!! Look at what black women continue to do, despite […]

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My Response to Critics of the Charleston Video Counseling IR Couples…

A race hustler used commentary I made on how interracial couples can communicate their feelings about racially-fueled tragedies without minimizing them or dismissing them. Instead of listening to the content of the video, this person used it as an opportunity to call me vile names and proceed to compare me to “Aunt Jemima” because I […]

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Open Thread: As you like it.…

Don’t want to take up the Vintage Wedding thread with this. We need a thread to just post anything we want so here it is.  

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More BB&W Weddings: Vintage…

OK so I was inspired by this post from StephenPaula and the lovely photos that went along with it. StephenPaula 9 hours ago:  Hope you don’t mind us posting this one. We were renewing our vows last August. It was like getting married all over again but 25 years later! Now how cute is that? Not […]

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Five Minute Jane Iredale Look for Beauty on the Go…

One of my favorite things to do is sit down in front of my make up mirror and do my makeup, and I really don’t mind how long  it takes, because I’m usually listening to a Stephen King audio book! But sometimes I don’t have lot of time but want to throw a little color […]

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Marry Down Costs Educated Women $25K a Year. But Every Day, BW are…

Black Enterprise recently reported on a study that suggested that black women who marry down–unequally educationally and financially–are out of the pocket to the tune of $25,000 a year. In a recent Pew Study, the results highlighted the following: According to the study, Asian women were most likely to marry outside their own race, followed by […]

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Humid Proof Updos on You East Coast and Southern Ladies!…

I recently vacationed with my family in the Pennsylvania mountains. And while it’s undeniably beautiful, the East Coast is humid as all heck! Since I’m resting my ends to protect my length, I’m always wearing buns or some variation. But as the humidity rises, so do my curls. I’ve tried everything to keep my hair […]

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Blast from the Past: How Has Black Women’s Outlook on IR Changed…

A fan found an article written in Essence magazine in 1999, exploring black women’s attitudes about interracial dating. You have to read. Then shake your head and laugh (then cry) at how we shot ourselves in the feet and share some responsibility for our current skinny relationship prospects. Thanks, Mom and Grandma, Dad and Grandpa, […]

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Surprise! Loving Day Video Recap is Full of Those!…

Last week, Beyond Black & White and InterracialDatingCentral.com celebrated Loving Day at the Mixed/Remixed festival in Downtown Los Angeles at the Japanese Heritage Museum. The event was full of surprises, from meeting the co-creator of the book, “I Am Mixed,” to meeting funny family man, Alex Barnet! You can find photos and my interview with […]

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Time to Stop ‘Hushing’ Mental Illness…

Time to discuss an oft-hushed topic, especially in the black community. Mental illness. We may be too dismissive about calling someone angry. A mental illness alters an individual’s thinking process and emotions, and greatly affects his or her ability to deal with situations and other individuals in a normal way. Mental illnesses vary to such […]

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Stuff You Should Know About Your Online Dating Profile That You…

  Before I go into this, I just have to give an FYI…I did the following profile critique to use as an example, so please…don’t send me yours. No offense, but people charge money for this, and my time is too constrained to do this more than twice a decade. I got a note from […]

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Damn, She’s Fine, and She’s Mine!…

  I marvel at all my kids. I do. There’s something unique and wonderful and amazing about each of them. But…this one right here…my oldest. Not only is she smart, artistic and funny, she’s everything I wished I was as a teen–self assured, confident, and embraces her beauty. Yep. That’s my girl. And I love […]

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Even When I Do Garden Videos, I Can’t Win.…

I push interracial relationships. I should just STFU about it. I hate black men. I’m desperate. I’m an inposter. I’m an enemy to BWE. I really hate black women. This is all a ruse. I should be killed for making a video on how white men can be sensitive to the hurt their significant others […]

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Charleston church shooting victims: Who they were ~ from the LA Times…

Cynthia Hurd, 54 (Charleston County Library), Ethel Lance, 70 (retired, Gaillard Center), Susie Jackson, 87 (longtime member), Rev. DePayne Middleton-Doctor, 49 (retired county employee), Rev. Clementa C. Pinckney, 41 (pastor of Emanuel AME, state senator), Tywanza Sanders, 26 (graduate of Allen University), Rev. Daniel L. Simmons Sr., 74 (Emanuel AME ministerial staff), Rev. Sharonda Singleton, 45 (Emanuel AME ministerial staff), Myra Thompson, 59 (wife of Rev. Thompson of Holy Trinity Reformed Episcopal)