It has been an amazing journey writing for this blog. It still doesn’t quite seem real. Now that we have gone through a few couples on the blog, I thought I would take a look back at some of the articles I wrote previously, and share some of the important takeaways that I have gained with each interview.
I’m so grateful to Jasmine and Lorne for agreeing to be featured on the blog as a WMBW couple. She hails from my hometown, near Toronto, Canada. She was the first one to agree to an interview. During my interview with her, she shared the importance of maintaining some independence while you build your relationship:
“Frankness and honesty are really important. Also, we make allowances for educational experiences and being teachable. You don’t know what you don’t know, right? It’s so important to listen to understand. We are together but we are each our own person. I have maintained all my friends and relationships as has he. Our circle of friends has just expanded.”
Communication is also a really consistent theme in each article. Jasmine and Lorne shared on that, but also highlighted that it so important to use active listening and honesty to really strengthen a relationship. To read more of her article, click here.
Morshe was our second feature on the blog, with our first AMBW relationship, all the way from Hawaii. She gave us a plethora of strategies and advice on intentional dating and mercenary mate selection. I was impressed at how quickly James made his intentions known, and how Morshe strategically chose the best man for the job. You can read a snippet of her story below:
“In the beginning, to be sure that I found the best man for the job, I decided to keep my options open until he expressed that he wanted to be monogamous. I think that is when we both knew that things were getting serious. James was always very intentional with the relationship. I think the support from his family really showed me how serious we were. His mom provided me with financial support throughout my unpaid internship.”
As women we need to know our worth. Keep things light and free until you meet a man with the right intentions. A man who will produce, provide, protect and problem-solve is a man worth keeping for the long-haul. If you missed her story, or you wish to read it again, you can see it now.
Naomi was a lovely lady that I met through the Pink Pill (add hyperlink). She later became our first Pink Pill Spotlight on the blog. She shared about her decision to travel abroad, and the best tips and tricks for black women to move to Europe and live there for a long time:
“It’s important to network and to have friends when moving abroad. That way, you have people in your circle who have your back and can look out for you. I have an amazing friend circle in Spain. We have the opportunity to grow and level up together. We are all here figuring out next steps.”
Naomi also shared some of her thoughts on key Pink Pill strategies, mercenary mate selection and her experiences dating European men:
“Don’t be ashamed to want a better life. Live life to the fullest. You can’t afford to waste your time. Make the most of it.
Vetting is so important. I can’t stress that enough. It’s important to be aware of men’s mindsets and beat them at their own game. You have to separate the bad from the good no matter where you are in the world.
Building up your confidence is key. I used to be really shy. I didn’t just want to daydream about the life that I wanted. I wanted to move forward and do it. I wanted to get into the game. How am I actively pursuing my dream? Just start small and work your way up. You’ll learn on your way to the top.
Adjust your mindset. Minimize the fairy tale and focus on being as strategic as possible.”
As someone who would love to travel abroad and begin the dating process, it was great to see someone around my age really seize the day. We covered her story in three articles: part one, part two, and part three.
As Pink Pill ladies, we have to look out for number one. Opinions are like noses, everybody has one. Just chew the meat and spit out the bones. Take what advice works for you and apply it, and don’t worry about the rest. Living a Pink Pill life is living a carefree but strategic life.
I think it’s encouraging that we have a range of different black women, from various walks of life, reaching for the life that they want. I look forward to speaking with more women on this journey. I hope that you enjoyed some of those flashbacks. It was a joy going down memory lane. I hope you found some wisdom in this post. Please let me know your thoughts below!
Are you a black woman in an interracial relationship? I’m interested in interviewing you! The goal is to feature black women and their significant others in positive interracial relationships. If you’re interested in participating, please leave a comment below, contact Christelyn, or email me at [email protected]