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How to date, mate and relate. Mixing race, culture and creed.
After 50-11 different articles, studies, and research papers which have been published over the years showing that black Christian woman are a lonely bunch, we now have it straight from the horse’s mouth (i.e., “the good Christian man”): “I am not trying to find a wife in the church pew, second to the left, directly in front of the organist!”
In article titled “Why Won’t Christian Men Date Women Who Go To Their Church?”, Christy Krumm lays out the 5 reasons why Christian men don’t date women with whom they attend church.
Welcome Toni, a long-time BB&W Crew member as our newest Senior Contributor. What’s she covering? Well, whatever she wants. But mostly women’s empowerment.
“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and it may be necessary from time to time to give a stupid or misinformed beholder a black eye.â€- Miss Piggy, Miss Piggy’s Guide to Life
Guy pursues girl sight unseen. Guy finds out girl is black, then “Houston, we have a problem.”
As of late, we’ve seen the shemozzle over conservatives like Rush Limbaugh and Judge Richard Cebull-donkey and other select arsehats put their bigotry on display on a world platform while outsiders wonder what flavor Kool Aid makes some folks in that party rabid racists. Sort of gives off an impression that black women should stay far far far far far far far far far far far far far far far far far far far far (did I mention far?) away from them, doesn’t it? No chance for meaningful swirling going on there?
“Is it okay to finally let my guard fully down and accept this as a real relationship, or should I just keep him as a friend and hold out for someone closer to my age?”
My next step towards finding true love was to identify some of my self-destructive beliefs and behaviors that have resulted in what Dr. D calls “Deadly Dating Patterns.†You can read about all thirteen of the Deadly Dating Patterns in Chapter 2 of Love in 90 Days; in this entry I will share with you only three of my most common experiences. I’ve assigned my exes fictitious profile names in order to protect the guilty- err, umm- I mean, the innocent.
How long should you wait? Third date? Three months? When you’re engaged? Married?
The disclaimer stands, ladies. I don’t know Jack personally, so don’t come crying to me if he kills you.
Question of the Week: Why Aren’t Black Folks Allowed to Be Classist?
Why can whites, Asians, and Hispanics be classist and separate themselves from their ethnic riff raff, and if black folks do it, their called “sell outs?”
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