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QOTW: Dealing with Racist Friends and Family Members…

Got this note from a young girl the same week as they guy who wrote in with the skinhead brother. Time to address how to properly deal with … [Read more...]


QOTW Audience Feedback Edition: “How Can I Convince This Black Woman I’m Serious About Her?

  I got this letter a couple days ago but just got around to reading it. Take a look, dearies--this one is all you. I'm super busy with … [Read more...]


Yes Virginia, Black Women DO BENEFIT from Interracial Marriage (GASP!)

This is an article I wrote for AfroCaribe magazine to be published in their August 2013 issue. I want to share it here because it pretty much … [Read more...]

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The Marissa Alexander Story: This Is What Could Happen When You Choose the Wrong Man

In May of 2012, Marissa Alexander, a 31-year old black women with a master's degree and 3 children, was sentenced to 20 years in prison after being … [Read more...]


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The Exotic Okey Doke: How Black Women Got Tricked Out Of Sexy

This post was published on July 26, 2013 by Toni. Things quickly got out of hand in the comment section, derailing into talking about women-friendly … [Read more...]


“After I Met Your Mother”: Rainbeaus, Tell Us Your Courtship Stories in the Comments.

You have lurked long enough now. Any rainbeaus with dating, courting, marrying, or family creation stories, time to spill it. We know you got 'em. The … [Read more...]


Getting Familiar with His Familia: Meeting His Family For the First Time

The word family can either cause the average person to break out in a huge smile while feeling those warm and tingly reminders of all things safe and … [Read more...]

Question of the Week: “Am I Wrong for Wanting My Daughter Not to Date Black Men?”

Hi Chris, I have a question for moms of mixed daughters I was hoping you could share with bb&w. Do you in anyway steer your daughters toward a … [Read more...]

Why Do Some Black Women Consider Marriage “The Enemy”? Part II

I wrote the first part in response to the negative attitudes I'd seen from single black women regarding marriage. Specifically people who have never … [Read more...]

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Leona’s Love Quest Part XXIV- Blurred Lines

Some people sure know how to spoil a good time. To be honest, I was really unconcerned over the Blurred Lines controversy. The song has become part of … [Read more...]

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Jaded Hearts: A Well Written Interracial Love Story

‘Jaded Hearts’, volume one of The Jaded Hearts Club series, does away with the stereotypical billionaire and melting heroine, instead opting for a … [Read more...]

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Nenh & Ladi Trenh – Full Bloomed Blasian Love

  Meet Captain Nenh and Mrs. Ladi Trenh.  I came by their wedding video uploaded by Ladi's cousin Miguel Asua of Asua Light LLC.  So, I set … [Read more...]


Question of the Week: Swirling and Racially Charged Subjects.

In light of the Trayvon Martin story and its aftermath a reader rena215 has made the following request: rena215 I would love to see an article … [Read more...]