How to date, mate and relate. Mixing race, culture and creed.
Lilly Pulitzer, wife of Peter Pulitzer grandson of the famous publisher Joseph Pulitzer of the Pulitzer Prize fame, was the fashion designer best known for Hobo Prep Chic style. I could give you the Cliff’s Notes of her life but I feel that it is unimportant. What is more important is her impact on the fashion world and on women during that time.
Toni continues the series…
By immediate demand, here is your fresh OT thread…
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We needed to lighten up the mood so I thought I would present some swirls in the animal world. It seems that animals are getting along better than humans these days. The law of the Jungle is all they have. No Supreme Court to implement or overturn anything. They just do what they do. Check out some swirls!
After the overwhelming response from the previous post , I decided to pick the brains of some men and collected their thoughts and feelings about their marriage relationships. Before I share those quotes I want to share some information from a book I used in my research called “For Women only: what you need to know about the inner lives of men” by Shaunti Feldhahn. She conducted a series of surveys asking men about
their private lives. (Don’t worry ladies, this book was published in the last few years, not 1955) She uncovered some very interesting insights. I will share some here. (She interviewed 100 men to collect this data.)
I came across this post shared by a member of a private group I belong to on Facebook. She was seeking our thoughts on the issue and I had to chime in. Spare the Kids is a blog run by Dr. Stacy Patton, dedicated to provided black parents and families alternatives to corporal punishment. A white man wrote in to seek advice about his black wife’s family over the issue of spanking. Their differences have led to heated discussions as her family is are determined to do it no matter what he says.
Last year a controversial tweet about women changing their last name went zooming around the internet:”Mr. Wrong will compromise your purity and then disappear. Mr. Right will protect your purity and then change your last name.” Those who are of the religious persuasion that believes a woman needs ‘coverture’ from a man may not have seen any problem with that tweet, but for the rest of us it was one more reminder of the lowly legal, moral, and ethical standing under which so many religions and codes of law once upon a time placed women.
Emperor Kneegrowplease has attempted to execute Order What-The-Cuss, a mental override code intended to stop the flow of persons joining the Rebellion. The hope is this code will effectively shut down black women moving away from black group think that works against them, and at the same time promote the lie that THE MAN (TM) wants to break up black households and send black women off to be with white men and black men off to be with white women. Thus destroying black love forever.
Question: What are some other ways to differentiate between someone who is “damaged beyond repair” and a “work in progress”?
Welp, here’s some new study that seems to inherently make a whole lot of sense. Just like the study that says people who eat real vegetables are healthier than people who eat McDonald fries for theirs, or people who live next to freeways have less healthy lungs than people who live in the Connecticut countryside. Sociologist Elizabeth McClintock of the University of Norte Dame released a study basically suggesting that more attractive women have less casual sex than “unattractive” women, because the less-pretty will often negotiate sex as a compromise. Her study included both men and women, but for this post I’m going to just concentrate on the women. Here’s the highlights:
This woman threw herself to protect a man who hated her simply for the color of her skin. Could you have done it?
Why not take all this togetherness online, offline?
It’s that time again…
Me and prominent writer and prominent social media feminist, Tami Winfrey Harris had a Twitter exchange regarding her article about Shawty Lo in “Clutch.” It’s worth the read, I think. The primary goal of “No Wedding No Womb” was to start a dialogue, and in so doing, begin to affect change. This is a good start.
I received this note from “J,” a young man living in England who is interested in black women, but it unsure how to approach them. After you read this, you have to wonder how critics of “Swirling” say the book is “unnecessary. If these people read this note and STILL cling to that ridiculous criticism, then they’re as dumb as a box of rocks, nuts, and bolts.
Celebrating the myth of the Strong Black Woman has mistakenly become an aspiration and an inspiration to those in certain demographics of the Black Community. When things are down and out and a black woman is tired, or fed the fuck up, someone, somewhere will remind her that this disgusting and frustrating existence is merely a test of her ability to survive when life is clearly giving her signals that she should make changes.