How to date, mate and relate. Mixing race, culture and creed.
What defines a BLACK woman?
Somehow you have found yourself in the center of someone else’s bull’s-eye. And it’s a big one. Big enough to focus on you and the millions of people around you. But what’s this? You find that if you move out of the center of that aim, you are less likely to get hit. Keep moving, and you reach a place where you might not get hit at all. What is the logical solution then? To keep standing there, indistinguishable from all other targets, or do you get your behind out of the line of fire?
Okay ladies, this was sent to me, I reviewed it and co-sign. Enough is enough. Pass it on. (Slideshow credit Getty Images)
Chicago college student works in food-service job full of Archie Bunkers.
The “E” word means more than just knowing how to be a snoot.
If you don’t already know this, there is a factoid I would like to share with you: You don’t get to tell other people what to do with their thoughts and feelings just because you happen to have something in common. That thing in common may be that you share the same ethnic group or are also an ethnic minority. Whatever it is, that small item does not entitle you to step on a soapbox and speak for all “persons of color, no matter their shade, language, culture and situation in life.”
And here is the promised final part to a rather touchy subject. Just like how not everyone may have agreed with the observations made in the first two parts (here and here, for those who missed it), there is likely to be controversy over what follows. Note: You are perfectly within your right to agree to disagree. (Let’s just let’s all please keep it civil and on topic. No derailing or attempts to shut down discussion!)
Pride is “feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired”. Pride only becomes evil when it becomes excessive. The sin of pride; the deadly sin that is vanity.
We’ve done little discussions about the “reluctant swirler.” But you probably know this girl as well as I do. She probably dated intra-racially her entire dating life, but just so happened to find a rainbeau that she really, really liked…a lot. They date a while and maybe they get married. But in the back of her mind, she feels a dreaded, secret guilt, one that she can’t share with her significant other, nor anyone else.
To some people, you are a hardened, non-feminine creature and a workhorse until proven otherwise. And even when you’ve attempted to establish you’re anything but, the stubbornly unconvinced may try and use situations and circumstances to “test” you. To bring the “angry strong black woman you REALLY are” to the surface.
Lawd! this chile is busy…
Think fast! Know the proper way to eat a plate of pasta?
Why do black men continue to come up as a topic in non-black male-oriented spaces such as this one? The first part broached the issue, giving people the chance to weigh in with their theories. Some were accusations and others, justifications. In truth there were a fixed set of reasons that I had in mind when I wrote the first part, which will now be discussed in full…
When black women are consistently portrayed in the media as being overweight (to an even greater extent than what they actually are), as Mammy, as Sapphire, as Jezebel, as the neck-snappin’-finger-poppin’ chick who loves to fight, please understand that these images are created with a purpose and with the consent of thousands of advertisers who are making money off of promoting ‘safe’ stereotypes of black women.