“Getting A Black Man Is The Best A Black Woman Can Do”….Oh, REALLY?????

You all have to excuse me, but I have been having the most interesting conversations with people lately and I just have to relay these talks I've been … [Read more...]

Our Sh*t Is Beginning to Stink: Bill O’Reilly Addresses Out-of-Wedlock Rate, Get Ready for More

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The Black blogospere is up in arms again because someone outside of the "black collective" has the nerve to comment on our abysmal 80% out-of-wedlock … [Read more...]

Living a Better Life – Gratitude for BB&W

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I haven’t been around as much lately due to work constraints (which is a good thing). More on this later. But I wanted to take time to share how … [Read more...]

Damned Fool: Reasons Women Run to Dangerous Men, Even Though They Know Better

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A few months ago I tried to counsel a young woman in her mid-twenties who told me she wanted my help getting away from a man who is a textbook … [Read more...]

Do We Have To Get Rid Of The Strong Black Woman?

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Why do so many of us feel that the strong black woman archetype has harmed us? What's so bad about assertiveness or resilience? We certainly need … [Read more...]

Iyanla Vanzant: “There is no reason to continue to have children with men who don’t honor us.”

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AND THE CHURCH SAID....AMEEEEEENNNNNNNNNNNNTTTTT! It looks like Iyanla Vanzant is a fan of No Wedding No Womb. There's just so much truth in what … [Read more...]

DUPLICATE POST with fresh comment thread ~ comments about porn will be deleted

The Exotic Okey Doke: How Black Women Got Tricked Out Of Sexy

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This post was published on July 26, 2013 by Toni. Things quickly got out of hand in the comment section, derailing into talking about women-friendly … [Read more...]

How Can Black Women Thrive in a Racist Society?

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  I read some articles over the weekend that left me shocked, angry, and speechless. The first was about a high school principal accused of … [Read more...]

ORIGINAL POST with restored comment thread ~ Black women and porn can be discussed here

The Exotic Okey Doke: How Black Women Got Tricked Out Of Sexy

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This post was published on July 26, 2013 by Toni. Things quickly got out of hand in the comment section, derailing into talking about women-friendly … [Read more...]

Why Do Some Black Women Consider Marriage “The Enemy”? Part II

I wrote the first part in response to the negative attitudes I'd seen from single black women regarding marriage. Specifically people who have never … [Read more...]