Black Women, We’re Light Years Behind the Curve.

It’s Time to Get Serious About Your Future, Sis.

This afternoon I had been feeling a bit tired from a very busy week planning activities around The Pink Pill community. The weather anticipates rain, so it’s perfect conditions for snuggling up with a book. Little did I know that Primates of Park Avenue would soon have me so wound up! I read about Upper East Side Manhattan mothers who made it their mission in life to plan their entire children’s trajectory from the time of year they are born, what preschool they should attend that will be a feeder into a top nursery school, then a top elementary and high school, and then into The Ivy League. This careful planning is supported by the surrounding “tribe” and allows for the people of that community to have access to social and professional circles that generate wealth in perpetuity.

Just like there is a prison and poverty pipeline, there is a wealth and affluence pipeline that most black women don’t even realize.

We’ve Got a Lot of Catching Up to Do.

We all know the statistics that plague the black community–low marriage rates, high divorce rates, 77% out-of-wedlock rates and virtually no legacy building. There is no formal or informal infrastructure that can give us better odds of success. As educated and successful black women, much of the what we learned to get where we are was gleaned from a patchwork of trial and error and well-meaning but faulty and questionable advice from friends and family who have absolutely exposure in the greater society. While young college girls like my sister-in-law’s daughter are directed toward The Ivy League so she will have access to the most successful potential husbands, and prime career prospects, single black mothers work to rub two pennies together to help their daughters achieve what they never could.

The truth is, most of us are completely oblivious of lifestyles and social circles right across the railroad tracks.

Wealth is a Class Issue More Than it is a Race Issue.

I hear so many black people complain that the wealth and affluence pipeline is automatically closed to them because of their race. While I can’t in good conscious say that racism doesn’t play a role, I CAN say that it is not the definitive barrier. Don’t believe these people who tell you that it’s hopeless to move fluidly in the upper echelons of society as a black woman! I am proof to the contrary. My parents were country people and I grew up in a working-class neighborhood. Not only did I graduate from a prestigious private university with honors, but I also did so with a baby in tow. I went on to work at one of the most powerful lobbying and media relations companies in Washington D.C., met my husband, who comes from one of the wealthiest counties in the United States with a family with a pedigree, I became a freelance writer for top-tier women’s publications, a published author, and brand ambassador. I am so grateful to my parents that they never told me I couldn’t be successful because I’m black, or taught me to be fearful and suspicious of non-black people. That openness and my curiosity to learn and grow put me in an enviable position. While my family isn’t “filthy rich” it has a level of financial security, social and professional connections, and a legacy that will be passed along to my children.

The central barrier of black women moving fluidly into different cultures and classes boils down to the insular nature of the black community. We are encouraged to get educated and work “in white society” but that our heart and soul should stay firmly entrenched within the community. No one tells us about how to make strategic alliances and networking connections while in college, or coach us on how to find a mate with wealth potential so that our lives can be a bit more enjoyable and carefree, and our offspring have a chance to really thrive.

That’s why I created The Pink Pill–the first and only self-improvement course and community specifically designed for black women to win in all areas–socially, professionally, and romantically. It is my life’s work and mission to show as many black women as possible how to live well to the EXTREME.

It’s Time to Let Your Destiny Be the One You Chart Yourself!

Are you ready to take your life and your destiny into your own hands? Are you ready to learn the skills, tips, tricks, and customs that can give you the same edge as high society women who have to know how to play the game from birth? Time to get ready to start rewriting your own story. Click here to enroll in The Pink Pill.

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